Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

A good day. Had friends over & ate a lot. Really looking forward to getting back to more structure tomorrow.

Brunch: 1 donut; 2 pieces bacon
Dinner: ribs, baked beans, chips, coleslaw
Dessert: 1 peanut caramel bar

lpearlmom

So glad to see you back chani !

lpearlmom

Kookie- It must be tough figuring it where your issues stop & your mums start. Probably best to just take a breather from her as needed. I agree attachment issues are more serious than the normal parent-child conflict. Thank you for putting that into perspective for me. It's got to be awfully tough ...

lpearlmom

Just wanted to give you a virtual hug. It pains me to hear about your sadness regarding your mother. My oldest daughter & I have a lot of conflict and I hope that I'm not causing her any long term harm. I love her so much but sometimes it's hard to give her everything she seems to need. I'm sure you...

lpearlmom

Yay for 5 mins and for some money in the bank!

My pantry is overflowing so thinking about living out it next week. Not sure we could do a whole month though!

lpearlmom

Dandelion I hope your summer break starts soon so you can enjoy some down time. Ours is right around the corner (may 22).

I really admire your passion for gardening. Sadly I have a black thumb.

Linda

Ps whats forbidden rice? Sounds fun!

lpearlmom

I avoid full-length mirrors like the plague too Dandelion and we have a huge one in the hallway between our bedroom & en suite so I'm passing it several times daily. Maybe I should start to look at myself daily so it won't be such a big deal when I go to buy clothes. It's hard to feel good about my ...

lpearlmom

Hi auto Yes really happy to be finally weighing myself. I will weigh once a month but for 3 days in a row to get a good average. Don't get me wrong. I still believe in the wisdom of our bodies! It's just that after all the years of self imposed famines, my body is in a constant state of wanting to f...

lpearlmom

So the theme of this week seems to be Face the Music or Face the Weight in this case.... I did two things over the last couple of days that I've been dreading. 1) I went clothes shopping 2) I weighed myself Both situations turned out to be worse than I'd hoped for but not as bad as I feared. I ended...

lpearlmom

Kookie! So glad you're back and thank you Kookie for your uplifting & supportive post!

We've missed you!:)

lpearlmom

For me I haven't veered away from noS because it's too hard but because I think deep down I just can't get on board with something that says we aren't to be trusted with food and that our bodies aren't good enough exactly the way they are. It's really a struggle trying to coincide this belief with t...

lpearlmom

Thanks eschano & auto. Lots to think about but May is crazy busy for us with both my girl's bday, my bday plus Mother's Day all in the same week Somehow my oldest daughter talked me into a swim party at the house with like 30 people coming. Yikes! So I'll be distracted from all this soul searching f...

lpearlmom

That must be tough to teach adults & always wondering how your doing in their eyes. Much easier teaching preschoolers--I just had the parents to contend with. I think it's one of those things where you can't please everyone. Just be clear about your own standards/ethics. As long as your living up to...

lpearlmom

Definitely auto! Break: cereal, fruit, iced coffee Lunch: piece of tortilla pie, 1/2 yogurt, chips Dinner: homemade burger & fries Dessert: small bowl of light ice cream Exercise: 20 mins rowing; 10 mins floor work Doing really well w eating but struggling with how to add some more meaning to my lif...

lpearlmom

I think we have similar tastes in food. Your posts always makes me hungry.

lpearlmom

You're way ahead of me in the finance dept. I'm impressed.

lpearlmom

Break: pancakes w fruit, mocha Lunch: tuna melt w tomatoes, handful of Cheetos Snack: handful pb pretzels, glass of milk Dinner: 1 plate of homemade pasta (DHs handiwork), small glass of wine Dessert: 3 pieces of chocolate, couple handfuls of dots, glass of milk Exercise: walked the dog Feel like my...

lpearlmom

Break: Greek yogurt w fruit, handful of pretzels, mocha
Lunch: orange chicken w brown rice, broccoli w cheese
Snack: Jamba Juice smoothie
Dinner: Mexican tortilla pie, chips & guacamole
Dessert: tea & 2 cookies

All is going smoothly'

lpearlmom

Thanks auto & eschano. Was a fun day!

Break: 1/2 piece toast, veg sausage, watermelon, mocha
Lunch: falafel sandwich, hummus
Dinner: orange chicken, rice, salad

lpearlmom

Wow you amaze me with your discipline auto. Once you set your mind to something--watch out!

lpearlmom

Hi Diligence! Thank you for the detailed response. Clearly you have thought through this whole thing from every angle and only you have all the facts so only you can make the best decision for your kids! I never would have even said anything but feel so strongly about this subject when it comes to c...

lpearlmom

Hope I'm not out of line here but wanted to respond to what Diligence brought up re: kids & amounts. Ellyn Satter who is a child dietician recommends allowing children to eat as much as they want at meal & snack time but as soon as meal time is over, kitchens closed till next meal or snack. She reco...

lpearlmom

No worries! It's an S day--ypu can't fail!

Have a great week!

Linda

lpearlmom

lpearlmom

Have a wonderful visit. So happy for you. You're doing great!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hey Imogen! A little confused on what you decided but do wish you good luck on whatever path you take. I've recently change things up quite a bit. I'm so glad I did vanilla nos for long enough to give me the habit of no snacking but realized I can't do vanilla nos forever. I need a little more freed...

lpearlmom

Oh gotcha--what a nice mommy! My kids love Nutella so may try that.

Sounds like a lovely day!

Have a great week!

Linda

lpearlmom

Break: waffles w strawberries & whipped cream, yogurt , mocha Lunch: 1/2 croissant sandwich, watermelon, 2 margaritas Snack: 1/2 sandwich, watermelon Dinner: BBQ, beans, coleslaw, chips & dip Dessert: 3 oatmeal cookies, milk One of those rare days where my fantasy of motherhood matched my reality. T...

lpearlmom

I volunteer at in my daughters classroom every Friday and most of the time I'm helping her with her never ending pile of papers that need to be graded. She's by no means a slacker (sometimes she stays till 10pm) so I'm pretty sure you're not alone!

Glad your arm is feeling a bit better.

Linda

lpearlmom

Hey glad you got some sleep finally! Our eating schedule is this: Monday: cook Tuesday: leftovers (our busy day) Wens: cook Thurs: cook Fri: take out Sat: take out or sit down restaurant Sun: cook or leftovers As you know I have a 7 week rotating menu so this helps tremendously when being committed ...

lpearlmom

Enjoy your weather for me. It's already in the 90s here!

Your break sounds yummy. Is the Nutella inside the waffles or on top?

Have a great Sunday!

Linda

lpearlmom

You're doing great! I'm jealous of your rain--we get very excited here in az when it rains.

I may look into those walking tapes for when it gets in the triple digits here. Sounds fun!

Have a great Sunday!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yep, I do our budget & everything in a ledger book from Office Depot (much to DHs annoyance) I have tried a couple apps but writing it down is just plain easier. 345 is ungodly early, wth? But so cool you're getting so much accomplished! The office area is one place I'm not good at maintaining. I ha...

lpearlmom

Thanks Sonya, diligence & berry! You're all so sweet. I'll definitely be sticking around. So important to have support plus I want to keep up with how everyone else is doing. Sonya, ellyn satter describes the process of finding your Stopping Place in great detail in this book: http://www.ellynsatter...

lpearlmom

Awesome eschano, let me know if you make it. I'm not much of a morning person but I'm going to try to go Sunday eve. I think it'll be good for my family to function without me sometimes. :wink: Yesterday went well. Break: toast w cream cheese; cottage cheese w peaches; mocha Lunch: chicken salad w q...

lpearlmom

You're doing wonderfully overall and the big picture is whats going to make a difference in the end.

Enjoy your dinner!!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay auto! Glad you're feeling better and that flylady inspired you. She is a lot like Reinhard in that building habits are everything. I like her morning & evening routines and that she says to start out very small. I don't do all the routines but I do clean the kitchen without fail every evening an...

lpearlmom

Lol so true auto. *hugs* Today went well. I noticed I really have to protect my appetite because if I don't come to the meal hungry, it's hard to find ones stopping point. This means less drinks between meals and only a very light mid afternoon snack if any. Break: cereal w fruit; mocha Lunch: meatl...

lpearlmom

Sounds delish! And glad to hear you had a great trip--wb!

lpearlmom

Glad the paycheck was still cashable!

Thanks for stopping by my thread and for the lovely support!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you eschano! This is an approach that has always made sense to me but I was never able to implement due to my strong snacking habit.

I'd love to stick around since nobody seems too bothered.

lpearlmom

Great job on resisting the d coke! I'm not a big soda drinker but do not come between me & my coffee! That's the one thing I won't budge on!:)

lpearlmom

Good for you for not letting a small fail become a huge one! I noticed you said you'd like to more productive before dinner. Do you think that might be asking too much after a long day at work? Maybe you need to give yourself permission to gel & do nothing if needed during that time? Something mindl...

lpearlmom

Hi auto Big hugs. Sick & office politics--ugh! I'm sure the novelty will wear off and she'll just be another good teacher like you in time. Thanks for stopping by my thread. I hope you like the flylady book. I found it very motivating. For me I finally got a handle on my cleaning by being absolutely...

lpearlmom

Thanks oolala & berry! I know oolala I wouldn't be able to do this if I didn't experience hunger. I actually had a very small afternoon snack yesterday & found I wasn't hungry enough for dinner so it was harder to notice my stopping point. It may be that an afternoon snack won't work for me. I like ...

lpearlmom

Thanks oolala. You're not preaching. Just trying to help! I'm still having structure but it's based on the ecsatter method my ellyn satter. I'm just allowing a mid afternoon snack, & single serving sized dessert if I want it (didn't want dessert last night). Instead of relying on one plate to tell m...

lpearlmom

Love it eschano!!! So happy for you! I've been doing a lot of soul searching too these last few days and may be relaxing things a bit. Food should be pleasurable first & foremost. There's an interesting study that shows how enjoying food actually makes it more nutritious. "In the 1970's, researchers...

lpearlmom

Just for the record I adore my mom and we're very close. My point is no matter what we do, our kids will find fault with something. That's just part of growing up though. I agree eschano about taking care of oneself first. I'm getting a bit better at it. Little things like taking a shower & starting...

lpearlmom

Thanks oolala! I did work as a teacher when my first daughter was a baby. I had to because my DH was doing his residency and made very little. When my oldest was three I went to & completed culinary school and even worked in the kitchen at an upscale french restaurant for a bit. Both were rewarding ...

lpearlmom

Welcome back. Hope your cold is short lived!

lpearlmom

I'm sure you're not dumpy compared to anyone auto! I should take better care myself too. It's hard because there's just so many dang things to take care of--kids, house, finances, husbands, cars... It's easy to put yourself last. Today I did put myself first though and it was well worth it. I booked...

lpearlmom

Thanks for the replies chani & eschano! Good to know I'm not alone in having these kinds of moments. I don't actually know for sure what my weight has done or not done since I haven't weighed myself since starting NoS. So it's a bit of a leap of faith here. I try to go by size and how I look but siz...

lpearlmom

I relate with you so much chani. Maybe that's why I dreamt of swimming to Israel last night! :) I too beat myself up about past mistakes too much. I'm also thinking a lot about the goalless article. I tried it today instead of following my usual rigid schedule. Just wanted to see what I'd do on my w...

lpearlmom

We will miss you JW but def understand you only have so much time you can dedicate to msg boards.

Definitely Let us know how you're doing now & then.

Linda

lpearlmom

Well it's still great! I'd be thrilled to be 10lbs down!

lpearlmom

It's so true eschano, we're always striving for more which is okay as long as we're not letting it get in the way of enjoying what we already have. That's the key I guess otherwise whats the point of all this striving, right? Iron: that's such an inspirational story about your mom. I will carry that...

lpearlmom

Great job eschano! Some pretty advanced NoSing there!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay JW! You're such an inspiration. You've handled everything thrown at you with such grace these last few months and still sticking with NoS the whole time.

You rock--keep up the good work! (I wish I was brave enough to weigh myself).

Linda

lpearlmom

"The donut that got away"

Although it's great to try to have some insight into our behavior, don't worry about it too much. It was an S day, you can't fail & even naturally thin people eat past fullness sometimes. So nice to go back to N days though after days like that!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yum! I love Nigella! Great idea to post recipes since we have a lot of creative cooks here. I'll try to do the same!

Linda

lpearlmom

*hugs*hugs*hugs* chani I can really relate to what you're going through. My dd is only 10 but she can give me big time attitude and boy does she know how to push my buttons. It's so hard & it does hurt esp after you've given so much of yourself to them. When they hit their 20s they will come back to...

lpearlmom

Auto:sounds like a wonderful day!! I wish we had two weeks of spring break too. The weather is so much nicer than in the summer where we have to either be inside or in a pool to survive. Love, love amazon prime! Can't wait till they have their flying robots up & running! Sorry about the weight thing...

lpearlmom

Thank you all so much for your words of wisdom & encouragement. Financially we are fine without me working but I have these times where I feel like I should (emphasis on should ) be doing more with my life. The problem is the times that I did work or go to school, all I could think about was how muc...

lpearlmom

Thanks iron chef! Week 35 (stealing autos idea) Break: scrambled eggs, toast, oj Nonfat mocha Lunch: hamburger w avocado on half a bun; yogurt w fruit & granola Dinner: Swiss steak, mashed potatoes, onion roll & broccoli w cheese, glass of milk Exercise: 20 mins rowing I've been having a lot of guil...

lpearlmom

Congrats iron chef!

Lol JW

lpearlmom

Hi auto

I'm mainly a big purse kind of gal but have a couple of small ones as well.

Good luck with your cleaning. I love me a sparkly clean frig/freezer. I organize my shelves by food type!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hi JW sounds a little frustrating but just remember you get the final say in all this.

So glad your parents seem to be adjusting.

Have a great weekend!

Linda

lpearlmom

Chani: it's good to know I'm not alone & also a good reminder that it might take a good while to figure this all out. Thanks for the support on my mood issue. Definitely feeling better. I just need to remember to include the veggies & grains that I was enjoying from my vegan meals. Wholesome, well-b...

lpearlmom

Yay Simpless! Feel better!!

Linda

lpearlmom

Good luck today. You're doing awesome!!

lpearlmom

Forgot to post my eating yesterday but I ended up taking an emergency S day around 4 pm. I know this sounds overly dramatic but I kind of put the clues together & realized that the vegan meals were negatively effecting my moods. I'm susceptible to depression & could feel a bout coming on. I think it...

lpearlmom

Happy Birthday eschano!!! Hope you have a lovely day!!!

Linda

lpearlmom

Ohh now I'm really wanting a cool new purse too.

I love how your new spending planning is really helping you to clarify what you really want/need. Really helps to eliminate buyers remorse I bet!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thanks so much for the support & encouragement eschano, JW, auto & iron! It really means a lot to me. Iron chef: your post really rang true for me. Thanks--I needed to remember that I definitely don't want her life. She is one of the sweetest, most kindest persons I know. Really truly just good to t...

lpearlmom

Feel better eschano!

lpearlmom

Just wanted to say that it was probably just a weird angle but I know that feeling of unease when seeing your own reflection. Not a great feeling. Even though I don't weigh myself, one of the biggest changes since I've started NoS is that I no longer cringe when I catch a reflection of myself in a w...

lpearlmom

Sounds like you're doing great iron chef! Good for you for staying away from the treats. I give my kids dessert pretty much every night and nobody seems to notice I don't eat any. I guess since they see me eat sweets on the weekend they don't think of me as someone that never eats sweets. I like tha...

lpearlmom

Blueberry scone is def not an S. If you were ordering dessert at a special restaurant would it ever be a blueberry scone? I think not. So no worries, you did great. You have some serious parenting will power. I would have given into letting them watch a movie after about 1 second of begging but look...

lpearlmom

Ugh... What a weird day. I had coffee with a friend this morning whose also a sahm. She told me as soon as all her kids are in school full-time, she will try to find some part-time work. Well it threw me into a weird mood full of angst. This last year was consumed with moving--finding a house, deali...

lpearlmom

Yay for downsizing and prioritizing your time. Life is too short to spend your time with people you don't enjoy!

lpearlmom

Eschano: the ice cream was good--barefoot contessa recipe. I'm just hoping over the top S days become the exception rather than the rule. Sonya: thanks! The chicken was Barefoot Contessa. Super easy & good: http://barefootcontessa.com/recipes.aspx?RecipeID=587&S=0 Iron chef: I love Pioneer Woman. He...

lpearlmom

I agree wholeheartedly with iron chef and just wanted to add that if you could get your hands on this book by Ellyn Satter, I think it'd be a lifesaver. She talks about planning normal meals, recovering from diets and learning to find our innate stopping point again etc. it also shows a sample 3 wee...

lpearlmom

That sounds delish chani! Ok frozen margaritas for you then!:) I do drink very slowly so I guess that's my saving Grace. Everyone makes fun of me for milking the same Starbucks coffee all day! No the casserole is actually from Pioneer Woman. I'm trying to cook more child-friendly meals: http://thepi...

lpearlmom

Chani don't forget most of us really piled our plates at the beginning of this process. I don't think you can really skip that part. My portion sizes are quite reasonable now but this happened slowly as I began to trust that I really could have another plate of food in a few hours again. Maybe you n...

lpearlmom

Wow congratulations Patty!! That is quite an accomplishment. You must be super proud of yourself. Sounds like a beautiful book.

Linda

lpearlmom

Hi chani I love mint ice cream but have never made it. Do you use fresh mint or a flavoring? I'd definitely have to throw some chocolate chips in there. Coffee is the one thing that I don't think I'd ever be able to give up. It's such an important part of my day. Thanks chani! I'm willing to put a l...

lpearlmom

Yay for being productive today!! I read your ikea list with great interest but hey I'm a shopper. I think you did great at ikea. You bought some fun stuff without overdoing it. I hear ya about the finance stuff. I really hate money issues. So stressful!! Also really relate with you on childrens lite...

lpearlmom

Oh well I guess I was a little to overconfident yesterday about my S days, because I totally overdid it today. I basically spent the entire day in the kitchen cooking which meant lots & lots of nibbling took place. Ah well still happy my S days are slowly improving overall. Break: eggs Benedict sans...

lpearlmom

That's got to be tough saying goodbye after you've bonded and cared for the little ones. You are doing an amazing thing for those children. I really admire what you guys are willing to take on. Also, can't tell you how many projects we finally got around to once we were having company coming! :D Hav...

lpearlmom

Lol auto! You must have magical powers to see right into my freezer! I always keep them on hand because it's the one thing DH always agrees to cook. Plus the girls love them (and me!). Btw, for full disclosure I gave up on my cussing challenge right after the ikea escapade! As long as I'm not saying...

lpearlmom

Sorry JW. That's got to be tough & frustrating when you're in social situations that don't give you many options. My girls have friends who can't eat gluten & their parents are really good about always bringing gluten-free stuff to play dates, parties etc for them. Would it be possible for you to do...

lpearlmom

Two weeks of Spring Break--yay! Hope you get to do some fun stuff. So envious of your spending system. I can't seem to manage a single no spending day. I keep he telling DH it's a good thing we have a camper because I'm pretty sure that's where will be spending our retirement days. He says we'll jus...

lpearlmom

Thanks all! Busy last couple of days but all is well. Learning to handle things more calmly has been powerful. More on that later. I did have two red days with my anger but minor fails. One was with a rude sales lady. I stooped to her level & was rude right back to her. The other was tonight when I ...

lpearlmom

It's already in the 80s here so makes a great afternoon snack for the girls. Helps me feel reassured that my non-milk drinker is getting enough calcium too. Good day. Definitely caught myself getting angry a few times but was able to quickly regain my composure. Learning a lot about myself with this...

lpearlmom

Awesome eschano! You've come so far & should be very proud of yourself!

lpearlmom

Ohmygoodness my turn to lmao. Your son's remark is pretty priceless.

Sounds like a wonderful day and your mood sounds super upbeat again which is awesome to see.

Also, thank you for the lovely compliment.

lpearlmom

Was pretty funny auto esp since I seemed to have completely blocked it out. Next time I think I'll have to declare all Ikea assembling S events. :D Today was pretty good except for a mini fail. All this talk about smoothie got me to thinking how I should be making them more. So when my girls got hom...

lpearlmom

Hi chani I think eating normal as possible is really desirable unless you have some severe food allergy. I like Ellyn Satter whose a dietician because she's very practical & down to earth. She says scientists are constantly changing their minds about whats healthiest so it's best to just take the mo...

lpearlmom

Thanks eschano! Auto: Would love to have you join me. I just did a 21 day of choosing my words carefully when angry. So no put downs or hurtful words when angry. I still did plenty of yelling & what not. This time I'm trying not to show any outwardly signs of being angry. No eye rolling, snide remar...

lpearlmom

Lol yeah should have mentioned that. I told my friend about the frozen banana thing & she said "it worked great but was really hard to peel". Oops!

Search found 4809 matches