Perfectionist type eating?

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Panther
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Perfectionist type eating?

Post by Panther » Tue Jun 11, 2019 5:15 am

Is no s diet good for people with perfectionist type of eating? I am a control freak when it comes to my eating, but not in a good way. I need to lose at least 50lbs. I have an extremely WARPED view on eating. If I overeat or if I feel like my eating isn't perfect, I'll just go eat the rest of the day without trying to fight off the urge or whatever. It's a vicious cycle that I want out of
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Barbra
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Re: Perfectionist type eating?

Post by Barbra » Tue Jun 11, 2019 12:08 pm

I call this “all or nothing” eating. What helps me is breaking the day down into 3 slots on my calendar. 1 slot for each meal. If I mess up then only 1 slot gets a red... not the whole day because that’s where the all or nothing will make me throw in the towel. If I have 1 red slot then I can aim to make the next 1 green. Getting out of that mentality takes a lot of redirecting self talk!

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Re: Perfectionist type eating?

Post by automatedeating » Tue Jun 11, 2019 1:54 pm

Ok, my input here is not necessarily the best source because I do not struggle with this way of thinking. However, I will give a little input based on watching these forums for almost 6 years.

This diet won't work if your go-to response to mistakes is to self-sabotage and start thinking about the next "perfect fix" diet as soon as you make a mistake. But no diet works with that frame of mind. Dare I say - in a culture with unlimited access to foods and no traditional rules around food anymore - being overweight is the normal end result for those of us with a metabolism that lets us get overweight.

That said, you have to start somewhere and I think jumping in to this approach is a very sane option. But it won't fix the vicious cycle you referred to. I HAVE seen many people make a lot of progress with your way of thinking, but I think you will need outside help, such as spend the summer reading about habit changes, and books on self-compassion (basically anything by Brene Brown). Maybe see a counselor (I think we are all better off with a paid empathizer from time to time, lol). Brene Brown even has a book on "The Gifts of Imperfection".

And, I always give my plug for using the Daily Check-in. Although after making this plug a zillion times and seeing that most people only want to "journal" on here while they are focused on food regulation, I am now altering my constant suggestion to -- "just start journaling". Use this forum like I do, or another online anonymous journal, or start a blog, or just use a Google doc, or a plain old notebook, but start the long process of peeling back the layers of your perfectionism to get to the scared and hurt little girl under all of that. Once you reassure her that she is loved even when she makes mistakes, she'll start taking small steps toward you and away from her prison of perfectionism.

Perfectionism is a real destroyer of happiness and a stealer of joy. Good luck and .. welcome aboard? :-)
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Panther
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Re: Perfectionist type eating?

Post by Panther » Tue Jun 11, 2019 4:54 pm

Thank you both for the excellent answers. I love the caily 3 meal calendar Idea and I'll look into that author. I've known about nos for a few years, but have bounced back and forth and can't commit. But I feel like I have newfound hope

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