Everyday Systems

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Hi there. I really love cheese too. It's almost as bad as sugar for me once I start nibbling

Hope you have a lovely work event good call to make it an S event. We need fun and relaxation and it's good to plan it in thus way I think. Have fun

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Hi there. Sorry no LAM yesterday and sad about your friend. It's so painful when dear friends are having hard times. I imagine you are a very good friend so I'm sure talking to you helped. Hobourn to Liverpool Street sounds lovely. There are so many special little walks in London. I loved it when I ...

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Thank you , thank you dear fellow travellers. It means so much to have your support. Today another green day. Hooray :) been a while since that happened. I realise I have a sort of Scarlet O'Hara syndrome ( from Gone with the a Wind). I keep allowing myself to fail because part of me says ' tomorrow...

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Thanks for dropping by Linda. I appreciate it so much. Well today was a green day :) :) first one for ages and a good start to my 21 day challenge. I really wobbled in the afternoon and just managed to divert myself away from buying sweeties. A major achievement for me. Sad. But true :) Roll on day ...

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Right, I am back, been quite unwell but now feeling more myself. Had lots of time to think about my health and about NoS etc. So feeling quite positive. Painkillers are working ok and I now have some time to get my habits sorted out. I reread the podcast about habits which was really helpful. I have...

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Wow, you are awesome. What a strong and well thought out approach. Your exercise is really helping to sustain your weightloss. I think you have cracked it

won't it be exciting when you reach your target weight

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Thank you Ironchef and Eschano. Today not brilliant. Can't claim my first success, lasted till 5 ish. But stayed on at work desperate to finish a project to be presented tomorrow. Got very stressed, ate very badly :-( Perhaps expected too much from myself today. Need to get my habit settled first. O...

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HI Over43, wow your successes are piling up, well done you

I think exercising early morning is the answer for me as I am too tired by the evening. Enjoy your day and keep going you are doing brilliantly.

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OK, I'm back from holiday and I am back at work. I feel renewed and re-energized. I have a new doctor who is really on my side and is going to support me in trying to change my life and get a grip on my pain and confusion about my health and my food etc etc.... Which is great :-) I came back to this...

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Hi there over43. You are doing so brilliantly, I was really awestruck at the thought of you exercising so early in the morning!! But I also am trying to exercise early, I swim before I teach, not as early as you, but it calms the mind as well as helps the body!! Please tell me what an otter pop is, ...

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Hi there. Sorry you are still feeling so underpar, a cab home is a great LAM, have you tried afternoon naps, you can fit them in at all sorts of occasions. I am a great fan, even 5 mins dropping off refreshes me :lol: I am also a great believer in rearranging, or reorganising space, it is refreshing...

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Hi Auto. I think eschanos idea of a weeks break is a good one. Your changes are lifelong so a weeks holiday would be just that. A break from the everyday. I am finding just stopping trying so hard with everything is really helping me to settle and relax, but is not affecting my resolve at all. In fa...

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A steady day today. No mad eating, as I am away from work and not trying so hard to get green my body is starting to relax and I am not feeling out of control around food. I feel safer. Strange. LAM - went to see an exhibition by Matisse. Beautiful, amazing his use of colour and his determination to...

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Hi Eschano. I loved the train adventure

you are having some yummy treats and adventures - exciting stuff !!!

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Hi there, you are doing so well. I find your thread really impressive. Good steady weightloss again, that's good work

keep going, it will be so great when you reach your target.

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I have not written a testimonial either!! I thought it unwise. I see myself as a work in progress :lol: If it's any comfort. I have two grown up boys who have families of their own now. Getting them to do chores was always a struggle, although I persisted but sometimes had to scale down my expectati...

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Thank you for your kind support, iron, Linda and Eschano. Well a bit of a challenging day as my ankles so bad today could hardly walk and lots of pain. But that is to be expected I am in the middle of a bad flare up and I have not had a chance to get my alternative plans going. My eating was steady,...

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Hi Linda. I think you are right, sometimes we need to look at ourselves and change what we are uncomfortable with. That is not being self critical and harsh, just growing and changing as we go through life. I think you are a principled woman and that should not change, but if you feel you sometimes ...

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Hi auto , wow!! Sometimes my jaw just drops at how much you have accomplished, and not just once but regularly across so many challenges, you are awesome :) I really need some of your resolves and example to help me establish some good order in my life and accomplish the things I need to change. So ...

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Not a green day today. But a good day thinking about my health and recovery plan. I need to settle with noS but not for now, I am on holiday now for about 12 days. I really need a break so going to take it steady. See if I can get good health habits started. Looking to do LAM and have an adventure w...

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Thirty days is a great idea, I shall try to do that too , but I will be starting from today

Good luck with your days

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oooh this is exciting, I like the idea of an adventure each day, and I really should do LAM, as I am a bit weak in that department, more like BMTM ( be mean to myself :lol: ). You are having a great run of adventures and personal kindnesses, keep it up and I shall try and tread a little in your foot...

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Hi Ironchef. You give me such good wise advice. I know the answers to your challenges must lie within that wise brain of yours!! I think your plan for S days sounds really sensible. We are all finding our way, I think of noS now as a foundation. But know I may have to adapt it as I go along, that ma...

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Hi Linda. One the things that I have really admired about you as I have read your threads over the last year is your courage in standing up for things you believe in. I don't call that an abrasive personality I call that a principled personality. I always think it is important to be able to look mys...

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Thank you for dropping by Eschano. A strange day today. Went to see consultant. Wants me to take another very powerful drug. Not sure what to do. This disease will only get worse. I need to try and make a radical change in my life. So thinking about that at the moment. A week or so off work now so m...

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Hi oolala. I think you are doing really well not putting weight on and still keeping mainly to habit. Your underlying practices are so strong. There will of course bd ups and downs. You have told me this yourself. Being in limbo is a strange feeling. But I think it will pass. I must confess to a fai...

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Lots of thinking in the night. Especially about establishing habit - eating enough at each meal - being kinder to myself. I have gone back and read Oolalas early testimonials. She is such an inspiration to me. So a fresh start today. Breakfast - toast. plums, handful walnuts, grapes, fresh tomatoes ...

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Hi Linda. You are so inspiring for me. I really relate to your journey. I think you are right. You did brilliantly this year and your focus should remain on habits. It's because you keep reminding me it is about habit that I keep going in the face of difficult fails. Because I have seen you settle a...

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Hi there, thanks for dropping by my thread, I really hope your day goes well today. I'm rooting for you

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I think the idea of replacing deprivation systems with abundance systems is a fabulous one - enjoy

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Dear aspencer27 I am so grateful for your post and your kind understanding. I feel so beleaguered sometimes, and as you say it can be a vicious circle. I really do want to crack this. I am really going to think carefully about what you say. I am probably too hard on myself, but that is because I fee...

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Dear Ironchef Of course I am a person deserving kindness and support as are we all. That was not the point I was trying to make which was despite this support I still seem unable to put myself right. This is a critical issue for me. I am in a lot of pain every day and some of that pain and chronic j...

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Thank you everyone for your wise and kind support. I wish I deserved it. I'm retiring to lick my wounds. I have read many many posts and although people often struggle and have bad days. There are few people like me who really do not seem to be able to even get one green day under their belt. I don'...

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HI Linda I think when you change your routine and bring in more exercise it is always very tiring to start with. I am trying to up my exercise and like noS it seems to be about habit again, I need to make it as natural as brushing my teeth, but unlike brushing my teeth it is often tiring. You are do...

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Well I nearly made it, but ended up eating lots of jam of all things late in the evening, plus lots of dried peaches ( a favourite of mine) I rarely eat out of control in the evening it is afternoon or early evening that I am at my worst so I am infuriated with myself. I wanted that green, but clear...

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Thank you so much Iron and Linda, it is weird checking in like this but somehow very encouraging - Hot drink is being tried!!

Linda we are the same weight

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HI Gingerpie Hang in there, I often have milk and boiling water as I cannot drink tea, but it is just like tea to me, and sometimes I have some sugar in it - its not funny business, its wise business, that may have staved of munching something more substantial!!. Sad to read the news about your mum,...

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Thank you Over43, and well done on your success :-) I have decided to try and post throughout the day today to try and keep myself on track, I really need a green. Last night read lots of posts, I realise that the NoS book is the foundation, our corner stone, but there is a whole library and world o...

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Thank you, thank you Linda and Ironchef. I have woken up very early. Read lots of posts. Feel enthused and determined. Today may just be the start of something good. Yay

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Wosnes thank you for this thread. The articles are great and really helped me think through some issues I am struggling with. It is getting so hard to know how we should all eat. Yet most of us are in the greatly privileged position of living much longer and healthier lives than our predecessors. I ...

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Oh dear. Fail, fail, fail, fail, fail, fail , fail.......... Really I wonder what I am doing here. I feel a fraud even posting and pretending to do noS. I seem incapable at the moment. But I also know this is my only chance. So I just keep trying. Every morning I recommit. Every day I stumble and fa...

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Welcome back ZippaDee. Good luck with your fresh start. As usual I need one too. Let's both hang in there and get some greens under our belts.

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Hi Linda. You are back, that is so brilliant. I am so glad. We started the same time and you are doing so brilliantly. Hang in there. You are changing for life that means it gets wearisome and hard at times. I think you may need to cut yourself a little slack. Thanks for dropping by my thread. I am ...

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Thank you ironchef. Steady Sunday today. Nothing too excessive. Still getting too tired and a bit stressed. Need to work on this. The week ahead is a major challenge for me. I really want to get noS right this week. Something has to change. I am unhappy and putting weight on. So time to get the vani...

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Horrible week. Now trying again. Need the accountability. Trying to just do it not overthink it. Breakfast - peaches, hazel nuts and frothy soya milk with sugar Snacks in the day - apple, olives, plum. Fresh peas Lunch - tomato and lettuce sandwich with Mayo, half cheese sandwich Dinner - panzanella...

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A bad fail today. Still getting over yesterday's funeral I think. Ate ok in the morning but collapsed in the afternoon then had very tearful talk with my partner about how bad I felt about myself and how much food I was eating. It was good really to get it out in the open. I'm still trying. It'll st...

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Hooray!!!! Well done you. I am really impressed and encouraged by your progress. Keep going

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Thank you Ironchef you are right I have been feeling very negative. But thinking a lot and trying to find a way through. After reading your post I looked carefully at my habitcal. I am monitoring three things. NoS, exercise and painkillers. This month I think I have done really well on my exercise w...

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Monday - bingeing as usual Tuesday - bingeing as usual. Not much else to say I am ruining my relationship, my health and my body. I'm not sure how to break through this. It's like I just don't care enough about myself or my loved ones. Tomorrow I go to another funeral of a dear friend. I hope like a...

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Hi Linda. I shall miss you so much. Come back soon x

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Hi there. This all sounds so brilliant. I love the thought of doable changes. Can you tell me what fitness app you are using. I wonder if it will help me nutrition wise. Especially as you have found it helps with deficiencies. I need to be really careful diet wise because of food allergies but also ...

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Hi Merrykat well done for getting through the funeral without falling into a sweetie hole. I am so impressive and feel for you so much. Last year I lost one of my best friends and it totally derailed me for months!! I have now just lost another, the funeral is on Wednesday. I am going to hold your e...

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Really good to see tweaks in action and know they can work. Lighter plates seems like a good one for me too. An all green noS week is so impressive to me. I really tune in to your experience of not feeling full or overly hungry. I feel this must be a good state to aim for. Impressive :-) You are doi...

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Oh dear Linda. I am so sad for you. It is sooooo frustrating to not see any weight loss after all of your hard work and your willingness to commit to personal change. I really think that now you have your habits established you can pay closer attention to your actual plates and you may only need som...

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Happy anniversary. You are such a star!!! So glad you got your taste back. I had a virus after christmas and lost my taste for ages. It was so miserable. I ate like a madwoman trying to get some satisfaction from my food. Taste is a powerful thing it seems :lol: Have a great weekend and enjoy those ...

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Goodness so much to think about. Thank you all. I have had two very difficult days of pain and now exhausted. I am hoping that the weekend will see me through and next week I can start to put into practice all of your incredible advice. I have never felt so supported - or so understood - as I do now...

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Thank you for your kind support r.jean. You are right of course I must stick with the basics. Dear Oolala. When a wise friend you are to us all. Thank you for taking the time to really try and understand where I am coming from. My work I know is so problematic for me. I was off sick and in pain for ...

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Hi Linda. This is so frustrating for you. I really understand. But I feel very confident for you that weightloss will come. This has been a year of establishing habit and you have been awesomely good at doing so. Now I think you are right. You need to tweak. Quite possibly only a little, and weight ...

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"I don't think you're failing because you don't care enough about yourself. I think that the relief you get from eating when you're stressed from work is greater than any pay off you feel you can get from sticking to NoS right now" Oh goodness Linda. You have so nailed it for me. Thank you. You are ...

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Middle of the night. Tried to delete previous post - can't!! Oh well. Have now stopped feeling sorry for myself. Try again today. I realise I had lasted well until I got under extreme pressure at work. I must try to manage my stress at work better. This is such a big issue in my life. It will take a...

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I am ashamed to say I failed badly today. I managed until late in the day. I was very very busy at work and increasingly stressed. Then I started bingeing. I have been working under extreme pressure until about 11 pm tonight. Only just stopped and will be under pressure again in the morning. I don't...

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Hi Linda I am back posting again and was enjoying catching up with your thread. We started about the same time and your journey has always encouraged me so much. You have always supported me and so many others on this board with your kindness, insight and wisdom. I hope you look back on this year wi...

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Wow, this is great progress, you are really cracking it sweets wise. I am so impressed. Keep going with your sweet free month. It seems like your system is already settling into a routine that does not need sweets. Good stuff

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Thank you so much r.jean and MerryKat. Support is so sustaining. Today a good day. Success for day 2 of my 21 day challenge. I feel good about today. No sugar and no snacks. Ironchefs suggestion to add more to my plate has helped me especially at breakfast. Breakfast - porridge, soya milk mashed ban...

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Hi Ironchef. I love soup too, so much. You made me want to make some for the week ahead. Soup as a hug I love the whole concept. Much nicer than soup in a mug

You seem to be really well balanced at the moment. Safe enough to try new ways of eating. I find that impressive

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Thank you Ironchef and thank you r.jean your words are precious to me. R.jean 3.5 years of noS and losing 40lb. Wow what an inspiration that is my goal and you make it seem really possible. . Yesterday was a sad day but today I have felt much happier and although I have had sugar because it is an Sd...

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Hello there. Thank you for your kind post to me. I have found your thread and read it. I am so impressed. You are right we have some very similar issues to deal with. But I am so encouraged by your journey. I really need to feel that I can get to grips with my weight, my work and my health ( and my ...

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Dear Ironchef and Eschano. Thank you so much for taking time to support me. It makes me feel part of something special and not alone. We are so often alone with food. But not in a good way it would seem :( Ironchef I will try your hot drink idea. It is particularly hard for me when I am at work so n...

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Phew made it through the day. No sugar or seconds. One very small sugar free snack at 4 pm. Not noS as I would like to do it one day. But a great start to my sugar and binge control. Hooray

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Oh Merrykat thank you I needed those hugs :) I am getting through the day so far, never knew I would need to post several times a day, but today I really need to succeed. So far had nice lunch wholemeal toast and hazelnut butter and yeast extract and 2 peaches. Was very hungry at 4pm, needed sugar s...

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Ironchef, I cannot thank you enough for your kind and really helpful reply. I really needed it and I grealty appreciated it. I have taken your advice and I added some flaked almonds to my porridge this morning, so far is working well. I have taken out all food from my work room, including the dried ...

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Thank you Ironchef good advice I will check out the LAM idea. Today complete disaster. I often don't know why I keep posting when I am so unable to keep to the noS rules. Hopeless. Still I will trying to be accountable for a while longer this is my default position now. I know it can work and it mak...

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Thank you Oolala for such a good tip. I think you are spot on about needing enough good fats. They are also good for my joints. Merrykat dried peaches are a major weakness for me. I must keep a grip on how many I have. Today was terrible. Undermined by binge eating sugar candy again. I am infuriated...

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Good day no sugar wise which is my aim. But ate a lot of dried peaches. So not really a success. Must try harder tomorrow. I have one snack a day at 4ish otherwise just cannot cope. But is meant to be only a small thing. Breakfast - hazelnut butter and mashed banana sandwich Lunch - poached fish. Fr...

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HI Sweetaj I know just how you feel about eating and eating just because.... so do many many people on this board. You really struck a chord with me with your plea for some normalcy around food. I keep saying I just want to be an ordinary person about food.... I wish!! It will come for us both I am ...

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HI MerryKat I need to stop sugar for my health, but I also know that when I do manage to stop sugar ( have done it a few times in the past) then my whole body seems to relax and I do not feel so obsessed by food. Trouble is I always find it very hard to reach that sugar free state. I am allowing a l...

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Hi automated. Good to be back. Today good day for a Sunday. Only little bit of sugar in a home made yoghurt. I am really hoping I can keep this sugar reduction up. One day at a time though. I really think if I can control my sugar and nearly eliminate it. Then my out of control eating will ease. Wel...

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Thank you Oolala. As always wise and perceptive. I am following Walkerlori and making one small change at a time. This is no sugar. Today went well. I shall snack and have seconds on Saturdays. But I really need to get a grip on my sugar eating. So only cake on Sundays for a month of so. Today a suc...

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Hi Lori. I'm back posting for a bit. Struggling mostly with sugar. So having read your threads am combining micro resolution with no sugar. Starting one day at a time. Thanks for the tips. You're doing great

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I'm back been pretty unwell. Trying to get back into some kind of order. I need this accountability. My key thing. I must get a grip on my sugar eating. My aim. Just to get myself well and relaxed around food. I cannot bear to live under such food slavery. Why is it so hard. I don't know. But I am o...

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Oh dear I thought |I could have a little thumb sized piece of marzipan each day at work - I was wrong :oops: :oops: I am never really sure if it is better to have stuff around and try and resist it, so that you have a normal life like others with food. Or should I clear out anything dangerous in my ...

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Thank you JW. Yes a good end to the week. I've had a quiet weekend. Almost casting around to see what treats I can have. Strange, now I am bring more particular it is making a difference. No cake this weekend. But I did have raspberry jam on my left over Yorkshire pudding. This is an old Yorkshire t...

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Hi JW. How brilliant that your steady weight loss is continuing. You are such a strong guide for me. I also think, that your health problems will have really made your body hang on to weight in a particular way. Now your digestion is starting to work well I think it will make much better use of your...

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Lovely exhausting day with my granddaughter. We made cakes together, went swimming and played in the park. But it was tiring. I keep thinking I will wake up one day soon restored, without pain and not exhausted. But I guess it is not to be. This disease is here to stay. So I must adapt to the levels...

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Hi auto. So sorry you had such a bad day. I know how that feels

hope life feeling a bit lighter now. I had a think about your challenges and realised they were all in the negative. No this no that etc. maybe you should reframe them in the positive? Just a thought

Have a joyful weekend.

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Have a good weekend, read or listen to some of the podcasts. You can't do anything 'wrong' on an S day. It can feel pretty wild at times. But most of us have been there and we are still ok :) it is a pressure release valve and gradually you will have less and less pressure to release. This is a proc...

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Hey Linda. You are such a star. Your vegan challenge is going so well. I know this can be really hard. I have a lot of vegan friends. But you are doing it with style. Well done you :) Friends are funny aren't they? Where would we be without them and yet....... In my teaching I do a session about the...

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Thank you thank you wonderful noS sisters. Your wise words comfort and encourage me. I will certainly try not to be so hard on myself in future. Actually I had a revelation about my progress so far. I have started weighing myself a couple of times a week. Previously I have tried not to weight at all...

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Oolala. I totally uphold your right to whine :) except you are not much of a whiner more an inspirer and supporter :-). And you not so much whining as trying to find a way out and at our age that is challenging. Hang in there I think if you are looking for a change a door will open, but it takes tim...

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Hi there. You're doing great :) You're right! I think my grocery bills do go down when I am settled on noS I sometimes think wow is that it? I've only got three meals a day to sort and one of those - breakfast - is always sorted. It's kinda weird. Cos I have always needed lots of food in the house t...

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Sometimes it's so hard to be the adult

but someone's gotta do it

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Bless you Linda you are very wise. I am too hard on myself sometimes but other times like today I wish I was firmer. I have a sick body that needs care and yet here I am stuffing down rubbish food. I've done this all my life but really there is no time for this now. I need to lose weight. Slowly but...

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Oh dear a terrible day. Not quite sure what happened but now in a runaway munching mode aaaaargh :( Yes oolalala I am 5'7. And another inch wider no doubt after today. Please distract me from my self and let me know why my height is of interest :) Yes Eschano my food can be delicious. On a day like ...

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Hi Ruamgirl. I was just reading a link from another post and then following it further - as you do :lol: I found this A bottle of Vitamin Water â€“ considered a healthy beverage â€“ has 27 grams of sugar â€“ itâ€™s a jolt to anyoneâ€™s brain chemistry and blood sugar It came from this page which has...

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Hmm interesting thoughts Linda about a green day turning in to a red day and as a result then giving yourself permission to eat more. You did really well to hold on and not give way to your inner voice, the hardest voice to resist eh!! By the way what is Cajun tofu? You keep having it and I keep fan...

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Hi there. Hope you managed to get going. I know that one :( it's really hard to get on track when you're feeling grim. There are lots of teachers or former teachers on these boards. Most of us have felt or are feeling very stressed and undermined. But there is wonderful support here. One step at a t...

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So sorry to hear about your parents, I think you are doing brilliantly to stick with your dietary changes in the face of such a stressful set of circumstances. I hope their situation eases soon, i know how worrying such things can be for everyone. I am so glad you are feeling bit better in yourself....

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I love all your LAM ideas, they are so brilliant. I would love to do every one of them, and often do. In fact I could have written your list, how lovely to find such a kindred spirit :-) I would add, daydream, take time to look at nature ( I get so much joy each morning , even when I am hurrying to ...

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Ooooh I love books so much, I am addicted to reading and I love everything about them even to just feel the covers of books, I can't imagine my life without them. Thank goodness they are not fattening. I would be very very overweight and searching for a noBs diet

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