A Major Revelation in My Thinking

Nicole in MD · Post by **Nicole in MD** » Wed Aug 22, 2012 1:46 pm

Hi all! I've been No Sing since Aug 10th and I wasn't going to get on the scale until next Friday but....when I woke up this morning, I looked fairly thin in the mirror (I have all kinds of signs I look for like how well I can see my collar bones and my cellulite LOL)--so I figured what the hell--I'll just get on and see where I am. Knowing full well that my biggest cheat was on Sunday which was just 2-3 days ago. Well, I was 175.2...up 2 lbs from early last week.

So you might think I freaked out and got upset--except I didn't--not at all. And I know why. Over the past week and half of doing No S, I have had a sense of calm and happiness about me that was definitely missing before. The last two nights I have made awesome dinners and all three of my boys have commented on how incredible they were. This made me feel beyond good since my boys are the center of my universe. These dinners weren't anything super special, but I did take time with choosing what to make and found real pleasure in eating them WITH the boys as opposed to eating my own food while serving them something else that I couldn't eat. I am finding myself looking forward to making dinner now and savoring my one plate...WITH the rest of my family.

After the past few weeks, I think I am really coming to the realization that I've been chasing some number on a scale that may not be attainable for myself (funny enough, I remember being 175 when I got pregnant with #3 after losing all my baby weight from baby #2). And when I really dig deep and ask myself why it's SO important to be a size 12 (which is pretty thin for my large boned body) instead of a healthy size 14, a lot of the answer has to do with trying to make my ex feel like he made a mistake by leaving me (btw--his fiance that he left me for is maybe 90lbs soaking wet! LOL). This is clearly not a good or healthy reason to make myself live a miserable, food-obsessed life!

So all this to say that I value my happiness WAY more than I value what the scale says or what size jeans I am wearing. This isn't to say that I'm going to let myself go or start eating crappy man-made food--I'm still just going to keep following No S and eat real food, made mostly by me and let my body settle where it's happy. I have also been walking outside every day for 30-40 minutes and I think that has made a difference in my outlook also. If I'm exercising and eating real, whole foods and I settle at 175, then so be it.

I'M OFFICIALLY DONE WITH DIETING!!!!!

TGIS · Post by **TGIS** » Wed Aug 22, 2012 1:52 pm

What a great post Nicole. It captures the essence of No S.

SpiritSong · Post by **SpiritSong** » Wed Aug 22, 2012 3:08 pm

Nicole, you rock.

Too solid flesh · Post by **Too solid flesh** » Wed Aug 22, 2012 4:20 pm

Wonderful post, and how lovely to be able to enjoy family meals together.

heatherhikes · Post by **heatherhikes** » Wed Aug 22, 2012 9:20 pm

On quoting Reinhard: â€œI don't think there is much point in having an ideal weight. Have ideal behavior -- habits of moderate eating and exertion. Whatever you weigh then is ideal.â€
Thank you for posting, Nicole. You have captured the spirit of NoS and made it your own much faster than some of us here. I believe this letting go of the diet mentality will help you much on your journey of habit-forming. Iâ€™ve been No-essing off and on for several months now and am still working on these things (over 40 years of dieting).
Congratulations on your newfound peace at family meal times.
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Heddi

Jethro · Post by **Jethro** » Wed Aug 22, 2012 9:50 pm

Nicole don't worry about the ex. HE made the mistake.

With NOS you'll be the best you can ever be!

Nicole in MD · Post by **Nicole in MD** » Thu Aug 23, 2012 1:33 pm

heddi55 wrote:On quoting Reinhard: â€œI don't think there is much point in having an ideal weight. Have ideal behavior -- habits of moderate eating and exertion. Whatever you weigh then is ideal.â€
Thank you for posting, Nicole. You have captured the spirit of NoS and made it your own much faster than some of us here. I believe this letting go of the diet mentality will help you much on your journey of habit-forming. Iâ€™ve been No-essing off and on for several months now and am still working on these things (over 40 years of dieting).
Congratulations on your newfound peace at family meal times.
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Heddi

WOW--that quote was a total "AH HA" moment for me! I think it's what I was trying to say in my long, rambling post but he said it so much more succinctly! Thanks for sharing it with me!

heatherhikes · Post by **heatherhikes** » Thu Aug 23, 2012 9:03 pm

Nicole in MD wrote:WOW--that quote was a total "AH HA" moment for me! I think it's what I was trying to say in my long, rambling post but he said it so much more succinctly! Thanks for sharing it with me!

Nicole, I didn't perceive your post as rambling at all. It was refreshing and heartwarming to me how you shared a little of yourself and your family situation.
After less than 2 weeks with the plan you show signs of healing already - healing "diet head." Remarkable.
I believe your post has been an encouragement to many here. Don't hesitate to let us know how you're progressing.
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Heddi

eschano · Post by **eschano** » Fri Aug 24, 2012 9:12 am

Hi Nicole, your post definitley reminded me to focus on my habits, not my weight. I read Reinhard's wording before but it's so easy to lose track of it. I guess focusing on weight is another habit to replace. Especially coming from a deprivation-mentality.
Thanks a lot!

oolala53 · Post by **oolala53** » Sat Aug 25, 2012 12:16 am

What a breakthrough!

I think the misery suffered in the quest for a certain weight has been such a huge waste in these past 50 years, and not just for me. In fact, I always had a little voice inside me that said, I don't want to be a certain weight. I want to be content! (I couldn't imagine being content with gorging myself and overeating all the time, nor with watching every mouthful to be thin.)

How sane you sound not to be wishing to be a 6 or a 4 or a 2.

I confess I wouldn't mind weighing a little less but every time I think about what I might have to do to accomplish that, I think, Not yet. Not worth it.

Welcome!