Jen's checkin thread

Counting carbs/calories is a drag. Obsessive scale stepping is a recipe for despair. If you want to count something, "days on habit" is a much better metric. Checking off days on a calendar would do just fine, but if you do it here you get accountability and support. Here's how. Start a new topic in this forum called (say) "Your Name Daily Check In." Then every N day post a "reply" to that topic as to whether you stayed on habit. A simple "<font color="green">SUCCESS</font>" or "<font color="red">FAILURE</font>" (or your preferred euphemism if that's too harsh) is sufficient, but obviously you're welcome to write more if you want. On S-days just register that you're taking an S-day. You don't have to do this forever, just until you're confident you've built the habit. Feel free to check in weekly or monthly or sporadically instead of daily. Feel free also to track other habits besides No-s (I'm keeping this forum under No-s because that's what the vast majority are using it for). See also my <a href="/habitcal/">HabitCal</a> tool for another more formal (and perhaps complementary) way to track habits.

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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by jenji » Fri Mar 22, 2019 7:19 pm

False alarm on the weight loss restarting. My weight bounced back up to 170 after that, then back to 169. Oh well. I forgot to weigh today or yesterday. I took a yellow day for Purim, for the hamentaschen (little triangular cookies that my MIL send to us).

I also had a red day yesterday.
I'm a 49-year-old mom and non-profit CEO
I am 5' 7.5"
Began No S at 184#, BMI 28.4 - 9/25/2017
Current weight 168#, BMI 25.9- 11/18/2018

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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by jenji » Thu Apr 04, 2019 5:46 pm

170# today. I've had some 168 and 169 days in between but didn't come on here.

Red day yesterday. High stress time of year for me. Yesterday I cheated with dried mango as well as having warm haldi milk (sweetened, which is what makes it a cheat).

I also was borderline red on Monday. I made sangria, which was a bit sweet from orange/mango juice, and had two glasses.

I am doing okay today. Walked to work (2.5 miles with a detour). Breakfast: everything bagel and cream cheese. Lunch: turkey sandwich, carrot sticks, and apple slices from the cafeteria. Dinner tonight - ?

We've been eating vegetarian at home, mostly. My kid has stuck with it. Last night was typical: rice & black beans with cheddar cheese and tomatoes. Side of pea pod stems, and an apple for dessert. I also had beans for lunch yesterday, a pinto bean casserole with corn and a buttermilk cornbread topping.
I'm a 49-year-old mom and non-profit CEO
I am 5' 7.5"
Began No S at 184#, BMI 28.4 - 9/25/2017
Current weight 168#, BMI 25.9- 11/18/2018

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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by jenji » Mon Apr 08, 2019 5:09 pm

Especially since having a daughter, I try to never talk in fatphobic ways about my body or anyone else's, but I failed at that this weekend. I was at a training event with all women, and I was talking about No S with a friend there who has been struggling with her eating. That's fine, but then she said her doctor has reassured her that she is healthy even though she's gained a lot of weight. I chimed in that my doctor had done the same, but "meanwhile, my doctor is fat!" I knew it was an f*ed-up thing to say as soon as it was out of my mouth. I was invalidating my doctor's knowledge based on her body, and saying something damaging to any woman listening. Instead, I could've just said I'm sure she is healthy, but her concerns about her rate of weight gain are ones I shared. I am just putting it here because I am trying to figure out how to turn off this nasty voice in my head and certainly not say something out loud, even if it's in my head. I sent an apology to the group afterward. I think that I will try for a while to be curious and mindful when I hear this voice in my head. If I can just learn to recognize, "that is fatphobic", and be curious about why, I think I will learn something.
I'm a 49-year-old mom and non-profit CEO
I am 5' 7.5"
Began No S at 184#, BMI 28.4 - 9/25/2017
Current weight 168#, BMI 25.9- 11/18/2018

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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by Larkspur » Thu Apr 11, 2019 6:40 pm

That is a toughie because fat is such a loaded word. It could be an adjective. Or a medical condition. Or a risk factor. Or a devastating personal judgement. I wish we could take the emotion out of it, but that doesn't seem likely, does it? My daughter is very tall, 5'11". She is so tired of, "YOU'RE SO TALL!" She knows she's tall and that people marvel and have opinions (negative, apparently) about it. I'm trying to train myself not to comment on any aspect of someone's body habitus generally. But I do think it is helpful for people to hear from the ones like you who chose to address weight gain and succeeded. Not enough success stories out there.

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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by jenji » Mon Apr 22, 2019 5:08 pm

Larkspur wrote:
Thu Apr 11, 2019 6:40 pm
That is a toughie because fat is such a loaded word. It could be an adjective. Or a medical condition. Or a risk factor. Or a devastating personal judgement. I wish we could take the emotion out of it, but that doesn't seem likely, does it? My daughter is very tall, 5'11". She is so tired of, "YOU'RE SO TALL!" She knows she's tall and that people marvel and have opinions (negative, apparently) about it. I'm trying to train myself not to comment on any aspect of someone's body habitus generally. But I do think it is helpful for people to hear from the ones like you who chose to address weight gain and succeeded. Not enough success stories out there.
My kid is tall, too, and she hates all the comments about it. She is taller than I am at age 14. Everyone's reasoning is, "But it's a compliment! I'd love to be tall!" I have learned that commenting on the body, even positive comments, are not very helpful to most of us. It is a hard habit to break.
I'm a 49-year-old mom and non-profit CEO
I am 5' 7.5"
Began No S at 184#, BMI 28.4 - 9/25/2017
Current weight 168#, BMI 25.9- 11/18/2018

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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by jenji » Mon Apr 22, 2019 5:22 pm

We are back on meat! My kid wanted to try eating vegetarian for one month. When the month ended, she was ready to eat meat again. I am grilling lamb tonight. She ate brisket at Passover, too. :D It is a relief to me, because she doesn't really like a lot of carbs, so it was hard to put meals together. She's always been one to eat the meat and the veggies, and skip the rice/bread/potato. When she was little, I used to make her sandwiches, and she'd eat the filling but throw the bread in the compost.

I guess I've been on maintenance for about 6 months. I wish I'd continued to lose weight, but for now, maintenance is okay. I will see how things go after I get through my most busy months at work. Things ease up around June for me. I think once I can catch up on my sleep, my eating choices will be healthier.
I'm a 49-year-old mom and non-profit CEO
I am 5' 7.5"
Began No S at 184#, BMI 28.4 - 9/25/2017
Current weight 168#, BMI 25.9- 11/18/2018

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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by automatedeating » Tue Apr 23, 2019 6:44 pm

Jen - so true about the sleep. I have recently been really studying the damage that lack of sleep causes us.....literally every aspect of health. I hope you can get more rest!!!
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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by jenji » Tue May 07, 2019 9:41 pm

automatedeating wrote:
Tue Apr 23, 2019 6:44 pm
Jen - so true about the sleep. I have recently been really studying the damage that lack of sleep causes us.....literally every aspect of health. I hope you can get more rest!!!
I got a few nights of 9+ hours, and I finally feel "caught up" on my sleep deficit. Interestingly, one of those nights, I was camping, and not able to be on an iPad or phone.
I'm a 49-year-old mom and non-profit CEO
I am 5' 7.5"
Began No S at 184#, BMI 28.4 - 9/25/2017
Current weight 168#, BMI 25.9- 11/18/2018

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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by oolala53 » Wed May 08, 2019 12:09 am

Heartful post about reflecting on your comment about your overweight doctor. It's quite a societal habit.

I think fat is less of an issue than overeating is. Sounds paradoxical, but I honestly believe if someone studied it, they'd find those who eat less, no matter what their weight, stay healthier longer, and that those who tend to keep some weight on despite less eating are also healthier. Early humans who could keep fat on had to be at an advantage for survival. Yeah, not a medical opinion and certainly against the grain. But it helps keep me from resenting those ectomorphs who chow down...

I don't think we can really know what our healthiest weight is until we are ready to eat a mostly nutritious diet, but that can take a long time! And there will always be exceptions.

In the meantime, we keep working out our destiny in this food-rich world of ours!
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Jan/12-26.8
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Re: Jen's checkin thread

Post by jenji » Thu May 16, 2019 7:20 pm

171#

Thank you! I am making it through my busiest time of the year, one foot in front of the other. I have a big public speaking event next week, the second one this spring, which is a stress trigger for me. I also finished my overnight Ragnar relay (17 miles for me this time).

Today I am trying out having a salad for lunch. I thought I had settled on a default lunch (the power bowl), but I quickly 'forgot' about it. Meaning, I guess it was not appealing in the long run. I think that the best default lunch will be one that I enjoy, even if it is "dull", and one that is easy. I'm still looking for it. Maybe a yogurt thing could be my default. My kid's default is PB&J.

Breakfast:
Cracked oats with blueberries, some leftover salad. Coffee and milk

Lunch:
Salad with fresh mozzarella from supermarket, small roll, apple. Tea.

Dinner
Maybe chili. That would give me leftovers for lunch tomorrow for the me and the kid. I also could make pasta with marinara sauce.
I'm a 49-year-old mom and non-profit CEO
I am 5' 7.5"
Began No S at 184#, BMI 28.4 - 9/25/2017
Current weight 168#, BMI 25.9- 11/18/2018

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