Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

Green week yay! Badly in need of chocolate though! Need to get back on track with exercise but I realize that sporadic exercise is still better than none. In the past it was all or nothing but that kind of black & white thinking can be so limiting so I'm pushing onward. Things are looking up otherwi...

lpearlmom

You're such a rockstar auto and looks like that weight is finally budging a bit too!

lpearlmom

Hope you feel better fast too!!

Linda

lpearlmom

Don't panic Kookie. When my dog died I could barely get off the couch for two weeks. It's tough so cut yourself some slack. Take a few S days because NoS is suppose to be about realistic expectations. It's not going to be throw your weight off that much so don't rush out and buy new scales just yet....

lpearlmom

Hi clarebear!

Great to hear from you. So sorry to hear your not losing weight but maybe you'll be able to ditch the calorie counting once your at the maintenance level.

Glad things with the wedding are coming along nicely. I bet your dress is lovely!

Linda

lpearlmom

So glad to hear from you, but really sorry about your cat. So heartbreaking.

It seems like a lot of us had a little rough patch over the holidays, but glad you're back on track along as well.

Hope your skin clears up--ugh!

Linda

lpearlmom

Okay not trying to make anyone feel badly but it's 79 today here. Just a heads up in case anyone needs motivation to plan a lil spontaneous trip! â˜ºï¸

lpearlmom

Thank you so much for the encouragement eschano. I'm definitely going to hang in there.

I know all about IE & weight gain--ugh! That's one of those things that sounds good on paper but just doesn't work in real life. NoS on the other hand has so much more than meets the eye.

Linda

lpearlmom

That's really powerful eschano. I think nos is the only diet that builds us up instead of tearing us down.

lpearlmom

Don't worry about it Chani! I know calorie counting is a bit of a trigger for me but that's my issue. We love having you here and hearing about your full & interesting life.

Linda

lpearlmom

Hi clarebear!

Just checking on you. Hope all is well & wedding plans are coming along nicely.

Linda

lpearlmom

Thanks for the encouragement chani & JW. Luckily I'm not bored. I don't understand boredom. Loving to read means there's always something interesting to do especially with the invention of kindles! Sometimes I feel like I should doing more. I think I'm just experiencing a little lull in my life. Sti...

lpearlmom

Sorry JW! What a pain. :/ I hate going to the doctors too (Ironic I know) so understand your frustration. Weirdly I've been hearing about a rise in vitD decencies even in the sunny states like AZ & Cali. I guess there's an overuse of sunscreen (go figure) so the recommendation is to spend a little b...

lpearlmom

I read this guiltily as both my kids are on computer ..oh well we are all a bit exhausted from our trip so letting it slide. Just not ready to tackle this one yet but so interested to see how this plays out for you. DH says it's better than mindlessly watching tv all day. At least they're engaged. I...

lpearlmom

Congrats on test!! Failures will happen and fairly tame S days overall seem like pretty good news to me.

Linda

lpearlmom

Okay auto I'm embarrassed to say I teared up a little when I read your post. Thank you for helping me to put things into prospective. My youngest daughter, Talia, is 8 and may just be filling out before puberty. I saw that with myself as a child and some of my older daughter, Zoe, friends. I just ne...

lpearlmom

Oh no don't you hate it when the cure is worse than the ailment?! Hope both things get better soon and glad things are going well on the food front.

New boyfriend?

lpearlmom

Thank you eschano for the support! So sweet and exactly what I needed to hear right now. I just need to give this some time. *deep breath*

Have a great day!

Linda

lpearlmom

Crazy weekend with tons of driving. 7 hrs to redondo beach where our hotel was. Very cute little room with an ocean view so that was great. The next morning we went to visit SIL in the Hollywood hills which was an hour each way in some traffic of course. We had a nice visit though and came back to t...

lpearlmom

Hi chani! So cool! I've been to that museum many times. Did you grow up in the fairfax district maybe? DHs family lives fairly close to there in Brentwood. I grew up in Manhattan Beach which is maybe 45 mins away. Btw, not sure if you ever got an answer about the meaning of vanila-S, but it's just f...

lpearlmom

Funny and great about your weight.

lpearlmom

Green Day--2/200 (decided to go w a nice round number) Thanks JW! Definitely feeling back in the groove. Looks like we were once again on the same page. I'm driving to Los Angeles tomorrow to visit family with my girls (DH has to stay & work). On the drive I'm going to remember that I can choose my ...

lpearlmom

Welcome!!

lpearlmom

Sounds like a wonderful feast--sorry you over did it but it helps you appreciate those sane N days even more.

I still haven't tried shove gloving yet--I'm kind of scared!!

Linda

lpearlmom

You are definitely healthy Imogen. You eat well, you exercise and you're at a healthy weight so I wouldn't worry about that regarding sweets. Just find what is going to bring you the greatest peace of mind and that is sustainable. I knew I couldn't stick to nos without my daily mocha so I allowed th...

lpearlmom

I know auto, I kind of thought about that too but since it was planned I couldn't really legitimize it. I did say to him "you know I'm breaking my NoS rules for you" just so he'd realize this wasn't going to be regular thing.

Today was green. 1/200

No issues, no wavering. Yay!

Linda

lpearlmom

Awesome you're doing great! So glad things are clicking for you. Definitely good not to push nutrition too much right now. My plates were high & heavy in the beginning and now seem really balanced. I think the body knows what it needs if we just give it a chance.

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you auto for the support! Things aren't nearly as bad as when they were babies but I still need to remember to get in some grown up time so I don't get too burnt out. Love that you guys do a date night. Thank you JW! Really helps me know that you were able to get back on track so quickly. I'm ...

lpearlmom

Here's the specifics on adding protein: Choose a pound of protein Avoid meats that require long simmering, such as whole chickens or beef shanks. Instead, buy cuts that cook quickly: pork tenderloin; boneless, skinless chicken thighs (more flavorful than the breasts); boneless ham; Italian and kielb...

lpearlmom

Just wanted to add this soup formula from Pam Anderson (not that Pam Anderson) cookbook How To Cook Without A Book: THE QUICK SOUP FORMULA Serves 4 Oil: 2 Tbs. vegetable or olive oil Onion: 1 medium, chopped Vegetables: 1 pound, cut in bite-size pieces. I usually select 2 vegetables to equal the pou...

lpearlmom

Thanks for stopping by my thread auto. I started writing this on your thread but then it started being all about me so decided to put it here instead: Yeah it's hard not losing when you're being so compliant. I think I'm feeling that a little but right now. Even though I don't weigh, I can tell from...

lpearlmom

Glad your still around but sorry to hear about your health. Please take care of yourself & let us know how you're doing.

Linda

lpearlmom

Good for you for being able to sit with your feelings. I tried just letting all my anxious thoughts come instead of trying to push them away or talk myself out of having those feelings. Takes a lot less energy & dissipates much more quickly. Who knew? Boy we are all doing a lot of personal growth. B...

lpearlmom

Thank you JW for that info. The mind is powerful stuff isn't it? Glad our conversation helped you a bit auto. Helped me relax around my kids today and of course they got on better than usual. In fact they're playing on their laptops in my oldest daughters bed right now quite happily. Today was a fai...

lpearlmom

So funny Chani. I thinking we were posting in each others thread at the same time with words of thanks. Yay for gratitude!

lpearlmom

I really admire that approach chanti & remember you saying that in another thread. That was what spurred me to pick up this book again. I have a lot of work to do in handling my responses but feel ready to tackle it again. Thanks for the inspiration Chani!!

lpearlmom

Was going to post this on someone else's thread in response to something automated said about "first world problems". It was getting to long though so decided to post here: I agree with auto. Life is tough at times no matter what your status may be. Here's a quote from a very powerful book called Bu...

lpearlmom

It's definitely tough not having your DH around. It's especially hard when he is stressed out by his job. Hopefully he will be able to find another job soon. I know my husband had to suffer through a few miserable jobs till finding just the right place for him. Big hugs and hang in there. This a hug...

lpearlmom

Ack! I had long post written but my iPad died in the middle. Just wanted to say that you're probably at a good weight for you. I'm about 40 lbs heavier than you and don't feel fat yet I felt fat when I weighed 128 in HS. It's all relative and the weightloss goals never end till we have the courage t...

lpearlmom

No, it wasn't a kit chani. It has a Chevy engine and the rest he learned off the internet. He got a lot of great advice off of message boards. He's determined to get up that waterfall but next time I think I'll sit it out.

Funny about your DH

lpearlmom

Hang in there Anoulie! Meds are never fun but can definitely help. I've been on them at different times. Never long but enough to kind of help me snap out of it. I know there's a stigma attached to depression but remember it's really a physical manifestation so please don't feel the need to apologiz...

lpearlmom

Seems like a pretty tame weekend so far. Enjoy the rest of your day!

Linda

lpearlmom

Looks like the scale is going in the right direction--yay!

Linda

lpearlmom

Wow I'm so impressed and that your able to manage all those kiddos! I used to be an advocate for foster kids and know what a blessing foster parents are so I commend you & your DH for taking that on.

Six days a week? Is Friday a half day for Shabbat?

Linda

lpearlmom

Try not to worry about S days too much. Easier said than done--I know believe me! They may be just the weekly reminder you need to carry you strong through your N days.

Let me know how your book is--I need something new to read!

Linda

lpearlmom

Sounds like things are going well overall and can I say how impressed I am that you made a pecan pie in these early stages of motherhood. I was lucky if I was able to make a piece of toast those early days!

Linda

lpearlmom

Just wanted to say how much I appreciate this conversation. It really helps me with my own anxiety issues. I wonder sometimes if more stuff comes up now that we don't have overeating as a constant distraction? Really admiring you auto for tackling your budget issues head on. That's something I've re...

lpearlmom

Yes--thank you JW & auto. Definitely found my happy place again--yay! It's hard with DH working so much. Sometimes I feel like a single mom yet hesitate to say that since I don't have the same financial pressures as most single parents. Still easy to feel burnt out at times. Chani, such a funny stor...

lpearlmom

JW--sorry about the three lbs. I'm sure it'll come off plus more now that you're back on track.

Loving this discussion on soups. Chani, anything with coconut milk and I'm in. I have a great recipe for minestrone that's very flexible and no broth needed.

Enjoy the rest of your weekend JW!!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hi chani Sounds like things are going pretty well for you. Good for you for getting so much walking done. I know it's hard to let go of the safety of calorie counting but it can be so freeing. May be worth it to try for a week or so. Is it a six day work week in Israel? Also was just curious how man...

lpearlmom

Thank you JW for your sound advice. I love that analogy. You've managed to get right to the heart of the issue again. Yesterday was a lot of fun. We went off-roading with a big group of people. Everyone was so nice and down to earth. Was great to be social and I'm sure we'll do it again soon. Hopefu...

lpearlmom

I know how you feel. I have terrible pms. It's like I'm a completely different person for 1 week out of the month. It is always a relief to realize that's all it is.

Hope you have a great weekend too!

Linda

lpearlmom

Ugh, we were suppose to go kid-free camping tonight but hubby had to go do an ER surgery so we're not leaving till the morning. my kids cried because they were looking forward to having a sleepover with their babysitter. Boy can I feel the love. Today went well till after dinner. I so wanted to go b...

lpearlmom

Yeah JW I think that's it about the arbitrary rules. Feels that way sometimes but I can't deny their effectiveness in this case. So yes Just going to ride this out. I think what's keeping me going right now is thinking about all the people that quit & then come back sometimes more than once. I know ...

lpearlmom

I wish I had an answer for you Imogen but am struggling to a good solution to S days as well as you know. I almost don't feel like not making any plan at this point. I'm wondering if I just have to endure wild s days in order to make my N days so doable. Looking forward to seeing what you decide for...

lpearlmom

I adore that name. So awesome that you're able to stay on track!

lpearlmom

Oh you're too sweet auto--thank you! Green day but feel my resolve slipping. Just longing to be free from the constraints of rules for some reason all of a sudden. I wonder if it's all because of skipping my darn S days. Right now getting through by I'm just telling myself I can pile on my plates as...

lpearlmom

Yes, it looks like it! Thank you and good luck to you--we can do this!!:)))

lpearlmom

Yes Imogen. You get it 100%. It feels more natural but doesn't work in the long term for so many of us. *sigh* oh well.

lpearlmom

Thank you klmom! Jw you're right. It's ok, but definitely a learning experience for me. Thanks for all your wonderful encouragement. :) Imogen: well after all my whining, I think I have to admit you guys were right. I don't think my plan is working for me. As much as I hate my S days, I think maybe ...

lpearlmom

First RED day for NoS. Ugh--I can barely bring myself to mark it on my habitcal. It was a minor transgression... But red nonetheless. Time to re-evaluate and regroup.

lpearlmom

Totally agree chani. Also, when I have those little feeling fat attacks, the first thing I feel like doing is eating because it's so comforting. So on a practical level it's problematic as well.

Okay sorry oolala you can have your thread back now!

lpearlmom

Omygoodness!! You poor thing! Glad you finally got your electricity back on but next time hop on a plane & you can defrost in my backyard.

lpearlmom

Hehe I know we have beautiful winters. However you guys won't be feeling too envious when it's the middle of summer and 115 degrees out! My kids are true desert kid btw--they are freezing in the mornings when it's 45 degrees outside. Anyway stay warm and I'll try to send some of this sunshine your w...

lpearlmom

Much better day today. I remembered what DH said about me needing to make sure I got plenty of sunlight everyday so I spent some time outside picking fruit and reading. It's so beautiful this time of year (70 degrees today) so I should really take advantage of the weather. Girls are back in school s...

lpearlmom

You're doing great auto!! I do that too when things are going really well I feel myself bracing for something bad to happen. You're working hard to make this happen so enjoy the fruits of your labor!

Linda

lpearlmom

Just wanted to chime in on the shame issue real briefly. I think shame is a good tool when someone is in denial to kind of shock them into reality but I don't think it's a good long term motivator. Joy is a much better long term motivator than shame IMO. Think about all the joyless diets we've given...

lpearlmom

Thank you chani!! You are too sweet!

I felt this way too when we first moved to Az. I guess I thought it'd be different since we just moved across town. You're right I need to be gentle with myself.

Thanks for stopping by my thread.

Linda

lpearlmom

Oh I love it! Actually scottsdale is the place to be if you're Jewish. I was raised by my Irish catholic mom who married a Jewish man so we celebrated everything. I married a Jewish guy and my sister married an Irish catholic one so I guess we split the difference. ;) Sounds like you have the perfec...

lpearlmom

Ok if you've already got the exercise down then that's great!

Very cool about Az--what part? I guess you probably know there aren't many Jewish people here. Our family is apart of the tiny Jewish population here!

lpearlmom

Hi clarebear! Glad the weighing didn't freak you out too much. I'm still too afraid to get on the scale. It doesn't sound like you have much weight to lose, if any, so it will probably come off quite slowly. The important thing if you've found peace with you're eating. Remember that beauty comes in ...

lpearlmom

Just wanted to say a belated welcome! Sounds like things are going well. You might not want to worry too much about exercise till you get your eating habit down. I found it much easier to wait a few months.

Anyway keep up the good work!

Linda

lpearlmom

Welcome!

lpearlmom

Glad things are going well! I've never been one to stay home with my babies either. When my first one was 3 days old we took her to baby gap. I mean a girl has to stay stylish, right?

lpearlmom

Thank you guys so much for the support!! Auto: I'm hoping it's just a little glitch. I'm susceptible to depression and it seems to happen when several difficult situations converge at once. It also seems to happen more often when I'm not overeating. It's such a weird thing. Not just like feeling a l...

lpearlmom

No worries JW! That probably would have been my first reaction too! It's great that you're getting bored with NoS. It means food is falling in its rightful place. I just wanted everyday to feel as good as my N days. I knew I couldn't do without any treats or exceptions ever and figured I was respons...

lpearlmom

Thanks so much for the encouragement Diligence! I'm sure I won't be going anywhere. I need to keep myself in check after all!

lpearlmom

No I don't think you or anyone else here is mean auto! I just felt like I got slammed even before even getting out of the gate. I think I'm just feeling more sensitive given the change in our social situation. I guess I don't want to lose the sense of belonging that I felt on this board on top of ev...

lpearlmom

Thanks so much diligence! I'm just in a sort of limbo state between old friends & new friends but that's to be expected with the move. I guess I didn't realize how much I'd miss going out to target or the grocery store & constantly bumping into people I know. My weekend is going really well. It feel...

lpearlmom

I wouldn't worry about it too much. Eating because you were hungry is very different than eating out of boredom or stress. The fact that you just added another meal instead of nonstop snacking shows how much the meal habit is ingrained in you.

Have a great weekend!

Linda

lpearlmom

Oh Sinnie, I'm So so happy for you!! Congratulations on your beautiful baby girl!!!

*hugs* linda

lpearlmom

I always check in with my appetite asking myself what am I in the mood for and if I switch something up all the better because if I force myself to eat what I really would have rather not, it would lead to rebellion I definitely agree with this. That's the only part of intuitive eating I kept. I al...

lpearlmom

Welcome back clarebear! So glad you had a fun time!

I think your S day plan sounds fine. If it starts to feel too restrictive, you can always revise it. Can't fail S days so doesn't hurt to experiment.

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you auto! Definitely more challenging with the kids home for the break!

lpearlmom

I think your food choices are absolutely fine. You're doing a great job with so many aspects of your life.

Enjoy the rest of your visit!

Linda

lpearlmom

Love that idea JW. I reached out today to some friends in the area that we've lost touch with and they're coming over for dinner soon. Also, we're going camping with a jeep club in a couple weeks so I'm feeling a little better. I just need to make a little effort and it'll be fine. When we moved int...

lpearlmom

Really a larger part of binging I think comes from diets that are too restrictive. There's an almost impossible to ignore biological drive that comes with those kinds of diets. Here's an interesting study that you're probably already aware of: http://junkfoodscience.blogspot.com/2008/02/how-weve-cam...

lpearlmom

Yay--you did it! Happy New Year and thanks so much for stopping by my thread. You always know just what to say.

Linda

lpearlmom

Okay I know we're suppose to be full of hope & optimism on the first but I'm feeling a little down today. Since the move in May, new friendships just haven't happened for me & our social life is pretty dismal. I haven really put any effort into it so I guess I can't complain. I guess I'm feeling ups...

lpearlmom

Awesome 4island! Remember this good feeling. Not wanting to lose precisely that good feeling is what has carried me through successfully the last few months. A little snack between meals never seemed worth giving up my newfound peace esp when my next meal was always just around the corner. Keep up t...

lpearlmom

Hi Tobiasmom-- yes mark bittman's cookbook is amazing. I have a huge cookbook collection and feel like I've been on the quest for the perfect cookbook for years and may have finally found it. I love it because it's simple but not dumbed downed. He uses mostly whole foods which I love. Also, I like t...

lpearlmom

Great job making it through esp under rough conditions! It'll get easier. I agree w the no weighing thing too. The first time I did NoS I quit because I wasn't losing weight fast enough. This time my main motivation was to have sanity with my food issues so I've stayed off the scales. Well it's take...

lpearlmom

Thanks for your support auto--it's much appreciated!

lpearlmom

Looks like your plans are going well so far. Great job!

I'm trying out your spending idea. I'm going to have no spending days on Tues, Thursdays & Sundays. Will be hard especially with kids home for the break. I may start Sunday actually. Anyway thanks for the idea.

Linda

lpearlmom

Great day again. Felt great to wake up on Monday morning without a food hangover. I'm really feeling good about my new plan. We went to the train park today and everyone got ice cream including the adults (except me). It didn't even occur to me to get one since it wasn't a planned S event so I'm fee...

lpearlmom

Okay, best weekend ever! I feel so good. No stuffed, sick feeling. I am so happy and feel like maybe I can put an end to my binging once and for all--not just on N days. It's such a relief. I realize that floating S events will be tricky but I couldn't have contained this weekend without having that...

lpearlmom

Awesome automated. Sounds like you have a good, albeit complicated, system in place and most importantly are really enjoying it. When I was in teaching school ( yes, I used to be a teacher too) a group of us were assigned to do a presentation on homeschooling. At the beginning we all took the stance...

lpearlmom

Just curious how you homeschool when you work or does hubby do it? Something I've toyed with on & off with my girls so curious how different people manage it.

Linda

lpearlmom

Just checking on you Kookie. Hope all is well!

Linda

lpearlmom

Sounds great auto! I'm sure you will fine tune it as you go.

Let us know how it goes.

Linda

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