jw wrote:
finallyfull, there's something to that -- about ten years ago, my mother lost her sense of taste for almost a year. She ate MORE -- she said she had to keep trying different things to see if this next bite wasn't the one that would make a difference. When we're not hungry and eat, maybe we're also hoping this next treat is the one that gives us what we're looking for . . .
This is a real epiphany for me! It rings very true if it comes to S-days, and I feel many of those who struggle with them can relate: eating just because you can won't make you satisfied, ever. You need to really, soulfully crave something specific, and then satisfy that craving. There are no shortcuts. Otherwise you can keep eating and eating and eating some more, and you willl never feel like it's been enough.
Perhaps that's the main problem some of us have with S-days. We plan to have this or that because, well, it's weekend, and we're allowed to eat! We cannot stand the thought of passing up the opportunity. But if you never wanted that particular thing in the first place, you're never going to get any satisfaction from it. Worse: you expect the pleasure, but gain none, so you keep reaching for more or go find something else that perhaps will do the trick. Rinse, repeat. That's my usual S-day cycle.
I'm not sure if I can do it, let go of opportunities, just wait until craving hits. Or simply not have any treats during weekend, because I didn't really want any. It pushes my panic button.
Any advice/thoughts on accepting "sometimes" into one's life?
