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Very glad to meet you, Savor! That's the term I prefer to use more than eating mindfully. Mindful sounds so serious and joyless. This from someone who was a regular at a Zen center for several years, so plenty of practice being mindful. (It never had the magical effects on me that it seemed to for o...

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Who's starting the 2018 team challenge thread? I don't think it should be me. I bogart the site enough. Or did I miss it? My eyes aren't what they used to be...

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I must be hungrier than I can even tell.

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Some days, I can have the desire to eat more and another part of me will say I don't want more, and as a result, I stop eating then instead of giving in! That one is getting rewarding enough that I can choose it more often. It still feels a little like a miracle when it happens, one that I'd like to...

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I'm assuming the "half" you wrote meant half a sandwich and not a sandwich made from half a chicken.

You restarted at a kind of risky time of year, so onwards from the minefield!

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Berry! So sweet to hear from you and to think you'll be around more. Especially with such quips as the basic holiday principles, eat worse - move less). I still think of No S as de facto IF. Possibly no long overnight fasts, but more hours of "fasting" than on the average bear eating regime. If peop...

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Not saying my experience would be yours but several years of decently-compliant No S and extremely intermittent bouts of x-minutes of intense exercise and walking over the years led me to be able to walk nearly 14 miles in a day of trail hiking a year ago in September. The effects can show up quite ...

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Auto, no hijack at all. You're agreeing with me! I salute you in seeing the changes you aspire to not as grossly unfair burdens but even-if-difficult fair ones, given the payoffs. I probably posted this before, but Valter Longo once reported that even very ill cancer patients who would have benefitt...

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Thank you for answering my question. You have definitely beat the odds, even if you don't weigh quite what you might like. It's great to hear that you feel active and healthy, and the weight isn't getting you down. That's beating the odds, too. Congrats!

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That walk may have been near to Reinhard's route.

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That's what I thought about the value of NO S and chocolate/sweets! No matter how much of it I ate on the weekend, it was still less than I used to eat and I had TWENTY sweet-free days a month. That was like a miracle to me. No S alone didn't address my chocolate habit, either, but I didn't have muc...

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On my side, it's not all shades of gray anymore. The color of the background of the posts changes alternately from light blue to white, and the borders are a grayish/ blue-green stripe on one edge. On the main discussion page, it's the columns on the right that alternate colors. Here, on reply, the ...

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I don't mind at all! I had just been distracted by other stuff: look, a squirrel! I decided to just give you the names of two recently-read books. You can skip the rest, if you like Reinhard-like brevity. (Is he not the master of Einstein's "Make everything as simple as possible but not simpler"?) T...

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There's nothing like knowing your options (counting, eliminating, overeating for another 2-3 DECADES) are even worse to give a body the willingness to surrender to the least of the evils. Good news is this is one of the most pleasant evils you can find!

Welcome home.

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Good insight about what gets in the way. I think the greatest motivation is coming to the realization that it will probably be LESS painful (not painless) to manage that very human desire to overeat rather than the pain of continuing to do it. But it's also great honesty to see that's not where you'...

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I went to a member's check-in thread and thought she might have somehow been able to change the background colors from post to post. Then I thought, no, I'll check my thread, too. We all have it! I really like the color palette. Soothing and low-contrast, plus a bit of lightheartedness with the touc...

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I call it managing the excess, and that includes the excess of other people and the excess of diet head. Being on WW years ago, as well as a few other influences taught me how to create some very satisfying meals at reasonable calorie counts and macronutrient ratios. Those have changed a bit, but st...

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It was a tough call to eat at dinner time when you weren't quite hungry, but I think you made the right choice. You couldn't have known the venue would have good stuff. It might have been an option to take the "dinner" food with you and eat closer to concert time. Then you might not have had to worr...

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I don' t know if I'm repeating myself ad nauseum, but I recently came off a few months of temporarily actually giving up on NOT WTH-ing in the afternoons, and eating bigger meals was one of my strategies for getting back on track. I'll never know if I could have skipped that step, but I'm having a e...

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Wow, that's ambitious and impressive. But Lord knows most schools don't have the money for such endeavors. And it's laudable that the staff gets any pay, though I"m sure it's modest. I may at some point recover :oops: from my teaching career enough to do some tutoring. It definitely is different wor...

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Though a certain %age of people will sadly never get to this point, and I can't say I brought it about with any conscious action, I actually feel amused when I see photos of my old self. I admit that sometimes in my dance class, I get a little wave of chill seeing that my hips and thighs look bigger...

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Please try not to expect your body to take this easily or soon, though I know it's implied its grumblings are minor. It has SO many defenses against reducing the steady stream of food. It thinks it's saving your life! Just keep outlasting it. And typically, though you may very well be a blessed exce...

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Tracy, though I used Beck a lot, I humbly recommend that you try using Habitcal alone for a few weeks. It is much simpler and matches the central principles of habit theory. choose a specific behavior track successes and failures positively reward the successes (you may want to add verbal "strokes" ...

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I'm convinced that "feeling thin" has a lot more to do with how I've been eating and moving, and what I wear than on how I actually look. I think this is a good thing. Sure, it can mean there are some disappointing moments looking at photos or in the mirror, but better to have a few of those than fe...

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I'm too lazy to look back. Did I ask you what your non-profit is? Tx

Now I have to wrestle with shame because the high here today was in the mid-70's and I've been inside all day.

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I honestly don't think our hunger follows what we ate at the last meal, though there is some research that shows that replacing some dense foods (protein/starch/fat) with higher volume foods like freggies at a meal leads to greater satiety at the NEXT meal. The body responds to all kinds of conditio...

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Had popcorn for dinner at the movies myself. I kinda wish I'd gotten indigestion. It was pretty easy to eat quite a lot. I actually haven't done that for years.

I still aspire to your consistency with extra movement.

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I agree that your slips yesterday still fit within making progress, especially stopping on the nachos when you remembered. Stopping in the middle is only slightly less important than just not starting, since the odds are kind of high that people do slip. Zen meditation didn't take away my anxiety ve...

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Thanks for responding. It does make sense theoretically, but I have never been able to copy and paste any calendar from anywhere to anywhere on Everyday Systems. I do the steps, but it comes out mush, in essence.

Guess I just have to add icons as I go.

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GP, I may be missing something. Are you tracking your drinking of wine? Was it your intent to limit it to S days? The problem with the reality that "less is more" is that it takes awhile for "less" to feel better than "more," no? The desire in the moment, especially moments in which there is a long ...

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What's moderate when you haven't had much compliance can be very different from what's moderate after several months, or years. But permasnacking is very likely not moderation!

Out of curiosity, what were your longest solid runs with No S?

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That eating plan sounds supremely reasonable. Nothing more you could ask of yourself at this point, right?

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I wonder if you could put off making such a request for now. See if you can start saying things like, "Maybe I'll have some later." Or, "I think I'd like to save that for the weekend." Or as little as possible. Start just choosing to keep to your savory meals without making a big deal. If you have t...

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I hope to revive an intermittent habit of just searching for youtube videos of short lengths and doing those on N days. They could be as short as 4 minutes up to 15. And I sometimes just throw in moves I know for 30-second stints. But I talk myself out of even those short workouts. It would be truly...

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Love you signature line, freeandeasy!

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Hi, AC! I started on 12/26/09. Do you think this is something that would happen often? It IS officially funny stuff, and might not be what you want to get into a habit of, but if you feel that it was still getting off to a good start because it was such a change from your regular habit, and will ins...

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LIB, did you start another check-in thread or just feeling you don't need it anymore? Just curious. I see you post on other threads.

Happy New Year!

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Oops, I was wrong. I don't know which page I was looking at before, but I see now that there is a drop down menu that has sitting, plank, and squat variations that add up to eight different ones. I can already do the hardest version of the plank, but it will take awhile to get to the whole 60 second...

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Doesnâ€™t it?

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Yes, you can definitely enjoy your husband and son without eating. Thereâ€™s always sipping some coffee or tea with them, if needed.

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I signed up for the free version. I thought it said there would be 8 exercises, but I can find only 3. Do I get access to them later? (Two of them look like it would take me QUITE awhile to get that far.)

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If there were shenanigans, join the human race! How are you doing? You can tell us. It's nothing most of us haven't done, too.

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Not to make excuses, but honestly, humans are opportunistic eaters! That's why it takes scarcity or cultural habits to keep people trim. You're still learning the "culture' and it can happen even years in to the veterans...

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What a shock, IC! Dogs are so loving and lovable. Warmest wishes.

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P.S. late reply to MaggieMae's post about having to take her son to two different urgent care's and ending up eating a cookie left in her purse. I think you were doing well not to have stopped and bought a package of cookies or something along the way! It's amazing to me how I can feel old feelings ...

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Nice to hear it, Amy. Not being "on a diet" doesn't mean you won't decide at times to be selective about what's on your plate. The more often we eat, the more that matters, if moderation is what we're after. But since you say you keep getting pulled away, it sounds like you've never had an extended ...

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Hi, jenji! Has anyone else asked where you get those little icons? I am not very savvy about these things.

Looks like you've had a good run with No S so far. Here's to finishing 2017 strong and into 2018.

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Sorry to hear that, but if you can still get up to eat or post, that's a good sign!

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Hope you feel better soon.

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I'd forgotten.

Onwards! 6.5 days of December left.

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I think it's a bit more than a subtle shift. From what I've learned recently, it's normal to have to use some mental power to limit food intake in "risky" situations. It's good that you saw a benefit: you were able to enjoy some desserts you wanted later. Next year, it might be different. It's possi...

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True that, gingerpie. Am I finally over the habit of buying Christmas candy on sale? I realize I would look for candy that seemed worth the risk. I was in the stores early looking for little stuff to stockpile for next year's get-together with my sister's family. In getting to the bargains ( I found...

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Hello, Octavia! Nice to meet you. I'm not sure how old your mother is, or whether you feel she has other qualities you enjoy. I had had some years from adolescence through my 30's in which I felt very far from my family, though less so from my mother. She almost couldn't help offering me food when I...

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I fiddle faddled with the recipe for time's sake, and was a little disappointed with the results, but live and learn. A fair amount got eaten and a couple of people commented favorably. I think it actually would work quite well as a casserole. I basically had just one meal today. The meal was set to...

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Welcome to officially making your declaration, Kathryn. When I finally committed, I said for one year, but secretly I aimed for two. But focusing on the year was pivotal. I was not going anywhere. I knew my sanity depended on it. Best wishes for finding the "formula" for what and how much goes on yo...

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Sounds delightful! Best to you.

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But wasn't bacon brownie day an S day?

Merry Christmas, everyone, and pleasurable eating!

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I was kinda kidding, but who am I to stop the rain? I'm not in because I'm at normal BMI, so it wouldn't really "fit" even if I failed. Consider sending a link to a few check-in threads? And there might be some newbies after Resolution Day, i.e., New Year's. 'Course, it puts Reinhard in a funny posi...

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Really being able to soberly see the big picture and forge a plan from there can make all the difference. I'm sending you wishes for resolve!

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Being out of control over what food we're exposed to is one of the major problems. That's why it's so vital to commit to a way to manage it all, one that doesn't have you constantly deciding in the moment whether it's worth eating or not. If you really see this as your best bet to stem the tide, it ...

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To you as well.

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I'm sorry, but I think it is way too soon for someone who has been at it for only a month to judge whether principles that have worked for about 80% of the populations that live by them is right or not for anybody. The real value of No S often doesn't show up for several months. It sounds like harsh...

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The ones we made in class were a bit more stuffed than these, but you can see they are rather recognizable. Yeah, maybe I should disguise it, like layer the eggplant and call it peanut lasagne. Except that I already bought the baby eggplants and they are so cute! I found out there are lots of differ...

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How about a challenge? 21 days compliance or you have to buy this shirt using Reinhard's Amazon link.

https://www.amazon.com/Didnt-Weight-Hap ... B0772VS1PH

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Adding to the novelette. Did something today for the first time in a long time. Ate at my dining room table AND left food on my plate. Almost snacked this afternoon on walking into a Middle Eastern market where bread baked in a tandoor was coming out fresh and hot. It's very similar bread to what I ...

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I didn't say anything for a long time, either, and not until people noticed and asked. No takers. Voice crying in the wilderness. There was a time when I didn't believe it, either, though when I got exposed to meal structure, there was no off days. I thought they were nuts. That was at OA. So intere...

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All lovely progress, IMHO.

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BTW, all. If my searches were right, we have about 10 people of 22 on team 2017 still hanging in there. Several of us, maybe the majority, "started" No S more than two years ago. I'm sure we are way ahead of most diets out there, which probably have a few successes who do the same thing: try, fail, ...

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I am procrastinating doing unpleasant tasks so I'm checking team 2017. Congrats on still being here! We actually have a lot of members still in there. Much better than "diets."

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Ha, interesting, books don't show up on my own thread. Ready for long post? Copied from December thread. live alone, and rarely have people over, so my only decorations are some cards I received and my Christmas clothing and jewelry. Maybe next year... I love not having to put things away! And no Ch...

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I live alone, and rarely have people over, so my only decorations are some cards I received and my Christmas clothing and jewelry. Maybe next year... I love not having to put things away! And no Christmas notes, though I have two cards to send today. I''m having small fails but ams still so grateful...

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A fair number of people have red days even years later. (TRUTH!) Sure, it keeps the ambivalence going, but it makes it doable for them, and the odds are nothing else would yield better results. And nothing says you won't get it down just because others don't. You're still in the game! Has that ever ...

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I'n probably just repeating what others have said, but I gently recommend that you take the weight loss off the table for now. It's obviously not working as a motivation. Join the club! If weight loss alone worked, everyone would be thin. What do you dislike about your eating? Is it only that you th...

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Celebration all around!

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Bingeing after curtailment is NOT a given. The desire might be, but following through is still a choice. And trying to maintain or lose beyond a certain point that the body likes is probably going to entail some hankering after more food than it will take to keep that body. That being said, do what ...

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Onwards!

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Hang in there! Defeat the tired, anxious urges by just waiting them out, if you can. Tough but big payoff!

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I saw a book at the bottom of someone else's thread but didn't click on it and it hasn't come up again. It was called "Lighter" and was supposed to be about emotional eating. I'm writing about it here in case that brings it up on a future page.

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Though I don't want to get too far into nutrition stuff, I gently say if you are going to eat a bit more at meals to help quell later urges, please do it with the least manufactured foods you can. Refined foods take more to produce real satiety at the time and at later meals and can just keep the ur...

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Vanilla is just as you think, just the three S's, with no purposeful modifications.

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I don't want to harsh anyone's mellow, but No S has never been about weight loss to me. Weight loss, or fat loss, depends on a calorie deficit for YOUR body. The body can do a lot to resist that, i.e, it can change the rate at which it burns calories and ramp up urges to eat, though they aren't real...

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Simple. Sounds like no Bowflex, deluxe treadmill, etc., though eventually he could have afforded them. It does sound like he had a fair amount of discretion over his time, which can help. But as we know, there's value in 14 minutes and some walking!

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OOps! double post

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Best wishes (and strength, if you want it) for the holidays.

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I gently say, nothing but true starvation can MAKE us snack. Situations can only make us WANT to snack, and that is not always a burden. It is always our freedom to do follow the urge- and our freedom not to. It doesn't FEEL like freedom at first! You had a great day with a teeny deviation. Praise y...

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We welcome you and invite you to start right now.

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This is a doable plan for you. Please try not to fret about weight. Habits of moderation are more important right now. These will see you in good stead no matter what. Try not to be in a hurry! You have just started. Though research does show that people who lose weight up front do tend to do better...

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Very wise guidelines, not that you asked!

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Amazing how our wise leader did this (even simpler) 16 years ago, when this young man was probably in high school. This guy's more complicated list is probably where most successful No Sers get to by trial-error-success, though we would call them mods. But it is good to find similar tribes out there...

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I suspect that whether or not curtailing S's will lead to more issues or not is whether or not you feel it's undermining your peace on S days and after, and you're willing to "suffer" through the urges without giving in for the payoff of peace later because you waited for that next sustaining, delic...

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First, please be more compassionate with yourself about your bingeing. There are plenty of people who don't make it past their first weekend because they binge, think it isn't working, and quit, never to be heard from again. Or they try this without showing up here and never report in because the ma...

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Rock those jeans, Merry!

It's almost ludicrous how successful I can feel even when I'm not strict at all must because I was such a mess for a few months. I know it's better to build on the good feelings than to try to chastise myself into greater compliance.

That's all I'll say.

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There are many physical sensations that can urge eating other than "hunger," and they are not all necessarily evil. The problem with responding only to "hunger," IMHO, is that it can leave me feeling anxious about when I will get to eat again. Most people just don't have the whatever-it-takes to for...

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I am SO suspicious of the early reports of anyone on any regime. I'm still befuddled by people gushing about their early weight loss and announcements of weight lost after a week. Why should their reports be any different down the line than they have been for 150 years, namely a 95% failure rate? To...

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On a more even keel now, but I grapple with the nibbling on S days. I had aspired to let go of "solitary snacking" on S days, but I've been circling the airport on it. Failing doesn't send me into WTH, but I feel resentment that it's an issue, meaning though I work to be at ease with myself no matte...

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Whittling away!

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I think it's common at some point to rebel. I just see it as the body doing its thing from back when it couldn't get food 24/7 and read any drop in intake as a problem. Good thing we have a prefrontal cortex to help keep things in perspective. I think the younger generations will have many stories o...

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So, when was the proposal? On the cruise? Congratulations! It is hard to keep in mind how we'd like to feel AFTER we eat something. Our bodies aren't really wired for that to be the first consideration, but it can sure be trained to choose it more often. I hope it won't seem like I'm throwing it in ...

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Not much more you can expect of yourself than to pick up and go on.

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