Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

Oooh massage! Glad you're looking into therapy as well. You were one of the reasons I finally got brave enough to go to therapy. I remember you saying how helpful you found it. That plus dh's encouragement did it and I'm so glad for it!

Sounds like you have a lot of insight and some great goals!

lpearlmom

I saw a friend of a friend in a Facebook picture & thought it must be her mom or an older sister. She had lost weight & looked so much older. It made me feel even more strongly that I'd rather be happy & healthy!! So agree! Thinner isn't always better! Even with having lost weight very slowly & in ...

lpearlmom

I think you can definitely make big changes at any age. Therapy helps! I've been able to make huge changes with my ability to handle anger but it's happened slowly over time.

lpearlmom

Thanks whos, auto! Did end up being a good day. Jen: thanks for the encouragement. You're right, the scale has a mind of its own sometimes. Well I had terrible reflux yesterday so didn't eat much and spent most of the day on the couch. Ugh, it's my fault though I did everything I'm not suppose to on...

lpearlmom

What a day...! Couldn't sleep last night so took a sleeping pill and woke up groggy. Weighed myself and was disappointed. I know I shouldn't focus on the numbers & all that. I know better but what bugs me is that I had a perfect week yet no weightloss. Anyway I started feeling depressed despite my b...

lpearlmom

Oh no being sick with guests is tough! Feel better!

lpearlmom

Ugh *hugs* It sucks being human sometimes. I have a temper and I always feel so guilty after I snap at someone. It's not a good combo. I wish I could be someone that just blows stuff like that off but I guess it means we care at least so that's good. Could you apologize or just too awkward? Anyway b...

lpearlmom

So much anxiety today. I just wish I could turn this brain off of mine sometimes. Wasn't a bad day though. I just worry too much.

Break: smoothie
Lunch: veg burger w guac, chips, Apple
Dinner: Asian chicken salad, piece of bread, banana

Going to weigh tomorrow.

lpearlmom

Oh boy if I didn't eat more when I'm pmsing, I'd be starving too!!

lpearlmom

Much better day. I figured out how to be more productive and fit some time in for my cake decorating. Also, I got my haircut and that always cheers me up!

Day 7 green

Break: smoothie
Lunch: veg burger, salad, Apple, latte
Dinner: burrito bowl, Apple, 1/2 glass wine

lpearlmom

Oh dear a new puppy?! It is like having a newborn. It's so much work and I can see how it'd cause you to reach your tipping point. That happens to me when I have a lot going on. I seem to be fine then just one more thing gets added to the mix and I'm done for. It just gets too overwhelming with that...

lpearlmom

Thank you blessing! It seems like a great fit for her and yes having dh on board has been great. He's a meal skipper so this has been good for him I think. Thank you auto--they love going to the museum! Great to see you here btw. Was a good day but feeling frustrated with my time management skills. ...

lpearlmom

Lol oolala! Not so sure about the power part but yeah :) Oh dear, I ate a ridiculously amount of food this weekend. Wth? I cannot tell you how happy I am tomorrow is an N day. Had fun today though. Took my girls and some of her friends to the Art museum. My parents brought me to so many art museums ...

lpearlmom

Yay moderation wins out again! I can't tell you how many people I know that do crossfit end up getting injured.

Pretty cool that you're comfortable being in a male dominated sport. You're a great role model for young girls. 👍

lpearlmom

I love avocado and coconut oil. I also love to cook but after years of cooking, I've found a way to make it so much more enjoyable. I'm memorizing the basics of our favorite recipes and then cooking them without referring to the recipe. It's so freeing and less exhausting. Sorry if I missed somethin...

lpearlmom

Hi Sonya-- glad to see you're still hanging in there. Sorry you gained a little weight in May but glad it's coming off slowly but surely. I know I can relax when my weight goes up a little (mines up 5 lbs) because if I just get back on track, it'll get me back to where I started pretty painlessly. I...

lpearlmom

Thanks so much Merry! I'm thrilled for her! 😍

lpearlmom

I agree, this is golden--glad you re-posted it here as I missed it before.

lpearlmom

Hi Heather! So nice to see you back here. Sometimes I feel a little lost amongst all the new faces. Glad you had some high points in your summer and I like your plan! I think it definitely good to relax your nutrition standards a bit. Being overly strict just takes the joy out of eating or backfires...

lpearlmom

Thank you so much for all the details. I really appreciate it. I think I was trying to find a solution very similar to what you describe. I was really struggling with finding a happy medium between total vanilla and total chaos. I love that your modeling normal eating for your daughter. That's been ...

lpearlmom

Awesome news and so great you're fitting in fun activity in to your day!

lpearlmom

Day 2: green Break: gym rat smoothie, latte Lunch: an apple, sf chai Dinner: large plate of Thai food, glass of wine Exercise: biked 7 miles My daughter got accepted to this Arts high school that she really wanted to go to. I'm so excited for her because I feel like she'll finally be with her tribe....

lpearlmom

Thanks kaali, elyn, Heather & Jen!

Jen: yep it'll put me at dec 17th. Just in time for the holidays!

So far so good! Definitely nice to have dh on board. 😀

lpearlmom

Starting 100 days of green goal. I've tried it before but wasn't motivated enough to stick to it. This time DH is doing it with me and I'm just mostly curious how it will feel to be that consistent with my eating over a goodly amount of time. I'll allow a couple of bites to taste for seasoning durin...

lpearlmom

Better late than never. I'm really struggling so need this right now!

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lpearlmom

Hi stoogeswoman! Glad you posted because I always feel it's best to be honest about our struggles. I know it's hard but you can do this! I was over 210 lbs when I started NoS but lost about 45 lbs over about a year and a half. It came in bits and spurts and I had plenty of times where I struggled. O...

lpearlmom

A good day. Always makes me happy when it rains here in always sunny Arizona. My youngest daughter is away for a couple days with her school so things are very calm around here. I may fight more with my oldest daughter but the youngest is definitely my high maintenance one. Still not a green day but...

lpearlmom

I like living out of pantry for a few days every once in awhile. Forces me to use stuff I've long forgotten about and helps save money.

It must be nice not wanting to lose more weight or is it ?

I hope your retreat is fun/enlightening!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hi Jen Glad you are enjoying the bike. You've actually inspired me to pull out my rowing machine and start using that on the days I don't get up to ride my bike. I'm so not a morning person so this has been a struggle lately. I really like reading about your mods especially I just cannot seem to sti...

lpearlmom

Yes oolala eating popcorn at the movies is definitely worth it. So many good childhood memories and I just love that feeling of escaping that comes from the total movie experience. Anyway thanks again for sharing that insight. The realization that we couldn't have acted any differently then we did, ...

lpearlmom

Thank you so much oolala! I love everything you said and it makes so much sense to me so please keep it here. More later but wanted to say a quick thanks. Oh and no nws today although we are going to the movies and popcorn is my weakness. Instead of fighting it, I'll make it my lunch. Probably cause...

lpearlmom

My eating has been kind of out of control the last couple of days. Not sure what's going on but hopefully I can get back on track before I regain anymore weight. Friday was a red day and it's tempting to want to take tomorrow as an N day but I know that's generally not a good idea. If I can start th...

lpearlmom

Thanks Blessing for stopping by! My weight was down a bit yesterday but then I had a red day followed by another red day today so not feeling too hopeful about tomorrow. I cannot seem to do NoS anymore. Frustrating. I'm still feeling a lot of stress but I'm trying to tell myself this is just life. E...

lpearlmom

Yeah I know you're right Merry! My weight is still up which is annoying. My body is just behaving strangely. First I lost weight without any effort and now my weight is up more than it's ever been after a really not that wild weekend. Must be weird water fluctuations. I keep think menopause or peri ...

lpearlmom

Welcome! Sometimes it takes a bit of tweaking to figure out the right amount of food you need to get you to the next meal. I know I often had to white knuckle it between meals in the beginning but I found milky tea or coffee helped a lot.

Good luck!

Linda

lpearlmom

Congrats on having some time to yourself again! I always find the last part of summer vacation to be a challenging time. We are all going a little stir crazy So maybe you could even call the first day of school an S day. Definitely worthy of a little celebration. Either way sounds like it was a pret...

lpearlmom

So funny! In the early days of NoS, I used to dream about it a lot. It was usually in the form of breaking the rules which was before I ever had a red day and found it very stressful. I guess it's normal when learning a new skill. I think it shows how important our new way of eating is to us. Glad i...

lpearlmom

Had a very nice visit in LA. I actually got along with my mil and the bday party for dhs aunt was lovely. Of course it's hard seeing everyone get so old and hearing about her life makes me wonder if I should do more with mine. My weight is up 5 lbs. did I really eat *that* much in two days? Yikes. I...

lpearlmom

Thanks for input kaalii. I was obviously joking but I think it's natural to want to get back at someone who hurts you. Just being honest but doesn't mean I'm misguided enough to act on it. But yeah probably should get the key back. Anyway.... Stressed to the max. Just a lot of stuff happening at onc...

lpearlmom

Thanks you Merry & Jen! I guess I just feel a little foolish trying to friends with someone who takes advantage of my generosity. I don't want to be friends with her but I'm too old to do something dramatic like unfriend her on Facebook or ask her to mail me my key. On the other hand, being mature i...

lpearlmom

Weird last couple of days & I definitely overdid it this weekend. I hope my weight isn't up too much. We're going to LA next weekend and I want to look decent. It's such a cliché but I get so sensitive around the time of month it's just unbearable sometimes. Friday night my "friend" was suppose to c...

lpearlmom

Thanks Jen! I like your app idea--sounds cool!

lpearlmom

Your mom sounds awesome! I agree with you on the firm line thing. Today I was like why do I keep trying to tweak this perfectly fine system? I mean how awesome is it, that if I stick to this, I most likely won't have to worry about my weight for the rest of my life? I can see that when I stick to No...

lpearlmom

Thank you Jen! It's so true! If I'd known how much of a difference it made, I would have made more of an effort a lot sooner. Today was good. Our kitchen faucet is broken which also means no dishwasher, so I'm having to wash all our dishes in the tiny little sink in our butler pantry. I'm definitely...

lpearlmom

Was another good day. My girls are continuing to get along and I haven't felt this happy in a long time. Despite the continuing chaos that is our life. In fact, I'm beginning to embrace it a little. Maybe that's the key to happiness. Learning to roll with the punches. I ran into a old friend today a...

lpearlmom

Yay awesome! It must be so nice to let go of the point counting. Who wants to spend their life counting everything that goes into their mouth? Not me! Here's a couple of questions you can ask yourself when trying to figure out what you want: Do I want something that is: hot or cold? spicy or bland? ...

lpearlmom

Oh awesome!

Not me, I share it all the good, bad & the ugly but that's mostly because I need a place to let go of it. In irl I play my cards very close to my chest. Besides I figure nobody has to read it if they don't want to.

Anyway glad you had a green day!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you Merry! It should be fun! Will be good to just kind of get out there again. Today was good (except for my eating). My girls have been getting along SO well the last few days. I hope I come back here and read this on those days when I feel like all they do is fight non-stop. It's definitely ...

lpearlmom

Thank you so much Sonya--so nice to get encouragement! I found a place where volunteers teach cooking to foster children. Not sure if they need people right now but it looks pretty cool. I also signed up for a couple cake decorating courses--yay! I told my friend I wasn't going to take the job. She ...

lpearlmom

Glad to see you back. It must make it hard with all the traveling. I think you're on to something about the glycemic index. I'm not really a sweets person but I notice it's so much harder to stop eating super sweet food than more nutritionally dense foods. I like that you're thinking in terms of emp...

lpearlmom

Glad things are going well! You always have such a great attitude about things.

Thanks for the encouragement on my thread!

Linda

lpearlmom

Sorry you're still having some frustrations oolala. I totally relate to the preoccupation with food. I feel like it's just always going to be apart of my life though. I've even looked back at journals I kept when I was 10 years old and there lists of foods I ate that day and plans for trying to eat ...

lpearlmom

Wow quite the snackathon this weekend but you know what? I enjoyed it and I'm sure my weight will go back down by Friday. Sooo all this thinking about a job prospect has stirred up a lot of emotions/ideas/realizations. As tempting as the job sounds, I think I'll pass. It would be so easy to just jum...

lpearlmom

Hey oolala Thank you! I don't think I could really ever stay away for too long. It's just so very helpful to me. I'm not contemplating doing both the pt job and the biz. It'd be one or the other. As far as the kids helping more yep obviously they should be. I used to criticize my friends for not get...

lpearlmom

Lol Sonya, well yeah when you put it like that yeah it doesn't sound so appealing. I just want to make sure I'm turning it down for the right reasons and not because in afraid of losing my freedom and cozy little life.

Still a lot to consider I guess.

lpearlmom

13 or so can be a rough time! They are wanting to be treated more like adults but don't act much like adults...! Thanks Merry! That describes her so perfectly. It's her disrespectful/dismissive tone that pushes my buttons but I've been taking her electronics and social privileges away lately. It's ...

lpearlmom

Aww you're the best--thank you!!!

lpearlmom

Was a good day. My therapy session was very fruitful and I gained some good insights. So so grateful for that woman. Also, my friend told me about a job opening at the preschool she teaches at for a preschool chef. It's a good fit for me because I have both teaching experience as well as a culinary ...

lpearlmom

Great that you're not making excuses but I did find it awfully hard to stick to NoS on our road trip.

Wb though! Things should be much easier once you get into a normal routine again.

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you so much kaalii & knit! I'm trying to chill a bit! Today was good although my eating was all over the place. I just cannot seem to get back to eating my three plates but despite my chaotic eating my weight is very stable. I don't think I better push my luck though. I'm not sure what my deal...

lpearlmom

Okay thanks! No worry if it's a family secret though or something.

lpearlmom

technically I could call today a planned S day because technically it's my son's 15th birthday. He just doesn't happen to be here because he's away at camp but why should I be punished for that????! LOL! No you definitely should still be allowed to celebrate. I mean you gave birth on that day 15 ye...

lpearlmom

Oh boy not a great week overall but hey it could be worse. I don't think I had a single green day. I'm fine till the evening then I just pick and I've been eating dessert & just generally overdoing it. Also, after finally getting through the stress of having to replace our air conditioner, we got a ...

lpearlmom

Mostly I stop by your thread to read your delicious menus but wanted to say I think deciding to call it an S day was a good decision. I always try to be realistic about what I'm actually willing to do rather than beat myself up later.

Linda

Ps do we get the Russian apple pie recipe?

lpearlmom

Wow I love this frank & honest conversation we're all having and makes me realize we moms have more in common than I realize no matter what our working situation is. Jen, your post made me tear up a little. Mostly because I can relate so much. Dh asked me to make a phone call today and I almost crie...

lpearlmom

Feel free to comment anytime Blessing! I couldn't agree with you more. I love what you said knit. I hate the whole mommy wars thing. We all need to support each other and our choices. In the end we're all just trying to do what's best for our children & our families. I also agree it's one of those g...

lpearlmom

Yay I love when those belt notches move--great job !

lpearlmom

Feeling back on track with my eating. Rough day with my daughter. I'd say it's a teen thing but she's always been a handful. I'm grateful though because she doesn't let me get away with anything. I cannot help but to grow with her around. 👍 Break: gym rat smoothie, tea latte Lunch: chickpea ...

lpearlmom

Sounds like you were just thrown off by the weird schedule. You've been doing great.

Just mark it & move on!

Linda

lpearlmom

Congrats on 20 lb loss and sounds like things are moving along. I envy your relationship with your daughter. My teen is just barely a teen and we butt heads constantly. Hearing you haven't quite gotten to a new pant size is very helpful to me. I dropped a few more pounds recently but was wondering w...

lpearlmom

Please don't feel that you are not accomplished! You're right where you should be right now for a reason, and raising children is a job that is just as important and accomplished as any other job. It might not always get the glamour and prestige associated with it, but it is an extremely serious en...

lpearlmom

I've decided to post again. My short bout with IE was interesting but is not a good long term approach. I know/knew this and even talked about how it was just a fantasy recently yet I seem to need to free myself of rules every several months and this seems to be my way of doing it. I think part of t...

lpearlmom

Thank you blessing, oolala & Merry! I really don't know what I'm doing right now! No plan is feeling quite right but I do know grazing and/or permasnacking will never be apart of my plan. My weight seems to be holding steady for now so that's good. Not sure sparks people is working out either. Just ...

lpearlmom

Thanks for all the great comments! Jen: thanks for the kind words! NoS is definitely flexible & adaptable but just feel I'm too far off track of NoS to try to even call it a mod. Blessing: thank you for your non-judgmental response. The world would be a much better place if we could all be this tole...

lpearlmom

Oh I do the popcorn for lunch often when we go to a movie. I cannot realistically resist movie popcorn so I just make it my lunch. The point is, don't stress about the details too much. 3 plates, no snacks is the most important thing to me. Get that down and tweak later if it's not working for ya. I...

lpearlmom

If you want it can be a mod!

lpearlmom

Hi Blessing! Thank you for your sweet words! I'm not religious. I'm an atheist actually which most people find more upsetting than very religious ppl so don't worry about it. I appreciate you sharing what helps for you. Very kind of you. I wrapped my daughter up last night in a blanket and snuggled ...

lpearlmom

You can eat whatever you want as long as it's on one plate!!

lpearlmom

Thanks Blessing! Another rough day on the parenting front. My dh is coming down really hard on my youngest because he feels like she is really lacking in respect & empathy. It's so hard to watch her suffer through this. I feel responsible. She's my baby and I have a serious soft spot for her. maybe ...

lpearlmom

Awesome idea about the yoga! Exercise should be pleasurable above all else. I discovered I really love biking and exercise no longer feels like a chore (although getting up at 5am is still tough for me 😊).

Enjoy!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yeah humidity is tough but when it's 118 it doesn't really matter if it's dry or not. An oven is dry heat too!

lpearlmom

Wb Marianna! It's okay most of us have quit NoS at least once before sticking with it long enough to get results. Definitely ditch the low-carb (blech!) and give NoS another try. Listen to your body, it'll probably tell you what you need. Or just go for balance of carbs, protein and fruits or veggie...

lpearlmom

So hard to get rid of that diet head and no matter how much we lose, it never seems to be enough. So awesome you're learning to curb those tendencies. That's big! You are beautiful & perfect just the way you are! "When we spend our lives wanting, we never get down to the actuality of living." ~Genee...

lpearlmom

Looks like you're doing well. Don't worry about the weightloss. It'll happen in its own time. Your job is to get the habits down, your body will figure out the rest. Those bdays of loved ones that have passed are tough. Your mom sounds like a wonderful person and she's lucky to have been so loved! H...

lpearlmom

When I first did NoS years ago, I quit a few months into it due to the fact that I wasn't losing weight. I came back to NoS about 5 years later and about 30 lbs heavier. At that point I was so distraught over my inability to enjoy life. I thought about food/dieting constantly. I wanted to lose weigh...

lpearlmom

Crazy emotional day. Parenting is some heart wrenching stuff I tell ya. Went to dinner with some friends & it's so much harder to be in tune with hunger & satiety in social situations. I think I did pretty well but definitely ate more than I normally would. That's okay but then I came home and had a...

lpearlmom

Hey you haven't posted on your thread for awhile so I'm assuming that's just because everything is going smoothly with not much to report. Hopefully! Just wanted to thank you again for your helping me feel better about the sahm thing. When I was tucking my girls into bed tonight, I thought about wha...

lpearlmom

Thank you Blessing! I really hope I'm not annoying anyone with all this new stuff I'm trying but hey I'm mostly not eating more than three plates so I still kinda sorta fit in here hopefully. Anyway, I really appreciate your perspective on your sahm experience. It's so good to hear that you feel lik...

lpearlmom

Welcome! Sounds like you're doing really well so far!

Linda

lpearlmom

Glad to see you're still fighting the good fight. Hope tomorrow goes well.

Linda

lpearlmom

Okay your food looks amazing! Another person who likes to cook I presume? Glad things are going so well. Enjoy the ride!

Linda

lpearlmom

Woke at 8:30--zero hunger. Feeling overwhelmed with to-do list, laundry, bills to pay etc. The usual especially during the summer when the girls take up most of my free time. Would have been nice to distract myself with food but wanted to wait for my hunger so just tackled things. Cleaned the kitche...

lpearlmom

Yay sounds like a great day!

Oy I wish my kids were going to overnight camp this year. I'm about to go insane. 😁

Here's to another good day tomorrow!

Linda

lpearlmom

Wow Jen another great post. Totally shows the insanity of our desire to be thin. What is the point of having a "perfect body" if youre miserable right? I mean there has to be a balance. That sweet spot where you feel healthy and fit but still able to enjoy life. I think you're finding it for sure. S...

lpearlmom

Thank you for your support Jen and glad to see you back! I love how your son is learning to be in touch with his hunger. So great to start early on that. So far so good but it's all just a big experiment isn't it? Rode bike 12 miles at 5am and was very hungry afterwards but went back to sleep till 1...

lpearlmom

I think it's fine if someone wants to do IF and I also think it's fine if someone would rather not. I personally do not find fasting enjoyable and don't care if it would help me to live to 100. I'm all about quality over quantity in those situations. I do not care if I'll live a few more years if th...

lpearlmom

Love your description of your vacation. Sounds so lovely & carefree! So important to have those times of rejuvenatation.

Your S days sound good too. Pie--yum!!

Enjoy all of it!

Linda

lpearlmom

Blessing: thank you so much for the support & understanding. I really appreciate it. Kaalii: thank you SO much for the amazing compliments. You really made my day! 😊 I also appreciate your encouragement and non-judgmental comments. Also, love the saying about self-acceptance. Something I rea...

lpearlmom

Oh fun!!!

lpearlmom

Lol, Blessing, mall flee! Yep that was me! Ugh, I hesitate to write this but I just don't know if I can do NoS anymore. Yesterday at about 4 o'clock I was hungry and wanted a nectarine. I thought this is stupid, I'm a grown woman and if I want a darn nectarine I should be able to have one. I realize...

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