Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

Thanks iron! Doing much better today! Thanks Larks. That is interesting. I was actually a vegan when I first started having symptoms so I don't know if that would help me or not. I do think giving up caffeine, reducing my alcohol intake and losing weight will help. I hope, I hope, I hope! It scares ...

lpearlmom

Crappy day! Went to the dentist and found out I need a bunch of work done. Of course, my insurance has run out so I have to pay out of pocket. The dentist said it's from the acid reflux so yeah I really need to get this under control! Then I got rear ended. Everyone is fine but now I get to deal wit...

lpearlmom

Well despite my best intentions, I went a little overboard. Still not as bad as a lot of my past S days. Break: smoothie, two eggs, cheese bread Lunch: 1/2 avocado, couple handfuls sweet potato crackers, sm. bag baked cheetos, sf chai dinner: curry, chicken salad, a few pizza pieces cauliflower pizz...

lpearlmom

Yay you! Sounds like a great day! Sugar-free, fat-free cake? What is the point? I hate bad bday cake.

Enjoy the rest of your day!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yeah, I didn't really plan it that way but it was good. Of course I made up for it today by being extra lazy. I ate more than an N day but not too crazy. Break: toast w/ cashew butter Snack: granola bar Lunch: turkey sandwich Snack: skinny micro popcorn ðŸ¿ ; 2 cookies w/ milk Dinner: 3 street tacos...

lpearlmom

Oh I'm glad you're enjoying the dog now! They just get more manageable with age too. We must be looking at different posters. I'm not seeing those low bmis for some reason but that would stress me out too. I know you're not happy with this weight but at least know you're at a very healthy weight. A ...

lpearlmom

I know, I'm starting to finally see the light on S days. I'm really tired of feeling sick on those days esp since it's usually time spent with family or friends. I want to be able to enjoy that time. This weekend I'm keeping to my three plates but allowing a small desssert. If something comes up lik...

lpearlmom

Oh dear, my body is so messed up. I got my period today and its two weeks early. That explains the moods. I'm wondering if this is more signs of peri menopause? A bit of a red day but not too bad. I was re-reading Skinny girl which is a little weird but what struck me was how she'll order what she r...

lpearlmom

Thanks iron! Seems my dark mood as lifted. *phew*. At least I'm learning what I need to do to help me out of those moments. DH admitted he's gained a bit of weight back too so maybe some of this is him projecting ? Anyway, the good news is that he's motivated to get back into biking with me. I reall...

lpearlmom

Thanks iron! I slept well last night luckily & dh & I woke up early to ride bikes. I was in a serious funk though today bordering on depression so gave myself the day off from house stuff & NoS. I basically watched movies, cried a bit & did some journaling. I snacked a bit but kept everything light ...

lpearlmom

It's not really a beverage so I'd stick with having it at meals. In fact I had miso soup with my lunch the other day. It's not a lot of calories but it's a slippery slope once you start bending the rules. I like it because it's filling and takes awhile to eat. Do you drink tea or coffee? I like to h...

lpearlmom

Didn't sleep well last night because of my reflux. It was probably from too much caffeine (chai) with a glass of wine on top of it. Of course I had another chai today. I'm not good at deprivation. I did skip the wine. Felt very hungry today. Not feeling very confident in my ability to lose any more ...

lpearlmom

Omg, you have a lot of yummy temptations at work! One bite doesn't sound so bad. Now I wa t strawberry ðŸŽ‚!

lpearlmom

Thanks for sharing iron. Sounds exactly like my DH. ðŸ˜Š I guess some men are just like that. He's really not focused on appearances in general so hey I guess it makes sense. I think it's just hard when I'm feeling insecure but maybe I shouldn't rely on other ppl to make myself feel better. Today wa...

lpearlmom

I would say you are probably at a good weight for you. I think there's a lot of problems with BMI and even my husband, who uses bmi in his practice, concedes that the lowest mortality rate is for people in the bmi 26-27 range. Here's an interesting article supporting that view: https://www.google.co...

lpearlmom

Thanks ginger! It would also be great if dh could muster up a compliment now and then but marriage is all about compromise right ? Honestly it only comes up a couple times a year. Yeah it's hard coming to terms with coming up short. I think I've been in denial about my true size though. I'm really g...

lpearlmom

Dogs are the best and they're so much happier after a little exercise. Sounds like a great day!

Best of luck starting back to work!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thanks Larkspur. I guess trying to lose weight for health reasons is better than focusing on my appearance. Oolala: So I didn't have reflux before I lost the weight. It started after I got my gallbladder out. Btw, apparently losing a chunk of weight, being a woman and being over 40s all increase you...

lpearlmom

Thanks Merry & Oolala. We talked a long time last night and we're okay now. It sounds like he's just really worried about my health because of the issues he sees with obese people in his practice. Ugh, I'm so sad. To lose 40 lbs and it's still not enough. I guess the reality is I need to lose more w...

lpearlmom

So I put everything on a plate. If I have a bowl of something, I put it on a plate. If I had a granola bar and a hardboiled egg, Id put it on a plate before eating. A lot of times, I'll put everything on a plate like a yogurt, an apple and a salad and then I'll take the apple and yogurt off once I s...

lpearlmom

Oooh that sounds fun!

Thanks for the Nike app tip. I'm really enjoying it and yes it's free--yay!

Sending you good wishes on your court date!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hoping the best for you Tex. I remember having elevated liver results after I got my gallbladder removed. DH kept telling me not to worry and that it was likely nothing. I still worried but in the end he was right. I'm hoping the same for you.

lpearlmom

Thanks whose! I haven't been doing so great this week either. :/ Oolala, I do remember that website. It's interesting for sure but I found it a little confusing. There's not a whole lot of direction and not sure how much scientific sense it makes. So yeah I agree with you. Yeah, I don't eat junk foo...

lpearlmom

Which Nike app? There's a few. Is it the Nike training club?

lpearlmom

Yeah, I sometimes think it'd be easier not to have friends but I think about how that'l probably leave me all alone at some point. I usually do really well at the beginning of friendships. Then the honeymoon stage ends. I guess my expectation are too high. It's all good. I just need to step back for...

lpearlmom

Oh what I'd give for a little rain!

What kind of exercises do you do w/ the Nike app?

lpearlmom

Yay, sounds like some wonderful treats! Mine were SO dull!

Enjoy tomorrow!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hang in there Tobias! My relationship with NoS hasn't been perfect but I've stuck to it more or less for a few years. I ended up losing 40 lbs but my weight is currently up several pounds. It sucks but what's scariest to me is that I know if I hadn't stuck with NoS all this time, I would have gained...

lpearlmom

Great job working out! Hang in there!

lpearlmom

Yeah, sometimes interacting with other humans is so painfully awkward. I thought about sending her an email after our conversation because she took so much of what I said the wrong way, but then I thought I should probably just end it. Can I just avoid everyone besides my family? Or maybe just a sma...

lpearlmom

Well, I'm going to cling to that possibility for now. It's still in the triple digits. Ugh. Well, I ended up having a red day but nothing drastic. We took the girls out for a nice dinner and ended up sharing some appetizers. I tried to tell myself it was virtual plating but I ate a whole plate of fo...

lpearlmom

+3 lbs aaaaarrrghhh!

Weighed myself to get a monthly weight. Still up despite exercise and Green Day's. :/ I know, I know....patience. ðŸ˜’

(Thx iron for encouragement.)

lpearlmom

Green Day!

Break: smoothie
lunch: several pieces sushi, miso soup, sf chai
Dinner: pesto chicken, cauliflower mash, salad, fruit and yogurt, wine

Exercise: bike 6.7 miles

lpearlmom

Thanks Merry & Iron! Good to know I'm not alone. I really need to figure out how to enjoy my treats more on S days. Today was good but I felt SO hungry. Mondays are always tough after a day of gorging. Breakfast: date & banana smoothie, "coffee" Lunch: TJ chicken & noodle salad, apple Dinner: two be...

lpearlmom

Yay--great job!! Those are hard days but feels so good when you get through them. Hopefully you won't have to do that for awhile.

You're rides sound beautiful. Such a lovely way to start your day.

lpearlmom

I agree Merry. We havent walked in their shoes. These people deserve our compassion.

lpearlmom

Okay, today I feel sick. Blech...I feel so lethargic and my heads hurt. It's amazing how much better I feel on the days I get a morning ride in and stick to my three meals. It's like night and day. I did manage to stop myself at one point when I was eating chips and guacamole. I told myself "you kno...

lpearlmom

Sounds wonderful! YaY, for N days!

I love that you have a built exercise most days. How far is it to work?

lpearlmom

Thanks Bluebell! Today was pretty good. My only rules for today was to have some planned treats and not to eat to the point of feeling sick. Sounds like a low bar but it helps me to stay at least somewhat mindful. Knowing I have some planned treats makes snacking randomly less desirable. I had a ver...

lpearlmom

Hang in there Oolala! You know I've been struggling too lately. Things have turned around for me this week but I realize they could easily turn back around the other way next week. Kind of frustrating but at least I'm learning the "stuck" part doesn't last forever. As far as health insurance, ugh. W...

lpearlmom

Oh my goodness, that was beautiful!! Thank you for sharing. I love your writing style & felt like I was there. So happy you got to make your dh 'a dream come true. We kept the girls home from school because they were going to make them watch it on the computer. No totality though but maybe in 7 year...

lpearlmom

Yay! So happy to hear how well you're doing. It's so nice to put food back in its rightful place isn't it? I love that your son wants to cook a meal. How old is he ? Let us know how it goes.

Linda

lpearlmom

yah, I hate sitting in restaurant trying to decide if I should get something heavier just because I'm out or eat my normal lighter N day way. On an S day, it's a no-brainer. I want N days to be an no brainer too. Btw, Oolala just wanted to tell we don't protest to try to change people's minds so muc...

lpearlmom

Thx iron! Was a tremendous turn out ! I agree about comments. Either way I'll continue to protest.

lpearlmom

I'm home safe & sound! Was a great experience although I heard they pepper sprayed the crowd after we left. Not sure why. Everyone was very peaceful except a few Trump supported who were trying to start a fight. To see all those ppl there was very uplifting. I'm exhausted & feel very good about my d...

lpearlmom

Thank you Iron! I'm getting a little more nervous but we're going as a group so I'm sure it'll be okay. Green Day!! I was very strict w the rules and it felt great. I even got other people to be my tasters when making dinner. Break: smoothie Lunch: vegan Brussel sprout Cesear salad, iced chai Dinner...

lpearlmom

Nope!

lpearlmom

Thanks for the support you guys! Today was pretty good although I did overdo it at dinner. I just feel so lethargic when I overeat. I'm looking forward to getting back on track tomorrow. Break: 2 pieces of toast, 2 veggie sausages, herbal coffee Lunch: double veggie burger on sandwich thin w/ avocad...

lpearlmom

Sounds like you did great!

On vacation I try to stick to N days kinda...if little special treats pop up here an there I take advantage of them. It's part of the experience but shouldn't overshadow the total experience. The way you handled it sounds ideal!

lpearlmom

Great job on the exercise. I know that's something you've struggled with in the past (me too).

lpearlmom

Thanks Merry. That's good advice. I remember focusing on the fact that I was sticking to something (I have commitment issues) and that I could visually see I wasn't overeating anymore. It also felt great not to constantly obsess over food. I guess I've taken that for granted till as of late that is....

lpearlmom

Still here & still struggling. My body is hanging on to this new weight with dear life. No idea why as my eating continues to be very light. But yes I'm going to need a non-weight related goal or I'm going to drive myself crazy. Time to rethink things. Everything else is going well though. Kids, mar...

lpearlmom

Okay the haircut is already looking a bit better but I'm beyond frustrated with the scale. I've had a green week and have been eating pretty light but the scale is stuck at -35 lbs ( my lowest is -50lbs). That's has got to be some kind of hormonal or water rention thing, right? We're going to Las Ve...

lpearlmom

Thank you splandrea! Sometimes I like it but often I don't. People have weird reactions to it as well. Some people acknowledge my hair cut but don't say it looks nice like just ignore it if you're not going to at least be polite. I saw my friend I hadn't seen in awhile and she said "do you like your...

lpearlmom

UGH, sorry about schedule. I'm struggling too. We've both been here before. We can do this.

Linda

lpearlmom

Yeah it's great book! Just ignore the food/eating section. He mainly seems to think giving up "processed foods" will cause the extra weight to come off and he encourages snacking on fruit all day long. https://www.amazon.com/Mini-Habits-Weight-Loss-Suffering-ebook/dp/B01N0FR4AX/ref=asap_bc?ie=UTF8 *...

lpearlmom

Ohhh I wish we could have s little of your rain. It's SO hot here. I know how you feel about wanting to do something with the kids that's not too expensive. It's so hot here during the summer that it's not like they can just go run around the park or something. If we want to get out of the house, we...

lpearlmom

So glad your husband is going with you. We've never gone to marriage counseling but I've threatened several times. That's usually enough to get him to help resolve whatever issue we're having. Your husband is being very brave! Also, great to see the scale is finally catching up with you. Happy Frida...

lpearlmom

Yeah check it out bluebell. It's pretty good but ignore the diet advice (lots of snacking). Well dropped my daughter off & cried all the way home (25 mins). Part of what was hard is that it's a different school than the rest of her friends and it's downtown on a busy street. Just felt weird dropping...

lpearlmom

Thank you Bluebel! I'm not exercising all that much but it is more than I have for awhile. It's all because of this book I read called minihabits. You pick a ridiculously easy habit to dobtowards your larger goal. Since I wanted to exercise each day I picked 1 sit-up & 1 30 sec HIIT (like a sprint)....

lpearlmom

Good for you for being proactive! I remember you taking about counseling helping you in the past & it actually helped me get up the courage to go. It's been a transformative experience for me. I hope you find it helpful once again I switched to smaller plates awhile ago. I think it's helped to get m...

lpearlmom

Hi auto! No don't worry it wasnt your breakfast skipping that inspired my stupidity. Just me in a panic but I got over that quickly. I'm pmsing so extra crazy hungry. Yesterday felt like torture. ðŸ˜¬ Back on track today. Green for me. Woot! Break: toast w cream cheese, cherries, 2 pieces turkey ðŸ¥...

lpearlmom

Lol iron--silly is good! Thank you Merry! It's such a relief to realize I don't have to take the bait. It really diffuses the situation quickly. You're right we can't fight if I don't cooperate with her. Well yesterday I did I a stupid thing and decided to try to skip some meals. All day all I could...

lpearlmom

Yay--such good news about your rental property!! I'm so glad you won't have to be dealing with that tenant any longer. What a nightmare! I agree about exercise. It always puts me in the right frame of mind for eating healthy & staying away from snacks. So many benefits really to exercise. I think yo...

lpearlmom

16 lbs wow that's awesome and even better, the nighttime eating has improved! Glad things are going well for you!

Linda

lpearlmom

-33.2 lbs ðŸ˜±

No place to go but up...

Break: smoothie
Lunch: veg sandwich, salad, nectarine, cherries
Dinner: eggplant "meatballs" on ww pasta, salad, wine

lpearlmom

Omg I know iron. I just read your thread and think there's something in the air for sure. I'm guessing it'll pass as quickly as it came though right? The good news is that I'm feeling so much better emotionally today and the fact that my dark mood has completely lifted has made me feel tremendously ...

lpearlmom

Ouch! Sorry about the thumb! Oooh I love cherries esp those Rainer ones! Yes it could be worse. You could be munching on chocolate toffee cookies like I was all evening! ðŸ˜Š Seeing you count down the days left on the semester made me laugh. That's what my kids do. Hope this year goes okay for you. ...

lpearlmom

Oh boy that's quite a nightmare auto! Still that moment you realize your nightmare is just a dream, is the best feeling ever. I so relate to how you're feeling auto. Women have so many pressures to be perfect in a million ways at once. We have to be perfect mothers, have amazing careers, beautiful, ...

lpearlmom

Great job with the exercise! Sorry about the headache situation but overall looks like you're doing great!

lpearlmom

Ugh I feel your pain! My weight is up for no apparent reason too and it's hard to stay positive. I think we all have these times when we fall into a funk and everything appears hopeless. Frankly I think we're all a mess. Some of us are just better at hiding it than others but you're not a failure. Y...

lpearlmom

Thanks you guys! I need to break out my old lap top. It's slow as molasses but will be easier to type on at least. Wow I'm struggling. I cannot remember the last time I had a Green Day & I stopped weighing on Tuesday because the scale was permanently stuck on -37.2 lbs. I've been cramping & bloating...

lpearlmom

Oolala: Did you see me waving back? :) Merry: thank you! So happy to have them home. They seemed to have matured a bit and are just really calm & happy right now. I'll enjoy it while it lasts! Ugh, I'm not doing too good. My weight is still up despite increasing my exercise & having a pretty sane we...

lpearlmom

Thanks Merry. That makes a lot of sense. When I'm upset I usually just want to heard too. I'm really going to work on being calm & centered.

Oolala: maybe we need to start a support group! ðŸ˜€

lpearlmom

Well I don't think I want to go back to that either. ;) I do know that exercise makes everything better. It really helps with my body image no matter what I weigh. Today I bought a really cute sundress. The kind I always want to buy but think I'm too heavy to wear. It shows off my curves but it actu...

lpearlmom

Ack!!! I'm so sorry! ðŸ˜

Btw, that seems awfully early. Is it a year round school or something?

lpearlmom

I think following each other here is a happiness strategy. I agree! And yeah I'll probably always be a little unsatisfied with my weight. Maybe it's better to just kind of accept that and move on. I'm just not willing to eat in the way that'll get me super skinny. I love to cook, I love to eat. It'...

lpearlmom

Thanks iron! I'm pretty sure it's at least partially related my cycle. I'm putting my exercise in now because I tend to forget what I did by evening. ðŸ˜Š I'm planning to work on my paper piles today but ugh, all I want to do is crawl back in bed and read a good book. Oh well! -36 lbs ðŸ˜ Break: smo...

lpearlmom

I swear I don't know what's going on but I feel like I'm retaining a huge amount of water or something. I just feel super bloated. It's weird though because I've actually upped my water intake. I dunno--pms? Menopause? The heat? I hope I get back to at least -40 lbs. soon. We're going to LA for my M...

lpearlmom

Weighed this morning. -36 lbs ðŸ˜±

Trying not to panic. I guess that extra fruit I was eating between meals really added up.

Going to have a green week.

lpearlmom

Thank you. I really, really need that book! ðŸ˜Š

lpearlmom

Iron: I think we were typing at the same time but thank you. For your kind words and for that beautiful poem. Boy did that hit me hard but in a good way like we all go through this and it's okay.

Thx â¤ï¸

lpearlmom

Ugh, I really feel like I've gained 10 lbs. I hope my mind is just playing tricks on me. Will weigh tomorrow and feeling very excited to get back to my N days. Break: bagel & cream cheese, chai Lunch: veggie burger on ww bread, handful chips w dip, banana Snack: nuts, another handful corn chips Dinn...

lpearlmom

Awww thanks auto, you really made my day. And yes you're right about my dh. In fact, one time we were in the car with the girls and two of their friends. They were all chatting loudly non-stop and DH looked at me and said "how to you deal with this all day long?" I had totally tuned it out because i...

lpearlmom

Thanks Merry! It is fun to watch them grow up. I'm realizing that I'm really dealing with mini-adults here. Telling them "because I said so" just didn't fly anymore. They really crave a higher level of interaction than that now. Oolala, that info really helped me actually. My oldest daughter is a pe...

lpearlmom

Wow seems like everything is kind of coming together for you. It does take a bit of experimenting & tweaking before getting it just right. I'm still working on it!

lpearlmom

I love your list. So touching and I'm so happy you're starting to find yourself again.

I've read people who focus on what they're grateful for tend to be happier. I think I may steal your list idea if you don't mind.

lpearlmom

Sorry oolala! Definitely didn't mean to stress you out. Hoping it would inspire you! To be fair I just did the easy part. Putting things into different piles. I'm really dreading the part where I have to tackle my to-do pile. There's stuff in there I've been avoiding for months. The cooking class so...

lpearlmom

Thanks you guys. Merry: It's nice knowing I'm not the only one that needs a break from their kids. im an introvert so I guess my desire for peace and quiet makes sense. I think it's funny you guys all fessed up about it. Very healthy to be able to talk about stuff. Oolala: I guess I could ask my kid...

lpearlmom

Oh boy, being a landlord is so stressful! We finally got a property manager because I just couldn't deal. It's actually pretty cheap (at least here) and has really been worth it for us.

Hoping it all goes away soon & you guys can put this behind you.

lpearlmom

Thank you oolala! Today was good. I'm so enjoying the peace and quiet but am feeling a little guilty about not missing my kids more. I guess it's because I know how much they enjoy camp but I also realize that I let them stress me out too much. I need to work on this. Maybe if I was calmer and more ...

lpearlmom

Wow you eat a lot of veggies. Good for you! Btw, have you started tackling the paperwork yet? I worked on my piles for about 5 hrs today. Of course, I did it while watching movies and sometimes taking breaks for Facebook, texting etc but I made a pretty big dent in it. As usual, it isn't nearly as b...

lpearlmom

Yay for teenagers with jobs! I'm so nervous about my kids having to be independent. I wish I could just protect them forever. Oh well, I must have faith!

lpearlmom

My red days are still so much better than a normal day used to be for me that it's hard to feel too badly about it.

I like that you're experimenting to find the "sweet spot". It's a great goal.

You'll get there!

Linda

lpearlmom

I love big bear! Things have been good despite no green days this week. Well Tuesday was 4th of July and yesterday was Dh's bday. Mostly I just had extra fruit between meals. I picked up a little gem of a book called mini habits & it's really helping me. You pick 4 mini habits that are laughably sma...

lpearlmom

Hi to avoid scrolling to find last post, go to the colum "last post" and click on paper looking image next to the arrow. The arrow will be next to the name of the last person who posted on that thread. Does that make sense?

lpearlmom

Hi oolala, would love some support. I'll probably commit to a couple hours a day or maybe just a certain area or something. We rented a house by the lake in Tahoe and are now in Big Bear. We were with dh's family and had a great time. I don't get along that well with my mil but decided to make an ex...

lpearlmom

I don't think I've ever seen you write down your food and must admit, I've been curious what a normal day looks like for you. Writing it down actually is soothing for me. It's usually a lot worse in my head and when I see it on "paper" I'm relieved to see it wasn't so much. Everyone is different tho...

lpearlmom

Absolutely oolala! We've been bike riding, hiking, paddle boarding, kayaking & even played a little beach volleyball! So much to do in Cali, no wonder I gained so much weight when I moved to AZ. I'd forgotten how good it feels to be active. The gym is boring, but all these activities are fun! My eat...

lpearlmom

Hi wahine! Yes, it's mini bundt cake. There's a place near me that makes the best ones: http://www.nothingbundtcakes.com/products Twinkies on the other hand are not the best quality. I do however have a recipe for a homemade version if you're ever interested. Another red day... So busy getting ready...

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