Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

Good to see you still around! College credit?

lpearlmom

Hi everyone! Thanks so much for checking on me. I have been peaking in now and then to see how everyone is doing but just needed a little break from posting. Things are going really well for the most part. My weight kept creeping up and was up to a high of 180 but I got back into the fasting groove ...

lpearlmom

I love all the thought you’ve put into this and enjoyed reading your ideas.

Thanks for sharing and please ket us know how it goes!

lpearlmom

Thank you worth for sharing! That was the perfect amount of detail and really helpful. I actually pasted it to my notes so I could come back to it as needed. I don’t know why I can’t seem to make it work for me right now but am not giving up.

lpearlmom

So great to hear what a wonderful place you’re in. I wish IF worked for me as well. I’m struggling to try to find a good plan for me. I am inspired y you to stop weighing for awhile as it really messes with my head. Questions (if you don’t mind). How do you decide how long to fast every day? Do you ...

lpearlmom

Oh gotcha! Sounds like mindful eating? I could use some work in that area. GL!

lpearlmom

Oh dear, today did not go well. I think there was a little wtf going on due to my frustration with my weight being up. I know Im being super impatient but ugh, ugh, ugh. It feels really unfair that this had to be so hard. I guess im feeling a little sorry for myself but back on the horse tomorrow. P...

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118 lbs?? 😳 You must have had to buy a whole new wardrobe by now! Congrats! Your talk of yogurt made me really crave some so when I went to the store I bought some Siggi yogurt—yum! I’m jealous of your access to local yogurt. I have a yogurt maker but haven’t used it for awhile. May be time to break...

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Ugh, ate too much today. Oh well, i guess that’s what weekends are for. I had a nice day just doing a few things around the house. I also spent some time by the pool playing sudoku (my latest obsession). The weather is finally cooling down and was really a beautiful day. Tomorrow Rosebud goes back t...

lpearlmom

Wb! Great to hear your son is doing so well. He is really lucky to have such attentive & caring parents. Also great to hear that you’re managing your MS. Definitely seems like a good time to jump back in the NoS train.

Gl!

lpearlmom

Good luck! What is your current plan?

lpearlmom

Yikes! That’s happened to me twice. Really miserable but they should be able to get the wax out for you. I went to a specialist both times & the relief was immediate! GL!

lpearlmom

Thanks so much auto!! Was exactly what i needed. Money well spent for sure. Today went well. I took Rosebud to her volunteer work and instead of trying to use that time to run an errand, I hung out at the bookstore and drank tea while reading. Well, actually i researched skincare products. Not sure ...

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Thanks Octavia! It took a few days but was fine during the trip. We got back yesterday and wow, we had such a fun time! I was worried it wouldn’t be nice enough because I heard carnival isn’t exactly high class but we loved it. Doc and I got a suite and it was spacious and beautiful. We really loved...

lpearlmom

Happy happy birthday!!

Hope you have a wonderful day!!

lpearlmom

They’re 14 & 16 so we are in the thick of it. Ive learned the less i say the better. When i do that they often come to their senses and apologize on their own. Im also having to learn to let go a bit. They really so not like to be coddled. We’re going to cozumel & Yucatan. Im excited but getting rea...

lpearlmom

Stupid back. Maybe it’s time to be really easy in yourself again for a bit. You’ve also done a heck of a lot of emotional work too which can be exhausting. Hope you start to feel better soon!

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Thank you auto! I know, it’s so hard. I was just so so grateful for a zero drama day! And i got pretty much everything done that was on my list. I did ALL the laundry, cleaned out the frig, dealt with some last minute cruise stuff and even made dinner and took Rosebud to her piano lessons. Tomorrow ...

lpearlmom

Sorry about your back pain. That really is miserable!

lpearlmom

Omg, that’s definitely the case. Im exhausted. Today was another emotional rollercoaster with the girls. I’m too tired to go into it but I think we’ve finally worked it all out for now. Thank goodness tomorrow is late start. We can all sleep in an extra hour. 🙏 Then we judt have to get through Thurs...

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Lol on the baked potato thing! 😁 And I totally relate with the frustrations of cooking for others. My husband & youngest pretty much love everything I cook but my oldest will often heat something from the freezer in lieu of my cooking. It gets annoying but I let it go. I figure she’s trying to asser...

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Yay! So glad you are getting support. It makes such a difference. I know bingeing doesn’t feel good. I’ve come to think that bingeing is our bodies way of getting what we need when we over restrict but that’s probably too simplistic. Does this program have an overriding philosophy or is it a more mu...

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Good luck with the cake! I dont even like cake but ice cream can tempt me!

So are fasting? Still doing the Longo thing? Missed your current plan i think or maybe you’re not wanting to share.

Anyway, hope yoga was nice. I wish i could get into it.

lpearlmom

Boy i sounded grumpy last night. I worked things out with my friend so i think we’re okay. I just overthink everything i guess. Today was pretty good. Both my girls have been a bit emotional lately. Sweetpea is still having trouble at school and had a little breakdown last night. There’s a whole gro...

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Went to our cookbook club Brunch and had fun but im officially burnt out on other ppl. Can’t i just hang out with my dogs? Other ppl take SO much work! It’ll be nice to go on the cruise and get away from everyone for awhile. 13/5.5 174.2+lbs Break (11am): all kinds of southern brunch food—grits, cor...

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Sorry you had a rough time but I think it’s awesome that you recognized you needed some space and removed yourself from the situation so you could regroup. Sounds like you just needed some self-care and you were able to come back with fresh eyes and handle it in a way that felt better to you. I love...

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It’s such a struggle finding what works isn’t it? I really like Kayla but her plan doesn't work for me at all. Clean fasting works better for me and I could never understand the whole omad thing. Where does one meal start and end? I do much better with an eating window. I also do not do well with ta...

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So good to see you here Octavia! I agree about making one’s own plan. I guess thats what we’re all trying to do to some extent or another. I know it’s crazy that I'm doing IF again but i was gaining weight with no end in sight without it. Also, when i went back and read my thread, I realized how hap...

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Oh dear, I’m so mad at myself! I had a huge chai on Thursday even though i could tell it wasn’t going to end well and now I’m having a horrible reflux episode. It’s terrible timing too because we are supposed to go to dinner with friends tomorrow night and then Sunday is our cookbook club. Not to me...

lpearlmom

Yay for first and second Fridays! I bet once you fully trust that you'll be getting regular meals and snacks, a lot that food anxiety will go away for you.

Sounds like you’re starting to get in your groove a bit! Enjoy your weekend!

lpearlmom

No not at all and sounds like we are in the exact same place. I have done all of the above too and reached the same conclusion basically! We are probably in some of the same fb groups!

lpearlmom

Alene, I could talk about this stuff forever. I do support the ideas behind HAES but with the reality check that not everyone is going to be able to make peace with their larger bodies. I don’t know if you listen to Food Psych podcast at all but she talks a lot about weight stigma and how that is a ...

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Uneventful day for once. The cooler weather has calmed everyone down and we’re all in better spirits. 23/4 174.9 lbs Finally some movement. Let’s see if things continue this way. Break (4pm): popcorn, smoothie, olives, couple of veggie chips Dinner: spaghetti squash w/ marinara sauce & “meatballs”, ...

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Oh I don’t even know what to say. I’m in tears over here thinking of how painful that all was and is for you. I can definitely understand your 12 year old self must have felt so powerless in that situation and just wanted to do something to make sure she didn’t lose her beloved companion. Im so upse...

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Alene, glad you’re enjoying it. I feel like i must sound like a crazy person which might not be far off but it’s just all that internal stuff that goes on that nobody really sees. And yes I really struggle with dieting AND wanting to be body positive. Thin privilege is such a huge reality in our cul...

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I don’t do well with chaos either so I totally get it. Im sure things will calm down a bit. I used to teach preschool. I kind of miss it but it’s definitely challenging and I’m sure special needs has it’s own layer of extra challenges as well. Great job regrouping and problem solving. You will get t...

lpearlmom

Sorry you’re going through a stressful time. Glad you were able to stick to your NoS routine though.

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Ooh love the ballet. I bet Seattle has a some great shows! Oh dear, Rosebud really pissed me off on the drive home today and I snapped at her. I grounded her too which she deserved but i wish i hadn't lost my temper. I hate fighting with Rosebud. She’s very stubborn so it takes awhile to get to the ...

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Hope your first day went well and that NoS will help things during the school year. Love that you’re excited to see the kids. What grade?

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Ooohh wish i could see your hair. I bet it looks great!! Sounds like you had a great time. So hsppy to hear!

lpearlmom

And sorry that I hate your friend with the great hair that never misses a chance to namaste you. JK! :lol: Lol auto! I like her a lot but yeah she’s a little too perfect sometimes. Like I don’t think I’ve ever heard her cuss. I don’t know. I’ve spent a lot of time with her but have yet to really cl...

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Today was interesting. I went to a campaign kick off and then Doc & I were supposed to go to a wine tasting afterwards but he couldn’t go at the last minute. I couldn’t find anyone to go with me and suddenly felt a little insecure about my social life. I guess i felt like i had more friends than i r...

lpearlmom

Ive had those times in my life. Usually when im very engaged in something else. It’s a good feeling. Enjoy!

lpearlmom

Thanks Alene—it’s quite a rollercoaster ride! ☺️ Omg, fasting was tough today. I must be getting to the end of my glycogen stores—yay! My plan was to have a 3.5 hr window but after 3 hrs I felt done. Getting back in my fasting groove. 💜💜 Our cruise is in 2 wks and i feel completely unprepared. I don...

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Oh yup, I can see you definitely can relate Kathleen! There is a lot of pressure to do it all. I love being a sahm but I do worry what I will do if something happens to doc. I have irrational fears of living on the streets. I’ll figure it out, hopefully... Today went well. Sweetpea was in a mood thi...

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“Dem Convention” made me smile.

The only way I can walk my dogs is by getting up at 5:15am. It’s only happening about 2-3x/wk at this point. Anyway, hope you can find a routine that works for you.

lpearlmom

Fantastic stuff! Sounds like you’re in a really great place & able to let go of some perfectionist thinking.

lpearlmom

Great job with the eating! You have to find what works best for you, not someone else. I think that’s key!

lpearlmom

Okay finally had a chance to read back on some of your thread! I love that your embracing your gray. My neighbor did that recently and she looks great. I bet you will inspire other ppl to do the same and your sister can go take a hike. Your body, your choice. As far as your tough day with your kids....

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Auto: that’s actually really helpful to hear that this is common among drs wives. It’s true that we end up taking on pretty much everything else because of how much they work. I almost think that nothing’s going to happen till both kids are at least fully mobile. But it doesn’t hurt to think about m...

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You can definitely adapt NoS to 4 or 5 meals. Like you said it’s just the consistency that matters. Maybe just use smaller plates? From my experience, most binge eating comes from restriction so following a plan that eliminates that feeling would be key I’d think. You can always progress to 3 plates...

lpearlmom

Great to see you posting again! I like your plan.

lpearlmom

Oh I know you’re not really but always cringe when i re-read my posts so just wanted to put it out there! Today was good. I fasted 23 hrs with relative ease so I must have fasting muscle memory of sorts. I have to say it felt really good and much easier with the clear boundary of clean fasting only....

lpearlmom

Welcome! Alene was the name of one of my best friends when I was growing up so gives me fond memories.

This is a great, supportive group of ppl. So glad you’re joining us!

lpearlmom

I am not all caught up on your thread but wanted to say, i also really dislike making lunches for my kids. When they have school vacations thats the number one thing im excited about—not having to make them. Now Rosebud gets school lunches and sweetpea is happy if i throw just about anything into a ...

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Auto: That’s a great quote. I guess it’s okay that I messed up. My biggest fear was gaining all the weight back and running into ppl but it really hasn't been a big deal. Kathleen: Thanks! It is hard! :/ It kind of sucks that i have to start all over but sometimes you just have to pick yourself up a...

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Thanks, you guys! Well things have been a bit rough. I continue to gain weight and am definitely starting menopause. I had my first hot flash today and am having other fun symptoms. Also, dh got his blood work back and his results were not good. Its back to low carb and exercise for him. We also had...

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Sorry you’re struggling too. You’re definitely NOT a bad person. Btw, I pm’ed you.

Gl!

lpearlmom

So I don’t mean to be overly dramatic but am planning on taking a little break from this board. I just didn’t want my last post to be the one about the photos as that’s just too depressing so wanted to post one more time before my break. I just cannot diet in any way shape or form anymore. I wish i ...

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Congrats on the weight loss!

lpearlmom

So much good stuff here. You are inspiring me to face my emotions head on. So hard! Oh Rosebud tells me i love tessa more than her. It’s not true, of course, but it’s just such a simpler kind of love. I love how well you handled it. And the taking walks to get in touch with what you’re really feelin...

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Day 6 Ate way too too much! My mood started high but ended a little shaky. I was looking at old photos with sweetpea and had so many feelings. It was hard looking at that awkward little girl and then that beautiful young woman who had no clue how beautiful she was and then my kids when they were tin...

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Yup the teen years are so challenging. Don’t get me wrong, they're some great things too. They are a lot of fun at this age when theyre not driving me crazy and it’s pretty cool to see them becoming little adults. Auto: thank you. One thing give always try to do is own my mistakes with them. I feel ...

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I think your feelings of wishing you were more charismatic is okay snd very normal. Have you seen all the self-help books in this area? Probably the fact that you have shame around that issue is more problematic then anything else but I totally get it. Just the fact that you’re opening up about thes...

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That makes sense Kathleen. We will get her a car but im not in a hurry. Today was a little rough. We are doing an eight week Dream Academy every Thursday night with both the girls at Rosebud’s school. It helps prepare you for college by coming up with an individual plan for each kid. They also get 2...

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Thank you square. Yeah the daily weighing stresses me out too. If its up, I’m frustrated and discouraged. If it’s down I feel great and motivated but sometimes it can lead to overeating as well if i feel like I now deserve it. Once a week is plenty! 20/4 is really doable too. Auto: Im in the car abo...

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So so jelly of your berries!!!

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Sorry square. I hope your week is better. :/ Oh dang, i hate when that happens Octavia! I guess there must be something in the air! Im hoping things turn around for all of us soon. Sooooo after a crazy weekend I’ve thought about what I really want and what is going to be sustainable for me. I’ve dec...

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I hear ya on the weight loss not being a great motivator. The scale is just too darn finicky for us to really have much control over that number. What we can control is creating habits that bring more joy and sanity to our lives. At this point I want a healthy relationship with food more than i want...

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Omygosh, I hear you on the ww kids app. So upsetting! Glad you found your way back to sanity. When I was doing traditional diets, I noticed the length of time that I could tolerate a new diet got shorter and shorter till I’d have days of starting a diet in the morning and quitting by dinner time. 😊 ...

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Definitely enjoy your vacation! I find I don’t usually gain much on vacation because I’m often more active than usual which seems to counteract any extra eating. Any weight that I do gain though comes off within a week as it’s usually mostly water weight. I was 150 at my lowest when I was fasting an...

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Omygosh been like non stop eating for two days.

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Auto: It’s SO good! Oh boy did i eat a lot today. Didn't get all my steps in either. 17/7 Break (1pm): salad, couple handfuls of popcorn, 5 chocolate fruits, chai Snack: guacamole & chips, 2 pieces of cheese w crackers Dinner: cornmeal waffle w/ creamed mushrooms Dessert: rosemary chocolate chip coo...

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5 tines?? Ugh, sorry! :/

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Hey Candace, the problem with reflux is the meds help but they have some pretty bad side effects when used long term. You can have surgery but it’s not always effective and can end up causing other problems. Other times it’s very effective though so I guess it’s a gamble. If I could completely cut o...

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Oh yeah I’m familiar with Longo. I’ve heard some interviews with him on some of the IF podcasts I listen to. I can’t take nutrition advice too seriously one way or another anymore because, like you said, everyone’s got an agenda. I think the most unbiased dietician I’ve come across is Ellyn Satter. ...

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Thanks Candace! I didn’t fast today because when i got home from the gym, i just really wanted a bowl of cereal. I really don’t know what Im doing right now but will hopefully figure it out. IF— Pros: 1) Don’t have to count anything. 2) Helps my reflux. 3) can have a period of grazing. 4) The only t...

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Gosh, i so get the guilt over your children. I was such an emotional wreck when my kids were young and it’s hard not to feel badly about it. I did a lot of inappropriate yelling & lashing out. I think it was a combination of sleep deprivation, hormones and generally feeling overwhelmed. Doesn’t excu...

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Wow, that’s awesome! Im an activist here in Arizona and have worked on a couple campaigns. Best of luck to you!

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Well, at the crack of dawn they finally left this morning. They brought us flowers, wine , beer and baked goods last night with a sweet thank you card. I think we left on a good note but I’m definitely happy to have the house back! Rosebud was equally happy but sweetpea said she missed them. Thats m...

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I always feel better after writing down what i felt like was a really wild day as it’s inevitably not nearly as over the top as i thought. Auto: funny about the kiwi and how sweet of you to want to buy ine for your teacher. Sometimes i pack one in my kids lunch with a knife and spoon so they can cut...

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Omgosh congrats on a 100 days!! 🎉🥳 That is amazing and your list just blows me away. So much good has come from your alcohol free days. You definitely should feel proud as i know how hard you had to fight to get to this place. I love that you just dont give up. Great plan on not complaining as long ...

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I did tell her about the clothes and she was apologetic. I think we’re okay. Im mostly mad at myself for not setting some ground rules down first. This is a lesson i seem to have to keep re-leatning. I tend to reflexively say yes without setting some clear boundaries first and then later Im in too d...

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Omg, yes I really want my house back and today ladyguest shrunk my favorite top that I cannot replace because nobody carries it anymore. Who throws another persons laundry in the dryer without asking?? I think she shrunk some of Rosebud’s clothes too. I was really disappointed and sad but didnt want...

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Love sangria! Campaign? Are you running for something?

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Actually when Im in the thick of it, it’s fun or at least exciting & engaging. Ive also met so many wonderful people. It’s been worth it for sure but sometimes I rather not have the leadership role but will stick to it for as long as I can. I cannot believe how exhausted I am each night. Ive been ge...

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Glad you enjoyed the video. Thought it might be up your alley!

Yay for vacation and for finishing your class! Enjoy your time with your boys.

lpearlmom

Wb! You got this!!

lpearlmom

Looks like you're doing well! I don't know why but i tend to drink more when im eating less. I think it’s because even though i know food is off limits after dinner, i can still have a glass of wine so it’s like a little treat.

lpearlmom

I know i do take breaks but Im an activist and am a leader of an Indivisible group so I have to be somewhat engaged and aware.

Thanks for doing your part though. It’s tough either way!

lpearlmom

So glad you had another wonderful counseling session. Oh that childhood stuff can effect us far and wide I know. It’s not easy to face these issues. You should be proud. Btw, what about stevia sweetened diet sodas? I know some theorize it has less of an insulin effect. I found this video interesting...

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Wow, what would I do without you all. You’re the best. Wow, the reflux sounds like a pain in the ass. So sorry you're dealing with that. Not okay! Best wishes for removing that particular thorn in your side. Thank you it sucks! I really think i need a new doctor but hard to fund another one that tak...

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Thanks cedar! Im really enjoying it and like that she doesn’t have an agenda. She’s not an obesity researcher nor us she in the haes/IE camp. She’s all about gathering the facts. I struggle so much with guilt over wanting to lose weight. It seems shallow and anti-feminst. I also struggle because cer...

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Good for you for brainstorming and trying to think about this logically. I have heard the theory that sugar substitutes can cause an insulin response in some ppl. Doc seemed doubtful when i told him this but it may be worth considering. Im sad for you too. You've made so many positive changes. It do...

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Your food sounds so good. Hope you feel better soon!

lpearlmom

Thanks you guys. Today was another day of crappy eating but at least i did get my 5 miles in. I took the plunge and bought my fancy purse. It took me forever to decide & Im still second guessing myself a bit. I bought a brown Louis Vuitton purse with red trim. It’s beautiful but im worried i dont ha...

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Omgosh...ate way too much tonight and definitely did not stick to NoS today. *sigh* Break: 1/2 muffin, yogurt parfait Lunch: smoothie, 3 costco samples, sf iced blended Dinner: chips, salsa, 1/2 veggie burrito, couple bites quesadilla, rice, beans, horchata , Margarita Ugh, having our friends here i...

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Thanks for the great feedback Candace! You'd think I’d know how to do this NoS thing after years of doing it but im just not sure if i can lose weight without some serious mods. I also dont even know if i want to lose weight. The feminist/activist/rebel in my says F that but the people pleaser/atten...

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Thanks for the feedback auto & square. I’m also hoping my body will adjust to the smaller portions. Today was a bit better although I did eat a big dinner. I was really not feeling well today but had house guests coming so had to pull it together. Oh well, it got me to clean the house at least. Brea...

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Oh I’m the baby too! I guess I was thinking more like 8-10 kids and maybe two cars. Anyway, I won’t dwell on it. Ditto what everyone else said, you’re such a warm, supportive & all around lovely person. This forum wouldn’t be the same without you and I’m so happy you’re feeling comfortable opening u...

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