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If you feel it's all doable, mazel tov!

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I think it's fine for you to post here, as no one is forcing anyone to read your posts, and you certainly use civility at all times, but for your own sake, I think you might also avail yourself of a community more in tune with the strategies you propose to use. People there might have the pivotal is...

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Actually, given how much I strained against being mindful and actually accepting lack of hunger in previous years (I was first introduced to the concept of IE in late 1979) , there is a little bit of magic. The magic of surrender. Oh, and if you look at the bottom left corner of anyone's posts, you'...

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Hi, y'all! All the time I've been doing No S, I've had a general sense in my mind that what I'm really trying to figure out is how much dense food I really need at my meals to feel content after eating them and hungry an hour or two before them. I have no plans to change the amount of non-dense food...

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So the distinction is that you just put it in a little bowl instead of on your plate?

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Question the idea that you need to binge because you get very hungry. You are an adult and can take your time, savoring your food, no matter how hungry you are. It's not like you're in a concentration camp really starving. You'll find if you force yourself to slow down, a normal or maybe slightly he...

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Pick the activity you'll actually do!

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What an inspiring turn around! I think your new actions will pay off, if nothing else than in new refinements.

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I was going to predict that the oranges would go fast.

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Yes, just don't allow yourself to think, well, I haven't eaten much, so I'll eat more now, unless you are legitimately hungry. It takes quite an extended time of calorie deficit to get to true starvation mode. However, you don't have to be in starvation mode to get residual urges to overeat. Most pe...

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I thought I couldn't limit sweets and didn't for two years! I'm flabbergasted by people who talk about one or two desserts at first on S days. I was still having pancakes with syrup for breakfast and a half a bag of Hershey's kisses before noon for 6 months. And more later. Felt crappy but almost we...

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Nicest makes a good point. Perhaps you were eating richer foods more often at your meals between Thanksgiving and New Year's? That would slow things. I will admit that I have been quite hungry many times on No S. Perhaps if I ate different foods, I wouldn't be, as some claim that they find combinati...

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I know it should seem obvious that Reinhard set out to lose weight, but interestingly, I got the impression that what he was content to aim at eating moderately. Snacking constantly, taking seconds, eating sweets a lot- those are not moderate habits. He assumed he would lose if he cut out inordinate...

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That must be tough. I've gone through some long periods of time not losing much but not while I was ever really compliant. Being compliant since November would seem like long enough to tell if No S with no mods is going to do it for you. BTW, are you consistently hungry for your meals? That as a pre...

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If the results frustrate you without changing your behavior, consider reducing weighing to once a month.

Alternately, weigh every day and average the results once a week. I did that for years (though I was on an upward trend almost that whole time).

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Wasn't hungry for lunch but felt weak later, so I ate it around 4 p.m. Wasn't hungry later but was in the mood for some starch. Ended up having what felt like quite a lot of pasta and rice. Didn't get nauseous for the first time in over a week, but it came back this morning. A little disturbed that ...

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good call.

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You should be proud for holding out!

I meant isn't it pleasant not to feeling full all the time.

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I'm just saying that the feeling that I "have" to have something is usually an illusion. But yes, if it seems super compelling, there is an option on No S- beverages. I'd say it's preferable to have something to drink, milk if you feel you need something substantial, just because it's so much less l...

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Still feeling slightly nauseous. Think I'll eat a little breakfast anyway as I don't want to get as hungry as I was for lunch on Friday. I'm not exactly complaining, though I don't like losing my appetite. It's a false situation. But I could be a lot sicker. I'm thinking of my 38-yr-old nephew who i...

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It is impossible to fail on an S day.

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You do realize that Intuitive Eating does recommend portion control, in the sense that it is recommended that you stop eating before you're full. And you are supposed to wait until you get to a certain level of hunger before eating. There is not eating everything on your plate just because it's ther...

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1.88 bags of oranges.

Oranges keep pretty well in the fridge.

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I started making it a practice pretty early on to have about half a plate of freggies.

I'd drink some milk before I'd try to go to sleep hungry.

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Daily weight fluctuations are mostly the result of water retention or not, and waste removal from the body. You would have to overeat by 7000 calories to add two pounds of fat in one day. And fat gain is all you should be worrying about. I don't recommend you pay attention to the hacker's diet, just...

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Does anyone really know what makes someone finally accept that he/she has to make some sacrifices to make necessary changes? Do people do it because of talks like this? Do the obese and morbidly obese really not know that what they are doing is unhealthy? I know that in my case it was because I was ...

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I disagree that you should possibly eat better quality foods instead. Get into your head that eating NOTHING is the best policy because eating just reinforces using food for inappropriate purposes. It is just a habit and a misleading one because it keeps you thinking that you're missing out on somet...

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It took me more than a couple of years to have reasonable S days. Still totally worth it.

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Had a fail yesterday. Slightly scary because it was SO unnecessary. But I have been feeling like eating so little while I've been sick that that thought that I could afford the calories ruled. But it's not a matter of whether I could afford the calories or not. It's more that the food didn't add muc...

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Hardly a rant. Just listening to those kinds of plans just sounds so sad. I'm so convinced that these restrictions perverts the ability to just eat rationally. On another board, one woman brought up low carb stuff so much it even started to get to me and I found myself starting to fret a bit.

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Nice work! and a great start for 2013.

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Definitely make your meals something to look forward to. I would err on the side of having them be very attractive to justify not including sweets, seconds, or snacks in between. There aren't any bad meals for at least three months. And no good reasons to eat except breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Thi...

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I'm feeling freaked about having to submit paperwork today for a loan refi. I even took the day off from work but am still procrastinating. And I'm on my other site too much. I'm losing patience with people and all their dickering. People feeling they have to make excuses for eating normal food. I j...

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S day doesn't mean eating S's all day. It can mean just ONE. Even if you end up not having any, it's still an S day because they are allowed.

Glad you're back. It really is a smart way to limit food in this culture. Just save your appetite for those delicious meals!

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I agree. You never know if you've hit on one of your high days when you weigh.

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I use small bowls, too, but mostly for wet things, like yogurt or soup. All on the plate to start.

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Sounds reasonable. In my mind, the most important thing is if it leads to more or less eating later. If it really sates, that's the ticket.

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I put everything on the plate to start. If I want to spread out the eating, I can. But I like to see it all at once.

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That is fantastic news!

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I consider broth a beverage, like tea. and I've used it when making dinner, though not so much anymore. I will also sometimes have it with a meal.

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Actually, if you're going to weigh, I recommend daily weighing and once-a-week averaging. I did that for a few years, my weight going up all the time. :) The scale never stopped me from overeating. I now do this for one week at a time, 4x a year, just for the info to share. After three years, I also...

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Take it from someone 3 years in, what you want (more than to weigh a certain amount) is to be eating meals consistently, and to aim at eating little enough at meals OVER TIME that you are legitimately hungry for those meals for an hour, maybe two, before you eat them. I've found I've had to keep adj...

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Isn't it actually pleasant?

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Strict moderation IS the easy way. Best wishes in 2013!

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I used (and use) many of the strategies from Beck to stick to No S and to my mod of eating enough at meals so that I am hungry for the next one. This has meant eating less at most meals over time. I never chose any other diet because I was committed to No S. Also, though Beck did find that people we...

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Yeegads, I saw that the high in Minneapolis will be 1 degree today! Can't even imagine walking to take the bus!

Congrats on all the good work you are doing.

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Sounds like following No S would be a nice tribute to your beautiful mum. I'm going to be one of those people. I didn't start out with a weight loss goal, though Lord knows I could have used weight loss (I was in low obese range.) I had tried and failed at that so many times. I just knew I couldn't ...

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I very much hope you'll consider reading the book on audio, Reinhard, though it's harder than it sounds, as I've come to associate the outlook with your voice. Do you wing it on your podcasts or use a script? If you can read a script and sound as natural as you do, you're a shoe-in.

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A piece of fruit is almost always the last thing I eat at dinner, sometimes with yogurt or cottage cheese, if I didn't have meat. I might have tea or decaf mocha later. Nothing to chew after dinner.

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In regards to questions: bring it! I also caution you not to use the scale to measure your success, esp. at first. Some do lose right away; many don't. How you eat and what you weigh in a year is a better measure. Remember your experience with low carb and WW. (We do have some low carb-ers here, and...

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If anyone is interested...

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Grammy, are you there?

This reminds me of reading that men often lost weight just by cutting out what they thought their worst eating habit was. No calorie counting, no tracking. But they did do it. No waffling.

Best wishes in 2013!

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Belated congrats and best wishes making this be your "known," no matter what goes on around you. And with getting the employment you want.

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Wow! And even better: solid habits.

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Personally, I think if the food does not exist as a liquid to start, it is not a true beverage. Pulverized food is still food. Kefir is similar to milk in its makeup, no? Fine in a pinch, but not the first beverage of choice.

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Very insightful. You show so much attention to the benefits, which is a powerful strategy used in habit change. Magnify the advantages, minimize the disadvantages. Review those advantages every day for a few months! It sounds so logical once you look at it, but don't beat yourself up for not seeing ...

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Sounds normal. Habit is king. Weight loss is secondary.

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That's what I meant by imposing the perfect S day too early. It actually took me nearly two years before I didn't abuse them pretty bad. But I held on to perfecting N days and I did lose, each year more.

Hang in there!

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I actually often eat meals that might fit plans of other diets, but that's just because I've discovered they are delicious and satisfying. If you've eaten delightful meals on WW, don't hesitate to repeat them. And remember that you can have beverages in between to tide you over. Good luck and don't ...

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Paleo or psycho. OK, sorry, that's mean. Here is a quotation from another link to the link above ; "DIY rules. Low-cost, do-it-yourself diets typically received higher scores than commercial diets. Satisfaction depends on more than pounds lost. Survey respondents gave higher marks to diets that help...

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Thank you, BrightAngel. An S day is a weekend day on which a person eats any S, even one. In fact, in the book on page 105, it says, "A perfect S day is when you've basically stuck with your weekday three-meal rhythm but have added an extra reward, something especially nice, and enjoyed it without r...

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This is awesome! I am so envious of all the organizing and planning you did. Bodes well.

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Losing weight for events may have success, but it hasn't been shown to lead to permanent reductions in eating. If anything, after the event, most people rebound. Steady, consistent habits really do win out. I gently suggest you keep trying to keep your attention on how much better you feel and not w...

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Oh, yeah, the article just proved to me that the "rages" are so much hype for weight loss. They don't even have very high success rates. but thin bodies aren't the only brass rings humans continually grab at and miss.

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I don't take many anymore because I can usually be satisfied keeping to the three meal structure eating whatever food is associated with the holiday. Thanksgiving, and two days in December are the surefire ones. I keep it to two or fewer outside of regular S days per month. Anything else is a fail t...

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I hope you'll find this helpful. I don't want to take the wind out of your sails but I fear for you a little reading that you can hardly wait for the habit to take ahold. It really takes several months and often longer for the habit to become firmly established. I committed to one year when I first ...

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It's not over yet. She's just getting going! She might change her mind and dive in later. Never know when those prefrontal cortex connections develop! I really do feel for parents when I know they would like something different from their child but aren't getting it. I feel for me when I don't get w...

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We're more likely to have citrus than persimmons. Or pomegranates. Hey, come to think of it, I'd like to have a persimmon or pomegranate tree.

Have had three good days after what I realize now was a pretty full weekend. Getting hunger back-- I love her!

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I quit teaching an advanced English class at my school because I had so many students not read the books, and we didn't use ones that has Cliff notes! They were willing to just get C's on my silly tests. I just did not have the energy to write the kind of tests that might have scared them into readi...

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Might be too late but I hope you got back on track. Vow to have a green day tomorrow. It will support you to feed yourself sanely.

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finallyfull, the snack time is called "le gouter."

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So glad to hear that you've been experiencing such joyful, sane benefits from No S.

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If I had an autoimmune disease, I would consider it because I've seen incredible changes in a friend who adopted it, but there are just too many cultures who don't eat Paleo that don't seem to have widespread degenerative diseases to use it as a weight loss program. Just because people lose weight o...

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Wanted to add that Satter recommens the sit-down snacks and meals for toddlers, too. As stated above, parents choose the food and offer it at relatively set times. The child chooses how much or whether to eat at all at those times. If it's mealtime and the child chooses not to eat, Satter recommends...

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I love No S, but I'm not sure you can follow Vanilla. If you are in such dire straits, I believe you should ask for a nutritional consult and follow the recommendations. If you can do that on three meals a day, wonderful. I'm not sure you can allow yourself free rein on weekends. You just have too m...

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Avoiding WTH is its own success. Have you thought of setting up a habitcal for it?

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Sorry, I read it in a magazine in a store and didn't buy. I hate to report that one was Paleo eating (I hate to report just because it is so restrictive and that flies in the face of what most research says will be sustainable. Mind you, they survey didn't cover a long time to prove the claim that r...

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A "health food" proponent back in the '80's was famous for saying you should wait to eat until you had "the keenest desire for the plainest food." None of us will get to that if we eat too much too often. It really seems a shame because if there is anyone who should be able to fill the time between ...

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Water weight gain.

Okay, girl, I have to ask. WHY are you baking in the afternoon on an N day?
Whatever reasons come up are just the habit and sugar talking. Not rational!

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I second the idea of aiming for a shorter exercise bout to start, at least. Get up 15 minutes earlier for 10 minutes of exercise. Or what about right after dinner? Don't know what your weather is like, but a 10-minute brisk walk can help liven the evening.

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I can walk down the cookie or candy aisle in my old haunt and not even consider buying anything.

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Glad to have you!

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Anyone see the ad for the new Jenny Craig program? Five days a week of her food and two days a week of "your healthy choices." Hmmm... Consumer Reports did a spread on weight loss plans. I think none of the programs reviewed had a higher success rate for reaching goal than 20%. The weight losses in ...

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My mother used to use the term "bitter cold," and Chicago is one of the places that makes me think of that term. I also have a friend who lives in Minneapolis. She lived here in San Diego for a few years but preferred living in the East. She likes snow! But she also says people are friendlier there,...

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Congrats on taking this step.

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After all that, had relatively big yet guilt-free fail today. I could blame it on a bunch of things but bottom line is I ate a ton of sugar today and other food, all at odd hours. It's 4:15 p.m. I'll see how I feel at my regular dinner time. May elect to wait until later, have a very light meal, or ...

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Haven't started back to school yet TexArk, and thank you for thinking of me. We start the school year mid-summer so our breaks mid-year are longer. Next Tuesday I will start second semester. I have been doing a lot of spiritual and psychological work to help me combat the difficulties, but I won't r...

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Congrats on the discipline in general! To some degree, it is its own reward. But outward effects are nice, too. I'm always curious what percentage of weight people have lost and what their height is. I hope you will take almost as much contentment in being fit as well as "looking" fit. Many people w...

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You are not only not a fatty, you are quite underweight.

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Remember that the French, who eat three meals and who eat smaller portions, still typically have one meal that will include soup, a meat, a vegetable, a salad, bread, cheese, and fruit. There might also be a starch.

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I know you have a history with No S, so run with it.

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You kind of leave us no choices. You point out all the failures, ask if there is any hope, but then tell us not to direct you to the testimonials. Are you waiting for a guarantee? There isn't any. This site is casual and there is no official data. As someone else said, we are creating our own cultur...

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Nice plans.

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What company sends chocolate coins with new pants? Are they trying to sell the next size up?

Yay for S days and chocolate coins.

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Yikes! buying a car! Yes, that will make the stomach fluttery. I'll have my car 7 years in February but I still remember very clearly the day I said yes to the deal.

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I actually didn't get better at using stress reduction techniques UNTIL I determined that I would not use food no matter what on weekdays. And usually NOTHING reduced the stress or bad situation well enough in the moment anyway. I just had to tolerate the situation/thoughts/ feelings for the few hou...

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Not sure if I should call today a fail. Went out to dinner after a dance class to Mexican fast food. Had a half a burrito there. If I had been home, I would have put it on a plate with some other items. I had some extra food when I came home but not all of it what I would have had, though it would h...

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And one more thing: most people in France and Italy (mostly 3-meal a day-ers and the lowest BMI averages in Europe) don't know how much they weigh. But they know when they've had enough food. And they don't snack.

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Ah, the very human, very common what-the-hell effect. And the other common habit, self-flagellation. This is different from reasonable guilt that helps you really make changes. Self-beratement is actually part of the overeating cycle, and therefore will reinforce the whole thing. That is why here at...

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It's great to be at an age at which you can think about things in one-year increments instead of thinking it all has to be figured out in a few weeks.

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