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PostPosted: Thu Nov 01, 2018 2:18 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Haha yes, Octavia, I have read that book! Smile
I liked it, and then later, found the podcast, but didn't even realize for a bit that she had been the author. Now I found a free Audible Original with her doing live counseling. I love it. Even when the relationships are extremely different than anything I'm familiar with, it's fun to see how the principles for healthy relationships remain constant and determine how/whether conflict will be resolved. What a brilliant idea, by the way, to record live counseling of identity-protected couples. An awesome tool for others to learn from.

Speaking of relationships.... ahem. Last night I messed up on two fronts. First, I yelled at Challenger12 for all the money he has been spending on Fortnite ($68 in October). He does extra chores to earn money, but I hadn't realized that he had been literally spending it all on that video game. I can't afford to pay him for chores like that, but that's not his fault. So I will have to apologize to him this morning. Grrr. That kid doesn't accept apologies without gleefully rubbing it in, so I will be eating crow more than I'd like.

And if that wasn't enough, then I lit into Sexy (after kids in bed) about not being strict enough with Challenger when he was little. It started when (once again) Sexy contended that Challenger is just the way he is -- all nature -- and that we couldn't have brought him up to be nicer. I disagree, although I agree that Challenger's temperament is uniquely independent, lol. The crux of my resentment is:
*Sexy always fought me down and would tell me to trust his judgement when he would go easy on Challenger.
*He even undermined me and told me my own approach to Challenger was what was causing the defiance/escalation, etc. when Challenger was about 7 and was getting really defiant.
*But then, when Challenger started treating Sexy the same way he had been treating me for years, Sexy started to resent and get angry at Challenger. It's like he doesn't apply the same generosity of expectation to Challenger now that he is an adolescent.
*So, ironically, I had been begging to be stricter with him for all those early years, and now I am arguing for more empathy for the kid.
*I don't like that Sexy thinks that Challenger is just a "bad" person. It's like this black and white painting of our wonderful (yet Challenging) kiddo.
*I would like acknowledgement that it was painful for me to have Sexy tell me to back off with discipline years ago, and then to have us move forward from here more on the same page for these teenage years.

Actually, after re-reading all of that, I don't think I owe Sexy an apology. I RARELY express any anger toward him (he feels attacked extremely easily), and I was just being honest and sharing my feelings. I didn't say anything ugly or mean. Just stuff he disagrees with, and also shared my hurt (which he just got defensive about and didn't acknowledge my hurt from years ago).

I think I will send him an email; he usually responds better to that and then I can craft my language in a non-attacky way.

But Creator9 and I had a great time trick-or-treating. And then we listened to Incorrigible Children of Ashton Place.

Speaking of Creator9, he has thrived with the gentler hand of Sexy. I am GLAD that Sexy encouraged me to back off with Creator. Just goes to show that all kids are different. Challenger needed a firmer hand, and now we have to figure out these adolescent years starting from a weaker position.

Thursday, November 1st!
127.8
NoSEating
B: coffee w/milk
L:(will be) yogurt w/berries, mixed nuts, carrots/celery
D:(will be) tuna salad (grilled cheese w/ tuna sandwiches for kids)
update: this meal was quite tasty! salad greens, onions, avocados, cheese, tuna fish, pickles, mayo.

NoSloth
walk/jog with dog

NoSpending
no plans - oh that reminds me that yesterday I bought a coffee impulsively because I was so frustrated with my students. I literally told them I needed a coffee to cheer me up and that I would be back in 5 minutes. It was a good decision because when I got back to the class, I was able to be upbeat and positive with them and try to reteach the material they were confused on.

RaisingReaders
I think we might finally be on chapter 11.
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 02, 2018 2:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Friday, November 2nd

128.4
NoSEating
B: coffee w/milk
L: lunch with friend at japanese restaurant - ordering without pasta or rice will be tricky because the menu is in japanese. I have put in a call to a dear friend to get suggestions for what to order
update - friend suggests suki yaki, if available, or yaki kobi, which is basically chicken kabobs
update: I think I messed this up. Ordered fried chicken but didn't consider that it is breaded. Sigh. And I wasn't hungry all afternoon so I think it was much more food than my body typically gets mid-day.
D: (will be) yikes - not sure. tonight is grocery shopping and I'll get junky take-out for others but need to plan ahead for me.
Update: finished off the last bag of salad w/avocado slices and cheese and a lot of dressing. Smile
Surprisingly filling.

Minefield today!!! Plus my kids don't have school, and I have in-service day where there will be crappy food available at all the meetings.

NoSloth
walk/jog with dog
no biking this week

NoSpending
will buy lunch today - $40 bought friend's food too omg I just realized I should have left $30 instead of $40. Well, that waitress got a huge tip! Laughing
Costco spent $197
Keurig Coffee K-pods -$32 (those pods are expensive but Sexy really prefers them to making a large pot in the morning....)
long underwear for Creator9 (he looks adorable in it)
wine for the week - $32
veggie tray
bananas (use in kids' morning smoothies)
3 bags of different kinds of salad
milk
quart freezer bags
Coke Zero (impulse buy)
some kind of frozen pastry puff for kids' desserts this week (Creator begged/impulse)
hot dog buns
frozen lasagne
hamburger patties
olives

bought gas $27
bought whole pizza to feed the fam dinner tonight $11; ignoring food that isn't part of my plan is getting easier, I have to say. I barely even think about it - it just isn't an option. Sometimes I do get a moment of panic as I think - "What will I eat? If I don't find something satisfying, then I will be vulnerable to overeating or eating mindlessly" if I know there is junk like pizza or Halloween candy or.....creme puffs.... in the house. Rolling Eyes

RaisingReaders
fail last night and not feeling much more motivated tonight
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 03, 2018 2:06 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just wanted to say sorry about the parenting troubles. DH and I don’t argue too often but when we do many times it’s him critizing my parenting and me being defensive about it. It’s hard stuff. I do think he’s right about being firm but calm but it doesn’t mean I’m able to do it. Ugh, parenting is no joke.

On the upside, it’s impossible not to mess up our kids in one way or another. That’s just life but the fact that we are there for our kids, our thoughtful in our parenting styles (even if we mess up a lot) and let them know how loved they are goes a long way. They will turn out just fine in the end. 💜
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 03, 2018 2:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you so much for your encouragement, Linda!
I did end up writing Sexy an email; he responded super well and we both felt closer once we'd communicated better. It's funny how much better we do with conflict when we write to each other....not sure if that is something unique about our relationship or not, but it is definitely a good tool to have when things go sideways for us.

Saturday, November 3rd
128.8

S Days!

This morning there was a piece of chocolate on the counter (from my lunch friend yesterday) and I thought, "why not? It's an S Day" and then thought, "nah - not worth it. There's always more junk to be had later" and I threw it out.

SDayEating
B: coffee w/milk, eggs & bacon and maybe some hashbrowns I think
L: Goal - skip lunch because I am NOT hungry right now and I want to build up an appetite to enjoy my burger tonight.
mid-day dessert: a very fun local egg nog taste-testing with kids and me. Both samples were delicious. Everyone but me liked Sample A best (Twin Brook Creamery); I preferred Sample B. When we looked at the ingredients, Sample A had been thickened with guar guar and carageenan and Sample B had not. Sample B (Grace Harbor Farms) also included whole eggs rather than just egg yolks. Probably my most fun "S" in a long time.
D: burgers with massive fixings (update - was DELICIOUS - I am good at these now!)
desserts: 3 mini-snickers bars (yes from kids' Halloween supply), definitely yummy & worth it. Smile oops but then mindlessly ate 2 more later. those ones didn't feel good or worth it. Ah well.


SlothDay
no walk so far, but the dog is SO much better from his autoimmune illness that he is needing lots more exercise! So I think I'll hook up the bike attachment today and try that out again with him - it's been since June that he's been able to bike, so I'll have to be careful.
Update: Took the sweet dog for a run. I went running for the dog, let's be clear, not to give myself exercise Razz

SpendingDay
I need to go to the local grocery store for a few items, but no other plans
Update - spent $50 at grocery store on yogurt, lunch items for kids, and a few things like mayo, hot dog buns, and 1 tomato. Oh, and the egg nog that we delightfully taste-tested later. Can you believe one tomato this time of year can cost $2.50?
Sexy bought some socks and a pair of shoes for Creator9 on Amazon.

RaisingReaders
jimineychristmas I've been failing a lot in this category in recent months
update - we read for a whole hour last night. Phew. Guilt was building on this.

It's been a nice day - got caught up on grading, worked on my budget, took care of some deep cleaning, and now I'm sort of half-watching football and looking at mini-Aussie puppies. Haha! Despite how much trouble IssueDog has been, I still want another. It's a thing I have, I guess.
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PostPosted: Sat Nov 03, 2018 7:13 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think the crucial factor why people tend to resolve conflicts faster when communicating via e-mail or some other form of writing is that one can fully and clearly express one's thoughts without being constantly interrupted by the other (angry) person.
Prior to getting married, my husband and I lived in different cities for 10 years. Now I've finally learned what hot temper he has!
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PostPosted: Sun Nov 04, 2018 2:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Imogen Morley wrote:
Prior to getting married, my husband and I lived in different cities for 10 years. Now I've finally learned what hot temper he has!


Whoa! LOL!!! Tell him to write you a letter when he's mad, haha.

Sunday, Nov. 4th
129.2

SDayEating
B: coffee w/milk, veggies w/dip
L: (will be) chicken liver & onions!!!! Can you believe it? But I've been reading so much about how nutritious liver is that I am going to give it (another) try. I've been reading that I should a) soak it in milk for 1-2 hours first; b) don't overcook it; and c) sprinkle bacon bits on top! I tried it many years ago and of course didn't like it. I don't expect to like it today, but it's really the equivalent of taking a high-dose multi-vitamin. Indeed, I guess you have to be careful to not eating liver every day or you'll get toxic levels of vitamin A, lol!! And it has 50% of daily requirement for folate in one ounce. Sheesh!
Update - it was much better than I had expected! Yes, it does have kind of chalky texture, but the flavor from the bacon and onions made it all quite satisfying.
Update - holy cow! I ate 4 oz of liver with 2 pieces of bacon and 1/2 an onion. And I have never felt so satisfied for so long! I am not kidding - it had me googling "satiety of liver" and other goofy phrases. Anyone else familiar with this strange experience? It was like eating "anti-craving" food, which is the ultimate irony because I had flashes of "if I force down this liver I will rebel and eat junk all night". Um. No. Like absolute no.
D: (will be) giant salad that I bought at Costco and today is its "best by" date. I should have checked the date when I grabbed it. But I'm too lazy to return it.
dinner update - tortilla chips + 2 containers of guacamole
dessert: egg nog. update - as fun as this was, it actually tasted too sweet!
I need to avoid the mini-snickers from the kids' candy because it seems to trigger me and then I overeat.

SlothenDelights
Half thinking I might walk the dog to the DogPark this morning. Not very motivated. We'll see. Update: Slothenly Sunday and it felt great. Smile

NoSpending
No plans but I need to update budget after a few purchases Sexy made yesterday.

RaisingReaders
Another chapter planned for tonight. I'd like to have a real habit that at 8pm, it's reading time. And basically for the rest of my life, have 8-9 be dedicated to stories, whether for my kids or eventually just for me. Maybe not both kids will listen every night, but I bet I could burn through a lot of books if I really made that a life habit. There are occasionally nights when we aren't home or are just getting home at 8, but mostly it could work.
So we are on Ch. 12 of Incorrigibles. I'd like to list some books I'd like to work through with Creator9 over the next couple of years. Not listed exactly in order of "bucket list", but definitely Gregor, Harry, and Gandalf are top of the heap. Smile

*Gregor the Overlander Series (5 books, we have read the first two)
*Harry Potter (7 books, we have read 4)
*The Hobbit
*Incorrigible Series (6 books, we are currently in the first one)
*Ender's Game
*Wrinkle in Time (and I'm OK just doing the first one and not the entire series for this book)
*Over Sea, Under Stone (Dark is Rising Series)
*Secrets of the Immortal Nicholas Flamel -- this is a great 6-part series. I am in book #2 personally, and I think it's good enough to read out loud. It has a Percy Jackson feel a bit in that it ties in a lot of ancient magic mythology and characters in with teenagers experiencing great powers. I think the writing is far better than Percy Jackson.
*The Mysterious Benedict Society (I think there are 4 in this series -- Challenger12 and I only read the first 3)
*Maze Runner Series - maybe. It's a great series for boys, but the writing is pretty so-so. My time is probably better spent on other books
*Percy Jackson Series - great fun, although also not the best quality writing
*Hunger Games
*Redwall - here is a book that I have wanted to read to both kids and still have not succeeded with either. Wink I just feel like -- if they could just get hooked on the story they will love it!
*Watership Down - a book that I read in my early 20's and adored. I have never read it to kids though. Not sure if it's as good as I remember.

Does anyone think I've absolutely left something off that deserves to be on here? (note - things I've already read to both kids are left off this list; e.g. Narnia)
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 05, 2018 3:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

The first book I can remember making a real impression on me (at about 7) was Clever Polly and the Stupid Wolf.

A Wrinkle in Time also made a big impression.

Loved Watership Down and reread it until my copy fell to pieces.

My second grade teacher read the Hobbit to us at lunch times.

I grew up in a household of readers, and the weekly trip to the library was part of my childhood. Still do it nearly 60 years later.

I eat liver regularly, until it starts tasting bad. Then I give it a rest for a while. I'm not sure if it induces more satiety than any other nutritious meal. Possibly.
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 05, 2018 5:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

So funny about the liver. I’ve never had liver and onions but I love chopped liver.

DH and I do so much better when we talk through text. We are so much more reasonable with each other. I think it takes a lot of the emotion out and I just generally feel less vulnerable. It’s a great technique!

So jealous of all your good reading. I stopped reading to my kids a couple of years ago and they just don’t read that much on their own anymore. Makes me sad as I was always an avid reader. Ah well.
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 05, 2018 3:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks ladybird for the book suggestion -- Clever Polly! I'm looking it up as soon as I'm done posting.

Linda - and here all this time I thought "chopped liver" was just a phrase. LOL! It's a real meal! I will have to look up how to make that. I have another 8 oz. of liver in the freezer for next weekend. Also, I struggle with this book-reading (as my thread testifies). Plus, Challenger12 doesn't read much on his own despite all my role modeling. It's a tough thing with parenting. Different times, for sure.

Also, and for another post because I've got to run, Creator9 dealing with anxiety again (at night), and Challenger, I'm realizing, never thinks of anyone but himself. Parenting woes.

Monday, Nov. 5th
128.0

NoSEating
B: coffee w/milk
L: yogurt w/berries, mixed nuts, a few veggies from the veggie tray (plan is to eat the rest of them up for lunches throughout the week - kids ate a lot of it over weekend but there's always plenty left)
D: (will be) that old salad that I still need to eat. Rolling Eyes Also spaghetti/beef bowl with hidden liver pate!!!! Stay tuned to see if the kids notice. Twisted Evil
Update - too tired to risk the liver. So just regular spaghetti for fam/beef bowl for me. I have gotten pretty dang good at these beef bowls: giant salad + avocado + cheese + beef + onions + container of guacamole + garlic salt + pepper. Really hits the spot and I often can't even finish it.

NoSloth
Great walk/jog with dog. He was so happy this morning in the pouring down rain. Smile
I REALLY want to get in some after work movement; I think it helps keep me awake in the afternoon and more energized. Still not biking because my elbow is still so painful. Especially hurts during the night after being in one position for too long.

NoSpending
$300 due tonight for Challenger12's basketball team. Shocked

RaisingReaders
Chapter 12 finished in Incorrigibles
We are nearing the end and then we will start Book 3 of Gregor
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 05, 2018 5:20 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just stopping by to thank you for taking the time to be a cheerleader for folks around here. The new members and returning NoSers need this from more of us.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 06, 2018 2:47 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ah, thanks Tex! I go through periods where I spend a lot of time reading other threads, and then periods where I simply don't have the time.

Speaking of not having time, big changes are coming that I will need forum support to stick with my good choices. Tonight, I couldn't believe it, but I had a hankering to go through the McD's drive-through. I guess the stresses of our intensifying schedule (more on that in a moment) combined with Creator9's meltdown last night (and he's still kind of a mess)......well......you know me and stress = poor food choices. So. I need to stay the course, and practice developing these good habits when things aren't rosy.

The schedule is crazy - just look at this (and I only have 2 kids!):
3:15 Creator9 ready for school pick up
4:30 Creator9 to piano
5:00 Creator9 pick up from piano
5:00 Challenger12 ready for school pick up from school basketball
7pm Challenger 12 to basketball practice for county league
8:30pm Challenger pick up from bball

So I resisted the siren call of fast food, and managed to make dinner when I got home at 5:30, and got kids fed by 6:15 or 6:20. I wanted Challenger to be able to digest his food before he leaves for his second practice.

So. Schedule. One stressor.

Stressor 2. Creator9 had sort of a panic attack last night! He threw up twice, and his legs were shaking, and he felt he would never be able to fall asleep. I sat with him for 90 minutes, trying to help. I think he's afraid of dying. Unfortunately, I am too so I doubt I'm much help there. In fact, although I always try to hide it, he probably picks up that fear from me. Sexy came in to help and within minutes sweet Creator9 was able to go to sleep.

This anxiety (although milder than last night) first appeared about a year ago; in fact, some of you may remember we homeschooled him for a while (at his request) and the anxiety literally vanished. Now here it is back again and none of us (not him, not his parents) want to homeschool. But he needs some coping skills.

Stressor 3. Challenger12 brags to his friends and doesn't seem to think of anyone besides himself. Ongoing problem of feeling like I'm raising an entitled brat, nothing new to ponder like the Creator9 anxiety.
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Tuesday, Nov. 6th
128.3/BMI 23.5

NoSEating
B: coffee w/milk
L: (will be) yogurt w/berries, mixed nuts, cut veggies
D: (will be) big salad + tuna fish (this will be tough tonight, because I'm taking Creator9 through a drive through after school for he and I to have a "date afternoon" since Sexy out of town and Challenger off for a roadtrip school bball game.

NoSloth
walk/jog with dog
maybe I can fit in exercise between 6:30 and 7:30 while Creator is in Trampoline Class.

NoSpending
$7 for Challenger12 to get food on ferry tonight (also packed him ridiculous amounts of food)

RaisingReaders
I'm optimistic we will finish Incorrigibles tonight
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 06, 2018 4:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Parenting woes can be so tough! And I totally get how they could lead to fast food. Can you imagine that the two McDonalds we had around my town closed so we have none now? Otherwise I’d be there all the time ha!

I hope you find solutions to your woes! Sorry no advice here as mine are so much younger.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 06, 2018 8:29 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sounds like you have a lot on your plate right now. I can only offer sympathy - as in Eschano's case, I'm at totally different parenting phase and those kinds of challenges are still (way?) ahead of me. Still, Creator9's anxiety really struck a chord with me. I have similar kinds of panic attacks when I'm feeling really unwell (the underlying cause is, most probably, the fear of dying, as you said), and they suck big time. Sending my virtual hugs to him! One thing that helps me when I feel like I'm going to faint or hyperventilate is to start doing something, anything, that occupies my mind as well as my hands: a very small and simple cleaning task, for example. Breathing exercises and such have always made me focus on what was going on with my body, and only increased the panic. Cleaning might not be a viable solution for a boy his age, of course, but maybe you could come up with some small task for him to perform during anxiety attacks that would get him out of his head and body, so to speak?
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PostPosted: Wed Nov 07, 2018 1:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm sorry about the parenting challenges! It can be so hard sometimes. My daughter is in her twenties and struggles with anxiety, and it's really hard feeling helpless to help her. I hope you can find some strategies to help soon.

I'm enjoying reading your journal and I will have to look into the NoSpending habit a bit.
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PostPosted: Wed Nov 07, 2018 1:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you Tess, Imogen and Alene! Creator9 is feeling better now, but he was pretty glued to my side yesterday. At least the physical symptoms (stomachache) subsided. Good suggestions, Imogen - I appreciate that a lot. I found an article with a whole variety of suggestions for things to say to him when he feels like this, and some coping skills to teach him (some were just what you suggested).

Alene - my NoSpending tracking has evolved over the years. I started it pretty strict - literally NoSpending on S Days. I'd do all my shopping, online or otherwise, bill-paying, etc. on the weekends. But now, with the kids in so many activities that need to be paid during the week, I've sort of suspended that and just make sure to write down what I spend here. I pay bills whenever I have a nice chunk of time (I like to to do it, actually), and I use a great budgeting app called YNAB. I do grocery shopping once a week, two different stores, with a LIST. That's essential, and I don't go until after I've made the weekly menu. Oh, with Amazon, I do try to "put in the cart" and not purchase until the weekend. Probably 60% of the time I realized I don't need anything by the time the weekend comes around. I do very little clothes/etc/type shopping, so I just track it.

Wednesday, Nov. 7th

127.8

NoSEating
B: coffee w/milk
L: (will be) yogurt w/berries, mixed nuts, cut veggies
D: (will be) tuna salad again (grilled tuna melts for kids, Sexy out of town)

NoSloth
walk/jog with dog

NoSpending
Last night, stopped at the thrift store and spent $15 on a new purse and a couple shirts. My old purse was literally falling apart so this was fun. Also bought Creator9 McD's last night since it was just him and me. Challenger12 got home at midnight from an away basketball game....eek. While cleaning out my old purse, I found 2 coffee gift cards so I'm excited to stop on my way in to work this morning to get coffee. That's rare for me these days. Maybe 2 times a month? Always a nice way to give myself a pick-me-up.

RaisingReaders
Creator9 and I didn't finish the Incorrigibles. We hung around downstairs for too long, and by the time we started, he fell asleep in about 15 minutes. Oh, well. Maybe tonight.
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 08, 2018 3:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thursday, Nov. 8th

127.3/BMI 23.3

NoSEating
B: coffee w/milk
L: (will be) yogurt w/berries, mixed nuts, cut veggies
D: (will be) probably take-out again for Creator9, not sure for me. Sexy and Challenger12 gone tonight. OK, so Sexy returned in time for dinner. We ordered Indian take-out and I had three bowls of lamb something. It tasted good. I specifically asked the lady for an entree that didn't have a lot of sugar in it. I added a little rice to each bowl. So a fail/sort of S Day/do what it takes day. I don't feel one smidge of guilt. I guess I needed this. I had a horrible morning and broke down at work and started a cryfest. My coworkers were supportive and funny; but I still realized I couldn't teach in that state. I went home sick for the day. I cleaned for an hour, took an epsom salt bath, and then slept for 3 hours! When I woke up, my husband had returned, I picked up a kid and the take-out, and came home. Sexy did the evening transport.

Update - well then later after drinking wine -- I ate a piece of pizza. That part I have regret about...

I am just still upset about my a-hole 12 year old, my anxious 9 year old, and my weird health reports (which I haven't discussed yet on this thread - still investigating options and haven't had time this week to log about).

I hid the Xbox remotes and put a note on the xbox to the tune of -
you can earn back your f-ing electronics when you are:
*nice to your brother with words and body
*nice to your mother, especially at drop-off and pick-up
*don't complain about visiting relatives or chores
*respect property of others' - parents' wallets, brother's computer, and parents' pillows

NoSloth
Extremely short walk with the dog

NoSpending
Most likely take out for kiddo

RaisingReaders
We finished the Incorrigibles last night; will start Gregor #3 tonight. Maybe we'll listen on Audible and build with legos while we listen.
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 09, 2018 1:10 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Friday, Nov. 9th

129.4/BMI 23.7 - up 2 pounds from yesterday's Indian food 3 bowls + a piece of pizza Shocked

NoSEating
B: coffee w/milk
L: (will be) yogurt w/berries, mixed nuts, cut veggies
D: (will be) Chicken caesar salad (kids and Sexy will also have lasagne)

JustMoveIt
walk/jog with dog

LowSpending
Big spending day - menu and shopping to do tonight
Starting a new thing - allowances for kids. These will not be tied to chores (in our house, electronics are the reward for finished chores). Each week, Challenger12 will get $12 and Creator9 will get 9. Of that $$, they will each give $1 away. They can give it to a charity, to our church, or mail it to a friend or relative with a note. They will save 50%, which I know is more than adults typically can do (haha that's an understatement), but my plan is to use this as a way to facilitate them to save for some of the things they want but don't have the "saving" stamina yet. The "saved" dollars will go in the bank that is at my local grocery store - $6 for Challenger12 and $4.50 for Creator9. Which leaves Challenger with actual cash to spend of $5 a week and Creator with $3.50. Challenger12 needs a new chromebook for his homework (he broke his old one), but he doesn't seem willing to focus on saving for it, and then he just keeps using his brother's. And Creator wants to save up for a PC.

RaisingReaders
Failed to read last night; Sexy back home and Creator9 fell asleep on the couch at 8pm. He has been so tired and strange feeling this week. Part of me wonders if he's going through a growth spurt. Also eating more.
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 09, 2018 2:26 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I know it's tough when our kids are moving into their teen years. I had a really tough time too. I felt so sad at times, wondering where my sweet boy went. Sad But they do come out of it, and my adult children are wonderful. Trust that you are teaching them well how to be good people, and try to pick your battles. I damaged my relationship with my son with all my nagging. I'd say we've recovered now, but I regret it. It's so hard though because we want them to be good people, and we want them to be nice! Hang in there, and hugs to you.
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PostPosted: Sun Nov 11, 2018 3:48 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you, Alene! I will strive to find that balance between holding firm boundaries and still letting my kids follow their hearts.

Saturday, November 10th

129.3
I feel huge today, but probably mostly because I ate like cray-cray.

S Day Eating!
B: So, the day started out very nicely -- a coffee w/milk and then I drove to the car dealership, dropped the car off for a few things (poor car is 18 years old and has seen better days), then walked with dog to work. Got there, and dang it!! there were pastries from a nice new bakery in the copy room! On SATURDAY!!! They were left from yesterday, when I didn't even bat an eye at them!!! But then, here they were, on an S Day, when I was at work and feeling a bit sorry for myself. So .... ergh. Ate an orange spice muffin (at least it was normal sized and not one of those huge ones they make these days) AND THEN I ATE A SCONE. Sigh. On the bright side, I got 3 solid hours of work done (with doggie at my feet) and the dealership called right when I was wrapping up. Walked back to the dealership and picked up the car.
Got home, had taste-test chocolate milk for lunch. Smile
D: spontaneous date night with Sexy. Got a big blue cheese burger and added some fries, since it was an S Day.
Dessert: more chocolate milk.

Moving
Probably walk/jogged 6 miles, so that was good. Dog seems fully recovered from his severe illness over the summer and he is feeling his oats! I had to run a lot more than I would have liked in order to keep up with him, LOL.

Spending
Date night, a deck of cards (Sexy and the boys are playing card games as I type. I played for a bit but then begged off)
Also bought a new wallet on amazon w/ a little lanyard
Oh, and how could I forget the $130 I spent on my car? My little Toyota Corolla is so old but it keeps running. That said, it's become a sort of $-pit for repairs. All the little plastic parts keep breaking.
Which brings me to.... I had a nice time budgeting this afternoon. I actually filled all my YNAB budget categories as needed for November. I even had $93 left over that I put in my "puppy" fund #inmydreams. That means all of the next paycheck, on Nov. 25th, will be put for December. So we are not living paycheck to paycheck, lol, but paycheck to every other paycheck. Improvement, right? Laughing
Oh, so I was going to say that I looked at car prices for used Toyota Corollas that are a few years old. I could maybe save up $10,000 or so to buy one within a year, if we keep being careful AND we don't have too many crazy extra expenses come up. Gar! This is what I think every year, and here I am with two old cars and never saving enough for a new one.
Nevertheless, I actually felt pretty hopeful about our family's improvements finance-wise today.

Reading
Ugh. Fail again.

Oh. Challenger12 update. He got so mad today (because of the removal of the Xbox remotes for an indefinite period of time) and PUNCHED the window/blinds. Totally broke our blinds, which we had spent about $1000 on 2 years ago when we thought the kids were big enough to stop destroying blinds. Evil or Very Mad Not the first time something like this has happened. While I was at the car dealership and at work, Sexy was home with the kiddos - one of them who was building to a frenzy of frustration about being disciplined for being so unkind to the family. Sexy sent me the funniest test -- "Home with Brooder & Bottle-Flipper". So.... Challenger12/Brooder and Creator9/Bottle-Flipper. We've got our reality show names all set and ready to go.
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PostPosted: Sun Nov 11, 2018 3:59 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sunday, Nov 11

130.4 (highest weight I've seen in a month....)

S Day!

Eating
B: coffee w/milk, blonde flat white on walk to church with Creator9.
L: (will be) taco salad at a mid-season NFL football-themed party with friends. I will have a massive helping of taco salad, but no desserts (update - ate a brownie & a cookie). To survive the desire to eat chips the entire time I am there, I will bring my own tea & diet coke (update - I did have some chips and guacamole & pico de gallo). This often helps me resist urges to overdo it on food. Should I bring my own lettuce (update - I brought Caesar salad)? They'll have lettuce, right?
D: (will be) nothing
desserts: ended up eating a donut hole (damn!) and an ice cream cone (for some reason, that felt fine, no guilt).
Weird eating day. A rare experience for me when I planned to restrict my S Day fairly severely. Ended up with complete failure. Guess that taught me a good lesson.

So sad, but today needs to be a very controlled S day. Wish it didn't have to be this way.
Last night, after having chocolate milk, I almost fell asleep from the sugar/insulin rush. I didn't test my blood sugar (still out of strips) but I bet it was ugly, based on my body's slump.
I have to remind myself that I am NO happier (indeed, less happy) when I eat crap like the muffin and scone I had yesterday, or when I have pizza. Muffiins don't even taste good to me. Pizza at least I can find delicious (depends on the pizza, of course).

Moving
will walk to church this morning with Creator9. It's 45 minutes. We'll stop at grocery store to get him a donut & cocoa.

Spending
no plans. I was looking at a book recommended by a friend about parenting, but I managed to resist.

Reading
Will tonight be the start of Gregor #3? Who knows, based on my abysmal record this week. Rolling Eyes
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 12, 2018 4:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sorry about the crazy eating days. I’m right there with you and weight is also up but I know it’ll come down over the week.

I love that sexy has a sense of humor about the boys. I think that helps so much with parenting. That 12-13 age range is tough. They are really seeing the world differently and are wanting to separate themselves from us while maybe feeling conflicted about it at the sane time. This seems to result in a lot of anger. They really are seeing the world for what it is and hate to feel manipulated in any way. Rosebud will call BS on me now and I realize I just have to be straight with her about things instead of trying to influencing her in a round about way. Anyway that’s my take on this age but maybe it’s different with boys?

Don’t you love Toyota’s? I’m on my 4th Toyota. The last forever. Although I guess they eventually need replacing like anything else. Glad you’re feeling good about your finances.

Hang in there. You’re doing great!

Linda
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 12, 2018 3:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sorry the day didn't go as planned. Sometimes it backfires when we consciously restrict. Maybe just think about what your body really wants and needs, and then let it gently move back down to a more comfortable weight. Food and our emotions have such an interesting relationship!
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PostPosted: Mon Nov 12, 2018 3:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ah, thanks for the parenting encouragement, Linda. I so need it right now.

And you are absolutely right, Alene! All my plans backfired!

Monday, November 12

130.3

Eating
B: coffee w/milk
L: (will be) yogurt w/berries; broccoli, and mixed nuts
D: (will be) burgers w/ all the fixins - oh my I overate! I'm not sure how that happened - we have this meal a lot and I usually feel perfectly satisfied when I'm done. Hun.

Moving
walked w/ dog to and from work - about 5 miles
I did this because my school is closed today, but for some reason my kids have school..... so it will be quiet at the office and I can bring doggie.
Dog had a great day. There were a few people in the office after all and he got to say hello to everyone. He loved it. On the way home we stopped at the dog park and so he had a pretty much perfect dog day.

Spending
Need to get $300 cash out to pay for Challenger's basketball. Still haven't done that.

Reading
We started Gregor last night, but now I can't find the book!!! So we listened on Audible, but I'm frustrated.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 13, 2018 7:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Tuesday, November 13th

129.4

Eating
B: coffee w/milk
L: yogurt w/ berries; mixed nuts
D: big bacon cheeseburger w/tomato, onion, pickles, lettuce & mayo

Moving
walk/jog with dog

Spending
Taking Creator9 for ice cream after school to celebrate his good report card (especially behavior). Challenger will be at an away game.

Reading
We finished chapter 2 of Gregor last night. Maybe another couple chapters tonight.
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PostPosted: Tue Nov 13, 2018 7:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I have a couple of book suggestions. My kid really liked the Wings of Fire series, as did her friends. She read it in 6th grade, I think. Some other novels she liked a lot were Fortunately, the Milk and The Inquisitor's Tale. Also, if it doesn't have to be fantasy, everyone in her grade seemed to like Brown Girl Dreaming, which the teacher read aloud to them in 6th grade. It's prose poetry, so a relatively quick read. I know my kid's teachers are always trying to get her to read outside the fantasy/sci fi realm, to broaden her horizons. She loves Harry Potter, too. Nowadays, she is on to young adult, but will still dip back into the middle grade books occasionally.

And I know you are looking for read alouds, but I'll also throw out that one thing that helped me keep her interested in reading was to buy graphic novels, sometimes of books that she never would've read otherwise. She read Macbeth as a graphic novel. (I think she was interested, too, because Macbeth is mentioned several times in the lyrics of Hamilton, and she is very into that musical.)
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2018 12:25 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Jenji, Thank you for the book suggestions! Much appreciated. I especially think Creator9 might like Brown Girl Dreaming - he enjoys poetry.

Wednesday, November 14th

129.2 - I'm on board with all my NoS friends that are looking to find peace with maintenance over the holidays!!

Eating
B: latte (gift card)
L: yogurt, berries, mixed nuts
D: (will be) date night, I think. I'll go for a piece of meat and veggies, if possible. Update - not only did we not get date night, I ended up at the "pancake feed fundraiser" for my kids' badge group. Yep, I ate pancakes and sausage and almost within minutes had a headache. Ugh.

Moving
walk/jog with dog

Spending
date night $, also had to order Creator9's Christmas musical costume

Reading
Maybe Gregor tonight. Last night the family watched Jeopardy until almost 9 and then it was too late to read. Sometimes the OCD part of me gets frustrated about that sort of thing.

I went to get blood drawn this morning for my upcoming nephrology appt. I can't remember if I posted here that my dietary changes did NOT correct my hypercalcemia. Indeed, despite doing everything "right", my calcium excretion was pretty much identical to 6 months ago. Evil or Very Mad Anyway, that's discouraging, but at least my dietary changes DID correct my prediabetes and my blood pressure. So still worth it to have changed. Plus I enjoy my food more now, and feel better overall.

Oh, but back to my story - so the lab didn't have my order from the doc. I guess they had faxed it to the wrong number or something. So I get out to the car and felt tears prick my eyes. I managed to get ahold of myself, but I am so teetering near the edge! Just too much going on. Our family is TOO BUSY. On the other hand, I can't figure out what to cut out. It seems unfair to to Creator9 to not be in as many activities as Challenger12, but Challenger 12 really needs to stay busy. So. Here we are.
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2018 5:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

So sorry you’re feeling overwhelmed. That’s not a good feeling.

Well can you cut out the school activities? We literally do none of the school activities and I just give money or supply donations now and then. I’m a total slacker parent in some ways but happier for it.

Also your kids will have different needs, not identical needs so not everything has to be idenentical as long as each of their main needs are being met. Does creator care that much about having the same amount of activities or is there some other need he rather have met?

Also sorry about your test results but glad the food changes are helping in the other areas.

Big hugs. You’re a great problem solver and am sure you’ll find a way to create a calmer life for yourself if that’s what you crave.
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2018 7:09 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh so sorry you were near to tears. I actually left work the other day and cried half the journey home.

Sometimes letting the tears flow really helps

Hope you feel better soon

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This must be the time of year! I felt tears come to my eyes yesterday from embarrassment and frustration. I was on the phone with someone and glad it was not in-person.
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PostPosted: Thu Nov 15, 2018 5:07 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh, gosh. You guys are great! I feel lifted just reading your responses. I'm not alone in losing my sh*# sometimes. Smile

Linda, Creator specifically wants to do the activities he's involved in (piano lessons, a trampoline class, and this boyscout-type local group). However, he is so much easier-going than Challenger that he won't complain as much if he doesn't get to be involved. For that reason I only JUST started him this year in the boyscout-type group and the trampoline class. Generally, his desires get overshadowed by his much more demanding older brother. So I'm sure you get why I feel like I need to try to accommodate him. He has very different interests, for sure, than Challenger - but lots of interests, nonetheless. What I have done is cut back on piano to 2-3x/month, and the boyscout type group is only 2x a month. Trampoline is once a week. So if he were my only child, it's actually not that crazy. But when there are two (haha!), then everything goes wild!!! My husband's family had 6 kids, and so they simply couldn't afford to do all the things they wanted to do. In some ways that's a blessing!

Challenger is currently on TWO different basketball teams. The overlap of the two teams ends the second week of December. We were given some information about the two teams to think things wouldn't be as hellatious as they are schedule-wise. Ah, well. So I just need to hold my breath until the middle of December and then things will be busy, but not "kill me" busy. I need to be more willing to ask help from Sexy, too. I know I try to do too much sometimes.

And (sorry to ramble on this subject but this is therapeutic for me) - I can have a schedule all worked out but that schedule has me RIGHT on the edge of being unable to juggle. So any tiny thing (or not so tiny) puts me into collapse mode - for example, the car running out of oil last week, the lab forgetting my blood draw slip this week, or the ongoing concern about one of our cats that has a respiratory infection (it appears) and everyday I wonder if it's time to take him to the vet. Or even something fun - like we went to a party last Sunday - so I am STILL behind on laundry from last weekend! OK, I'm OK, just need to share my woes.

All of that and I realized I didn't even log today:

Thursday, Nov 15th

128.8

Eating
B: coffee w/milk
L: (will be) yogurt w/ berries, mixed nuts
D: (will be) tuna fish salad (tuna melts for kids) I am determined to make dinner tonight for the family. We've been out for dinner almost the last two nights. I have a window from 4:30-7pm where I will be home tonight.

Moving
Didn't even try to walk dog this morning. Had to fix lunches for kids and dart out to the lab for blood draw (repeat of yesterday, but yesterday I did do the walk and ended up running like crazy to get ready in time).

Spending
$300 to coach tonight. No other plans. Resisted the urge to buy a "flex notebinder" (yes I have a thing for office supplies; in fact, I forgot to mention that Tuesday night I bought some new flaire pens and page tabs for my lecture notes)

Reading
Creator and I read Gregor for 15 minutes last night. Once again, Sexy had the TV on with kid stuff - kid jeopardy and then survivor. Yes, I do feel some frustration to him. It makes me read less and makes the kids stay up too late.
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 16, 2018 11:11 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh I gotcha and sorry if I was being preachy! I totally understand because my oldest is the one that doesn’t complain so I do worry she’s not getting as much resources as she deserves sometimes. Rosebud will bug and bug till her needs and/or wants are met.

I’m also waiting till December so our schedules will calm down a bit. We’re almost there & some day they’ll be able to drive themselves!

Big hugs and yes ask sexy for more help!
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PostPosted: Fri Nov 16, 2018 1:58 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

no worries Linda, I didn't think you were being preachy at all. I just have so much to say about all this gunk inside me and I feel better after I write it all down.

Friday (yes, I woke up so THRILLED it's Friday and I don't have to take anyone ANYWHERE tonight!), November 16th

128.3
I gotta throw this out there -- my weight actually doesn't fluctuate that much when I'm eating pretty much the same things and drinking lots of water every day. I see a very predictable downward trend M - F, and then a ~2 pound gain over the weekend. The situation goes a bit wonky if I eat a lot of starchy foods, but otherwise I could have predicted before I got on the scale that it would have said 128.3 since yesterday it said 128.8, and I ate my normal food yesterday. Tomorrow it will be (assuming I'm green today) 127.8 or thereabouts, Sunday 128.8, then Monday 129.5. There. Those are my predictions, lol. I suppose I'll have to buy you all a beer if I'm wrong.
In other words I go up or down by about 1/2 a pound from day to day. In my book, those are not big fluctuations. Maybe it's because I'm so short to begin with. Smile

Eating
B: coffee w/milk
L: (will be) yogurt, berries, mixed nuts. I was out of some of my yogurts (I mix 4 different types together - Zoi is high fat; Siggi is high-protein; and Grace Harbor Farms & Alexandre are balanced. All that was left was Alexandre's, which is delicious, but it's not as fatty or proteiny as the Zoi or Siggi. So, I think that's why I'm so hungry this afternoon. Also it was the very last of the nuts, so not a full portion.
D: big salad from Costco; take out for kids - I sort of feel like failing tonight. I already ate my giant salad and it's only 4pm. Shocked So I am fixing a cup of milky coffee to head into the evening hours.

Moving
walk/jog with dog

Spending
Shopping Day

Costco - $140
wine for the week - $24 (seems to have settled in on this and it is working well)
2 bags Caesar salad
apples
milk
eggs, 2 dozen
toilet paper
paper towels
cat food
frozen blueberries
sliced cheese
chocolate-covered almonds - kid lunches

Local Grocer - $40
veggie tray - kid snacks
carrots
onion
tomato
yogurt for the week
hamburger buns
granola bars - kid lunches
oreo cookies - kid lunches

Reading
Fail last night. Seahawks were playing Thursday night football. Smile
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Month/Year-BMI
8/13-26.3; 8/14-24.5; 5/15-26.2; 1/16-26.9; 9/16-25.6; 8/17-25.8; 11/17-26.9; 3/18-25.6; 8/18-24.5; 10/18 - 23.8
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