Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

Thank you hippie! I’m really enjoying the running but I do run SUPER slow. The challenge is going really well too. I’m just trying to figure out what my drinking will look like after this. I know Ellyn Satter is awesome. Whenever I start to get stressed out about eating/nutrition I pull that book ou...

lpearlmom

Was a good day. Day 63 AF The alcohol free challenge is going really well. I feel great and feel like my mind is getting sharper. Feeling more like my old self. I am a little sad that i cant have wine for our anniversary dinner coming up but itll be okay. Breakfast: watermelon, yogurt, grapes Snack:...

lpearlmom

Today was really good. I cannot believe how much better sweetpea is doing. Now im wondering if she just had depression all this time. I dunno but she’s super engaged in life again and it’s great to see. Rosebud is doing well also. She decided not to go back to in person school after all. I think tha...

lpearlmom

Exercise is the best! I really like taking several days off now & then. It always feels so good to get back to it.

lpearlmom

Sounds like a fun day! All those desserts sound super yummy—enjoy!

lpearlmom

Thanks so much Octavia! If we dont get a new president Im moving! Today was pretty good. Doc has the weekend off and boy does he like to keep me busy. It seems like he asks me where something is every 5 mins. Oh well, i am happy to spend some time with him. The girls are both doing good today. Sweet...

lpearlmom

I’m so psyched you enjoyed running today! That’s exactly how I started out. The program I did was a six week thing that started out with 5 min walking and 1 min running. Each week it’d add more running on till we did a full 30 mins of running. I love Tommy Rivers the trainer for the iFit program. Hi...

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Ohmygoodness... yes i did have that good day but things went off the rails just after that. I really haven’t felt up to writing about it but the girls got into an ugly fight which caused sweetpea to spiral for a bit. Shes now on anti-depressants and boy does she seem much better. My eating has been ...

lpearlmom

Doing okay?

lpearlmom

So sorry about your son. Wishing him speedy recovery.

lpearlmom

Hi & wb! It’s definitely harder not to snack while staying home so much. I think it’s great you are trying to model a healthy relationship with food for your son. I know when I was around 10, I started to gain a little weight and I went on my first diet (Scarsdale diet). My parents were ALWAYS on a ...

lpearlmom

Oh dear, that school situation sounds like a nightmare. I know all the districts and teachers are doing their best but I agree that the system they’re using seems very challenging. You are doing a great job of making the most of the situation and I hope you’re giving yourself credit for that. I neve...

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Yes, Octavia you totally get it. I was so happy to see sweetpea in clean clothes today. Her mood was really good today. I’m reading a lot about bipolar disorders and it’s really helping me to understand her different moods. It all just makes so much more sense now. I’m surprised that her therapist s...

lpearlmom

You’re doing great. I noticed how important it is to eat enough at my mealtimes. Sometimes I feel like it seems like too much when I see the amount on my plate but then I remind myself that when I graze all day, I’m probably eating way more than that. It’s just easier to trick myself when it’s not p...

lpearlmom

Good luck!!

lpearlmom

Auto: i know. cant imagine what that does to one’s body. Octavia: thank you. The longer i go without drinking, the less i want to drink. It’s really just so nice and as long as i have my fake tequila im happy. Oolala: thanks for stopping by. We are slowly opening up our social circle as the numbers ...

lpearlmom

Nothing much to report. No drama though so I’ll take it. 😊 Breakfast: toast, fruit, yogurt Lunch: avocado & black bean salad, grapes Dinner: mushroom-tofu burger, sweet potato tots, grapes Dessert: chocolate biscotti, almond seeded bar, tea Walked 🐕, too tired to run today but hopefully tomorrow. RI...

lpearlmom

Wow you’re like an energizer bunny! Im so impressed and really glad you’re enjoying it so much!

lpearlmom

I just feel so exhausted & drained. The last few days ive been dealing with a problem with Rosebud’s meds, the girl’s emotional issues, the dog’s ear infection and then when i got the mail yesterday I had a notice saying our car insurance was cancelled. It ended up being a mistake, but for a hot min...

lpearlmom

Even after years of doing NOS my S days never really resolved themselves on their own. I do much better with keeping some structure on S days. Right now my plan is to keep my 3 plates with 2 small plates added in to that for a snack and dessert if I want. Otherwise I tend to just have one long snack...

lpearlmom

Omg, that sounds insanely stressful!! How thoughtless ppl can be about other ppl’s time and I can’t believe you have to do those tests at home. Can’t that wait??

Hang in there. To say you have a lot on your plate would be quite an understatement.

This too shall pass. *hugs*

lpearlmom

So do you have basic set times when you eat your meals or do you wait to eat your meals till you’re a good amount of hungry? I find that if I eat around the same times each day, my body gets used to that schedule and starts to be hungry for meals at those times. Sometimes I might have to eat on the ...

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I was a little nervous to post that because it just seemed a little intense but really awesome to get so much support. I guess that’s what I love about this board. It’s more about a healthy relationship with food than losing weight. Octavia: I agree! I was reading an article about how most ppl aren’...

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Thanks for the support auto and hippie. It’s good to know Im not alone. Hippie, that’s exactly the way i was raised and I tried to give them the life that I so craved & yes i went a little overboard. ☺️ I dont want to jinx it but the girls are getting along so well right now. A lot of it is that ros...

lpearlmom

The alcohol helps your blood sugar? I did not know that. I can’t believe you’re giving up your beloved dairy, but like you said it’s worth at least exploring. Anyway, look forward to seeing what you discover. Hopefully something helpful.

lpearlmom

Auto: cupcake and tessa do great on the walk together. In fact it’s about the only time that cupcake can get in tessas face without put being rebuked. They are very cute but cupcake is in heat now so Im super nervous that some male dog is going to pounce on her. Ill be glad when we get her spayed. W...

lpearlmom

So glad you’re enjoying the bike riding. It’s so greatvwhen we find an exercise we connect with & look forward to doing.

Wow whosonfirst! Im in AZ and it is hot here although the mornings are finally starting to cool down. I actually wore a sweatshirt this morning!

lpearlmom

Hugs! Sounds very stressful and understandable that you might revert to some old coping mechanisms. The good news is that youve built up enough days of better habits and the different ways in which they make you feel will seem very obvious. Im pretty sure you’ll be very motivated to stick with the h...

lpearlmom

Thanks for the support auto, Octavia & hippie! Octavia, I don’t have any great advice, but it definitely feels empowering. The reason i felt so upset after that therapy session is my therapist told me that both girls craved more discipline at home. I can’t even tell you what a huge failure it made m...

lpearlmom

Octavia & hippie: thanks for the support. Things are going pretty well. Everyone is getting along although doc and i had a big fight over the weekend. We rarely fight so it always shakes me up when it happens but all is well now. My doctor upped my wellbutrin and i felt amazing today. I hope that fe...

lpearlmom

Sorry about the 10 lbs. im right there with you unfortunately. I’m guessing it’s just a temporary setback and a matter of getting back in track. Or do you think the way you need to eat to maintain that lower weight is unsustainable maybe? Or i think you said you’ve recently added back a little wine ...

lpearlmom

Thanks hippie! I feel like we’re often on the same page. Today went well. I think part of why ive been so hungry is just the added exercise. I think I haven’t been taking that into account which is all about that self care stuff right? 31 days AF 13k steps Breakfast: scrambled eggs, toast, yogurt & ...

lpearlmom

I love that switch in mindset so much! I think it’s the difference between self care and self punishment. Ive spent most of my life trying to eat less too & it is very stressful. I was trying to fast and eat on tiny plates and it unsurprisingly backfired. Now that im back to eating regular meals on ...

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I’m not too horrified. Doc has threaten to take the girls door off more than once for slamming it. Luckily it’s never come to that. Cool about you becoming a coach! I’ve seen that book a bunch in amazon but never read it. I actually don’t binge and haven’t done so for many years. Sometimes it just g...

lpearlmom

Thx hippie. Theyre almond seeded bars that are kind of like biscotti but softer. They’re good & satisfying. Not sure if you have a Trader Joe’s near you but that’s where I got them. My eating is still all over the place and my weight is on the high end. Im a little bummed out but decided to just bac...

lpearlmom

Thx hippie!

Another nice day.

Break: banana, handful nuts
Lunch; veggie patty, blueberry smoothie, grapes
Dinner: sw black bean soup
Dessert; apple, 2 almond bars, tea

Exercise: 30 min treadmill walk/run

lpearlmom

Thanks for the support Alene! Today was SO much better! I had tons of energy today and my appetite was back to normal. Yesterday i just felt insatiable. I also ended up getting a bunch of quiet time as the girls were in their room busy with school stuff most of the day and doc had to work late. We j...

lpearlmom

Ugh, this virus has been so hard on our kids. As hard it is to be raising teens during this time, I can’t imagine having young kids that just want to play with their friends. You’re doing the right thing though. Praying for a vaccine soon. The tea sounds lovely. Can you share the brand name? (Sorry ...

lpearlmom

Your level of productivity always amazes me! Sounds like your backyard is really coming together. How exciting! And a strawberry patch? Sounds wonderful!

Sorry you’re struggling on the eating front. Me too! Must be something in the air.

lpearlmom

Glad things are going so well. Wish I could say the same. I think you’re smart not to tweak too much. I used to put a piece of fruit on my plate with my other food just to make sure it all fit in one plate. Then I’d take it off and eat it directly afterwards.

lpearlmom

Thanks Octavia, we’ve been getting along really well. Doc put her lock back on with the understanding that she needs to open it when asked to. It’s just a very simple lock so easy to pick if needed but I don’t think that’ll happen again. Auto: funny how everyone seems to have their own triggers for ...

lpearlmom

Thanks hippie! Actually knowing that you don’t allow your kids to lock their doors makes me feel better. I just never know if im on the right track with parenting & am always second guessing myself. Probably because I had such a lack of any boundaries growing up. I kind of just figured everything ou...

lpearlmom

Seems like you’re learning to get just the right balance with the whole eating/food thing. It’s so nice when we get into a good groove and find that sweet spot. In the book I’m reading it talks about how sugar just created a continued cycle of craving/giving into craving/more cravings. I can see how...

lpearlmom

Wow, that’s exciting about the move! We moved about eight years ago because we were outgrowing our house and I’m so glad we did. Best move ever. We were underwater with our old house so decided to rent it out instead of selling it. The whole thing was very stressful but so glad we did that too as it...

lpearlmom

Understandable that you’re eating more chaotically than normal, but still doesn’t seem like much overall.

11k steps is great!

lpearlmom

Thanks Octavia! So glad you’re doing well. Alcohol can definitely be problematic for one’s weight but I doubt an occasional glass of wine is too big of a deal really. I think that’s really cool your delving into mindfulness. It’s talked about a lot in the sober community. I think it can be so helpfu...

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Auto: Yeah, I definitely craved sweets for the first week & hear this is pretty common. It’s calmed down but Im still very sleepy midday. Hippie: I was very much the opposite. Id pick a cocktail over a dessert anytime. ☺️ I don’t know why but lately when i try to post i just kinda draw a blank. My f...

lpearlmom

Omg, go you—how cool is that! I think reinhard would approve! Now can you come over here and do our yard next?

lpearlmom

Omygosh, I relate to the feeling of being overwhelmed with all that’s going on in the world. I’ve seriously checked out from the news. I just needed to for my sanity, but yes I’ll vote too. No matter how hard I try, my kids seem to always know when im stressed or upset. It’s annoying actually. I thi...

lpearlmom

You sound like you’re in a really good place. So fantastic. I do the same kind of thing with amazon. I add stuff i want throughout the week & only allow myself to checkout on Thursdays. I have a set budget that i have in mind so I have prioritize what i want most. The rest i put in “save for later”....

lpearlmom

Oh hugs Jen! I got teary eyed reading about your drop off. That’ll be me next year. It’s bittersweet I’m sure. Excited and proud and sad at the same time. It’s a big milestone for both of you. I know my friend went through this last year and it took a few months for the blue feeling to lift but now ...

lpearlmom

Yay for your weight loss!! I agree we need to be careful not to go too far in the other direction and start restricting and/or over exercising. That seems to always backfire on me too!

Enjoy your pub night. Boy do I miss socializing!

lpearlmom

Thank you Octavia & hippie! Auto: yeah, im wondering if that’s part of my sleepiness too. All is good. Doc got cleared to go back to work. Probably just clinic and paperwork this week. I don’t think he’s quite ready to do surgery. Im on day 15 AF & feel pretty good. It’s been pretty easy so far, but...

lpearlmom

Yes, there is a fb page. I know oolala is on there so that’s the plan then. If the site goes down for more than a couple of days, we all meet there! *phew* Thx Octavia, alene & auto! He continues to improve today and i think he will be able to come out of his covid cave by the weekend. Boy, was that...

lpearlmom

Thank you hippie & jen!

Doc continues to improve so I definitely feel like we are out of the woods. Thank goodness!

My eating has been off the rails but i guess thats not too surprising.

Hopefully tomorrow ill get back on track !

lpearlmom

Thanks you guys! Super tired but my test came back negative and doc has finally (after a few horrible days) turned a corner. Was really scary for a bit, but he’s so much better today.

Need to sleeeep...

lpearlmom

Yay—glad the snack thing is working! I love the Tupperware idea too. So smart!

lpearlmom

Really great stuff here. Im glad ypu caught yourself before you tried to push yourself to a lower goal weight. I do that too & it’s like im never going to be satisfied. I can remember reaching 118 in college which is really way to thin for my body amd my first thought was maybe I can get to 115. 🤦🏼‍...

lpearlmom

Thanks hippie. I’m glad I’m not alone in my obsession tendencies. Thx Jen. I definitely thought I would just try to moderate my drinking , and I still may, but after reading The Naked Mind, I really just don’t want to drink at all at this point. I can’t recommend it enough. Oh dear! I had a bit of a...

lpearlmom

I think your snack idea is good. I dont know why but switching to 4 plates has really had a calming effect in me and made it easier to eat a smaller amount each meal. I use two small plates and two tiny plates (6”) and it’s been working nicely.

Have a great weekend!

lpearlmom

Thanks for the great feedback auto. I’ve read a lot about how when you hear that little voice try to talk you into having “just one glass of wine” it’s really your addiction talking and not the true you. I started thinking how that same little voice that tells me “just one bite” off plate of somethi...

lpearlmom

Oh i was so into the low fat thing for many years. Dr ornish was my bible. I felt okay in it but i dont want a life without avocado, cheese or chocolate bars.

Glad you got your gutters!

lpearlmom

That’s annoying that someone is criticizing teachers for the last semester. Nobody was prepared for the pandemic and i for one was impressed with how quickly the teacher’s pulled it together as best they could under the circumstances. I don't think ppl realize what a challenging job teaching is. Any...

lpearlmom

Oh boy, my dogs have to deal with triple digits which means only early morning or sunset walks.

lpearlmom

“ Makes me think that too much effort backfires for me & I’m better off with a looser, 3 meals a day, don’t worry about the rest approach. There’s less to rebel against when I don’t feel like I’m putting much effort in ;lol:”

Great observation. I definitely find that to be true too.

lpearlmom

Yes it’s not a quick fix. Sometimes it takes awhile for the scales to catch up to us. I get frustrated with the scales too but what’s the alternative right? Now that i stopped IF, my brain has been quieted again. It’s so nice!

Anyway, you’re doing great!

lpearlmom

Thx Jen, I guess the words still out on immunity but hopefully! Thank you auto. I have to say that your alcohol free journey planted a seed in me awhile ago & has been so inspiring. If you have any reading, podcasts or blog recommendations please pass them on! Thank you hippie! I used to be a really...

lpearlmom

I think its important to experiment with food and see what works best. I do best with basically everything in moderation. I dont eat meat but do eat fish and everything else is fair game. Do what feels good. No explanations needed.

Hope ypur ankle feels better soon!

lpearlmom

Thanks Octavia! I haven’t heard about dr livingston but not sure how i feel about the whole inner pig thing. :D Anyway, i have heard we have a limited amount of willpower so when we’re trying to lose weight we have to use all of our willpower and usually our willpower eventually runs out and we brea...

lpearlmom

Thanks hippie, auto & alene! It’s good to be back. Oh boy did i speak too soon though. The girls had a fight last night and I stupidly tried to intervene which probably made things worse. Now Rosebud isnt talking to me or sweetpea. 🤦🏼‍♀️ Hopefully their therapist will help us get back on track. I kn...

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Right there with you in regards to IE. Way too much thinking and decision making. It just made my brain hurt and i never could get it to work for me. Im glad you’re enjoying the structure of NoS. When im in the grove of it, it just feels so good. Also, super envious of your trip but i get wanting to...

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Mot sure why this posted twice.

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Wow, your words really resonated with me and probably would with many many women. I hate how much time I’ve wasted trying to grapple with this “problem” yet it feels like there’s no way out. I do think NoS is a nice compromise. Not too extreme in either way. I’ve done extreme and it never works out....

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You are doing great and I definitely believe letting go of weight loss goals is worthwhile. I like what Reinhard says about focusing on having ideal habits rather than ideal weight. When you have ideal habits you will be at your ideal weight. It may be higher than you’d hope for based in societies r...

lpearlmom

I’m so thrilled for you about your new work opportunity. It seems like such a good fit for you. Congrats!

lpearlmom

You sound so good, happy and engaged. It’s wonderful to see. I’m excited to hear more about your house. I hope you’ll post pics soon.

lpearlmom

Yay on your weight going down but sorry about the heat. It’s 114 here today of that makes you feel any better. On the plus side I think it’s helping to kill the covid.

Keep up the good work. I’d be thrilled to have a green month!!

lpearlmom

21 miles—wow! Your food sounds delicious and the important thing is that you enjoyed it. That’s exactly what S days are for, right? So cool about the farmers market. We have one that offers that too. It’s a drive but such a treat and I love supporting anything locally grown. Squash sounds good. I’m ...

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Thanks everyone for the supportive replies. Ive been all over the place with my eating and up about 5 lbs despite being very consistent with my exercise. Funnily enough ive decided I want to give NoS another go. I guess it’s not that surprising. Im reading a book by a neuroscientist about why diets ...

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Ive read all the IE books, all the body acceptance books, all the diet books, all ithe Intermittent fasting books, all of it and none of it worked. Really when i lost those last 40 lbs i only loosely did NoS. I really did my own thing. I was just very motivated. Oolala, i didnt say i was going to do...

lpearlmom

Yay so excited for you about your sabbatical! Definitely a good idea not to plan too much.

lpearlmom

Youre right oolala and I’ve decided it’s crazy to strive for such an unattainable goal. Yes if im honest with myself that is my dream weight but the reality is my weight keeps coming back to the high 160s and thats just where it wants to be for better or worse. I think i just need to be the best, he...

lpearlmom

I think focusing on walking is a great idea. It’s less frustrating focusing on something we can do (exercise) instead of something we’re not supposed to do (eating). Also, sometimes we need a break from trying. Maybe you’ll find you want it to be a permanent break & the walking is enough. Either gl ...

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So good to hear from you worth and happy to see you’re doing so well! Everything you are focusing on sounds wonderful and is very inspiring! I’ve been working out more too since I’ve been staying more as well. Also, still fasting but it’s a very “dirty” fast which works better for me. Don’t tell Gin...

lpearlmom

Oh I really like Leslie Sansone ! I think beauty comes in all sizes & nothing wrong with thinking anyone’s adorable! The trick is feeling you’re adorable too!

lpearlmom

Happy Birthday & Anniversary!

I’m excited for you about your plan. I’m also feeling ready to go forward with my weight loss and have been listening to a lot of weight loss memoirs to keep me motivated.

I’ve got about 40 lbs to go. We’ve got this!

lpearlmom

A lot of good insight here! I wanted IE to work for so badly because it it seems like it should work and makes sense intellectually but time & tine again it fails miserably every time. However, the IE principals within a more narrow framework like IF or NoS can work beautifully. It’s hard being arou...

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Congratulations on the internship!

My shih tzu has a really hard time with fireworks and other loud noises. I think they’ve got very sensitive ears. We give her meds on the 4th, NYE etc and it helps tremendously. So far the puppy seems fine with it though—yay!!

lpearlmom

Yay! Congratulations about your sabbatical! Hoping we both get some alone time this fall! My kids school has already been delayed by 2 weeks but it will start virtually. I used to struggle with whether or not to do things just for the sake of vanity, but now I don’t really care. If it’s something I ...

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Octavia, so great to see you back! I take breaks now & then but always come back. Posting is just so helpful to me and i love stay up on everyone’s journey. Motivation can be tricky especially when ive got plenty of ppl who seem to like me just the way that i am & ive got no major weight related hea...

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It’s awesome that you were able to recognize what you needed in that moment and find a way to meet that need. It really makes such a difference. I have such a hard time with boundaries which means i tend to put everyone else's needs before my own. I also tend to forget im not responsible for everyon...

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Sorry about your health problems. Isnt it fun being 50? Definitely harder to lose weight but i do think the fasting helps. Hope things start to improve for you!

lpearlmom

Thanks hippie! Yes, you hit the nail on the head. I really spent some time thinking about my why & just got really honest with myself. What i realized was i cannot be at this weight AND be completely happy. I also realized that im unable to fully be happy for others when im not completely happy with...

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Hi lark, I use unsweetened cocoa powder, monk fruit sweetener , and a little almond milk. I can’t have caffeine so use Pero which is a dried coffee substitute. So all of it is fake but it’s so good!

lpearlmom

Nothing exciting to report. 168 lbs 21.1% ( working again). Break: sf “mocha” Lunch: small smoothie Dinner: shrimp curry, glass of wine 🍷 Dessert: lots of grapes Exercise: 15 min run, 2 min walk, 10 min run, cool down Was very challenging especially since a lot of it was on a 6-15 incline, but i did...

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Oh dear, you know I can relate. That emotional stuff can be so difficult to deal with at this age. It’s exhausting & draining. Be kind to yourself. We will get through this, right??

lpearlmom

Hi heather, yeah i hope so. My stupid fat % thing on my scale suddenly stopped working so i have no idea. i think 2-3x a week is probably a good happy medium. My friend says she only weighs herself on those days when she’s feeling lighter & avoids weighing on days following a big eating day. That wa...

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Don’t be embarrassed, i never know what day it is! I gained back all the weight i lost fasting too yet I keep going back to it. I think it’s because i start to resent the 1 plate rule after awhile and i refuse to count calories or carbs so im left with fasting which eventually gets tiresome too. If ...

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Your food always looks so good! Thank you for running for office! Women are our only hope at this point. You are amazing!

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I love all things fermented too especially sauerkraut and kimchi! Please tell me you have The Art of Fermentation? It’s just a fabulous book! https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/B0083JQCF2/ref=dbs_a_def_awm_hsch_vapi_tkin_p1_i0 Your hike sounds so lovely and good luck with the cleaning! Have I mention...

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