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lpearlmom

Thanks iron: I definitely needed to hear that today. I really need a break from the day to day stuff but am keeping my energy for 2018. Feeling a little better but exhausted. Still have a lot to do to get ready for our trip. Wish we could just throw everything in the car and go. Red day :/ was s con...

lpearlmom

Lol Merry. I do have a special attachment to those See's candy lollipops. Oolala: I know all that stuff logically. I was just speaking about how the irrational side of me sees things sometimes. Having a hard time. It's hard to explain but after months of feeling on top of my game socially, I can fee...

lpearlmom

Oh gosh you guys. I so relate. My sisters favorite insult was to tell me I was fat yet pictures show me just slightly chubby. Nothing to be too concerned about. Both my parents constantly dieted. My sister used to do the spit it out thing. My mom still engages in a lot of diet/fat talk. It's annoyin...

lpearlmom

Had a fun Father's Day. We went w/ dh to the musical instrument museum and then came home so the girls and I could make him dinner. Definitely ate a lot. Looking forward to tomorrow. Really wish I could get into a good exercise routine. Way too hot for anything outside--120 expected this week! €...

lpearlmom

Agreed! Don't worry about S days. Mine are only now calming down after 4 years but I still managed to lose weight. N days will start to feel like like a relief which is a good thing.

lpearlmom

I think it's a natural progression auto although as I recall, you ate pretty lightly as it was, no? Today has been a little emotional. Mostly hormones I think as its that time of the month. Boy, it's such a weird feeling. Almost like I'm on drugs. I tend to feel vulnerable & raw and I tend to feel l...

lpearlmom

Look at you--you're doing great!

Hope you're having an enjoyable weekend!

Linda

lpearlmom

Aww thanks for sweet comments Lily! My girls are pretty great. I'm very fortunate. I love that they don't seem to have any food/body issues although I think it's doubtful they'll have zero in this society. My youngest went through a chubby state when she was 9-10. I decided to just ride it out and t...

lpearlmom

Green day:

Break: handful of almonds
Lunch: Cajun chicken salad, bread
Dinner: poke bowl, nectarine, glass of wine

Exercise: none

Feeling a little burnt out. Luckily, we're going to Tahoe next week so I'll get a little break.

lpearlmom

Drinks between meals are fine as long as they're not overly sugary. Definitely not a fail.

lpearlmom

Sorry about your fail but you know by now how to mark it & move on at least. Do you think it could be the flour restrictions backlash?

Your time in LA sounds fantastic! Glad you had fun.

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you iron--it's very rewarding! Lol lily. They're very yummy: http://www.foodnetwork.com/recipes/ina-garten/real-margaritas-recipe-1940934 Sad day today with the shootings of our GOP. Extremists like this give us all a bad name. This is not what we're about. Anyway, had a green day today. Been ...

lpearlmom

All going good here. Just really busy with girls home plus all my activist stuff. Dh said it'd sure be nice if I was getting paid for all this but it's worth it to me. It's so important. Plus, maybe it'll lead to a paid position at some point. Who knows? Monday and Tuesday both green plus managed 15...

lpearlmom

I agree.

Thanks again.

lpearlmom

Hope you feel better soon and thanks for the support today. I know it's not always easy speaking up.

lpearlmom

Different is fine. Many people have different mods but still keep within the spirit of NoS. What makes NoS different is that it's about moderation and sanity. Many of us come here to get away from traditional dieting and fat shaming. I'd ask that you please be respectful of that.

lpearlmom

Sounds good. Big *hugs*. Just take it one day at a time.

lpearlmom

I wasn't going to post this here and I'm sorry if this is offensive to you life but I'd have to respectfully disagree with your advice. Nos is about moderate eating/exercise habits. Over time this should get you to a healthy weight for you. Weighing yourself twice a day is obsessive, not healthy , n...

lpearlmom

Lily: seeing pics of myself is a big trigger for me as well. NoS is not a quick fix, it's a long-term solution that will require some patience. I've been doing Nos for about three years now and I barely lost any weight the first year. Right now you should just be focused on getting the habits in pla...

lpearlmom

Friday sounds like a good day. I hope your weekend went well and that you were able to get some rest.

lpearlmom

Thanks iron ! Too bad you don't live nearby, I'd happily share leftovers! :) Oolala's post got me to thinking about how looking back at different turning points in my life, I can see that it usually happened because I was willing to take a risk. When I was in college, I decided to do a college abroa...

lpearlmom

Life is so unpredictable. We fret for years about stuff without much changing then all of the sudden things come together in such a way that turn all that upside down and you find yourself happily on the other side of things. Oh and I tried that eat whatever you want years ago which is how I found m...

lpearlmom

Sounds like a great weekend. Envious of your bike riding. Way too hot here !

lpearlmom

Thanks oolala! Yeah it really only happens when I'm trying on clothes in the dressing room or catch an unflattering photo of myself. Weighing can trigger body dissatisfaction too but I'm getting better at recognizing normal fluctuations. I realize now that for me sticking to NoS takes away the obses...

lpearlmom

Yeah it was a good reminder. I hope I don't come across as constantly thinking about my weight. Mostly I feel good. Mostly I don't even think about my appearance. I'm too busy living my life. It's just when I come across a full length mirror or a photo of myself. Then I struggle with acceptance. Alt...

lpearlmom

Thanks for sharing Merry! It's helpful to see that we have similar S days. I had imagined that your S days were as calm as your N days somehow. I like that you're able to be objective about them and don't seem to beat yourself up. And you're still steadily losing weight so it all seems to be working...

lpearlmom

A green day--yay! Feels fantastic although the time between lunch & dinner was a struggle. I made it though. Break: smoothie Lunch: tuna on sandwich thin, watermelon, plain yogurt w blueberries Dinner: beet burger, chips, guacamole, watermelon, cherries, glass wine Exercise: oops Thanks again oolala...

lpearlmom

Oh gotcha! Yes whole grains is the way to go. Thank goodness for trader joes. They've got frozen quinoa and a medley mix with barely and other grains. Three mins in the microwave--woot!

lpearlmom

I'll respond more later but wanted to say a quick thank you! What you said helps me with that internal struggle I have about wanting to trust my wants.

Anyway thank you for your support and wisdom!

Linda

lpearlmom

Congrats Merry! I have to say that you're an inspiration to me. You're steady, patient and consistent. I tend to be more like a roller coaster ride. All over the place. I was wondering if you'd mind sharing what your S days are like and if you have a plan for them or if they've just naturally worked...

lpearlmom

Glad things are going well! I cannot believe your kids are 2 & 5 already! Where does the time go??

lpearlmom

Breaking out my list as well! I think only people with celiac disease need to give up flour, no?

lpearlmom

Thanks you guys but my little experiment has failed miserably. My weight is slowly creeping up and my reflux is really bad. Even just a few pounds effect it so hopefully I'll start to feel better soon. My obsessive thinking about weight/diet is returning too so yeah NoS may not be a perfect fit but ...

lpearlmom

Scrolling ? Why do you need to scroll to post on your thread?

Btw, good to see you back here!

lpearlmom

Big *hugs* to you. Sorry you're going through a rough time. Hang in there, you're doing great. ❤️

lpearlmom

Oh gosh no iron you did not!! I actually forgot all about that post! 😊 You've been nothing but supportive and encouraging so nothing to feel badly about at all! I will probably continue to post just to make sure I dint go to off the rails. Thanks for your concern but it's all good! Linda :)

lpearlmom

Hi oolala & kaalii! Thanks so much for checking on me. Been a crazy time for me. Busy w/ bdays, graduation, activism and then I had to get my daughter ready for her 8th grade trip to DC. I've also been having some weird health issues (my ears been blocked for weeks) which is making exercise difficul...

lpearlmom

Happy bday to your son!!! How old is he?

Hope the dog is better! Been there done that. No fun! I once came home to my dogs mess after he'd gotten into a stick of butter. Ugh, we got a doggie door after that.

Love your gratitude list.

Xo

lpearlmom

Thank you all for the bday wishes!! Kaalii, my other daughter's bday is May 9th! Oh and our little dogs bday is the 8th and yes we celebrate our dogs bdays too. Crazy month for us! It's been a weird week. I haven't had a single green day. I'm just feeling really resistant to doing much of antything ...

lpearlmom

Yeah the judgement comes and goes. Well yesterday was my youngest daughter's bday and then today is mine so definitely a lot of eating. My daughters party was a lot of fun. Everything went smoothly. Yay! A couple of friends took me out to lunch today but dh was on call so didn't do much else. He did...

lpearlmom

Oh dear somehow I missed all this! Well I can definitely relate though things aren't quite that bad fir us. I'm so sorry you're going through this. Sounds incredibly stressful. I hope it gets sorted out soon. I swear I want to sell that house but dh thinks it'll be good to have as part of our nest e...

lpearlmom

Oolala, we actually do have a property manager, believe it or not. The problem is the renters are our "friends" and they're completely unwilling to work with him. They won't sign a lease, refuse to pay late fees even though they're often several days late on rent and complain about ridiculous things...

lpearlmom

Wow that sucks about your dad. The struggle is real for a lot of people. I'm not saying she shouldn't have the surgery or anything like that. She works for a bariatric surgeon so I figured it was only a matter of time.

Just was dealing with complicated feelings. I'm over it.

lpearlmom

Enjoy the wedding! I didn't realize you had to be Mormon to go inside a Mormon temple.

I almost never see you take an extra S day (me either).

Hope the family stuff goes well also.

Linda

lpearlmom

Wow I'm jealous of your walkable neighborhood! Great job on the buffet and a bratwurst beats a regular ol hotdog any day in my book.

Have a great weekend!

Linda

lpearlmom

True! Two solid weeks of green & my weight is down 2.5 lbs! Woot! Kind of a stressed out. We've got three bdays this month, one graduation and two events I'm in charge of for my group plus our renters just gave notice. It's probably for the best because there's been a ton of tension with them. It's ...

lpearlmom

Wb ginger pie! Many of us (me) have been there. Sometimes we just have to learn the hard way!

lpearlmom

Thanks for your kind words bluebell! It really means a lot to me. I don't think ppl realize how hurtful they're being sometimes. Whos: absolutely. I totally support her decision. I've been supporting her all along & she knows it. It just started messing with my head a little. That's when I usually p...

lpearlmom

Exactly.

Break: smoothie
"Lunch": pretzels, nuts, chips & dip (meeting)
Dinner: veggie burger, salad, glass wine

Exercise: 25 min walk

lpearlmom

Oh well i have an overactive imagination. 😊

lpearlmom

Made it through today but was tough. Was hungrier than normal so had lots of beverages to get me through. Break: smoothie Lunch:.salad, piece of toast, watermelon Dinner: bowl of taco chili soup, watermelon I had a meeting tonight so had an early dinner but told myself I could have some fruit when I...

lpearlmom

Good job holding off on the chocolate egg. Looks like maybe you have a secret admirer. 😊

lpearlmom

Oh do you remember automated? Her & I had similar money issues and then she discovered ynab. She kept raving about it so I researched it and decided to give it a try. It did not disappoint. 👍

lpearlmom

Oh happy to see others are on board with the whole budgeting thing. I sleep so much better at night knowing exactly where all my money is. I love ynab because it lets me know exactly how much money I have left for each category in real time. Anyway today was pretty good. Dh came home early so we wen...

lpearlmom

Oh geez I'm not looking forward to the whole college thing. My kids won't qualify for anything with dh's income but doesn't mean we've saved enough to cover college. Ugh, hopefully they're grades will be good enough for scholarships or something. Anyway sorry for the stress. I hope it all works out....

lpearlmom

No I didn't Merry! Sorry! 😊 thank you so much for getting it and not judging me.

I so appreciate your continuous kindness & support. Your families lucky to have you. ❤️

lpearlmom

Thanks so much tuna & Carla! I was feeling pretty shattered today but seeing your emphatic posts really lifted my spirits. I probably didn't express myself well in the original posts. I was tired but I was annoyed at myself for having these thoughts. I figured if I knew I wasn't the only one, I coul...

lpearlmom

I'm pretty sure that's exactly what is being said but thx.

lpearlmom

So I never said I was proud of my thoughts. We all have dark thoughts sometimes. I was just being honest about it. Part of the problem is this particular friend has been less than kind lately. But anyway I'll keep my thoughts to myself next time. I couldn't delete my original post completely but I'm...

lpearlmom

Wow that's a lot of food! How fun though! Enjoy!!

lpearlmom

Happy birthday!!! Hope it was a fun day!

lpearlmom

Wow what a weekend! Saturday night we went out with some friends to an amazing restaurant and ate & drank A LOT! Then I came home and ate 2 pieces of pizza. Not sure what I was thinking but so be it. Today was a little better but we did go to dinner again where I ate a fair amount. This weekend has ...

lpearlmom

Uh yeah never mind.

lpearlmom

A green week, first in awhile and my weights back down to -44.2 lbs yay! Feels great to be back on track.

Break: smoothie
Lunch: soup, salad, slice of bread
Dinner: Chiptole chicken salad, 2 glasses wine

lpearlmom

Woot! Great job!

So weird to me that Wednesday isn't even over yet for me and you're halfway through Thursday.

lpearlmom

good to hear you know where to draw the line with fake-smiley people... the worst kind... Thanks kaalii--I agree! Another green day--yay! Break: smoothie Lunch: Asian chicken salad w/ avocado & cashews, melon Dinner: Asian salmon, roasted Brussels sprouts w/ coconut "bacon", rice, guac, chips (smal...

lpearlmom

The food sounds amazing! Enjoy and good luck with the ticks. They're such a pain!

lpearlmom

Yay for green days! Don't you love how you can't really fail on NoS? The green days are the goal but the red days teaches us something and when they're just mini fails that's a success as well.

Hope the rest of the week goes well!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hi iron! I know my life is kinda crazy right now. Thank you for the well wishes. Yeah fb can get pretty heated but since I'm an admin for that group, I had to stay super cool. I also just kind of walked away from it at one point and let it take a life of its own. So I met w/ my neighbor whose runnin...

lpearlmom

Last week was mostly red days and today my weight is higher than its been in awhile (-41.6 lbs). My reflux is acting up. The two might be related actually. On top of it all, the intense amount of social interaction I've been engaging in is starting to feel overwhelming. A couple of days I put a post...

lpearlmom

Thank you noni. Yeah some serious ugly behavior but you're right families are harder. At least I can just end it & be done with it. Friendship is a gift and there is no point in exposing yourself to mistreatment. I love that Larks. I always feel like I'm doing something wrong when I no longer want t...

lpearlmom

Yay for scale going down. Hope the weekend went well!

lpearlmom

Thanks so much for your response oolala. I'm impressed you figured out what was going on from my disjointed post. I was definitely rattled by the situation & it'll probably haunt me for awhile. You're right though, her reaction isn't my responsibility. I think what's so weird though is she's usually...

lpearlmom

Thanks for the honest answer Larks! I decided to ground myself next week. Nothing social except maybe a yoga class or two. I'm also going to take a break from social media for a few days. I just have too much to get caught up on. Ugh today was so emotional. I saw my therapist and had a very emotiona...

lpearlmom

I know it's hard to find just the right balance. And of course I'm not getting paid for any of this stuff but I do enjoy it. It's just a lot. The bad thing about staying home is everyone assumes you have tons a free time. On top of the volunteer stuff I'm trying to keep up with my new social life. I...

lpearlmom

Minor fail & great job on the yard work! 😍

lpearlmom

Was good lark! Absolutely exhausting day. I'm starting to wish I could go back to having no life. I think maybe I've taken on too much and I'm still trying to keep up with everything I did before plus a social life and gym time too. I'm not cut out for this. Such an emotional day too. An email from ...

lpearlmom

Happy NoSiversary! Sorry about the relationship problems. That's stressful. DH & I seem to go through something every 10 years or so but it always passes. Hope this passes for you too.

lpearlmom

That's funny. Actually I remember you taking about that just after midnight eating oolala. The promise of a 12:01 treat got me through many a Friday. Of course, I was always too lazy to actually get up and eat but it was nice knowing I could. Today was another over the top day although at least ther...

lpearlmom

Looks like ice cream is a popular S day treat. I guess I should explain why I had it for breakfast. It's because last night I was craving it so badly but held off by promising myself I could have it first thing in the morning. Well that's exactly what I did! ☺️

lpearlmom

Well the first thing I ate today was ice cream and the last thing I ate tonight was......wait for it... Ice cream. I definitely squeezed in a lot of goodies. But we're not going to worry about S days so it is what it is. Maybe I can eat a little less tomorrow. Today was good. My daughter had a dance...

lpearlmom

That does sound really tough Lark. I imagine a lot of her identity is wrapped in being a ballet dancer. I hope she finds something else to be equally passionate about.

lpearlmom

Could you make a smoothie and have it on the way to work?

lpearlmom

It's a very French thing to do and makes it okay in my book!

lpearlmom

I know crazy right Jen?! Yes I think they appreciate & respect me a bit more. You guys are so right about the S days. I forgot the importance of being able to say well you can't have it now but come Saturday you can have whatever & whenever you want something. It really makes it easier to comply. I'...

lpearlmom

Oh big hugs re your daughter. Parenting is heartbreaking sometimes. My daughter 13 yrs has a lot of angst and it's hard to deal with at times. Right now she's miserable because of her Jr lifeguarding class. Apparently she's the weakest swimmer there and the most popular boy happens to be in this cla...

lpearlmom

Hi Lark, it was pretty funny. I kept thinking why didn't they give the horse to my 6 ft husband? We have some self-driving cars in Az. I'm hoping technology hurries up and makes driving a lot safer since my girls will be driving in a couple of years. 😁 Thanks for understanding about the weig...

lpearlmom

Hi oolala, we have only been to the lake a couple of times but we've gone off-roading and atv riding in that area many times. We always take the I-17 to Prescott so not sure about those other highways. But yeah my kids have never been to the Grand Canyon so I get that analogy. And yes my legs were q...

lpearlmom

A little more of a snacky day than yesterday was but still pretty good. Definitely feels good not to go bed stuffed. Break: smoothie Lunch: veggie enchilada plate, chips, guac margarita Snack: green smoothie Dinner: bagel w cream cheese, chips , guacamole Dessert: 3 shortbread cookies, milk Exercise...

lpearlmom

Thank you Larkspur. You're probably right. Plus I figure she needs to understand that there's consequences to treating people badly. At least it happens less and less often. I don't know why I let her push my buttons though. We live in Peoria but used to live in Scottsdale. It is hard to meet people...

lpearlmom

Hi Larkspur! Thanks for stopping by my thread. I just wanted to give you some encouragement. The first time I did NoS was several years ago. I was perfect for a month but didn't lose any weight so gave up. 5 years later and 20 lbs heavier I was at the end of my rope. My obsessive thinking about food...

lpearlmom

Oh that's awesome that you're making phone calls and stuff. I feel the opposite though about it being situational. I'm already doing stuff outside of any activism work with some of these people and can definitely see it leading to some lifelong friendships. That could be because in Arizona we are ou...

lpearlmom

Yay! So glad to hear--speedy recovery!

lpearlmom

Thanks for all the great support! Iron: you nailed it. That's exactly the kind of thoughts that go through my head. It's a relief really to know its not just me. And I even used your technique last night when I was at a training session. I started in with that kind of self-talk and I said oh I'm doi...

lpearlmom

Thanks Bluebell for your support! I like the idea of S day mods, I just can never stick to them for some reason. I'm so happy it seems to be doing the trick for you. It makes sense but my brain is just not having any if it. I think I'm going to have to try Merry's approach of just not worrying about...

lpearlmom

Merry: so funny we must have been posting at the same time because I didn't see your comment till after I posted today. Wanted to say thank you though for the kind words and great advice. I really like your mindset and think I really need to just let go of worrying about S days for now. I do like th...

lpearlmom

You can take over my thread anytime oolala! Thanks for the response! Honestly most my N days are greenish and have been for a couple years now. My issue is I tend to pick a little when cooking food so not perfect but my fails tend to be minor fails. That said maybe if I cleaned that up it would carr...

lpearlmom

Great job! Your meals look yummy!

Keep up the good work!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay! Great job imogen and you described exactly what happens to me when I eat something I didn't really enjoy. Good insight!

Have a great week!

lpearlmom

Welcome & gl! I always weigh on Friday for best case scenario but if Sunday works for you, go for it!

My daughter loves Popeyes!

Linda

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