Everyday Systems

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Hope things are going better today! I too have been struggling the past three days...just when you think things are going well, then it hits you, right? Oh well, I guess it's all part of the learning process. We can do this, as long as we don't give up.

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Ai yi yi - yesterday FAIL and today FAIL! :oops: Not even going to go into all the reasons (excuses)...just going to mark it and move on. And try to get my mind back on track for the rest of the week. On a positive note, I have been getting my exercise AND sticking to my no wine on N days...go figur...

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You're welcome - that's what these boards are here for! Glad you had a good day!

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Hopefully it was a relief to hear it will only be one! Glad to hear you are starting to lose the nausea - hope things continue to go well!

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Hope the computer diet goes well - would be hard for me as well, sometimes it really feels like my lifeline...

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So sorry about the falls - but I am glad it wasn't anything more serious. Can be really bad to fall from a bike...

Thank goodness for N days, right? Have a good week!

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Going by the boards, Memorial day weekend was hard for a lot of us...
sounds like you are doing quite well, though - congrats on the 7 pounds (I also hit the 7 pounds lost mark at the beginning of this month - I started No S on April 1st)!

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Good work on your first day, Mimi! I love Yogi teas but I have never see the appetite control one, I will have to look for it.

I think No S works with any kind of eating style, so I am sure low-carb is no problem.

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I'm so glad you had a good day!!!

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I love what your son said about it! So cute! Over43, as pets, I don't think turtles are too much work, they are just a lot less cuddly than dogs

Hope the last day of school goes well for everyone and enjoy your walk!

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Liz, Brianna, Harmony - thanks for stopping by! Yes, the support of people on this board is to a huge extent what makes No S work for me, and for a lot of people here. It's awesome and I have learned so much. One of the big things I learned was not to beat myself up so much over mistakes - on so man...

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I'm in! Starting today and going for lots of green - my goal for June is less fails than in May and April (I had 7 both months) and much calmer S days (my thinking about this is in detail on my check in thread)...good luck everyone! June 1: :D (my S day started Friday at lunch) June 2: :D June 3: :m...

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How cool about the turtle!

Sounds like you have gotten off to a good start - have a great week!

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I know what you mean about making those grand committments - I've done it many times and failed every one! Black and white thinking and perfectionism are such insidious sabotagers! I think what is helping me this time is taking it day by day and just working on getting the habit structure down, and ...

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Sounds like you did really well this weekend! BTW I totally get the spoon in the mouth when putting leftovers in the tupperware boxes - I do the same thing!

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So glad you were able to turn the day around and get to a place of peace in the here and now.

What you said about No S being simple but not easy reminds me of something I just read about meditation - also simple but not easy!

Anyway, so glad it is Monday - have a wonderful week, Liz!

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I am so happy for you that you had a calm S weekend! Yes, maybe being sick had something to do with it, but the why doesn't matter - what matters most is seeing that it is possible, and that you can have more of them in the future. :D good luck with the weigh in - but don't let it trip you up, eithe...

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Monday morning is always such a relief - on so many levels! :wink: Yesterday went reasonably well, made Indian food for lunch and had one large delicious plate. The hardest part was some nagging desire to eat in the afternoon (we were watching Belgian hopeful David Goffin give Roger Federer a surpri...

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Congratulations! It's great to hear that things are going so well for you! And I totally agree with your tagline about the goal being peace...although it's nice to have the numbers go in the right direction too!

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So sorry to hear about your floor!!! But wanted to say that I love Lush - I swear by their facial cleanser with seaweed and calamine (it's called "Aqua Marina" here). Hope you get to enjoy your bubble bath soon!

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I'm sorry you've been having a rough time - I would also average out your weight over a few days - sometimes it can fluctuate so much from one day to the next, unbelieveable really that we put so much importance on such a fickle measurement!

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Getting to the healthy BMI range is a great accomplishment (that is my current goal) but I know what you mean about having specific weight goals - sometimes putting that particular kind of pressure on can backfire. But I am going to be rooting for you all the way!

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I love Indian food too - am making it for Sunday lunch today actually...

I really admire how you mark your mistakes and just move on, Millie. Enjoy your Sunday!

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Liz, I can relate to so much of what you say with your sisters...I have been feeling anxiety for months now about food issues and our family vacation with everyone in July. I am so hoping that doing No S these past months will give me the solid foundation of habit to be able to be at peace around th...

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Hey there! Well, I can report that my first S day modification experiment was a moderate success :wink: So the idea was that Saturday was going to be like a regular N day...my one plate breakfast, lunch and dinner went well. We were out at a a vegetarian restaurant in a town 40 minutes away from our...

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Thanks, girls! Yes, I was thinking of how I would "mark" that I had taken my S meals for the week...definitely necessary I think to be able to keep track of it some how...because our mind can sometimes "conveniently" forget things, can't it? :wink: Had a gorgeous lunch at the vegetarian buffet in Br...

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I'm with you on the S day struggle - and keeping my fingers crossed that all your biking will enable you to have a weekend you are happy with on the food front!

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Live and learn, indeed - looking at it as a learning opportunity is great! We have the competing treats thing in our house too... because I am careful about what I buy and bring into the house, I guess. It's the scarcity thing... In any case, despite the brownies, you have been having a really good ...

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Thanks for the thoughtful comments! I guess I used the word floating to indicate flexibility on what day to have my S meals. For example, today I have a lunch out, and tomorrow night I have a dinner out. So there is an S lunch and and S dinner (which means I am going to have to be very conscious abo...

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Don't throw in the towel! Just by reading a few posts on the boards it sounds like a lot of us have been having a tough time - could it be the long weekend? the nice weather? I don't know, but instead of giving up this should be a sign that we should recommit to this even more. When things get hard ...

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Good reminder that our bodies don't distinguish between calories on a holiday or calories on a regular day - LOL!

There is so much wisdom in the Beck book.

Hope your week is going well!

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I hear you - I've been struggling with S days too. It's not easy to find balance, is it?

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I am having a similar issue with trying to find out how S days can work best for me - I will be interested to hear what your thoughts are for the coming weekend. Enjoy the rest of the week!

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Well, I've had some ups and downs this past long weekend, it's been extremely busy, and it has taken me til today to get myself back on track (and back on the message boards!) I'm not going to worry about what's past, I'm just going to move forward and make the best of where I am right now. That sai...

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I have no control over pizza either - so I finally had to make Friday night (pizza night in our house) the start of my S days, and that helped a lot. Now I can look forward to enjoying it without feeling so guilty.

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wow! good job on the loss!

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You are moving forward and that is the most important thing!

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Sounds like a good strategy for the blondie that was tormenting you from the freezer!

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Yikes! Sorry to hear about the spider bite!

I notice I am much more satisfied with a balanced looking plate as well - and I also think that we are probably saving many more calories from not snacking than we are getting by having full plates!

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I agree - far better to be on No S and steadily maintaining than on that roller coaster of restrict/gain/restrict/gain!

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Thanks NoSnacker and Liz for your thoughts and encouragement! Yesterday was solid green. But only by the skin of my teeth! :wink: I had a lecture in the evening and when I got home at 10:30 I was still too wired to go to bed, so I had a glass of wine, read the newspaper and was really fighting mysel...

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Hi Tina! Yes, you might find people can find you easier if you have a thread on the daily check in board...and there are a group of posters there who pop in and check on each other nearly every day. It is highly motivating and supportive - has helped me tremendously. I'll keep my eye open for you ov...

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Way to go!!!

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Good for you! And also good for not beating yourself up for that ice cream the day before...

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I totally agree, Millie! Those are the definitely our proudest days - and I think, the days we make the most progress on permanently banishing diet head from our minds...

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I have been thinking of the same thing - having just one S day a week at some point. But not just yet! And chips are tough, arent' they? Although nice to be able to put some on a plate with a meal and really enjoy them without feeling guilty.

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I'm looking forward to reading that testimonial!

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"How do we change without changing?" - I love that, because it is so basic and so true, yet easy to forget. We have to change the way we think about things...and one of the things is that black and white, all or nothing thinking that tells us since we already screwed up we might as well make it wort...

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Glad you had a good day! Motorin's idea sounds good - I know you are going to figure out the way to work this best for you, Liz!

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Good for you!

I started doing just 5 minutes of meditation each day a few weeks ago after reading in the McGonigal willpower book about how this is really helpful to boost willpower in general. I think it does help, actually.

Just two more days til the end of the week - good luck!

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Thanks, Sinnie - I know, it is really hard sometimes. For me it works best if I feed myself and the kids and get the entire kitchen cleaned up, leaving a plate for my husband, and then get the heck out of there!

Today - Thursday - my goal is green...

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Good job! I think we should get extra credit somehow for those kinds of days

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Being out of your normal schedule is really a killer, isn't it? I really struggle with this, and sometimes I can hold it together while things are busy but then once I get back to normal I have some rebound behavior... Well, we just have to do the best we can at these times. Hang in there and I hope...

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Great that you put this question out there - this is very useful information!

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Felt like I was on the verge of failing all day today but I pulled through with just three plates (the last one of the day was kinda big) and some white wine (it's unseasonably hot here right now). This week is crazy busy and I am just one day away from Friday - which I have already planned will be ...

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Thanks, Tina! it sounds like you are getting on really well! I have to be very vigilant not to beat myself up too much for the small failures because it can tend to backfire on me...and at the same time be strict enough with the rules to develop the good habits... It's a fine line, isn't it? Have a ...

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Hope you are feeling better today, Liz!

I also read vmsurbat's thread a while back and it amazes me how she handles her little mistakes, just acknowlege them and move on. That is also where I strive to be - and I have faith that we are on the right path to get there.

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I'm sorry you were feeling heavy in your heart (I really understand exactly what this feeling is) but it sounds to me like you handled it very well. I also know what you mean about the fact that food genuinely makes you feel better - I have the same thing with stress - if I eat certain things when I...

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The habit section in the book is really, really helpful - I've re-read it myself a couple times. I think building the habit is really the core to why this works so well...like you said, our good habits will start pulling us in the direction we want to go. So glad to hear you are doing so well!!! And...

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I agree with Sarah and Liz - don't give up and don't beat yourself up too much, which is counterproductive - you're moving in the right direction.

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Yesterday was good, despite some tricky moments...I went into Brussels to meet a good friend of mine for lunch. We wanted to try a new Ethiopian restaurant and the hilarious thing is, Ethiopian food is served on one HUGE plate - you take little portions of it with a sort of flatbread. We had a veget...

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Liz, you sound down! You feel like you aren't entitled to get support from others - that is not true! We are all in this together and we all deserve to get encouragement, no matter how many times we fall down. But this is a mindset we have as people pleasers - god forbid we should ask for too much s...

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I'm still doing 21 days (I've been editing my post above with my days and also post on my Check-In thread) but I had a small fail yesterday

Does that mean I need to start counting at the beginning again?

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I am so sorry for what you are going through. I agree with a lot of the other posters that No-S is actually helpful in times of great stress... Hang in there and I wish you and your parents strength to get through the times to come.

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Yeah, the ironic thing is that when they call a race, a huge majority of the participants still have to run or walk a significant distance anyway just to get back to the starting point... My brother in law did the Chicago marathon a couple years ago when it was so hot (and one person died) but he ju...

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So sorry to hear about your family's loss.

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Just do your best, that's all you can do! Hope the baseball game was fun - my father is a big Texas Rangers fan (they live in the D-FW area).

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Thanks for all the positive feedback! There is a weight loss podcast I've been listening to since last fall (http://personallifemedia.com/podcasts/216-inside-out-weight-loss) and one of the things she really emphasizes is the importance of having a buddy or a support network. Yesterday I was listeni...

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Oh no! That really is a disappointment, I'm so sorry it ended like that! I'm glad, though, that you are feeling good and that you still had a good time with your family. At the end of the day, that's what matters most.

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I didn't tell anyone for the first month I was doing No-S - I guess like you I wanted to give myself an "out" if I failed! Then when I told my husband and three teens, they thought it was cool. Now of course, my youngest will ask me if it is an S day if he sees me eating something snacky :wink: It s...

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Sounds like you had a good weekend! Long weekends are tough to navigate...you did well!

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I'm sorry to hear you were struggling yesterday, but try not to be so hard on yourself! I was just reading in the McGonigal willpower book about how being forgiving of ourselves is much more effective than beating ourselves up. I recognized myself in your post - I used to get terribly anxious when w...

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Thanks Sarah and Liz! When I first started No-S my S days were crazy, I would buy stuff I hadn't eaten in years just because all of a sudden, I could. I got more than a few strange looks from my husband! It was fun but also scary - but I kept reading the boards here and everyone was saying that at t...

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That is so encouraging to hear! Congratulations!

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Good for you, Tina! I also had my best S-day yet yesterday since starting on April 1st. Not perfect but definitely much better!

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I agree! I have learned so much from reading old-timers' posts - has been a huge help!

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Happy Anniversary and so glad to hear things are going well!!!

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Welcome back! It sounds like you have put a lot of thought into your S day modifications. After doing this for over 2 years you have gotten a lot of feedback for yourself on what works best for you! Reading about your (and others') experiences on these boards have given me so much optimism in the pa...

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Wow, Mimi, so many good things in just a few days - that is wonderful! I am really happy for you!

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Have a great time today - I'm thinking of you all and hoping it goes well for everyone!

A relay would be a lot of fun, too!

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Yay, Liz!!! Definitely a success!

And if you can keep moving in the direction you are going in right now, even with setbacks here and there, you are making progress. Good for you!

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Hi Patty! I love the idea of your husband paying you to clean your house!!! That would certainly make you feel different about doing it - I think it's the appreciation thing - whenever I clean our house, I feel like no one even notices I've done it...

So glad to see things are going well for you!

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Hi Oolala and Liz - this is an interesting discussion and one I have thought of a lot in the past years... At a certain point it was helpful to me to realize and accept that I had an eating disorder - I think it was confrontational and made me take myself seriously and really work on healing. But af...

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Don't give up and try not to be so hard on yourself! I had a ton of fails my first month on No-S and I feel that now, after 7 weeks I am finally starting to get the hang of it (and I still have fails!) At the same time, I am feeling much more positive and peaceful about food and eating than I have i...

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I also think it is great and very important you can talk to your husband about this stuff, but sometimes it might be too much for family members to understand or handle and it makes us feel bad when we get all angry at them when they are just trying to be helpful and remind us of things WE asked the...

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I'm with Gobble and Liz - OMG!!! That is exciting news!!!

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LOL!

I probably would have done the same! Glad it wasn't as bad as you were expecting

- that's always good news, right?

Have a great weekend!

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As one of the very wise people on these boards said to me after my own string of fails last week, be sure to recognise that what you are now calling a fail (a handful of pringles) is probably a lot more moderate than the types of things you'd have considered a binge before No-S. So I hope you're not...

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Good for you!!! Have a great weekend!

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Liz, if there is one thing I truly believe in, it's that we all have to do what is right for ourselves, and I think you are doing so well in digging deep into figuring this out for yourself. We are all unique, and what works for one person might not work for someone else. You are on a healing journe...

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Thanks, Sarahkay and Liz - yes, this is it! but it is a fine line to be able to be strict with yourself but not too strict so that part of you starts to rebel against your own rules! I decided to introduce a mod for myself this week. You know I've been struggling with Friday evenings - that's pizza ...

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Welcome back! Yes, a very wise decision not to weigh right when you get back from a vacation

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My feeling has always been if you can have some fruit and that will prevent you from having a huge fail on other, unhealthier, foods, then it is a wise decision to have the fruit. Hang in there!

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Liz, I get this 100% (especially "break the rules mode"!) and I have stood in your shoes many times in the past, and surely will at some point in the future again. This is deeply ingrained and we are probably never going to be able to completely banish this behavior. But, don't give up! And don't be...

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Today (Thursday May 17) was green!

Three one plate meals and exercise (a two hour hike with husband and kids in the fresh air - awesome!).

Going strong so far...

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Day 1 (May 16) = :mrgreen: Day 2 (May 17) = :mrgreen: Day 3 (May 18) = :mrgreen: (S-day started at 4 pm on Fri) Day 4 (May 19) = :D Day 5 (May 20) = :D (until 4 pm) Day 6 (May 21) = :oops: Day 7 (May 22) = :mrgreen: Day 8 (May 23) = :mrgreen: Day 9 (May 24) = :mrgreen: Going to take this one day at ...

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Sounds like you'll be able to take good care of yourself before the race - that's great! I've been running since 2005, so not that long. My mother was turning 65 and her big idea for her birthday was to run a half marathon with her four daughters (I'm the oldest). So that's what we did and the rest ...

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Good for you for recognizing what you did right yesterday!

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It is so strange how some foods can do that - make you click right back into those old behaviors and mind set. What is up with that?

Have a good day today!

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It's definitely normal for a lot of people starting out here (me included!). I understand your panic - it is scary to feel so out of control on the weekends at the beginning but it does serve a purpose - to make you feel secure enough to be able to build the habit during the week. And then ever so g...

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