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lpearlmom

Thanks Jen! It seems like it could be a good solution. Time will tell. :) Today was good eating wise. When I gave myself permission to make my meals bigger last week, they were initially a bit full. Today I'm wanting less but not so little that I'm driven to eat between meals. When I was prepping di...

lpearlmom

Hi Liz Sorry about yesterday. S days will get better but for some of us it can take quite long. It took me over a year! 😊 For a long time I needed them in order to keep my N days green. It's also good to see the sharp contrast between N & S days. It becomes very clear that having boundaries ...

lpearlmom

Glad your finger is feeling bit better! I've been rethinking S days too. I'll be curious to see what you come up with.

Linda

lpearlmom

You are doing fantastically bizzy! Great job on not snacking Friday night and your weight loss is very encouraging! Very cool about your kids. So nice when all our hard parenting works pays off. I did rowing in college. It's such a great sport. He must be pretty good to be rowing for the navy! I hop...

lpearlmom

Hey Liz! Oh my daughter wants to go there so badly!! We may try to get in a visit this summer. She's obsessed! :-) Yes I'm counting my weeks starting Monday and am really just trying to take them when special occasions arise--not just cause I can. That seems like what a "normal" eater would do I thi...

lpearlmom

Awesome Jen! My girls are the same. They hate bday cake and always turn it down at parties. I think it's a quality issue. More cake snobs!:) Isn't it fantastic that we've broken the cycle of women hating their bodies, and eating in a disordered way? My youngest daughter told me the other day that sh...

lpearlmom

I'm really glad you didn't go the punishing route. It's all about self-care. If your child ate too much and had a tummy ache, you wouldn't make him fast the next day. You'd probably just remind him next time he was about to over do it that last time it didn't feel good to him. So good for treating y...

lpearlmom

Cedar, you are really inspiring and give me hope that I can eat in a satisfying way AND be satisfied with my weight. This morning I was riding my bike and noticed that my goals were changing their focus from weight loss to having a healthy relationship with food and as well as my fitness goal of rid...

lpearlmom

Thanks Liz! Yes I need to keep reminding myself that too. Fun day but lots of food. My daughter didn't want a bday party this year so we surprised her with a special day of fun starting w an early morning trip to a special donut shop where you can watch your donuts being made to order. Fun and def S...

lpearlmom

It's okay. It happens! Looks like the perfect storm for a slip up to me! Now when you're faced with that situation again you'll know how to better handle it. Usually when I have a major red day, the contrast between how I feel then compared to a green day is strong enough to keep me from wanting to ...

lpearlmom

Oh no I hope you're feeling better cedar.

Well done on keeping green. Hope you had a nice night out and that your S days are satisfying!

Linda

lpearlmom

lbb (Liz) wrote:I did feel binge urges while putting kids to bed but drank lots of liquids to avoid it

Well done Liz!

I think the filling breakfast is a smart way to go.

Have a great weekend. You're doing great!

Linda

lpearlmom

I love how carefully you've thought out your S days Jen! Maybe mine would have calm down a lot sooner if I'd done the same. I hope you find some S worthy treats this weekend. We're waking up early and taking my daughter to a special donut shop (The Fractured Prune) for her bday. I'm very excited as ...

lpearlmom

Aw such a lovely post cedar--thanks! I started dieting when I was 10 so I relate to what you're saying. It's hard to feed ourselves well when we started depriving ourselves at such a young age. Growing up everyone in our house was always on a diet and things were just too chaotic for regular meals. ...

lpearlmom

Thank you Liz! I agree that adding restrictions to NoS is a bad idea. If someone can't lose weight on vanilla nos then it might be because they don't actually need to lose weight. Just a thought. Thanks so much Jen! 😊 Today was good & effortlessly green. Making my meals more substantial real...

lpearlmom

I love trader joes! So glad you're feeling good!

lpearlmom

Yay you're doing great! So awesome that you have that great exercise habit. I'm working on that! I don't think your meals look too big. As you saw from my post, I'm making mine a little bigger. So much more satisfying and much easier to have a green day, and yep with all that great exercise, you'll ...

lpearlmom

I agree--so glad you found your way here. You have such a lovely way with words and tremendous insight.

Keep up the great work!

Linda 😎

lpearlmom

Oh no sorry--hope you're okay now! I beefed it on my bike recently and it was quite a jolt. Funny how when we're younger falling down is par for the course. I remember having constant scraped knees & stubbing my toe was a daily event. I think you got off pretty easy w an extra cup of coffee & a mug ...

lpearlmom

Thanks Liz and cedar!! Liz: Yes hubby didn't get home till 2:30 am the next day. Last night he got home at a decent hour but was fielding calls a all night/morning. I'm sure you can relate! Anyway tomorrow he'll be off call so will have him back for a bit. Went to the GI today and have to get an upp...

lpearlmom

Wow awesome job Liz!! It does feel so much better to wake up after a normal day of eating doesn't it?

Totally understand what you're saying. Taking it day to day does take the pressure off!

Hope today goes well.

Linda

lpearlmom

Wow thanks for sharing that site cedar. Powerful stuff and giving me lots to think about.

lpearlmom

Glad my rambling helped a bit! ;). Could be that your perfectionist tendency make you want to look at this as an all or nothing. It's not. I mean the goal is to get a green day but even on my red days I'm still doin a million times better than I was when my eating was one big chaotic mess! Big pictu...

lpearlmom

Welcome buns (love the name

). 7 hrs is a long time to wait. It'll get easier though. Make sure you're eating enough at mealtimes. You can always reduce your portions later but for now you kind of just have to do whatever it takes to get that habit down.

Best of luck!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you Liz!! Thank you cedar! Banana bread is SO good. My reflux is better today but I'm off to see the specialist Thursday. I'm not really looking forward to the barrage of tests I'll be facing but it's necessary I know. Thanks for asking! Another red day. I'm blaming it on pms & fatigue. Dh did...

lpearlmom

Sounds like a great day! Exercise that's fun and/or just part of our daily activities is the way to do it. I love your use of the word "nourishing". Whenever I say "healthy eating" I still think as just another way of saying dieting. Nourishing sounds like food that's good for the body and the soul....

lpearlmom

Okay no worries!

lpearlmom

Ugh! So hard on those nights it's all up to you. Totally normal to turn to food for comfort. Clearly not working for you though. Maybe a new ritual. Cup of tea and a bath once kids are in bed or some other well-deserved reward/coping strategy? I think the wth effect is part of the old diet mentality...

lpearlmom

Have no faith in those pill-pushers whatsoever. Sorry you've had some bad experiences but trust me they're not all bad. Most doctors care very much about their patients. My husband is very conscientious about prescribing medicine . He only does what's absolutely necessary and when the pros outweigh...

lpearlmom

That's big stuff Lori! That's what it comes down to isn't it? Feeling good in our skin. Hope you have a great time!

lpearlmom

The love of their electronics is such a great bargaining tool LOL!! Yep! If I knew how well that worked, I'd have bought them sooner! ;) Red day :oops: but not too bad. Will restart challenge tomorrow. Break: bite of toast w cream cheese (w meds) oatmeal, fruit, skinny chai Lunch: sw chicken salad,...

lpearlmom

So sorry you're not feeling well. So hard dealing with chronic health issues. Good for you sticking with NoS even when you weren't feeling well.

I hope you feel better soon!

Linda

lpearlmom

Looks like a great S day and way to notice you weren't actually enjoying the brownies. What's the point of continuing if it's not pleasurable right? We've been together since undergrad too. Had kids on the late side though. My husband has always worked for a hospital but we have friends doing the pr...

lpearlmom

I understand the lure of the juice fast esp when I'm feeling out of control with my eating. I tried one a 3 day one a few months back and made it about a half a day. 😊 Rawcookie did one recently though (I think or maybe just a cleanse) but she really enjoyed it! So no we won't think you're c...

lpearlmom

Jen--thank you for stopping by my thread. It really helps to hear from someone else dealing with some of the same stuff. Your words made me tear up a little. You give me hope that our relationship can stay in tact. Also, I know what you mean about Sunday's. I noticed s general grumpiness around here...

lpearlmom

Thank you guys so much for the supportive words!! OYes cedar, stupid reflux acting up again. Back to the doctor maybe. After a cooling off period, I ended up taking her electronics away and telling her she could have them back when she was ready to talk to me in a mature way. Well that seemed to do ...

lpearlmom

Horrible day...so sick and fighting with my daughter and just all kinds of social stress I just don't want to deal with right now.

I do not think I'm ready to have a teenager.

Tomorrow will be better right?

lpearlmom

Wow that's interesting & definitely not the norm (around here). I think it'd make me a little self-conscious about eating normal amounts of food around them or are you over it by now? Doesn't like a purposeful effort to stay thin so maybe just not too interested in food? Hard for me to relate I gues...

lpearlmom

Wow that's awesome about the bike ride. I've kind of put it out there that I want to do a century ride at some point. There's one in November from Tucson to Phoenix. I'm thinking not this November though but the following one. That's how out of shape I am. ;) My husband is a general surgeon with a l...

lpearlmom

Happy Birthday!! Good job too!

Linda

lpearlmom

I think, though, that at least two more things helped: *The daily check-in - made for a conversation with myself and - when lucky, with others - that was somehow different from the conversation with self in private. I don't know how, I only know it felt good, and necessary. *Simply lying down when ...

lpearlmom

Wb Liz! I responded to you on the general discussion board but glad to see you on the check-in! I post almost daily but do what works for you. Is your husband a doctor? What kind of race are you training for? I'm just getting into biking and would like to do an event at some point. Anyway best of lu...

lpearlmom

Wb Liz! I went through pre-med, medical school, residency & fellowship with my husband. Boy is that a tough road. So glad to be through it as I'm sure you are too.

NoS is the path to sanity. Glad you found your way back.

Gl!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thanks jack 😀 It's always hard to get motivated to do housework isn't it? You wouldn't believe the crazy stuff I do to get myself going in this area. One thing that works well is to set a timer for the stuff I'm really trying to avoid. Sometimes only 5 mins sounds bearable so I'll start with...

lpearlmom

Don't feel embarrassed! We've all been there and even after a few years of doing this I still have over the top S days. In fact they're just starting to look better. I found this old S day from my 2013 thread: "Of course my S days are still reminiscence of my old way of eating... Today I ate quite a...

lpearlmom

Oh man now you have me craving Indian food! I'm jealous. We have decent Indian food but nothing amazing. We do have a pretty great Ethiopian food place though. Hmmm I may need to head there this weekend. Anyway have a great time at your festival and I'm sure you'll get onto a good groove soon as you...

lpearlmom

Great question! You definitely have to do what works for you. Many people just keep to the spirit of NoS which I think mostly means not to graze all day long. Defined meals are what's important. Little bites here and there are open to interpretation. In the beginning I was crazy strict. I'd spit som...

lpearlmom

Some days are harder than others but you stuck it out so good job!

Man that cake sounds good. I'm off to search for a recipe. 😉

lpearlmom

Thanks so much cookie! Thanks cedar! I'm not totally sure what my triggers are but alcohol definitely seems to be one. Oh and stress. Other possible contenders--garlic, spicy food, hot drinks, tomatoes, coffee, fatty foods... Although you're right sometimes it's fine, sometimes not so hard to tell. ...

lpearlmom

Terrific job cedar! I'm so glad it's feeling right to only eat sweets on S day. The power of habit is really kicking in. So much better than white knuckling it!

Linda

lpearlmom

Glad you're posting. It's really helped me with my journey.

Welcome & gl!

Linda

lpearlmom

Day 1 ( of 30 day challenge)--green! :) Good day! Felt real joy for the first time in awhile. Not that I've been unhappy but I think some remaining remnants of my old depression are finally falling away. Just feeling able to focus on things better. Not so much fuzzy brain feeling I guess. As a resul...

lpearlmom

Oh dear--I'm so sorry to hear that! Yes sleep and eat when you can. NoS will be here when you can come up for air again.

Hope you get through this quickly!

*hugs* linda

lpearlmom

Welcome back Titania! I had a similar experience. Originally I came to NoS desperate to lose weight. When that didn't happen fast enough, I left only to gain more weight. A few years later I just had had it with the constant obsessing and feeling out of control constantly. When I came back (also cha...

lpearlmom

jackn wrote:
I do feel the place food takes up in my life suggests too little joy elsewhere...
..

Okay that I understand. I bet now that food is becoming normalized for you, you will find other sources of joy in your life. Just give it time. It's a process.

lpearlmom

As I was having lunch, noticed at one point I contemplated dinner and was deciding what I'd have. Is there a better definiton of gluttony? Or am I needlessly beating myself up? I vote for "needlessly beating yourself up". In our family we often quote my husbands grandfather who often said "the best...

lpearlmom

I figured you were familiar with the study oolala. I wonder if during WWII anyone could have anticipated television shows highlighing getting people who are 100+lbs. overweight to basically put themselves in concentration camps to lose weight. Creepy when you put it like this but you're right of cou...

lpearlmom

Thank you cookie & oolala!! 😊 Oh yes I agree with you oolala. I don't know if you're familiar with the Minnesota Starvation Experiment, http://www.apa.org/monitor/2013/10/hunger.aspx , but it's very interesting. The men in the experiment became obsessed with food, cooking and recipe collecti...

lpearlmom

Oh no I'm so sorry! First off be kind to yourself! Things to try: 1--a big Starbucks drink (sometimes as long as I have something I'm ok and I drink it slooooow to make it last) 2--chew gum 3--brush your teeth 4--take a few deep breaths and try to figure how what you really need. Hang in there. Just...

lpearlmom

Oh boy I didn't realize you were still there with your mom. She's lucky to have such a caring daughter. Hope you get it sorted out soon.

lpearlmom

Iron: Oh boy I remember the days of 4am wake up times! 😁 My kids are 11 & 13 so definitely old enough to make breakfast for themselves. Going to bed on time will be a challenge but I'll see what I can do. If not I can always go to the rec center and use their machines but not as much fun as ...

lpearlmom

Happy Mothers Day!! 🌸🌸

I can tell by the way you talk about your kids and all the adorable, smart things iron baby says, that you are a wonderful, loving mum. I hope you had a great day--you deserve it!

lpearlmom

Sleep: 3.5 hours. So-so rested. At the end of the morning workout, felt gratitude: to the forum, and for life. I would be a wreck with so little sleep! Those moments of gratitude are so important, aren't they? I need to focus more on all I have and less on what I don't. Thanks for the reminder. Tom...

lpearlmom

Thank you for the bday wishes! Iron: I think getting up early will be key and since girls will be home for summer soon, I can probably just go and get back before they even wake. I'll try! Jack: it's so true, home cooked food is so much better than most of what I get when I eat out so its easy to be...

lpearlmom

I think it's great to just write it down and move forward. We all have those rough patches but eventually get back on course and the weight will get back on track too. Yep, that simple.

Enjoy your weekend because that's part of doing NoS too!

Linda 😍

lpearlmom

Thank you Sonya! So sweet of you to say. 💕💕 Jack: yes, I love my crock-pot. I found a way to simplify my meals and still keep them healthy. One of my favorite food bloggers/cookbook writers, SkinnyTaste, posts her weekly menu every Sunday. She also cooks for four people so I think I'...

lpearlmom

Love the cake story and all the insights that go with it. I really enjoy reading your writing in general. So glad you found our little community here.

Oh how I wish I could spend a day lounging in bed. Much better than eating all day--great job!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hi jack! Yeah, no coffee doesn't seem so bad as long as I can keep my tea. I'm lucky to have a good friend for sure. I like the idea of doing a very small amount of exercise and going from there. I love biking and have this fantasy of doing a 100 mile ride not this year but the next. I should probab...

lpearlmom

Yesterday I felt awful all day but am finally starting to feel better. Pretty sure it's stress that caused my reflux to act up this time. I really need to figure how to handle stress better. I know what I need to do mainly make time for exercise/yoga/meditation etc but I just can't seem to figure ho...

lpearlmom

Yep, the saying around here is "mark it and move on". Take what insights you can from it but no need to dwell. The stark contrast from a normal nos day to those days when I stray are usually enough to get me back on track. It just feels so much better to eat in a balanced way. Have a great week and ...

lpearlmom

automatedeating wrote:
Work sucked today.

Sorry! Hope tomorrow is better!

lpearlmom

Hi jack-thanks for stopping by! I thought the no coffee would be harder for me as the daily coffee ritual is a huge part of my day. Luckily I've seamlessly traded coffee for chai and green tea and I really don't miss it yet. The alcohol will be harder for me. It's fine at home but when we go out I r...

lpearlmom

Looks like you're continuing to do well with great insight to the one or two little blips you've had. It does seem easier to put on the brakes with NoS doesn't it? I think it's because there's a a structure in place for everything and mess ups are expected and considered normal not something forbidd...

lpearlmom

Oh I miss those iron baby quotes! Such a neat kid you got there. Sticky toffee pudding--something else I need to google!

Have a great week!

lpearlmom

Thanks Jack! You're right for sure. I'm just not going to worry about it. I guess the burn out comes from the feeling that as great as NoS is, it's still someone else's plan. I need to feel like I own it and it's customized to me to continue on enthusiastically. This is of course after a couple year...

lpearlmom

Thanks you guys! I know I'm just being silly but do realize I f this bothers me, it's clear I should try to focus on irl a bit more *sigh* .

Okay off to attempt just that. Will update when I have something new & intersting to post.

Thanks again for support.

Linda

lpearlmom

Thanks iron! The next couple of months are going to be crazy. Next month is my birthday, my girls and our dogs. Oh and of course there's Mother's Day. In June we're taking 3 weeks off to drive to Alaska. To be honest I'm feeling a little burnt out on NoS. And I'm probably being a little paranoid but...

lpearlmom

Yay 10 years congrats! And you're still friends with your bridal party--impressive!

lpearlmom

Sorry about the chest infection. I hope this week goes well for you!

lpearlmom

Happy belated birthday! Sorry about the loud restaurant. What a bummer. :/ Thai food is my favorite. I hope you can find a new place.

Linda

lpearlmom

My diet brain comes and goes but I think you're doing pretty great overall!

lpearlmom

It's hard to let go of wanting to be thinner but it is possible to make it less important to you. It used to be the thing I wanted most. Now it's probably 20th or so on the list. Just comes with age and having kids etc. I think but it'll happen.

How's the wedding plans going?

lpearlmom

Don't worry about the month. Just take it day by day. Maybe it's just me but I find the monthly challenges discouraging. Like 1 red messes everything up so what's the point. I don't know, just doesn't work from me but maybe I'm just a perfectionist.

lpearlmom

Sorry! The overeating could be from being so unsatisfied due to the no smell factor.

Hope you feel better soon!

Linda

lpearlmom

I know it's crazy right auto? I'm still doing well with them *fingers crossed*. I even stopped taking my nexium, tums etc. I've read there's usually wicked rebound after stopping reflux meds so I was at least expecting some symptoms from that, but nothing yet. I'm cautiously optimistic. The next few...

lpearlmom

I've never been able to stick with the undistracted eating. I'm horrible at it. I need at least a book in hand when I'm eating alone.

So glad things are continuing to go well!

Linda

lpearlmom

Oh man, you're so creative. Great job on the present!

You're new exercise plan sounds much more doable & let's face it, that's the only kind we're actually going to do, right?

lpearlmom

Break: egg & low carb toast
Lunch: salad w avocado & chicken, skinny mocha
Dinner: veggie burger, rice

Exercise: 15 ms walking dogs

lpearlmom

My biggest eating trigger is right after people leave my house after some sort of gathering. It's fun to be with friends but it's still a bit of work to have to be "on" the whole time and I tend to grab food as a way to release the tension from that. Also, I'm always processing (analyzing) conversat...

lpearlmom

I'm so sorry! I can't even imagine how hard this must be for you. I hope things turn around for you and your family soon.

lpearlmom

Welcome! Nos is amazing. Just remember it's a slow process for most. Focus on habits and getting chaotic eating under control first. The rest will follow.

Best of luck and let us know how it goes tomorrow!

Linda

lpearlmom

Sounds like a great weekend. Glad it's going well. I had to look up pavane cocktails & now I'm curious as to what it taste like. Maybe I'll make it to that side of the world one day!

lpearlmom

Oh dear I think I cooked my way through the day! Fun but exhausting and waaaaay to many dishes to wash for my liking. Leftovers tomorrow for sure! Today I made: waffles, brown sugar, chocolate syrup, minestrone soup, chicken congee & whipped cream. Wow doesn't look like much on paper but felt like a...

lpearlmom

Yes! I have talked about this before but for me it was huge. When I started nos my self-esteem was at a low point. Once I started sticking to my 3 meals, I immediately began to feel better. I learned I could go for hours without eating which meant I wasn't ruled by food anymore. I could clearly see ...

lpearlmom

Oh I was confused too! Good job then! Hey can't fail on an S day so seems fine to me!

Linda

lpearlmom

Oh well I've had more of my share of those kind of S days. Heck I had popcorn for lunch yesterday and it wasn't even an S day. I'm betting tomorrow will be calmer but if not Monday is right around the corner!

lpearlmom

Thank you Queenie! I've read to keep upping your dosage by one till you get a warm feeling when you eat. Then you're suppose to back off by one to get your correct dosage. I'm at 4 so far and no warning feeling but boy am I feeling better. Not sure if it's a coincidence but I'm going to continue wit...

lpearlmom

jackn wrote:. And, bottomline, is it sustainable, becaue I'm happy with it and I can do it.

That's the key right there isn't it?

I would have gone for the 3rd meal too. Something so comforting about regular meals. I'm convinced it's the cure for disordered eating.

Keep up the good work!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay!! Amazing job! And happy birthday !!! 🎉🎂🎁 You're such an inspiration! I've been thinking about making fitness goals instead of weightloss goals. Seems like a much healthier attitude. You've really helped me see that. I close my eyes at the doctors. I don't want to know ei...

lpearlmom

I hear ya on the hair. I actually joke that going to my hair stylist is like therapy. She is always gushing with compliments and so interested in my life. Also she's very talented and leaving there with my hair all beautiful is a huge boost to my confidence. Crazy schedule for you tomorrow! I'm so h...

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