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Not a silly question. The clubs I walk with were already established. The working bee was the initiative of other women friends of mine, and evolved out of our existing friendship group. Not much help, I know. Membership of the working bee has changed over the years. I can only suggest try out your ...

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Mon check in: Eating - mostly OK except for supper one evening which I am not sure I needed. Next time I start feeling a bit empty after dinner, I will wait to see if the feeling develops into sleep stopping hunger or not. Exercise - a good week. Have regained my strength after being sick. 13km walk...

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Good to hear from you again Strawberry. I love that you still exercise - so inspiring.

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Saturday, May 4 I do NOT want to go through withdrawal again. The first week without alcohol, I had a freaking massive horrible wanna die headache EVERY day. I only just remembered this, because the second week I didn't have a single headache. Yay! But with the pain of the headaches gone, the grogg...

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I also don't want to go see the counselor and have them give me a guilt trip for not obviously thinking I should abstain forever. It's my understanding that counsellors in the field of alcohol addiction are moving away from the "must have total abstinence, it is the only way to go model". And even ...

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Hi Auto - I've never had addictive problems with alcohol, so nothing to offer there. (I stopped drinking when young because it made me feel terrible).
But I sympathise with your struggles, and wish you all the best with them.

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HI Octavia and Linda - so nice to have your positive responses

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Hi LInda, I wish you all the best & look forward to hearing about how things are with you.

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Hi Auto - some restriction, but also feeling blah sometimes meant lack of shopping & not wanting to cook, so - not always enough at meal times. Also, a slight weight gain & a few bouts of overeating was triggering a certain amount of anxiety about the whole thing, which is highly counter productive....

ladybird30

After having a third bout of eating for the sake of eating rather than because I needed food, I decided to take a break while I thought about things. My eating has settled down again, but my weight has gone up a couple of pounds since January. I don't want to let that influence my eating decisions, ...

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Good to hear that you are doing well.

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Hi Auto - sometimes my working bee friends are on a walk with me - we belong to the same social circle of people who like doing outdoor things. As I live alone, and have no close family nearby, belonging to various clubs is a necessity for me. I find it quite ironic that I am regarded as having a wi...

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Hi Oolala - what we do varies from week to week, depending on what needs doing, the weather, how we are feeling etc. It's decided by the person whose place we are at. It could be cleaning windows, clearing out a shed, lifting things that are too heavy for one person, being present while the home own...

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Thanks for your kind words Soprano & Auto.

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Weekly report: Mon 25 Mar - Wed - success Thurs - fail, supper Friday - success Sat - 3 meals Sun - normally I don't judge weekends as success or failure, but my eating was definitely out of the bounds of normal, moderate eating. After an extended lunch, I had dinner even though I wasn't hungry. I a...

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Thanks for the article Auto. It made me wonder if self-criticism was as negative as criticising other is.

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Weekly report: Mon - Fri - success Sat, Sun 3 meals. However, I misjudged somehow and the first meal on Sun was not long after midnight Sat. Didn't get much sleep. I think my circadian rhythms have been a bit screwed up from being so much inside for the last 2 weeks, and not being able to sleep prop...

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Good to hear that things are going well on the home front. I'm sure you will figure out the eating stuff as well.

ladybird30

Happy birthday, good to hear you are still going well.

ladybird30

Even in my bingeing days before I found No S, I was saved from many a junk food breakout by not keeping those sort of foods in the house. If I had to go out and buy them, I often decided it was more trouble than it was worth. Eventually I developed a personal rule - if it was in the house, I could e...

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Weekly report:

Mon - Wed - success
Thurs - 2 meals
Fri - success
Sat, Sun - 3 meals
Exercise - none as sick most of week. Over the worst of it by Friday.
Screen limitations - lots of mindless screening

ladybird30

Thanks Oolala. I walk because I enjoy it and it makes me feel good. Where I live, there are lots of nice places to walk.

ladybird30

Weekly report Mon 11 Mon - Fri: success, although Mon and Tues dinners were a bit OTT. Sat - 3 meals, the last being somewhat extended Sun - aimed for 3 meals, but because dinner was early, had supper as was getting hungry before bed again. On the whole, I think my appetite has started to settle dow...

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Sun Mar 10, 2019 2:20 pm

Oh - and drum roll...... this morning I did a full pull-up from a dead hang with full control. I also did the same with a chin-up. I have bicep muscles, ladies and gentlemen!!!!!

Well done!!! So good to see you getting strong.

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Thanks Auto. I still sit a lot, and I wouldn't call myself super fit, but at 63 I can still walk 16km (10 miles) in under 5 hours if there aren't too many hills. That is a source of pride for me because of all the effort it represents.

ladybird30

Weekly report to 3rd March Mon- Wed - success Thurs - fail - had seconds, which was definitely more than I needed. Fri - success Sat, Sun - 3 meals This looks good, but too many of my meals have been on the large side. I have started doing something I have been resisting, which is doing more meal pl...

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Congrats!!

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Thanks for this run down on BLE, and great to have you posting again KCCC. Welcome back to Merry too.

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I know that the way I eat is weird, I'm never going to have normal eating habits because I eat next to zero processed foods due to legit health issues. It's my belief that a diet of processed foods is weird, and that eating home cooked food made from fresh and unprocessed ingredients is normal. Tha...

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There are lots of reasons I exercise, but one of my strongest motivations is keeping fit enough to do something I love, which is going for long walks with friends in our wonderful Australian bush.

ladybird30

Report for last 10 days or so. I have been away, so missed last week. Fri 15 - success Sat - getting ready to go away, didn't record, probably nothing unusual Sun 17 - Th 21 - away with friends, had seconds and snacks, but stayed away from the nibbles and treats as usual. Eating was moderate. Fr - a...

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Weekly report (and a bit extra) Mon 4, Tues -success Wed - fail, not enough during day & had supper thurs & Fri - success Sat - 4 meals, ate dinner even tho not really hungry. Went to bed knowing I had eaten too much. Sun - 3 meals, seconds for dinner Mon 11 - fail, supper Tues, Wed - success Thurs ...

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135!!! If only they were all real people.

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I used to have a fair few "technical successes" where I ate the 3 meals, but was other wise not happy with how much I ate. Things do get better with practice.

ladybird30

The duck turned out well. It was too hot for a roast, so did it on top of the stove in a covered dish with a bit of water added + sliced lemon, turmeric, chili and Chinese 5 spice sprinkled over the top. It turned out pretty well, and as a bonus I got some yummy duck stock. Weekly report: Mon-Fri su...

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Thanks Reinhard

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Thanks very much Reinhard.

ladybird30

Welcome, and hope you find a good way of eating that doesn't fatigue you with calorie counting. I decided I did better with 3 meals every day, but not wanting to call S days a failure because of a snack, I think of them differently to N days. On S days I stick to the same basic meal structure, but i...

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In the days when I was still trying to follow the healthy food guidelines, with a diet of unprocessed foods, no added salt and cutting all the fat off my meat, I would get cravings for fatty, salty meat - bacon, sausages. I think my body was trying to tell me something. Nowadays I make sure I add ex...

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I find pride a powerful motivator. Guild removal is an added bonus.

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Yay!!! and thanks Reinhard.

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When I was camping last week, I was asked if I ate chocolate. My reply was yes, but not for afternoon tea. Obviously I don't regard holidays as a free for all with food.

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Keep up the good work - great to hear NO S is going well for you.

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Married male friends - can be difficult, but an enjoyable part of life.

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In the "old days" I would have had two glasses of wine by that point (it happened about 8pm) and not felt safe to drive + I would not have been ready for that sort of clean-up, action, clear thinking, etc. Great that you are already feeling benefits from your new moderate drinking habits. Well done.

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Dalia negra wrote:The restriction made the compulsion return.

You said it. Here's to pleasure.

ladybird30

Welcome and congrats on success while doing your own thing It sounds like you are getting to the limits of your tolerance of being a calorie accountant. Your anxiety is actually making it more likely that you will eventually crack and go off the rails. I can assure you that if you just relax about t...

ladybird30

Welcome Amerie. May you have many more success days on the way to permanently changing your eating habits.

ladybird30

Weekly report - I have been away camping in the mountains, so missed last week's report. I sent a photo of me wading in a mountain creek in a bathing suit to my sister and she said I looked in good shape. Thanks No S. Mon 14 - Fri 18 success Sat 19 - 26 - camping. I wasn't so strict about the number...

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I used the substitution method very successfully a decade ago to wean myself of my No 1 "Class A" binge food. I would walk around the supermarket promising myself I could buy any else, just not that. Eventually I discovered a "Class B" fat/sugar substitute which I ate instead which just didn't have ...

ladybird30

Welcome back, and all the best Allison.

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Welcome back Dalia, and here's to three enjoyable meals a day.

ladybird30

Here is something you might like to think about - if you had had a bigger lunch, would the available food have been less tempting. Was your lunch truly satisfying, or were you really thinking that it wasn't quite enough when you finished. If the answer to these questions is yes, I had quite enough f...

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Weekly report: Mon - fail - supper Tues - fail - seconds for dinner Wed - fail - supper. So much for my attempts to make sure I don't overeat at meal times - all that happened was I didn't eat enough. I woke up on Thurs with a renewed determination to fix this, and since then I have been recording m...

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Welcome. Hope to hear from you regularly.

ladybird30

Welcome Laura. Hope you find a meal schedule that suits you.

ladybird30

Some food scientist no doubt spent many hours working on the exact amount of salt to add and the right degree of crunch so that Saltine eaters would do exactly what you did.

So we shouldn't be too disappointed in ourselves. We are up against the big guns.

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Welcome back Cynthia.

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I think of the No S rules as like wearing a seat belt in a car. In some countries I would have a free choice not to wear a restraining seat belt, but I would be putting myself unnecessarily at risk if I didn't. Similarly with choosing to wear a bike helmet and losing that unrestrained feeling of the...

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Welcome manfa.

manfa wrote:I have never fooled myself about why I am overweight...I know it is because I eat too much!

Me too. I What I didn't know was how not to eat too much. NO S has given me the tools to eat moderately. I hope it does for you too.

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oolala53 wrote: I do eat some processed foods with some sugar, though usually much less than is in an apple per serving. Sure, I know the apple has other benefits, but it's just for scale.

Yes, I have used that logic in defence of dark chocolate.

ladybird30

My thoughts on IF is that it is good for some people, but unless you are doing it for health reasons, it is better to concentrate on cutting out excess food and establishing regular eating habits first. Trying to skip meals can backfire for someone with disordered eating and lead to bingeing. Howeve...

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You too Imogen.

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Thanks Auto. Just about at the point where I can see myself restricting that particular form of time wasting further.

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Heres to you too Worth it, and thank you for your inspiring post.

ladybird30

I am sorry you are feeling so anxious. Please be easy on yourself. No S shouldn't be a strain, so just do the parts you think you can without making yourself feel worse. Remember, something is better than nothing, and small amounts of progress are still worth having. All the best with your new job.

ladybird30

Weekly report: Mon - Fri success Sat, Sun 3 meals Eating back to normal. Exercise - several shorter walks this, including a bit of hill climbing, strength exercises No Rec Screen til 2 - success Monthly weight report: Nov 134 - 136 Dec 135 - 138 I've been in the same weight range 135 - 138 for about...

ladybird30

Another cerebral introvert here. I know intellectually that other people enjoy noisy get togethers where they stand around and yell at each other, but really I just don't get it. I mostly get my socialising doing outdoor activities with other people, as well as being on committees where I have a def...

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Welcome aikigysy. I found a lot more success with No S once I joined the forum. It helps with the habit reinforcement.

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Your lunch strategy sounds like a win to me.

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Blackbird - one of my favourite songs.

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I think it takes a long, long time for the body to get regulated at a new set point. I am a firm believer in the no snacking rule as well as pushing the overnight fast to 16 hrs. I think that has been key to resetting my set point. I also think leaving sugar alone except for rare special occasions ...

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Lady Crimson wrote: No S is the only "diet" that works long term and gets easier the longer I am on it.

I never thought about that before, but No S does get easier after a while, while starvation diets just get harder and harder.

ladybird30

Weekly reporting has for me been the difference between continued success and eventual failure with No S.

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Keep up the good work.

ladybird30

I can only dream about being able to do a pistol squat. Maybe one day....

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Weekly report - Mon - success. Had to restrain myself from cleaning up the leftovers when making Xmas day desert Tues - S day. Still stuck to 3 meals and no snacks, but had a very nice Xmas dinner Wed - success Thurs & Fri - fail. After a hot walk on Thurs went shopping and to my surprise found myse...

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It might take a while before a beginning No Ser can accurately judge how much they need to eat at each meal - at least it did for me, and I still get it wrong sometimes. As part of my overcoming bingeing, I have been learning to take notice of my internal cues re eating. There are ways which you can...

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Christmas and New Years Eve are just normal N days for me if they occur on weekdays.

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Thanks for letting us know about your progress.

ladybird30

Welcome back, Losing the Diets. Congrats on your degree. I have just finished reading your thread. I hope this time that you focus on changing your eating habits. Weight loss will follow if you are consistent and persistent. Having a look at your self talk may help in difficult food situations, as d...

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I love my sister. And she loves me. But we are so different I am not sure we would even be friends if we weren't related. It has taken years to get to our current state of friendship. And I still wouldn't look to her for approval, although it would be nice to have it. Personally, I am wary of too mu...

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I love reading testimonials, so yes please. I had a near miss this morning, part of the reason was a bad nights sleep last night. Generally I turn the lights right down an hour or two before bed, because it helps me to be relaxed and get to sleep more easily. Sometimes I darken the screen if I have ...

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Welcome back Lori. How is the lifting going?

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Weekly report:

The mad pre Xmas rush has subsided.

Mon - Fri - success
Sat - 3 meals
Sun - 3 meals + afternoon tea - hungry and didn't feel like waiting for dinner

Exercise - walk with group 10km, no hills, light gardening, cycling, exercises

No Rec Screen til 2 pm - success

ladybird30

One of the reasons I didn't have children was that I knew I didn't have what it takes to be a parent. I don't think that makes me selfish or lazy, just realistic. I am full of admiration for women like yourself who parent, run a home and have paid work as well. It did strike me that being a good exa...

ladybird30

Well done for a moderate S event.

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The other night I was at a friends where supper was being handed around, and a slim woman was pressing cake on a woman who wants to lose weight. The latter was trying to refuse, and the former was persisting. Funnily enough, no one bothers trying to get me to eat cake any more (apart from the first ...

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Congrats on the good stats - a nice reward for your efforts.

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I second what Soprano said. If you are consistent, your weight will fall to what is right for you, even if the rate is slow.

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Thanks Linda - it was a good week. I'd like to claim lots of credit for resisting temptation, but in fact overdoing social eating wasn't my problem, and hasn't been since childhood. It was resisting the temptation to eat when I was by myself that was so hard. Still, the rules make it easier not to o...

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Weekly report: I had 4 social occasions with food this week, so I loosened the reins a bit. So no dishing out all my food at the start of the meal - that wasn't going to work. Instead I had second helpings and second courses where appropriate. However, I avoided the treats, all my eating was meal ba...

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Hope your wife continues her recovery. Thanks for letting us know of the benefits of your daily walk - since I have been doing a long walk every week, and got back on the bike, I have let my daily walks lapse.

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. Preparing a really fantastic HEALTHY meal is the best way to do that. And being hungry enough to enjoy it. At this time of year I have found the occasions I have enjoyed the most have combined healthy and delicious foods with the company of beloved friends. I really enjoy the sight of of a table ...

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Welcome St3v3k - you are not the only maths/science person on this forum. Your no sweets except on special days sounds like it is working well for you.

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Well done on your 5 days of eating sanity.

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Somehow housework always slips down my list of priorities - there are so many other things that I would rather be doing.

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