Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

Really appreciate all the great feedback. It's interesting to hear everyone's perspectives. I'd like to move on before anything gets too heated though. I only brought it up because it was bringing up all these other issues for me & I tend to post about personal issues I'm working on. Since you speci...

lpearlmom

Breakfast: 2 waffles w pb & jam, tea Lunch: 1/4 break sandwich, veggie burger, 2 pieces sushi (don't ask!) Nf mocha Dinner: sub sandwich, chips, pickle Planned fail: minuscule bowl of ice cream (my olive bowl)--special ice cream was brought into the house. Exercise: 50 mins--walk, row, weights (yay!...

lpearlmom

Wow sounds like a lot of hard work. Teachers are so terribly underpaid yet they are some of the hardest working people I know.

Smart of you to not worry about your eating to much right now. You'll get back on track once you get back to a normal routine I'm sure.

Linda

lpearlmom

Glad to see you still here & working hard to find just the right balance for you.

Hang in there!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hey auto so good to see you keep on keeping on! Noticed you've been quieter lately & hoping it's due to your busy schedule rather than feeling burnt out or discouraged. Been there for sure though! Speaking of books, I noticed amazon has unlimited kindle for $9.99/mos. not sure if it's cost efficient...

lpearlmom

Yay--good job pushing through!

lpearlmom

Ohh wasn't that a great movie? I really enjoyed it too! Funny I didn't realize there was different classes on the trains. Clearly I couldn't afford it when I was in London!

lpearlmom

Isn't it crazy how much dieting messes with us?! We're wired to experience joy from food for survival reasons, and it really sucks when that goes haywire. Glad you're finding your way back to a good place though. That's real progress!

Linda

lpearlmom

So sorry to hear about your pain. I like that your not overly focused on the rules but focusing on healthy, tasty food. Taking care of yourself is key and however that ends up looking is just fine!

Your food sounds delicious! Hope you're feeling feeling a bit better soon.

Linda

lpearlmom

Choc cake yum!

Just wanted to say thanks for stopping by my thread. I really enjoyed your perspective. It helps so much just knowing I'm not alone.

Btw, how are liking the soloflex workout?

Linda

lpearlmom

Wow thank you guys so much for all the amazing feedback. I should clarify that I'm not trying to eliminate all things Xmas by any means. This particular school just seems to have an excessive amount of Xmas activities and was just hoping for a little more balanced approach. They have candy cane lane...

lpearlmom

Thank you Tessy for the generous interpretation. :D I guess standing up for things is just in my blood. My parents were activists in the 60s. My mom even marched with Martin Luther king in Alabama when she was 6 mos pregnant w my sister. Pretty cool! I think my deal is I just need to be a little mor...

lpearlmom

It sounds like you're on the right track and getting to a place of empowerment. I think you're smart to try everything else possible before doing the strong med option. I notice how my DH won't take even an Advil unless he's really bad off. I figure that's because he understands the downside of too ...

lpearlmom

Yay eschano! Seems like the sanest way to approach all this. Break: cereal, toast w pb, tea Lunch: Asian chicken salad, toast, yogurt Nf mocha Dinner: bacon grilled cheese ( dhs speciality!), olives, applesauce, chips Worthy fail: 1 snicker doodle that my girls made all by theirselves. They were so ...

lpearlmom

Break: granola w milk & fruit, scrambled eggs
Lunch: guacamole & chips, iced tea
Dinner: hamburger, tater tots, iced tea
Extras: 2 taffy, 1 piece of chocolate

Overdid it a bit today but not too much.

lpearlmom

Thank you Tessy. You're too kind! I'm so glad to see you sticking it out. I'd be sad to see you go so I hope you stick around no matter what path you decide to take. I know it's true worth it! Just like there's no such thing as a perfect marriage the lasting ones tend to be "good enough". Not very r...

lpearlmom

So I feel like I've come full circle with my approach to NoS. Originally I came to NoS for sanity and that's exactly what I got. Freedom from obsessing about food & weight. It's only when I started to focus on my weight that things seem to go awry. So I'm back to focusing on habits. I'm glad I know ...

lpearlmom

Great job stopping the binge in its track. That's a really powerful feeling I bet! Just wanted to say I know how tough it is to have dieted your way up to such a high weight. I used to be a good 70-80 lbs less and I thought I was so fat then. I was absolutely obsessed with losing weight. I so wish I...

lpearlmom

Ooooh sounds fail worthy to me but I understand your feeling discouraged since it wasn't a planned thing.

lpearlmom

Thank you Tessy! Wrote a to-do list & it's not as large as I imagined. Today was more relaxed although stressful in other ways. My neighbor called me about a letter I wrote to the school and things got pretty heated. Funnily My daughter came home and told me my neighbors daughter is being really pos...

lpearlmom

ironchef wrote:I wonder if I'll eventually get there by passively floating along this No S road, or if I'll need to take some kind of active steps?

Yep I think that's something most of us here can relate to. I know I do!

lpearlmom

I love that you're realizing the importance of the pleasure factor in your quest to make NoS work for you. I know what you mean about pushing those boundaries. I'm really trying to follow the rules to the letter this time which means less sugary beverages and being less of an idiot on the weekends. ...

lpearlmom

Yeah I know it's tempting to start off with smaller meals but I think everyone has to start out with piled plates. Unfortunately, I don't think it's a step that can be skipped. Once you have the habit in place, you can tweak it as much as you feel comfortable with. As far as your doctor is concerned...

lpearlmom

Hi worth it! Thanks for stopping by. Yeah ypu have a couple years to decide how you want to handle the issue with your little one. So complicated because I want to make sure they understand the emotional side of it too. Anyway, excited that you're enjoying your interior design book. I find all thing...

lpearlmom

You're doing awesome!!!

lpearlmom

Hey whatever you need to get through! Make sure you have something yummy to look forward to. It really helps me to know I have something delicious just a couple hours away & in the meantime I have something soothing to drink. As long as I can have *something* I'm good.

Linda

lpearlmom

Remember to pile your plates & have milky drinks in between. Habit first and then you can build from that. Good luck! Also it's great you pinpointed that you need comfort. Now come up w a list of alternative ways to comfort yourself if you can.

gl!

lpearlmom

Thank you auto. You made me smile and I guess I'm not as lazy as I think I am. If you knew my sister though you'd understand. She's just extremely accomplished. I'm glad you get it iron. When you're home there's always a never ending list to do! Also thanks I'm really to get in shape again. Even if ...

lpearlmom

Wb worth it. Sounds like we were both taking time off for the same reasons. It really sucks that there's not a sane answer for this weight dilemma. I mean NoS is sane but as we both know, no guarantee of weight loss. This time around I'm going to try adding more consistent exercising & try to watch ...

lpearlmom

Thank you aspencer! I really needed to hear that. Makes a lot of sense. Weigh: 204.7 Break: cereal, fruit, toast, tea Nf mocha Lunch: sushi, yogurt, fruit Dinner: chicken, rice, hummus, veggies, crackers, iced tea Exercise: 40 mins walked, swam, weights So exhausted. You'd think staying home would m...

lpearlmom

*hugs*hugs*hugs* keep posting even though you're struggling because writing about may help you to finally unravel the problem.

lpearlmom

Yeah that's tough skeleton. Maybe it's helpful to just get right back to it with the next meal instead of saying I'll start back tomorrow which is what I used to do. Weigh: 206.4 (ugh) Break: granola w milk & fruit, 1/2 bagel w cream cheese; tea w milk Lunch: grilled chicken & veggies, hummus, chips...

lpearlmom

Oh gosh so sorry about the lack of education options in your area. I can't remember what part of the country you live in but I'll definitely be a little more appreciative for what we have available. Homeschooling does seem like a great option. I agree paying your babysitters less probably isn't a go...

lpearlmom

Yep iron avoiding the wth element is definitely key! Tessy so happy to see you around. Let's just agree to keep struggling here together. Ugh so I basically snacked right through my day today. I started the day off with granola & milk and ended it with cookies and milk. There was plenty in between i...

lpearlmom

It's crazy how much child care is. My sister worked as a lawyer for a non-profit and all her paycheck went to the nanny. When her 4th child came along she quit till all her kids were in school full-time.

lpearlmom

Your S days were insanely tame compared to mine! It always helps me to feel calm about my eating when I write it all down. Often it feels like more than it was or at the very least it's nice to see it all contained in one place & to se there really was a beginning & an end to it. Sorry about the col...

lpearlmom

Well I think that's another good strategy too! Better than running off and trying to reinvent the wheel everytime you get discouraged like I do. Clearly I need to work in my all or nothing attitude.

lpearlmom

Hehe auto I meant to say that you were the exception but really if you're having a few more fails I think it's okay. For me I'm just wondering if the effort of having to be so perfect is leading to faster burn out but you've been really good about powering through the rough times.

lpearlmom

Hey skeleton Sounds like a welcome back is in order for you too! Boy can I relate to the even thinking about traditional dieting leading to binging. When I was young, I could stick to diets for a few weeks at a time but as I got older the length got shorter & shorter. It got down to a couple days to...

lpearlmom

Hey skeleton ! So happy you dropped by my thread. Yes I'm back. It seems I have to freak out every couple of months because the tediousness of being a rule-follower starts to feel unbearable at some point. I think my strict adherence may be problematic. When I read threads of other long timers, they...

lpearlmom

Ooooh that's funny about the zucchini. I did not know that. I'm very garden challenged so it's all amazing to me. Maybe some day I'll try my hand at it although god knows what will grow in this az heat.

I'm going to try my hand at scones. Thx for idea!

lpearlmom

Hi heather It's funny how it's hard to let go of certain eating regimes esp if we had some success no matter how limited or brief. I did the dr ornish plan (v low fat) for a few years and I still find myself wanting to go back to that way of eating even though I didn't lose a whole lot of weight ove...

lpearlmom

I love tater tots. I'll have to try it! My kids will get a kick out of it!

lpearlmom

Thanks auto & heather! Auto: I'm really starting to worry about my health & need to get in shape again! . The principal was kind enough to give me a call on Friday & explain the situation in detail. Apparently our school did the best in the district on our tests last year. This is great but also mea...

lpearlmom

Hey I can't even keep a houseplant alive!

Love zucchini bread. I've never made scones. Are they difficult?

lpearlmom

Weigh: 204.7 Pre-workout: banana Break: cereal w fruit, a potato pancake Lunch: chicken avocado burrito Nf mocha Dinner: chicken taco, rice & beans, chicken leg, couple pieces sushi, iced tea (weird combo I know!) Made homemade granola tonight & had a couple nibbles. I'm realizing not being so stric...

lpearlmom

Sounds like a good day all & all. Great job not snacking after dinner. I hate going to bed too full.

Have a great weekend!

Linda

lpearlmom

I agree! I'm sure we'd have fun in the kitchen together.

Hope your week is going okay!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hi Tessy!

Hope you're week went okay.

Linda

lpearlmom

Totally agree with you on all those points iron. My oldest daughters bf doesn't know about the birds & the bees yet and she keeps begging Zoe to tell her. Luckily Zoe's smart enough to tell her she needs to ask her mom about it instead. Today was fine eating wise. I guess I'm doing nos again because...

lpearlmom

Not bad at all & at least it was for something worthwhile.

lpearlmom

Okay I gotta ask... What the heck is a tater tot casserole?

lpearlmom

Thank you so much for your response auto! I think you're right about the slow weight loss. I wish I had weighed myself in the beg so I could stay a lil more motivated along the way. Oh well lesson learned. Time to re-group. I think it's great you've been so open with your boys. When I first had my g...

lpearlmom

Quick update: weighed 206.4 today. Not good but made me realize that nos may have been working better for me than I previously thought. Since I've only been weighing for a few mos, it's quite possible my starting weight was much higher than I thought when I first started. So back to the drawing boar...

lpearlmom

Ooh now I want to try those. Feel better fast!

lpearlmom

Thank you eschano! Your support means a lot to me and I appreciate the compliment. You really lifted my spirits! Thank you iron for the support & the sweet compliment about my photos. Your comment about mothering totally cracked me up. I guess I just have to remind myself that me and this other woma...

lpearlmom

Thanks so much iron, heather, dandelion & skeleton for the well wishes. All is well. The last couple of days have been hectic as the girls go back to school tomorrow and we've been running around getting everything ready for them. I told myself to just forget about any & all rules for awhile and it ...

lpearlmom

Yay--sounds like we're on the same page at the moment. My only rule is "there are no rules". I haven't felt quite ready to post about it yet on my thread but will soon.

Glad things are going well. You're food sounds delish as usual.

Linda

lpearlmom

Hey auto Just checking in on people today & wanted to know if you'd considered your not walking the cause of your couple pound weight increase? 90 mins is a lot of exercise low intensity or not. I predict you'll lose what you've gained & continue to lose once school is back is back in full swing. Ju...

lpearlmom

Thank you guys & sorry for being so dramatic. Just need to let things percolate for a bit.

No worries iron. I know you meant well. Besides I shouldn't post stuff if I'm not ready for feedback on it. Clearly I'm not!

Eschano it's not enough unfortunately.

I'll Check back soon!

Linda

lpearlmom

Erasing this post as I realize I'm not up for having it picked apart. Was more just wanting to state what was going on with me at the moment.

Anyway taking a breather but will return when have things figured out. Thx for everyone that's been so supportive.

Linda

lpearlmom

Thanks heather! I hope so! I'm feeling super discouraged. A whole year of skipping desserts, passing up on afternoon snack with my girls, saying no to samples at Costco. For what? And will I ever lose weight? It's one thing when you're close to your goal weight but quite another when you've got at l...

lpearlmom

Happy 2 yrs! Don't you love how you just jump right back in when you hit these little bumps? Glad your cold is getting better.

lpearlmom

Thanks for the encouragement iron & eschano. All I can do is try but there's no guarantee that my body will cooperate. Today was good. Break: vegan muffin, nf yogurt, nectarine, sugar free mocha Lunch: veg burrito, baked chips, nf dip Dinner: beef stroganoff over noodles w peas, toast, glass of wine...

lpearlmom

204.2 really?! :( Thank you Tessy! I guess we both need encouragement at the moment. I switched to smaller plates today. Not so bad! Break: oatmeal w fruit, toast w jam, Iced sugar-free mocha Lunch: bean taco, nf yogurt, nectarine Dinner: miso glazed cod, sesame brown rice w cabbage, cherries Lotsa ...

lpearlmom

Big *hugs* heather. Sounds so incredibly tough. Glad you are back & sounds like things are a little better.

lpearlmom

Beautifully put oolala. Powerful stuff.

lpearlmom

Ooooh I like the idea of just pushing your breaking point a little bit further each day even if it's only by one minute. I think it's important to meet yourself where you are. I was following mark bittman's part time vegan plan for awhile & I thought it was so smart of him to do vegan for his first ...

lpearlmom

Break: yogurt w cereal, fruit & nuts Lunch: double veg burger, chips & dip, blueberries Dinner: plate of Vietnamese food, 2 glasses wine, iced coffee (fail) 14 mins row I think I have to come to terms with the fact that I can't lose weight without a little suffering & deprivation I think I was tryin...

lpearlmom

Tessy don't delete your post. It's truthful & real and it's ok to be struggling! I'm struggling too because as much as I want to not want to lose weight I still want it if that makes sense. I'm not losing and it sucks but I have to re-group & get real with myself. I don't think you're failing becaus...

lpearlmom

Doing great iron!!! Keep up the good work!

lpearlmom

Hang in there Tessy!

lpearlmom

Weigh: 203.1 :( Thanks for checking on me heather! Things have been a little crazy with back to back house guests and then over the weekend we drove the girls to camp which was a six hour drive each way. Tessy so good to see you back here and thank you for the kind words. I definitely need them toda...

lpearlmom

Thanks eschano! Break: 2 pancakes, zucchini bread, watermelon Mocha Lunch: BLT sandwich, watermelon, yogurt Dinner: roast pork w maple glaze, salad, applesauce, bread Summer cocktail x 2 Exercise: 14 mins row My MIL is coming tomorrow for 4 days & then we have friends coming next week w their 3 mos ...

lpearlmom

Sorry heather! (Love that book btw!) sounds like you learned a lot & realize it'll take a bit of experimenting before you find a good groove with your difficult schedule. Yeah I'd probably do a sandwich or wrap plus a little bag of chips or nuts & a piece of fruit for the car. Good luck & yes tomorr...

lpearlmom

I used to do that too heather! Worth it, since I'm a list maker I've written about 13 small changes I'm willing to make for the months I don't lose. After that I guess I'll just have to fully accept my weight because there's only so much of my life I'm willing to alter in order to achieve some numbe...

lpearlmom

Thanks so much heather! Oh and the shrimp roll is really like a spring roll. I get it from trader joes and it comes with pb sauce. So good but not sure if you have a trader joes near you. Had a good busy day today. Took the girls to the waterpark with some friends they've known since pre-school. Was...

lpearlmom

Make her fix your hair! That would be a good LAM for you!

lpearlmom

So happy you finally have a simple/doable answer.

We'll miss you!

Check back now & then to let us know how you're doing.

Linda

lpearlmom

Thx for your understanding iron!

lpearlmom

I feel so much calmer & peaceful with an organized clean house. I think some people are more effected by their surroundings than others. I can't focus when things are messy & I start to feel anxious whereas my DH doesn't seemed bothered the least. I'm even thrown off if I'm sitting in a less than id...

lpearlmom

Wow China--so cool! My mom says the food there is amazing & very different than the Americanized version were used to in the states.

lpearlmom

Thanks eschano. It's good to get a different perspective. I hope I didn't sound like I can't be friends (or acquaintances) with anyone that has different values than me. I wouldn't have too many friends if that were the case. It's hard to explain the challenges our family faces being in the minority...

lpearlmom

I didn't weigh for the first 10 months of NoS and mostly focused on habit. Now my plan is to weigh three days in a row 1x/month and take the average for my monthly weigh in. If I don't lose at least 1 lb/mos, I'm planning on making one small change like cutting down my beverages. Weighing everyday i...

lpearlmom

Sounds like a fun luncheon but so sorry you got sick & couldn't properly enjoy your S day!

lpearlmom

Yay heather for breaking through your plateau but sorry to hear about your self sabotage. I think it's a common tendency. At least you know it's possible to lose weight now and tomorrow you can get back to things.

lpearlmom

Thanks heather & auto! I don't think I've ever been so happy to be home. Not because of the trip, which was awesome, but because of the long drive. My MIL was beyond happy. This was her first bday with her husband in a nursing home & she was having a hard time. On top of that her brother, whose a to...

lpearlmom

Looks like a fun & yummy day!

lpearlmom

He he no way iron I loved the details of your story. Totally made me laugh esp since I'm a pampering mom type. ðŸ˜€

lpearlmom

I love that post iron. Basically I think it's saying there's many ways to raise great kids & we should worry less about doing it perfectly and try to enjoy them more.

Btw, auto thank you so much for your kind words on my thread, you have no idea how much they lifted my spirits.

Linda

lpearlmom

Yeah I think I'll leave it with an invitation for the daughter. I didn't get the sense she was interested in being bffs or anything but rather just being neighborly so I'm not going to worry about it. Had a fun day & ready for our whirlwind trip tomorrow. We're going to LA to surprise my MIL for her...

lpearlmom

Awesome! Keep up the good work!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thanks heather, worth & auto! Worth--that's me to the tee exactly. I remember reading that too & it clicked for me. I'm not shy or a total loner so never thought of myself as an introvert. But I need lots of down time sprinkled with a little socializing. Otherwise I feel overstimulated & drained. Un...

lpearlmom

Feel better soon! Great job on the no spending!

lpearlmom

So sorry Heather. That sounds really tough and makes me feel like a wimp for complaining about my parenting struggles!

You are a real hero & doing great under the circumstances. Your dinner sounds delicious. How'd the chicken turn out?

lpearlmom

Oh Kookie I'm sorry you can't get to a good place right now. Maybe making peace with food needs to be your priority right? If possible ditch any specific food plans, pile those plates if you need to & just keep to those three plates. I just feel like you really need to make yourself a priority right...

lpearlmom

Yay! Great observations & tremendous progress!

Learning to love food again is huge. We are wired to love food because of the effect it has on our survival and all that so when food & eating are no longer joyful, you know something has gone very wrong.

Keep up the good work.

Linda

lpearlmom

I think worth's post is right on too. Every single day as a parent is both wonderful & extraordinarily difficult. They mess up, I mess up. But at the end of the day we love each other and that's all that really matters. Something DH always reminds me is that I can't actually control my children. The...

lpearlmom

Thanks eschano & heather! I'm exhausted. The girls are doing good actually but it's just exhausting trying to keep the house clean while their constantly running in & out with all their friends. As soon as I clean up the kitchen from one meal, it's practically time for the next. I actually told one ...

lpearlmom

Yeah you guys are right--some days are just like that. Break: 2 pieces bacon, 1 pancake, oatmeal w fruit, mocha Lunch: 2 tofu rolls with peanut sauce, Greek yogurt w fruit & nuts, iced tea Dinner: steak fajitas, refried beans, corn on the cob, wine cooler Exercise: 14 mins row; 14 mins floor work--f...

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