Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

Sounds like things are going well. You always have such an upbeat positive outlook. I haven’t done barre but ive been doing Pilates and really enjoying it. GL with tackling the binge eating. It’s such an unpleasant thing to experience.

lpearlmom

The dancing sounds fun! You seem like such a great momma!

lpearlmom

Thanks Hippie! Hi Alene! The challenge is actually going really well. I was worried that my teammates would be pressuring me to lose weight faster than I was able, but I’m currently in the lead so I’m not too stressed. Plus they’re all super nice and supportive. Also, doc is joining me on a mini cha...

lpearlmom

Lol auto, I don’t think I even knew you had cats.

lpearlmom

Yay for flower pup! Glad boys doing well too!

lpearlmom

I am really enjoying the book so far. It gives a lot more detail and is actually clarifying a few things for me.

lpearlmom

Oh I can remember the trays of bacon right out of the oven when I was working at a restaurant. Nothing harder to resist! I like that you are being so honest with yourself and drawing those hard lines. You got this!

lpearlmom

Hi hippie! Yeah so the deal with veneers is that they have to prep your teeth by filing down a layer on your teeth therefore you are pretty much committed to them forever but, unfortunately, they don’t last forever. If you ever wondered why all celebrities seem to have perfect, white teeth, veneers ...

lpearlmom

Omg, 100 % with you on the staying staying home curled up with a good book. I don’t think it’s laziness though. Just a preference for quieter activities. I think our societies need to constantly be doing something active and/or “productive “ is highly overvalued. It’s funny I recently just realized ...

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So hard either way, isnt it? Ugh, cant wait for this to not be a thing. Rosebud is thriving back in school but it’s far from ideal. Sweetpea loves being home but i worry about her being stuck inside so much. I think we’re all just doing our best under these insane circumstances. Good for you for bei...

lpearlmom

I finished the first season loved it and am now reading the books. Auto: you need to sneak it on your ipad or something.

lpearlmom

Things are going well. Im over the moon about our disgraceful president being gone—finally! I shed a lot of tears and can feel the trauma of the last 4 years starting to heal. Wth was that ppl and can we please make sure we dont repeat it? Ill sleep well tonight that’s for sure. Anyway, not much els...

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Thx hippie. I think she’s nervous about being on her own but a little excited too. She told me i need to make it less desirable to be at home so she’ll want to move out. Im going to miss her. Yeah, i saw that one of Bidens goals for the first 100 days is to open schools safely so maybe they’ll get s...

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Hippie: yes, it’s rosebud who is back in school. Sweetpea will probably be virtually all year. Her school is a more urban progressive area. So sad that a health issue has been politicized. Just feels like we’re playing Russian roulette every day. :/ That sounds amazing Kathleen. I’m so glad you got ...

lpearlmom

Intentional eating—I love it! So funny about bridgerton. I swear I think it’s doing wonders for a lot of marriages. I was listening to a podcast (bitch sesh) the other day and the host was saying how the show was responsible for things getting steamier in her marriage lately and I realized that was ...

lpearlmom

It sounds like you’re getting good at looking at the bigger picture and going along with the natural ebb and flow of things realizing that it all balances out in the end. I love taking days completely off and it’s usually followed by very productive days. So much better than when I try to force myse...

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Hippie: I totally agree about CCs. Actually when i look back on my college experience, my time at city college was one of the happiest times in my life. More so than my university years. I do feel slightly guilty for wanting to fix my teeth instead of embracing my uniqueness especially since sweetpe...

lpearlmom

Sorry about your bad restaurant experience. Ugh, that would have bummed me out too but of course you couldn’t have know. Maybe you can still bake him a cake this weekend or something? In general though covid bdays just suck though so don’t feel too badly. Next year all our bdays will be epic! And om...

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Thank you hippie. Your post made me tear up a little. It just so comforting that someone else can relate and understand what Im going through. I found a community college in Flagstaff that she could go to and then transfer straight to the university. They even have on campus housing at the universit...

lpearlmom

I think that’s a good way of looking at it all. I tend to be so black and white with my eating. I tend to need to be eating perfectly according to plan or im bingeing which i also sometimes call intuitive eating. Really neither are realistic. Both are going to happen.

lpearlmom

Omygosh, how scary and stressful and ouch on the bill although of course I would have done the same. Im sorry your visit doesn’t sound very relaxing. Just glad flowerpup is gloing to be okay. Big hugs.

lpearlmom

Oh gosh, it’s so upsetting whats going on in our nation. Totally understandable that you would try to comfort yourself. Im glad you felt better about your eating today though. Emotionally eating doesn’t usually feel too great in the end.

Anyway, hang in there.

lpearlmom

Okay feeling a little better. I think the combo of drinking too much on vacation, forgetting to take my meds for 3 days, dealing with all the trauma of what happened at the capitol and just worrying about my girls kind of put me over the edge. At least there seem to be some consequences happening no...

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Kind of a rough day. Its just that post vacation feeling of feeling behind. We had a ton of packages and mail to go through. Then i had to clean the kitchen and deal with 3 different grocery deliveries. I also had to take the dogs to the groomers, take rosebud to the store, make dinner, make cupcake...

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IThanks Jen & hippie. I guess i better get him some protein shakes! We ended up having a really amazing time. The hotel is just beautiful and the service was top notch. We went on a gorgeous hike on Thursday, then came back to our cottage and relaxed on the patio before going to dinner. It was delic...

lpearlmom

It’ll be nice to get away and see your family. Sounds like a complicated relationship with your brother and his wife. Hopefully he can stay strong.

lpearlmom

We are having a great time in Sedona. Our cottage is adorable and so nice to get away. We lit a fire and ordered drinks to be brought to the room. So despite an insane news day, we are enjoying ourselves. Doc is trying to lose weight with me and boy does he get hangry. He was kinda snappy with me fo...

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Thank you Jen! Yes, im so excited to get away! Thank you hippie! It’s always nice having just one of the girls home but honestly they spend so much time in their rooms that it was barely any different. ☺️ Her puppy sure missed her though. She kept looking in rosebuds room for her. Well today was the...

lpearlmom

Omygosh congratulations! You should feel proud. Thats quite an accomplishment especially with everything else you had going on. 💜💜💜 I know whatcha mean about the nutrition stuff. I think my youngest did get kinda weird about sugar for about a week when they were studying nutrition. She wanted to thr...

lpearlmom

Wow, so sorry about your friend that sounds really stressful and scary. :/ Ugh, you know how much ive struggled with my teens. Boy it’s just so tough sometimes. Im glad he apologized though. And it will get better. Sweetpea has become super easygoing ever since she hit that 17.5 year point. Hang in ...

lpearlmom

That 3 lbs will be gone in no time im sure. Sounds like youve got some great goals. I always feel better when we’re eating more homemade meals. Physically and emotionally. My love language must be food if thats a thing.

lpearlmom

Thanks auto and hippie! It was so tough dropping her off this morning. This is the first time she’s gone to this school in person. Thats hard enough but to do it in the middle of a pandemic is extra scary. She was so nervous and it was even harder since it was still dark oot when i dropped her off t...

lpearlmom

I know. I’m not ready for winter break to be over but so glad you enjoyed your time off. Looks like you’re doing a challenge of sorts too! Gl!

lpearlmom

Thanks Alene and auto! Well my eating has been a little crazy but I signed up fir a team weight loss challenge. The prize is 10k but really I’m just doing it to motivate me. I DO NOT like letting ppl down. I won’t even tell you the amount I need to lose in 3 mos in order to have a shot at winning th...

lpearlmom

Me too on the cleanliness thing. Im just so much calmer and legit happier when our house is clean. I think im just very effected by my environment in general which is super annoying to ppl i think. If i dont like the vibe of a place, i just wont eat or shop there. I refuse to step into a Walmart bec...

lpearlmom

Sorry you’re struggling. I swear I’ve been fantasizing about having the whole house to myself for just even a couple of hours. 9 mos of constant togetherness is tough! Is there a coffee shop or anything that you can go to? We have some local coffee places open with 6 far apart tables, but I’m guessi...

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Lol, auto. He did good! I got him a really nice guitar🎸 so hopefully he’s happy too. Thanks Jen, hippie, and April! April, they sound funny but are just very plain small low-fat chocolate cookies from Trader Joe’s. Things are good but omg my weight doesn’t want to budge. I’m hanging in there though ...

lpearlmom

That overwhelmed feeling is horrible. I use a bullet journal and map out my whole week. I try to make sure there’s not too much on a given day and that has really helped me. After i map it out im not allowed to add anything else (unless it’s an ER). Instead i write it under the “next week” box. That...

lpearlmom

Oh boy what a dream! To say we are all getting burnt out is an understatement. Hang in there and be kind to yourself. I know youll turn things around because ive seen you struggle before and you always manage to do so. You have a lot more discipline than most or at least moi! I went to the donner pa...

lpearlmom

Oh man so sorry to hear that you had covid. Seems like different ppl respond very differently to it. I do remember DH being pretty weak for a few days after the worst was over. Probably about 3 weeks total of feeling unwell. Now it’s like he never had it though so hang in there and be easy on yourse...

lpearlmom

Thanks for the Hanukkah wishes! I love Hanukkah so much because we spend family time together every night lighting candles & opening gifts (we do a gift a night). Doc gave me a beautiful gucci purse. I had sent him a link but didnt think he’d really buy it. ☺️ My mom is still here and its been reall...

lpearlmom

I’m so sorry you’re struggling. I’m so burnt out on all of this too and yeah mostly it’s hard to watch how it’s effecting my kids. I’m fine but really miss certain freedoms. It’s just tough all around. There is help right around the corner though. Doc gets his first vaccine next week! Interestingly,...

lpearlmom

So tired!

Break: yogurt, fruit, nuts
Lunch: rice crackers, apples
Dinner: poke bowl, 2 glasses wine
Dessert: few pieces chocolate (it’s Hanukkah)

Weigh: 177 lbs
Steps 17k
Exercise: walked dogs; treadmill

lpearlmom

Thanks auto & hippie for the support & understanding. It’s tough but shes also getting pretty lonely and i have to take into account her emotional health as well. We are about as safe as can be. I go to the store sometimes but mostly we get our groceries delivered. Doc probably still as some immunit...

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automatedeating wrote: ↑
Mon Dec 07, 2020 8:04 pm
We are a band of brave experimenters!

Love this & I so appreciate everyone’s support of all my crazy ideas through the years.

I’m glad you’re figuring out what works for you Octavia !

lpearlmom

Ooooh a misty forest sounds amazing. There’s something about being in nature that is sooo ... centering. I need to spend more time outdoors. I’m glad the hiking with the boys is going okay. I may send my girls to you!

lpearlmom

A pretty good day. Rosebud got her permit! 😱 I can’t believe I have to do this all over again. And because of covid we probably can’t get her lessons like we did with sweetpea. This should be interesting. My mom is coming Thursday for Hanukkah. We went back and forth about whether or not this was a ...

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I swear I think it’s true auto! Me and my new scale are getting off to a good start though. Down a couple pounds today—woot! 177.6 lbs 16k steps Breakfast: grapes, pumpkin muffins Dinner: butternut squash & kale soup Dessert: sf cocoa, handful choc chips Exercise: 16k steps —walked dogs; treadmill

lpearlmom

Im so glad your daughter is thriving kathleen. That’s fantastic. Today was kind of a emotional rollercoaster. I kind of had a meltdown when i weighed myself this morning because my weight hasn’t budged even the tiniest bit in days. Im just feeling like a but of a failure in everything i do i guess. ...

lpearlmom

So sorry about your FIl. So hard. I admire your persistence with dog training. I’m the laziest dog owner. Cupcake goes crazy every time we pass another person walking a dog and I just turn around or just run fast past them. 😊. She does know a few tricks thanks to rosebud though. There’s nothing cute...

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Yeah I don’t actually care what college she goes to. It is just hard always living in my sisters shadow. In high school ppl would say “omg, are you ms perfect’s sister”. Intellectually I know I’m being silly but there’s a part of me that still wishes I could just beat her at something. Not going to ...

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Don’t apologize Kathleen! I always appreciate your perspective. You have gone through much of the stuff I’m struggling with now. My niece did take a gap year this year because yeah no way was she paying Brown University prices for an online experience. I think if she can pull off at least Cs this se...

lpearlmom

Oh boy this whole eating thing is so tricky. At first I felt like IE would be the answer to restrictive eating but then after awhile it starts to feel like just as maddening as restrictive dieting. It’s just another box I try to fit myself into. In reality maybe we need to take what feels good from ...

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Thank you for the support and reassurance auto! I just have to have faith she will figure it out. And yes, Ivy League doesn’t mean happiness. It’s just so annoying that no matter what i do , it’ll never get to the level my sister is at. I swear i think she even remodeled her house just because our h...

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Thanks pinky! Thanksgiving is our favorite holiday so was a great day for him to propose which doc did in front of like 30 family members. 😊 Our trip was fantastic! Nobody fought at all. That never happens on vacation. Went a family hike on Thanksgiving morning and then came home to cook. Everything...

lpearlmom

So glad your break went well and that your eating was enjoyable!

lpearlmom

Congrats on finishing the videos. I’m doing the same with my drinking. The 100 days off was good but it is so nice to be able to have a glass or two of wine to relax in the evening. I’m trying to do at least 2 days off a week with no more than 8 glasses a total for the week. I use an app to help me ...

lpearlmom

As you probably already know, I can relate 100%. Been there many a time and I think a break is a fantastic idea. Just step away from it all for awhile and see how that feels.

Best of luck & *hugs*

lpearlmom

6970F628-0034-4BFC-A07C-6AFC70B43D1B.jpeg From our stargazing deck. Couldn’t make it straight! Thank you ladies! ( April, I don’t know that song I don’t think. ) It really is beautiful up here and SO nice to have a change of scenery! When I heard the girls running around in excitement when we got h...

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Hi Kathleen! Great to hear from you & glad you’re hanging in there. I really admire how much restraint you have with money. Doc & I are much better these days but we do love to splurge now and then. Have you heard of healthy wager? I’ve been looking at it for some extra motivation and it occurred to...

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Oh boy, yes nursing definitely requires snacks! Yeah, i think i need to calm down my black and white thinking a bit. Omg, we need to get out of the house! We are turning into zombies i swear. Im so happy we’re going to go to Sedona Tuesday. The house is beautiful and the girls each have their own ro...

lpearlmom

Oh trust me—i eat plenty of french fries & chocolate along with the more nutritious stuff!

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Welcome back!

lpearlmom

Wow you guys are great! Auto, I can’t tell you how reassuring it is to hear that you approach this all with shades of gray. I think of you as like the NoS model student so that really helps me to feel a lot better. Do I see a book in your future 50 shades of Nos? 😆 Hippie: it sounds like you are sim...

lpearlmom

Omygosh right there with you. It’s like it almost feels as really restrictive eating in some ways. Every time i even had an inkling for food, id feel like i should eat it or id be depriving (dieting). Then id end up grazing all day which feels like crap and i end up gaining. I dont know why i keep h...

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I’m so glad you worked things out with your friend. I hate all this us vs. them stuff that’s so prevalent in politics these days. At the end of the day we all just want a good life for ourselves and our family. We may just have different ideas on how to achieve that. Boy I wish I had the gumption to...

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Oh man, I could have written that post about sweetpea who is also 17 1/2. She is failing English of all things. This is usually her strongest subject so I don’t know what’s going. She’s not doing so hot in her other classes either. I’m having a hard time backing off, but I think that’s what I need t...

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Hi April, just wondering how you were doing and if your new plan was working out. I know what you mean about IF. It was so good till it wasn’t. I had really bad backlash as well in the end. I really enjoyed the energy too but then I read that it’s due to the body needing food so badly that it’s tryi...

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I started a response to your post but it got too long so I just posted it under my thread, but ultimately I think there are just no easy answers I guess. We may not be able to really have much permanent effect on our weight but we can create a pattern of behaviors that will at least give us some pea...

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I like Christy Harrison, Isabel foxen duke, the body love society, rebecca stritchfield, Alison Rumsey and I think you already know about the F-it Diet. I have to say as good as intuitive feeling feels after a long stint of dieting, I don’t think it’s really a good fit got me. A lot of it is good li...

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No worries! Btw, i sent you a pm.

lpearlmom

Thanks for the support Jen!

Oolala: we all have our own journeys. You do you and I will do ME. Thx!

lpearlmom

Hippie, the word guidelines definitely has a better feel to it. Im so glad you’re going to be getting a little break. You certainly have earned it! Jen, yes i think deep down i feel like IE is going to be the only way i will ever be able to truly make peace with food. It’s tough though because first...

lpearlmom

This eating/weight/body stuff is so difficult. The interesting question I think is how would we eat if weight was out of the picture. As I realize how little control I actually have over my weight I’ve been thinking about what that would look like. It’s hard to separate though because diet culture i...

lpearlmom

Oh glad you took care of your toe and that your family is stepping up to help out! I remember how good it felt to have my family take care of things after my gallbladder surgery. Even if they don’t always help out , I know they’ll step up when it really counts.

Happy healing!

lpearlmom

Hi Alene, I’m so happy to hear you are reconnecting with yoga and generally feeling good. I’m right there with you about letting go of 4 years of stress. When I saw that we were winning PA, I just starting crying because I knew we had it in the bag. I think this is the first time I’ve slept well in ...

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Hi Auto sorry to hear about your recent funk. I’m right there with you. I’m having pandemic burnout I think. I’ve been fighting it the last few days but decided to just embrace it today and am curled up on the couch. Hoping tomorrow I wake up refreshed and ready to jump back into things. I get pushi...

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Thanks for all the Anniversary wishes! We went to Tucson for a Night and it was really nice to get away. Thanks oolala! I made it to day 100 as of yesterday. I’m not sure what I’ll do going forward but am definitely going to try stay more mindful with my drinking. I do notice my depression has been ...

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I’m so sorry you are having such a rough time. It seems very unfair considering how much work you put into to everything. That must feel really frustrating to say the least. It really is crazy that your blood sugar is better with drinking but your mood is better without it. Geez! 🤦🏼‍♀️ You may alrea...

lpearlmom

I didn’t know they had scales that do that, but this is the app I use.

https://happyscale.com/

lpearlmom

Yay! That’s fantastic! Staying off the scales is great. I’ve been back to weighing daily. I don’t know if it’s a good idea or not but using the Happy Scale app helps a lot. It gives you a moving average and shows you how much you’re losing a week (on average). You put in a weekly goal and you can se...

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Wb. I definitely relate on every level. Been dieting since I was 10 which set my on a destructive path of diet/binge for many years. I got SO sick of restricting that about 15 years ago I just decided to stop dieting completely. The only problem was I didn’t know any other way of eating that didn’t ...

lpearlmom

You’re not a mess! Your body is just trying to tell you to slow down. Good for you for listening. Youll be back to your old energizing bunny self soon enough. Jealous of your rain.

lpearlmom

Good for you for not letting your “fail” derail you. It definitely took me awhile to get a 21 day green streak. I like the other suggestion to look at your whole month with the olympics framework. 1 red=gold; 2 red=silver ;3 reds=bronze. That helps a bit with perfectionist thinking perhaps. Glad you...

lpearlmom

Sounds like a busy but exciting time! Your baked goods sound wonderful. Are you a big baker?

Enjoy your date night!

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C448EAEA-3CF2-4C16-840F-487E4C3BD9AC.jpeg Thx alene. She’s not happy with her e-collar poor baby. I think it’s really good we’re being mindful of our drinking. This challenge has been good for me because at least I know i can take a break if needed. Having relatives that struggle with alcohol makes...

lpearlmom

Oh no, hope they feel better soon!

lpearlmom

Today was fine but I didn’t have time to workout. Hopefully tomorrow. I didn’t even walk the dogs since cupcake is still recovering & my step count was dismal. Our anniversary is sunday so doc took a couple days off. I wanted to go to a hotel for at least one night but he said he might have to deal ...

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Somehow I missed your husband was getting tested but SO glad he’s okay! (I think you distracted me with the view

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lpearlmom

I know auto. It’s complicated at least for those of us that have trouble with just having one. Quitting completely seems easier in a way because the boundaries are clearer (like NoS) but it seems so sad to never be able to have a nice glass of wine while going out to dinner, or a margarita at a Mexi...

lpearlmom

Omygosh what a beautiful view. Im so envious!

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Thanks auto! You did a whole year though right? I originally thought id do a full year but now Im thinking Id just like to moderate a little better. I guess it’ll take a bit of experimenting to see what feels right. One thing is for sure. My skin looks so much better & I do not miss hangovers . Well...

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I hate that stupid scale. I think you are doing really well and agree with soprano. It’s so common to be gaining at our age (I’m 52). Losing any weight especially without extreme measures is fantastic.

Give yourself some credit. You are doing great.

lpearlmom

I’m so impressed with your nutritional knowledge. I wish doc was half as on top of his health as you are. I really worry for him sometimes.

lpearlmom

It sounds like things are going really well. So glad to hear! Your hair sounds super cute. I really think most ppl look better with short to medium length hair. Can you believe I still haven’t gotten a haircut since the pandemic started? Mine is getting long for me (shoulder length) and I’m enjoying...

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Thank you auto, Octavia & Alene! Yes, hopefully I’m still functional. 😊 Hippie, glad to know I’m not alone. I definitely think it has to do with this surreal existence we’re living in. The girls are still doing well but I’m feeling sick still so got a covid test today. Again. I’ve tried so hard to b...

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Brain fog today.

Breakfast: melon, smoothie, nuts
Lunch: homemade crackers
Dinner: sushi, shrimp cocktail
Dessert: handful chocolate chips, sf mocha

Rest day
Day 67 AF (i think)

lpearlmom

I keep hearing about that documentary but cant bring myself to watch it. Im already off Facebook and barely on Instagram these days though.

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I keep thinking a road trip sounds fun. Just to get away for a bit sounds lovely. Im so glad your son is doing well. I have heard it’s pretty mild with younger ppl as im sure you have too. Glad it seems true in his case. Agree also on the fun foods. Ive been allowing myself a small dessert each nigh...

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Thanks auto! I’m feeling better but I’m just so tired lately. Not sure what’s going on. Thx Jen. I am enjoying the running but today my knee started hurting. Hoping it’ll pass. Yeah, I know it’s hard not to worry but I I just try not to stress about their eating too much. It seems like it balances o...

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