Gingerpie's 21 day challenge

Counting carbs/calories is a drag. Obsessive scale stepping is a recipe for despair. If you want to count something, "days on habit" is a much better metric. Checking off days on a calendar would do just fine, but if you do it here you get accountability and support. Here's how. Start a new topic in this forum called (say) "Your Name Daily Check In." Then every N day post a "reply" to that topic as to whether you stayed on habit. A simple "<font color="green">SUCCESS</font>" or "<font color="red">FAILURE</font>" (or your preferred euphemism if that's too harsh) is sufficient, but obviously you're welcome to write more if you want. On S-days just register that you're taking an S-day. You don't have to do this forever, just until you're confident you've built the habit. Feel free to check in weekly or monthly or sporadically instead of daily. Feel free also to track other habits besides No-s (I'm keeping this forum under No-s because that's what the vast majority are using it for). See also my <a href="/habitcal/">HabitCal</a> tool for another more formal (and perhaps complementary) way to track habits.

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Post by osoniye » Mon Jun 22, 2015 2:34 pm

Hi gingerpie,
I appreciate your support on my thread.
You're doing so well... great continued success on the glass ceiling, progress in NoS and I'm glad you enjoyed the hiking challenge with the fam! Sounds like fun.
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Post by gingerpie » Sat Jul 11, 2015 1:24 pm

So June turned out to be a terrible month in terms of no-s compliance but a great month in terms of everything else . . . sigh . . . I so rarely get everything right at the same time :roll:

Despite my no-s fails I'm still maintaining my weight loss, feel great and am on top of my game. Not that I have a particularly tough game. It's just that I'm on top of it. I'm also feeling good about cutting back to occasional check-ins although I still lurk daily and am keeping up on what is happening here. It seems like I'm less focused on weight loss and more focused on life in general. That, my dear friends, certainly seems like a "win" in my book.

As always, Hope you all have a great day.

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Sat Jul 11, 2015 7:23 pm

:D sounds good to me!
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Post by Kit » Tue Aug 11, 2015 6:25 am

Hi ginger, yes having maintained a significant weight loss for 3 years, living life and not let dieting or maintaining or whatever define you.

Thus is why I am back to no s.....you don't even have to think about it normally, just get on with your life. Focusing 'on life in general' is what it should be about!

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Post by gingerpie » Mon Oct 19, 2015 12:34 am

Hey everybody! I decided to start posting again. It seems like compliance has been a bit too lax lately so I'm back to tighten up the reins. Overall, things have been going pretty well. I've started a couple volunteer projects that will take up quite a bit of my time so I won't have a lot of free time to post but a little accountability never hurt anyone.

Today was an s day but a very modest one - just had an extra piece of fish at dinner. Hopefully tomorrow will be just as modest.

I guess I'll go back my 21 Day challenge. I was only able to complete it once so it still seems like a worthy goal. So,

Day 1- success 8)

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Post by lpearlmom » Tue Oct 20, 2015 3:37 am

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Post by gingerpie » Tue Oct 20, 2015 9:33 am

Back to my old tricks. Chips in the evening but I'm taking it as a win because I really didn't enjoy them or the feeling afterward. I had similar experiences when I went sugar free-ish:first thinking "this is going to taste really good" then a distinct feeling of disappointment in both the taste and the experience. It's good. It means I just have to wait for my brain to accept that they really don't taste as good as I remember them.

Day 2 -Disapointing but true fail

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Post by gingerpie » Wed Oct 21, 2015 9:42 am

Yesterday was a fail weird one too. I could see it coming yet was unable to deflect it. Well, today's another day.

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Post by oolala53 » Wed Oct 21, 2015 1:28 pm

Pretty sure we've all done that one. :)
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Post by gingerpie » Thu Oct 22, 2015 10:01 am

It's called a "challenge" for a reason, right? 8)
Day 1: success

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Post by gingerpie » Fri Oct 23, 2015 10:01 am

Day 2: success just a boring old day. Nothing much going on.

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Post by oolala53 » Fri Oct 23, 2015 11:56 pm

What could be boring about three delicious meals?
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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Sat Oct 24, 2015 9:11 am

:lol:
that made me laugh!
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Post by gingerpie » Sat Oct 24, 2015 10:51 am

Day 3 success
funny business to report: We decided to go to the high school football game last night so dinner was going to be stadium food. I allowed a snack around 6:30 since I knew it was going to be another couple of hours before I ate and lunch was at 11:00 am (I work in a school) in retrospect, I wish I had chosen a piece of fruit but I didn't.

In case you're wondering . . . Dinner was just as delicious as you would imagine high school stadium food would be ;) luckily the lack of deliciousness greatly encouraged moderation. Overall, a success.

Have a nice weekend everybody.

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Post by oolala53 » Sat Oct 24, 2015 3:06 pm

In my early days, having such an unsatisfying meal would likely have sent me looking for something else later. Kudos for making do.
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Post by gingerpie » Sun Oct 25, 2015 11:57 am

Yes, I think that's true for me as well oolala. I would have kept eating in an attempt to find that "satisfying" combination of taste and texture. Its a huge win that I can now recognize that not all food is satisfying either nutritionally or emotionally and that's okay.

Yesterday was an s- day and as s-days go it was okay. I had both brunch at a friend's house and dinner at another friend's. At both meals I ate to the overfull mark which is a bit disappointing but it wasn't a crazy day otherwise. I also had , a relatively, small portion of chips between the meals as a snack but I wasn't really hungry when I ate them. I bring this up because I think my next step should be to focus on really paying attention to my comfortably-full vs. over-full feelings.

I'm re-writing my goals just so I don't loose sight of them.
1) vanilla no-s
No snacks
No sweets
No seconds (slight mod of noticing if I really need
those last few bites)
2) Run 4 days a week/ walk the rest
3) Do something productive in the evenings. . . . A few
Choices: Phone calls, Volunteer work, Paperwork really . . The list is endless :shock:

Speaking of productive - I'd better go do something :)

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Post by oolala53 » Sun Oct 25, 2015 4:10 pm

Great plans. Me, too.
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Post by gingerpie » Tue Oct 27, 2015 10:12 am

Dismal fail I think I may need to really evaluate why I'm doing this and also evaluate what the payoff is for when I fail. There must be something I'm missing and not addressing but I sure don't know what it is. We'll, Today (or more specifically, tonight) Will be the day I turn the corner! ! " I think I can,. I think I can. I think I can .
. . . said the Little Engine! - possibly the best book ever written. :lol:

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Post by oolala53 » Tue Oct 27, 2015 12:56 pm

Or look the negative consequences when you fail. I concentrate on how it will ruin the next meal. A bit on not liking feeling the food controls me, but I try to avoid much drama around that.

Sometimes just getting through the hardest meal gap without failing for a few days can get the ball rolling again.

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Tue Oct 27, 2015 6:39 pm

Making too many rules can make you rebel............ Reinhard recommends concentrating purely on the three meals a day until you have it down.

I don't know if this would help you - but I do two things that have become crucial to my No S habit. Firstly I always make myself wait until 12 midday before I eat lunch - no matter how early breakfast was. If my belly is rumbling at 11am - I make another cup of coffee. Secondly, I always know what I'm going to eat - I write down breakfast, lunch, dinner for the next day (or more) in a notebook in the kitchen. If I know I'm going to have a 'heavy' day at work - then I pack a big enough lunch to 'satisfy' myself - even adding in a bag of crisps (chips) if it's going to be really stressful!

These two parts of my NoS routine really help keep me on track.

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Post by gingerpie » Wed Oct 28, 2015 1:47 am

Well that was annoying. I spent 20 minutes typing a post on my phone but the phone bugged out just as I was posting and it didn't go through. This is the short version :?

Today was a success. I think largely because I just wasn't in the mood to feel icky either physically or psychologically.

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Post by osoniye » Wed Oct 28, 2015 4:26 am

gingerpie wrote:Today was a success. I think largely because I just wasn't in the mood to feel icky either physically or psychologically.
Hi, gingerpie- That sounds right on! Avoiding feeling icky is great motivation to stay on habit, and seems like one of the most "real" reasons to stick to it! We deserve not to feel icky, and not feeling icky is within our control (mostly)!! Have a great N day.
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Post by oolala53 » Fri Oct 30, 2015 1:19 pm

Research shows that most changes in habits are sustained because the person just plain feels better when they do it. If the sacrifice doesn't yield more pleasure overall, it won't likely stick. I believe simply being thin doesn't have that payoff enough hours of the day. Finding the right amount of food intake does. It MIGHT get a person thin. But it will definitely get them feeling better.
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Post by gingerpie » Sat Oct 31, 2015 2:04 am

Went out to dinner tonight. Mostly essed my way through it but I did eat more than I needed. Nothing afterwards though so I'm happy about that. I still feel like I'm moving in the right direction although I've had a couple days of fails.

I think I've had a breakthrough of sorts. I was thinking "Boy! The last few days have been such a struggle. " But then I realized they really haven't been a struggle at all. At some point I'd decide I want something: Think "I can't have that on no-s" but then just eat it without struggling with myself. I think I need to embrace the struggle and get comfortable with it. I used to struggle but I seem to have put it aside recently.

Well, tomorrow is Saturday and I'm looking forward to coffee in bed.

Have a nice weekend everybody.

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Sat Oct 31, 2015 2:24 pm

Thanks for the congratulations on my latest post :) and I hope you enjoyed your coffee in bed! I think I'll copy that idea and take my coffee back to bed on Sunday morning :)
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Post by oolala53 » Sat Oct 31, 2015 3:27 pm

After you've had your extra hour of sleep, right, Gill? I have a feeling it's going to be just an extra hour of lying awake for me... :shock:
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Post by gingerpie » Sun Nov 01, 2015 1:52 pm

Halloween went great. Didn't get my Reese's peanut butter cup but I did get a snack size snickers and was totally satisfied. Sooo glad I didn't overdo and then feel icky today.

Today is day one of my newly re-committed 21 day Challenge: I'm going to steal Rawcookie's idea and use emoticons. My goal is to have a month that looks as cool as hers. - A case where "keeping up with the Jones" might have healthful consequence. Thanks Cookie


8)

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Post by oolala53 » Sun Nov 01, 2015 5:23 pm

Hi, girl! I actually already feel a difference in my step from a few weeks of consistent vigor. When I'm doing my exercises, I'm pushing hard, but it's only for 20-30 seconds at a time, except for the wall sit. It's definitely paying off.

I jogged years ago. I think I never got faster than a 10-minute mile. That would be a 4+-hour marathon! Started getting pain in my knees. Later I tried some workshops to change my habit but could never get it. But I can walk briskly and do little short intense exercises periodically to up the ante when I actually DO walk. Gawd, I'm resistant!
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Post by gingerpie » Mon Nov 02, 2015 2:24 am

Not bad today although a bit disappointed that I had both an icecream (one scoop with whipped cream and a small amount of chocolate sauce) and 1 Reeses peanut butter cup. Really didn't want either one (which is why I'm disappointed. If I had really wanted them it would be different) but my husband wanted to share the icecream and my daughter wanted to share the Reeses. Life is hard when ones family is thoughtful :?

Happy News? Nothing to eat after dinner. Yeah!

Tomorrow? First n-day of my first successful 21 Day challenge.

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Post by r.jean » Mon Nov 02, 2015 11:11 pm

But that was an S day right? Not so bad. You would have declined if it was an n day but you said okay to be social. Nothing wrong with that..
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Post by gingerpie » Tue Nov 03, 2015 2:29 am

R.jean, yes it was an s-day but it was bothering me that I didn't really want the sweets and yet I ate them. Oh well, I've done worse.

Today was a success it was a little challenging in the evening but I made it through. Of course it helps that there are no chips in the house ;) and now to bed do I'm not tempted!

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Post by gingerpie » Wed Nov 04, 2015 11:01 am

Another success

My husband had chips right next to me and I didn't reach for one (or two . . . Or three . . . Or the bag) :!: I was conscience of them but not hugely so. In fact, after the first 10-15 seconds I wasn't even really aware of them. I've decided that I'm going to read relevant articles about night time snacking/motivation/ etc. if and when he pulls out the snacks. It worked last night very well. It also helped that he put one servingin a bowl and he didn't offer them to me nor put the bowl next to me. I'll take all the help I Can get. :lol:

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Wed Nov 04, 2015 9:38 pm

:D brilliant - great to feel 'free' from the 'power' of those chips, right? :mrgreen:
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Post by gingerpie » Thu Nov 05, 2015 1:07 am

Sigh. . . I suppose your right rawcookie . . . But I do love me some chips. :?

success -I really have to start making meal plans. It would make my life so much easier.

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Post by natj » Fri Nov 06, 2015 1:58 am

Ginerpie,

What a clever tactic to avoid succumbing to the snacking! My husband does the same thing. Most of the time, I dream about being able to dive into the bag o chips/cheetos/whatever with him... but I am able to resist, I'd like to think because of No S and the fact that "I don't eat in between meals". The next time this happens, I think I'll try the same think you are doing! Especially because I also love me some chips... :twisted:

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Post by gingerpie » Fri Nov 06, 2015 1:04 pm

success

Stayed up a little later than usual so I was feeling legitimately hungry by the time I went to bed but I was able to remind myself that I wanted to feel successful more than I want to feel full. I think I've been having a bit of emotional/psychological hunger going on because I'll think, "I'm hungry, I didn't eat enough. Ooops, hope I can make it through to the next meal." but then when I really think about eating, I don't feel like putting anything on my stomach. Not sure what's causing it at this stage of the game.

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Post by lpearlmom » Fri Nov 06, 2015 5:39 pm

Yay lots of great progress! I see that habit is really taking hold. I was hungry last night to when I went to bed but that's when I start planning my breakfast. Knowing I have something yum to look forward to really helped me.

Have a great day!!

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Post by gingerpie » Fri Nov 06, 2015 9:11 pm

Linda, Yes, my habits have improved 10 fold since I started but I still have a few edges I need to tighten up. So far this month has been great for me and I'm really feeling optimistic.

I'm marking today green a ad early but I'm pretty confident it will hold through the night.

Edit: and it did. 7- Days in of my November challenge.

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Post by gingerpie » Sun Nov 08, 2015 1:42 pm

I'm not sure I can handle both SP and this message board. I just don't have that much to say. :roll: Who am I kidding? I could yap all day. :lol:

Have a nice day everybody.

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Sun Nov 08, 2015 6:51 pm

I find I can be more open about what I eat here - SP doesn't really 'get' S days at all - or eating three times a day and not counting calories! yap away!
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Post by lpearlmom » Mon Nov 09, 2015 4:53 am

Yeah I definitely feel like I need to tighten things up too.

I'm finding it confusing going back & forth too. I do like that I can post pictures on SP though & think having my own little page is kind of cool. Not sure what I'm going to do either.

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Post by gingerpie » Tue Nov 10, 2015 11:04 am

Linda, less time on a device is one of my goals so I'm definitely feeling like I need to stick with one or the other. I waste way too much time as it is. Well, I'm giving SP a 21 Day trial and then I'm sure I'll know what I want to do.

Day 9: success For some reason it just got easy(er). There were chips in the house but they we're only half heartedly calling my name; pretty easy to ignore.and a glass of wine sure would have gone down easy but I made tea instead. Now, of course, I'm happy I made those decisions.

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Post by gingerpie » Wed Nov 11, 2015 11:07 am

Day 10:success if I keep this up, I'll finally make my 21 Day challenge. It does seem to be getting easier. Several things seem to have coalesced to make things so much more doable: My glass ceiling is firmly in place so alcohol related eating is gone; I'm finally willing to struggle and be ok with it; and I finally want to not feel icky more than I want those chips.

It was a long time comin'

Good morning cyber friends. Especially the lurkers :wink: hope you have a satisfying Wednesday!

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Post by clarinetgal » Wed Nov 11, 2015 4:40 pm

It looks like you're doing great! :D

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Post by gingerpie » Thu Nov 12, 2015 2:38 am

Day 11: success it was tempting to break my glass ceiling this evening but I held firm in my resolve.

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Post by lpearlmom » Thu Nov 12, 2015 5:42 am

You're doing great--you got this!
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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Thu Nov 12, 2015 10:39 pm

those little green men all lined up smiling at us are powerful motivators aren't they?
well done - keep going!
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Post by gingerpie » Fri Nov 13, 2015 6:37 pm

They are completely "adorbs", cookie. A great motivator.

Day 12 a success I've been doing great with the challenge but I have a sneaky feeling that I'm gaining. I'll stick with the habit building because I think it's the best course of action but I am not happy. :evil:

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Post by osoniye » Sat Nov 14, 2015 8:20 am

Well, Gingerpie, I guess it can all be chalked up to "valuable information".
For me, when I maintain or gain with good compliance, it lets me know that the "what" on my plates is too heavy for me at this weight, age, etc. It's not always pleasant, but the information can be helpful. I often have to pay attention to increasing the % of vegetables on my plates, and then the weight loss starts up again after a while.
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Post by crossthebreeze » Sat Nov 14, 2015 10:23 am

you seem to be doing great with your habits at the minute - well done for resisting all those chips! I've found that reducing my alcohol intake has reduced my snacking too.

I don't have enough experience with no s to say much about the worries about gaining even with compliance, but I reckon that building habit is good in itself (and a foundation for other healthy habits).

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Post by gingerpie » Sat Nov 14, 2015 12:27 pm

Hi guys, Thanks for the support. I'll just have to reevaluate -again :? My exercise routine has dropped (not stopped though) due to a change in my household routine which has changed. It's disturbing to think that my weight hinges so precipitously on the edge between gaining and loosing. It disappoints me because I was hoping, one day, to be able to live my life without thinking about it so much. I guess it will always have to be at the forefront of my mind and, quite frankly, that makes me sad. I don't want every decision I make including (apparently) whether we have "family" style dinners together to be framed In the question of "how will this effect my weight? I say that because that was my change. In order to be able to eat together, I have to start cooking as soon as I get home. It's moving into winter here which means I can't get out to run after I cook. Hence the drop in the amount of exercise I get. Yes, I know I sound sulky. That's because I am sulky. I'm realizing I'm never going to have the freedom that, so called "naturally thin" people have because I'm not one. I'm a 54 yo formerly thin then fat then sitting-on-the -precipitous" person. TBH - I want the freedom of youth back.

On a happy note- dh finally got his dutch passport straightened out which means our options have really opened up in terms of moving out of this wasteland of suburbia which has built up around us.

And lastly, not surprisingly, yesterday was a fail

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Sat Nov 14, 2015 6:54 pm

Hmm, I have had similar thoughts about this. Seems to me we live in a world where everyone else can eat what they hell they like and we have to 'be careful' right? I look at people in my office stuffing their faces with biscuits (cookies) and doughnuts, talking about drinking wine etc etc........ but I often wonder about their state of health. They look like they're 'getting away with it' but are they?

I'll have to read back through your posts to see what your reference to 'family' style dinners are and why they're a problem.

I have a little quote written down from Judith Beck "This is how all successful weight maintainers eat. I have a choice: I can be over-whelmed by the unfairness, or I can accept that this is what I have to do if I want permanent weight loss."

This quote helped me a lot to accept that this is how I have to manage my health and my eating if I don't want to be fat and unhealthy! :wink:
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Post by gingerpie » Sat Nov 14, 2015 7:04 pm

rawcookie, The dinners themselves are not the problem. They are actually quite nice. e all sit down at the same time and have real conversations about how they day went etc. The problem is that I don't have time to fit in my exercise after I cook. Therefore, I haven't been exercising as much. It's really just a problem of logistics but it's an irritating one for me.

Hope you have a good weekend.

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Post by milliem » Sun Nov 15, 2015 11:15 am

Hi gingerpie, you seem to be doing really well overall!

Logistics are a pain sometimes - is there any way that your hubby can help with the cooking/preparation so you can get out for a run? Or perhaps there is a gym nearby you could go to later in the evening for a run on a treadmill? When I don't want to or can't run outside, I love to do yoga videos indoors! There are loads of free ones on youtube and you can get a great workout if you choose the right ones.

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Post by gingerpie » Sun Nov 15, 2015 1:07 pm

Millium, Thanks for checking in. I'm really just whining :roll: I do just have to figure out a schedule -then stick to it, which is the hard part. The reason I'm so whiny is that I've had to adjust my schedule about a kazillion times and I'd really like to be the one that everyone else has to adjust their schedule for. Alas, it's not to be. Two of my 3 kids don't get home 'till 5:30 - 6:00 ish. And they come home starved so dinner has to be ready or there will be no family dinner. It we be "eat what you can find" and "every man for himself". I found 3 crock pot ideas for the coming week. I'm not usually a fan of crock pot food - but I'll give it a shot. The 12 year old can help prepare some things. And yes, I can scale back my exercise goals somewhat. I'm soooo over thinking about food. Both my own and everyone else's.

Ate more than I needed yesterday but trending more and more into the reasonable s-day zone so I'm not disatisfied.

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Post by oolala53 » Sun Nov 15, 2015 2:01 pm

I am feeling peeved with myself reading of your scheduling issues because I have none of these issues and still don't exercise. I could even run in my neighborhood in the dark. Also have tons of workout videos, plus the net. Just pure lethargy here.

Is it time you don't have or light? I guess going for a brisk walk with dh after dinner is not an option? No need to reply. You've probably thought of that one or wished for it and don't need reminding he's not into it.

I've never been able to aim at weight loss on No S. Because of changing hunger levels, Ive 'had to keep adjusting what moderation is. Weight loss has happened in spurts, and isn't usually something explained by the previous few days' eating. It's the underlying value of moderation that keeps me going. The 3-meal structure just continues to be the easiest (not completely easy) way to achieve it.

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Post by gingerpie » Sun Nov 15, 2015 3:35 pm

Oolala, I'm sure I'll figure out how to make it all come together in the end. I did it last year - although last year was somewhat different because last year we didn't eat together so often. But I'm finding that eating together is invaluable in terms of maintaining a nice relationship with the kids. It really does make a difference. Yes, they all disappear into their rooms when the meal is over but at least we have that one time of day that we are all together and sharing stories of our day. (dh is the exception. Due to his work schedule he isn't always able to make it home in time - which is also why I can't count on him to help me out with preparation or even walking together.) So, I'll try the crock pot meals and the kids are pretty good about helping me prep for the next day. In a pinch I can use u-tube videos. I just don't find them as satisfying.

It's a beautiful sunny day here today. I plan to enjoy it to the hilt. :)

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Post by oolala53 » Sun Nov 15, 2015 3:52 pm

I'm so glad you want common meals. It's funny, because it didn't keep our family close, but I'm still glad I grew up with it.
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Post by lpearlmom » Mon Nov 16, 2015 5:23 am

I relate to the difficulty of dinners. I don't have the problem of timing too much except on my daughters soccer practice nights. I do a crockpot night on her Tuesday night practice & a leftover night on the other night. Mainly I have to deal with everyone's different dietary needs/wants. Planning meals becomes so complicated.

I've gotten really bad about the family meals. I make a big dinner most nights but then we usually end up eating in front of the television. Horrible habit I know but we all enjoy it so much. We do spend tons of time with each other though so not too worried bout it.

Anyone good luck with navigating it all!
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Post by gingerpie » Tue Nov 17, 2015 10:55 am

Thanks everyone for helping me through my snit. I'm over it now and moving on.
I've got 1 super quick healthy and satisfying meal in my rotation. Today I'm trying out #2. 8)

Yesterday was a fail but today issuing to be asuccess. I can feel it.

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Post by gingerpie » Wed Nov 18, 2015 1:03 pm

Last night's crockpot soup is not a keeper. :cry: I did however make enough to have leftovers tonight. :? The irony is not lost on me . . .

Yesterday:fail I should have gone to bed earlier. I'm 1/2 sick and don't have much left in the way of stern self-talk. Guess I'll switch over to kindly self-talk.

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Post by gingerpie » Thu Nov 19, 2015 11:02 am

fail not too bad though. Still working on those evening chips. To be clear, although I'm still failing regularly, the amount I'm eating now compared to 1 year ago is infinitesimal. Recently I realized we are only six weeks away from New Year's. I had made a 1 year commitment to no-s on Jan. 1, 2015. I think vanilla no-s -no reds- from now to Dec. 31st is a fine goal to make.

Food saga update: The leftovers from Tuesday were still gross. They did not magically improve overnight in the 'frig as I had hoped. Undaunted, I'll try another crockpot idea today.

Exercise saga update: I got my run in twice this week (thank you crockpot goop &#128533;) and the only reason I didn't run the third day was because I walked the dog. - I used to run with him but I guess I got too fast (I'm not even kidding) because now when I start to run, he just sits down and refuses to move. Sometimes he lays down and looks at me out of 1 eye. -adorable but frustrating.

All in all, not a week to complain about. So I wont.

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Post by gingerpie » Sat Nov 21, 2015 6:23 pm

I've been noticing recently that I often eat to overfull. Did I always do that or is it a new thing? I'm not sure. I don't plan to address it just yet. First I need to continue to work on cleaning up my evening snack habit. Baby steps are the way to success.

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Post by gingerpie » Tue Nov 24, 2015 10:56 am

Yesterday - success

my plan for the week is to take no more than 2 s-days. Possibly today because it is my birthday and there might be ice cream with dinner. (It isn't my favorite dessert but my husband thinks it is.&#128521;) And Thursday for Thanksgiving. It wont be huge because we are taking a short trip instead of doing the eat-all-day family style dinner but there is sure to be a treat involved.

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Post by osoniye » Tue Nov 24, 2015 1:19 pm

HAPPY BIRTHDAY, GINGERPIE!! :D
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Post by nettee » Tue Nov 24, 2015 9:58 pm

Hope you are enjoying your Birthday ice cream

good to read about all the ups and downs in your diary, great that you are doing so well

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Post by clarinetgal » Fri Nov 27, 2015 6:59 pm

Happy birthday! I hope you enjoyed your ice cream!

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Post by gingerpie » Sun Nov 29, 2015 1:27 pm

I'm back from our little trip. All in all, not bad in terms of no-s. We aren't a family that stops at every food vendor for a snack or a taste so it's pretty easy to no-s it through a vacation. Some things I did notice that I'd like to work on.

1) Sooooo many things look or sound better than they actually taste. I'd like to be pickier about what I choose to eat just because I'm eating less and therefor I'd like to enjoy it more.

2) I need to order way less food than I used to. Sometimes, I forget that. Right now, I almost always can share my too-big order with one of my kids but it's a habit I'd like to lose.

3) I still often eat past the edge of satiation. I'd like to work on stopping a few bites ealier.

Friday was a red but I forget why. I just remember thinking it at some point. Well, Dec. Is my last chance for a 21 day streak in 2015.

Have a nice day everybody.

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Post by clarinetgal » Mon Nov 30, 2015 11:03 pm

I'm glad you had a good trip, and that you were able to mostly stick to No S. I can certainly relate to the things you said you need to work on!

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Tue Dec 01, 2015 6:31 pm

21- day streak in December is a great goal - go for it!

I'm sorry about the ice-cream thing on your birthday - maybe, one day, you can tell your husband that it's not your favourite? I had a birthday recently too - and found myself eating stuff I didn't want to eat because a friend insisted on taking me out to tea. It has made me think about how I could be more assertive next time though!
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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Sat Jan 30, 2016 9:03 pm

Hiya - thanks for stopping in on my thread to say 'hello!'. Yes, I am doing well with No S - it really seems to suit me. I had a couple of RED days in January - but nothing terrible.
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Post by osoniye » Sun Jan 31, 2016 6:44 am

How are things going, Ginger?
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Post by gingerpie » Fri Feb 19, 2016 2:44 pm

I'm going to come back to daily accountability for a few months. Sadly, I'm still struggling with nighttime snacks. Everything else is going great though. I've added morning meditation and evening stretching o my routine and love it. Now . . . For the ladt hurdle.

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Fri Feb 19, 2016 11:28 pm

Welcome back - daily accountability keeps me on track.
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Post by gingerpie » Sat Feb 20, 2016 6:23 pm

Same goals as forever:
total compliance with no-s
glass ceiling of: no more than1 drink per night on weekends and 0 drinks on work nights.

Last night (Friday) counted as a "weekend" as far as glass ceiling goes because I don't work the next day and it was a Success. - I had 1/2 glass of wine but probably only because we were out :wink: but hey, success is success.

No-s was also success. A little funny stuff because we went out to eat and that's always difficult to judge. I mean it all fit one one plate but it was a restaurant size plate. The important thing (for me) is that I didn't eat anything after dinner.

The whole after dinner eating thing is definitely my nemesis. When I finally kick that I'll be a happy camper.

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Post by gingerpie » Sun Feb 21, 2016 12:59 pm

s-day yesterday. Did a bit more "picking than usual but otherwise just a day.

Glass Ceiling was a success

Hope you all have a nice day.

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Post by lpearlmom » Sun Feb 21, 2016 2:35 pm

Hi ginger!

Glad to see you back here. Looks like things are going well thus far.

Thanks for stopping by my thread. Have a great day.

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Post by gingerpie » Mon Feb 22, 2016 3:07 pm

Hey Linda, it's always good to hear from you. :D

Yesterday no-s: s-day Not remarkable either way.
Glass ceiling: success Nothing in the house so no temptation.

I've been meditating for 5-10 minutes in the morning and I've added a 10 minute stretching routine in the evening. I think it really is helping to keep me more focused and relaxed throughout the day. I recomend it to anybody who may be on the fence about starting a routine. As always, I started out with a super simple routine and a very short time (5 minutes per day) to ensure habit forming without resentment.

Happy Monday. :wink:

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Post by gingerpie » Tue Feb 23, 2016 10:58 am

No-s: success
Glass Ceiling: success - it really is so much easier with nothing in the house. My husband is on board (more or less) so it's been much easier to keep temptation at bay.

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Post by lpearlmom » Tue Feb 23, 2016 4:51 pm

I really need to start stretching before bed. I wake up so stiff and sore every morning and I think it's just muscle tension from stress so meditating would prob help too.

Glad things are going well. Having dh on the same page was key for me.

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Post by gingerpie » Wed Feb 24, 2016 2:26 pm

No- s: success
Glass ceiling: success

I've been reminding myself that just because I want something doesn't mean I have to have it. Sometimes I sound like a child :? Hopefully, I get past this stage soon.[/quote]

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Post by gingerpie » Fri Feb 26, 2016 4:15 pm

No-s fail day of travel: I could have no-essed my way through it but I didn't

Glass ceiling fail:

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Post by gingerpie » Sat Feb 27, 2016 1:49 pm

no w fail: no good reason. You'd think I be tired of writing in red but apparently I'm not ready for too much green yet. Maybe St. Patrick's say will bring out the green in me. :roll:

Glass Ceiling success

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Post by gingerpie » Mon Sep 26, 2016 10:02 am

So, I'm back . . . Spring and Summer were great and I made huge advances in all aspects of my life. But, as is always the way with me, I still have lots of"cleaning up the details" too do. I'm going to try Reinhardt's idea of "negative quantification" a try. That means I'll only be posting when I fail. So without further ado . . .

Yesterday was a . fail cookies at lunch and later a piece of cake my daughter made.

Fridays and Saturdays are my non- s days.

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Post by RAWCOOKIE » Mon Sep 26, 2016 2:23 pm

Hi! Nice to see you back. I do the negative tracking thing with the HabitCal - it does mean that I forget to update the HabitCal though!

I hope you have a good week.
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Post by gingerpie » Wed Apr 26, 2017 11:42 pm

1st day almost over and happily a success so far! Just like riding a bike. Hope I don't crash.

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Woot!

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Post by oolala53 » Mon May 01, 2017 11:56 pm

I guess you didn't have a lot of fails between last September and now. Awesome!
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Post by gingerpie » Mon Aug 21, 2017 3:51 pm

I guess you didn't have a lot of fails between last September and now. Awesome!
I didn't even see this pop up on the board . . . I guess I wasn't checking every day!! Or at all.

Anyway, I'm in a bit of a weird spot as I can't decide how I want to handle this phase of the journey. As I mentioned previously, I had good intentions of trying negative quantification but that experiment was a dismal failure. Not that I've been failing every day, just that my checking in on the board was much more "willy-nilly" than I had anticipated. This is, in part, because I can't decide how I want to use the board right now. I'm afraid to go off completely because when I've done that in the past it just leads to lack of accountability which in turn leads to - you guessed it- lack of compliance.

There is so much red on my calendar that I'm amazed I haven't gained back everything. But I haven't because, although I'm "red" a lot, my transgressions are relatively small. Right now, I'm focused on eliminating evening snacks which remain my largest hurdle. I'm getting there though.
I've discovered that eating after dinner makes a huge difference in the quality of my sleep. don't know how I hadn't noticed this connection before but 'est la vie I've noticed it now. This new discovery has made it relatively easy to find the motivation to be strict with myself - I do love my sleep!

Truth be told: I'm tired of thinking about any of it. When I started this adventure, I imagined that once I was compliant with the rules I would be able to stop thinking about anything diet or food related. It turns out not to be true. At least not yet. I think that this is in part because as I age I have more health related issues that either need to be addressed through diet or at least can be lessened through dietary changes. I will say, that no-s provides lovely structure for dealing with all sorts of special dietary issues and when I'm not feeling whiny I'm happy to have it. At least, I have a clear picture of what I'm eating and therefore what changes can be made. Sadly, I'm also frustrated that it seems as though it's never enough. Each year brings something new that I need to think about.

Ah well, perhaps, I'm just feeling the loss of my youth; there is sadness in the ebbing tide.

Thanks for listening and kind regards,

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Post by r.jean » Tue Aug 22, 2017 12:47 am

I think you have to decide to just let it all go and take it one day at a time in order to get the result you want. I quit keeping constant track of how many reds I have a long time ago. In my mind, I note that I had a red day, and I move on. However, this only works UNTIL I start gaining weight. Then I get back on this site, do some posting, do some reading, do some tracking of habits and get back on track. That is where I am right now. I am back at my maintenance weight now after creeping up in the second half of 2016 during some very stressful times.

You noted that your reds are minor, and your eating habits have changed a lot. Only you know when you are ready to decrease your tracking.

I am not sure how old you are, but aging and being part of the sandwich generation where we are nurturing our parents, our kids, and our grandkids is at times stressful. I sometimes do not take care of myself because I am taking care of others!

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Post by gingerpie » Thu Aug 24, 2017 9:14 pm

Hi r.jean, Yes, I think you're right. I think I'm ready to give up the tracking and just do what I know I need to do. I'm a bit nervous about it though. It's been a part of my life for quite a while now.

Truth be told, I'm a bit saddened because I really thought that the day would come when (for days or weeks at a time) I just would no longer need to think about food choices. My fantasy was: I would wake up and without thinking about it - I'd eat. Then lunch time wold roll around and again without thinking about it -I'd eat. Then dinner . . . you get the idea. But, it doesn't seem like that's ever going to happen for me. I was doing well just with no-s but a year or so ago I had some blood work done that showed that my blood sugar was in the pre-diabetic range. I sulked about it for a few quite a while but eventually made the changes that I needed to make to avoid sliding into the even bigger problem of diabetes. I'm happy to report that my changes let to success but that meant I had to think about my food again. Now, this years blood work came back perfect in terms of sugar but. . . my cholesterol is way to high. *sigh* so, now I have something else to think about in terms of diet; tweak this, adjust that, so on and so on. I think oolala has mentioned (this is some serious paraphrasing here) that we need to fill our minds with life's adventure instead of focusing on food, food and more food. While I agree with that in theory, it seems as though in reality life is conspiring against me.

Well, don't pity me too much :roll: My life is good. My kids are great and my husband amazing, Our home comfortable and plenty of food in the cupboards. We took our oldest off to college last weekend and it made me think about the future and what I thought was, "I don't want to be thinking about freakin food!" I want to be thinking about getting ready to move on in all the wonderful ways that are possible. And to that end, I'll continue my journey. :wink:

And on that happy note, warm regards to you all.
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Post by oolala53 » Sat Aug 26, 2017 5:50 pm

Ah, you got brainwashed by the IF tribe, maybe? Problem is, it's only a minority of people in the world who live like that and stay slim.

Slim societies think about food a lot. They just don't fret about it. They have routines for the building blocks for meals, and they tend not to question them, but they definitely think about what they will have at their meals, and usually beforehand, not at the last minute; often, at least one meal is often pretty much set, so there's very little thinking about it, just enjoying it. Reinhard and others have intelligent dietary defaults.

You can actually get to the point at which you don't think about food that much when you accept that it doesn't work for your body to allow for the vast array of "food" available to Americans. Theoretically, you can maintain a low weight on any low intake, but there is no guarantee your body will thrive on them. You can have wonderful meals with a narrower array.

Did your doctor say anything about your cholesterol rise? What about the HDL/LDL ratio? My cholesterol has gone up about 50 points on No S, while my weight is the lowest of my adult life. But my ratio is good, and my doctor said with my readings, my odds of suffering from the stereotypical effects of high cholesterol are very low, so I haven't made any changes for that purpose. But I always aspire to have modern processed foods play a very small role, and would probably cut them back to events counted by the year rather than the week or even month if my blood work goes wonky. The limiting I do isn't completely carefree, but it's worth it to me. I think you'll find your groove, too.
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Post by gingerpie » Sat Sep 09, 2017 6:00 pm

Ah, you got brainwashed by the IF tribe, maybe?
Not deliberately oolala, I've actually never read any IF materials until after I saw this post and I went off and looked it up :lol: I just honestly thought that some people didn't have to think about their food like I do. I suppose your right though and that everyone thinks about food. After all, without it we die. It would be nice though not to fret as you say. I suppose I'll keep working towards that as a goal . . . no fretting. It sounds like a lovely way to live.

My HDL/LDL ratio is good. It just seems odd to me that it's going up rather than down. I've decided to adjust my diet to as "perfect" as I can reasonably make it which for me means:
1) alcohol free - except when out with friends (similar to sweets only in the company of others.)
2) 1 cup of coffee per day
3) no-s
4) low-carb on a no-s schedule: in other words follow low-carb 5 days a week with weekends being more relaxed.
5) exercise daily

My thought is that if I do all that and still have issues than I don't think I can worry about it any more. I also know that I can reasonably do all that and still enjoy my life.

My funk seems to have passed. I'm feeling much more able to move forward and less resentful of the process. It's funny but I seem to need a few sulky days every few months. I don't know why I cant seem to outgrow the feeling that life should somehow be fair when I know perfectly well that it is, indeed, very unfair.

Enjoy the weekend everybody. Hope you all have a great one.

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Post by oolala53 » Sat Sep 09, 2017 6:11 pm

To be clear, there are SOME people who actually don't think about their eating. They exist at all weights. Some of them, even thin ones, develop health problems that can be reversed by different eating.

There's only so much any one of us are willing to do. Cancer researcher Valter Longo found that cancer patients felt much less sick during chemo when they fasted for a few days before it. But many were not willing to do it. He said, you can't expect to completely take away people's pleasure.

I'm grappling with that now and will muse on it on my thread.
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Post by gingerpie » Sat Sep 09, 2017 6:20 pm

you can't expect to completely take away people's pleasure.
I wonder why pleasure is so wrapped up in food - or vice versa? I mean, why do I not gain as much pleasure from completing a task as I do from a chicken wing?

No need to answer :wink: Just some of my own musing.

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Post by oolala53 » Sat Sep 09, 2017 8:40 pm

Because a chicken wing means survival and passing on your genes. If the human body had not evolved to be very reinforced for eating, none of us would be here. However, it also evolved when there was often food scarcity. It wasn't designed for being able to ingest so many calories for so little effort. Since our culture doesn't do it (most don't presently), we have to create our own scarcity for our own ends as pleasantly as we can.

Don't feel bad. The WHO reports that EVERY country in the world that doesn't experience food scarcity or war has had its average weight rise in the last decades. Many of them don't realize how it's happening and will likely go down the same failure paths Americans have.
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Post by oolala53 » Sun Sep 10, 2017 2:31 pm

Saw your comment about looking for vegetable recipes rather than baking cookies. I gave up baking sweet foods (unless I'm failing) a few years ago and had greatly decreased it already before that. I took a macrobiotic cooking class (didn't and don't try to follow it) about 20 years ago and am grateful for how much it added to my whole grain and vegetable intake. On Sparkpeople, and actually just about everywhere, there is a fascination with baked sugar/flour products. Oh, the muffin mania! And I also see almost all failures there linked to it.

My apologies if I've missed that you are a muffin maven.
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Post by gingerpie » Thu Oct 05, 2017 2:01 pm

So annoying that I keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Not huge mistakes but enough to keep me from feeling like I'm continuing to make headway. I do fine until after dinner. I mean really fine. Not much effort except for when I first arrive home from work. I arrive home hungry but I"ve learned from experience that I"ll regret it if I eat before dinner so most days I don't. My nemesis remains the after dinner/before bed time-frame. I really wish I could get past this hurdle. I feel like it's honestly the last one but boy does it stick. I think my longest streak of success was about 14 days and it really improved my sleep and thereby my general attitude. It's a bit of an effort to check in everyday but maybe it's what I need. (know I've said it before)

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Post by Merry » Fri Oct 06, 2017 8:43 pm

gingerpie wrote:So annoying that I keep making the same mistakes over and over again. Not huge mistakes but enough to keep me from feeling like I'm continuing to make headway. I do fine until after dinner. I mean really fine. Not much effort except for when I first arrive home from work. I arrive home hungry but I"ve learned from experience that I"ll regret it if I eat before dinner so most days I don't. My nemesis remains the after dinner/before bed time-frame. I really wish I could get past this hurdle. I feel like it's honestly the last one but boy does it stick. I think my longest streak of success was about 14 days and it really improved my sleep and thereby my general attitude. It's a bit of an effort to check in everyday but maybe it's what I need. (know I've said it before)

Have a nice day everybody
So, what could you choose instead of a snack after dinner?
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