Everyday Systems

Jen1974

Have a fun trip (: We bought an RV this summer too. I’m a camping/RV girl, we’ve had multiple RVS & pop-ups since we’ve been married. There’s just something fun about setting up a little home!! Even cooking seems more fun in the small kitchen 😂 We have a microwave/convection oven & I tried that for ...

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I love happy days like that (: Where my brain focuses on all of the good & everything seems to feel right

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Thanks Auto (: Such a weird year to graduate!! He was supposed to speak at it I because he was class president but they aren’t having student speakers, or even giving out diplomas at the ceremony. It’s all kind of sad!! I do love that we’re making the best of it at least!!

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Pink: I do that too with fruit!! My body is really good at registering enough with fruit so it works really well. Unfortunately on vacation or the weekend my brain will convince me it deserves a break from being “good”. I tried really hard with IE to get rid of that mentality but never could get pas...

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It sounds do nice to have a solid plan in place for the school year by going online!! I feel like we’re at the mercy of what the schools decide in the moment & that when schools went online it didn’t go well at all!! Teachers just didn’t have the experience to do it well. My daughter doesn’t do well...

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I’m back from my trip. I’ve been lurking but never found the time to post. The trip was fun! I love our new motorhome & love adventure/seeing new things. I always struggle on vacation to let it be okay that I’m not working out. Since starting No S I’ve worked towards working out less again & mandato...

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I was thinking about how much I’m affected by my kids. I take their bad/sad moods personally, as if they are my fault, where my husband never does that. He puts the responsibility on them. I think there is so much pressure when you are a mom because there’s so much pressure to be the perfect mom & t...

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Tue-Thu were decent No S days for me. 1 blue & 2 greens. It felt nice to get home & have a little normal but we’re trying to get ready for a camping trip so we’ve been busy & ended up forced to eat out a night. We’re all sick of it & commented on how we’ve lost interested in the restaurant foods we ...

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Pink you handled that situation with your daughter SO WELL!! That is just so hard, especially when it must be so tempting to tell your side of the story but it’s just awful for the kid in that situation & you put her first which is just awesome & not many people do!!! My son’s girlfriend had such a ...

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Another orange day yesterday. My family was all having a brownies after breakfast & I didn’t want to miss out so I had one too. It was funny to watch my brain respond to this. Thoughts of “the day is blown, enjoy it” are still there along with “have less later to make up for it” but both those thoug...

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Linda, I think it’s pretty impressive that you’ve lost & kept 40 lbs off!! I NEVER see that!! It’s funny that most of us are always looking for the answers outside ourselves with a “plan” or a “book” that we hope will be THE ONE, but I’m pretty sure it all comes down to finding the answers within. W...

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I notice that too with having drinks messing with my sleep Auto!! And making me more anxious. It always feels nice to take a break but I do enjoy having them so it’s a little tug of war over what is more worth it

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oolala53 wrote: ↑
Sun Jul 05, 2020 8:11 pm
And what's worth the "enjoyment of life" can change over time. Doesn't mean it suddenly gets breezy but the battles wane in number and are over a lot faster.

That totally makes sense!! I notice even now things that used to seem like a big deal just don’t anymore!!

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Not one of my better days yesterday but could have been worse & no regrets!! Orange days for me seem to creep in every 7-10 days. They are almost a reset where afterwards I’m excited for healthier again. I love that they aren’t a binge, I don’t get uncomfortably full, and I don’t go overboard all da...

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One of my favorites when I got sick of diet rules was Thin Side Out, How To Have Your cake & Your Skinny Jeans Too”. Not that popular in the IE world because it’s still very weight loss based but it did a better job for me at explaining how to eat in a way that feels good where a lot of the others l...

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Another day I was really happy with!! Especially considering it was the 4th & we had friends up. I had a drink early & made a point of drinking it REALLY slow. A lot of times alcohol makes me need food but drinking slowly helped. I did get hungry & have chips/queso (snacks) & dinner was a little hea...

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Octavia, yes its nice to think of hunger as burning fat. I have read that in a few different places. My problem is I seem to veer from one extreme to the other of hunger. I either can barely handle a little bit of hunger and think I need to eat, or I let myself get ravenous and don't honor my hunge...

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Pink: I love that we both have such similar experiences! I think there’s something about doing IE & adding in structure where it all seems to click that is sort of unbelievable

It’s like THIS is what I was looking for

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I totally agree you Ipearlmom!! IE SEEMS like a great idea but I just never made it much further than “not dieting”. I do think it does work nicely with some gentle boundaries & loose structure!! And you’re totally right about asking if you can do it forever & being honest about what we’re willing t...

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💚Saturday-Donut 💙Sunday 💙Monday 💛Tuesday-8 milk duds & a little extra sushi 💚Wednesday-a few chips when I got hungry before dinner 💚💛Thursday-chili cheese fries with marg before dinner 💛💚Friday a few extra potato chips before dinner Pink, Love that about you & your brother (: My daughter & son are B...

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Congrats on the internship Pink!!

Way to go for the bike ride in extreme heat!! I can’t do exercise & heat. It is just so hard!!

Sounds like a great start to the 4th weekend eating wise!! Love “Satisfied but not full“. That’s exactly what I want out if my meals!!

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Auto: I’m so happy for you about the sabbatical!! Me too on socializing takes a lot out of me :lol: I have social anxiety & worry so much about what I said/did after seeing people but crave friends & want to connect :lol: And also me too on the “am I a good enough mom, I should be cooking more/conne...

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I love your description too pink!! It’s a great explanation of using No S to create “want power” (I want to feel hungry later so I won’t eat now) vs. “will power” (I won’t eat now so I don’t gain weight).

I’ve found that want power seems to work a lot better

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💛Wednesday-warm brownies & ice cream 💛Thursday- beef jerky & potato chips on the boat not hungry for & didn’t enjoy. 🧡Friday-Late dinner out, too hungry & had too many chips, chili relleno app & split fried ice cream with my crew for dessert. 💚Saturday-Donut 💙Sunday 💙Monday 💛Tuesday-8 milk duds & a ...

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Thanks pink & auto!! I love it here, it’s my happy place. Pink: so true about restaurant food!! I do think our bodies crave lighter after heavy!! That was something that I noticed from IE was that I didn’t really want to eat pure crap all the time :lol: What didn’t happen for me though was my body n...

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Bluebell: that is awful that your mom made you worry about your weight :( My kids all have gone through phases where they get “thicker” before they grown taller or as they mature. It’s part of growing up!! Pink/Blue I’m with you both on the worrying less about weight. I haven’t weighed myself in alm...

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Great job on taking a moment for yourself!! I have such a hard time & feel so much guilt for having any negative parenting feelings but when I just take a time out & let myself feel the negative feelings they fade & I’m back to myself so much sooner!! My teen is a pretty great kid too & in some ways...

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Auto: I hear you on it being hard to get older!! I have freckles/age spots on my legs I’ve noticed lately that I’m not that thrilled about. And i feel like I look less toned than I did in my 30s, yet my clothes still fit about the same. Some days it feels like someone hit fast forward on aging since...

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This is how I do it. I like the foundation of 3 meals & asking myself “do I need this snack, sweet, or seconds?” For some though I think without a solid “do not cross line” it makes it harder. I’m pretty good at knowing what is worth “taking the S” for & what isn’t though!! Not that I never regret a...

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💛Wednesday-warm brownies & ice cream 💛Thursday- beef jerky & potato chips on the boat not hungry for & didn’t enjoy. 🧡Friday-Late dinner out, too hungry & had too many chips, chili relleno app & split fried ice cream with my crew for dessert. 💚Saturday-Donut 💙Sunday 💙Monday 💛Tuesday-8 milk duds & a ...

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pinkhippie wrote: ↑
Tue Jun 30, 2020 5:26 pm
So glad to have a more sustainable way of eating that helps us tap into our hunger signals in a non-crazy making way.

I love this Pink

It’s so true!!

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💚Sunday-A little extra full on burrito 💚Monday-A few extra chips before dinner. 💛Tuesday-2 mini packs M&Ms 💛Wednesday-warm brownies & ice cream 💛Thursday- beef jerky & potato chips on the boat not hungry for & didn’t enjoy. 🧡Friday-Late dinner out, too hungry & had too many chips, chili relleno app ...

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Great job not giving into the urge!! I too can have SUCH strong urges at times to eat for reasons that have NOTHING to do with hunger!! I love the idea of having tea instead!! And if it makes you feel any better my 18 year old has been a bit of a pill lately. I keep thinking it’s preparing me for hi...

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I agree with Linda!! I love how you have used No S that way!! I also agree on sometimes a snack helping!! There are times when allowing a small snack keeps me from getting to the too hungry point that always leads to too much food :lol: The brownie/cookie thing sounds awesome!!! Sounds like you mast...

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Thanks Auto & Pink!! A storm came in yesterday that made it so we couldn’t go on the boat. After an entire day spent focused in my office I feel so much better!! 💚Sunday-A little extra full on burrito 💚Monday-A few extra chips before dinner. 💛Tuesday-2 mini packs M&Ms 💛Wednesday-warm brownies & ice ...

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Thanks Auto (: sometimes I think younger me was a better version of me :lol: I seemed to complicate things as I got older!! Sunday-💚 Monday-💚 Tuesday-💛-2 mini packs M&Ms NOT worth the S!! Wednesday-💛-warm brownies & ice cream Thursday-💛- beef jerky & potato chips on the boat not hungry for & didn’t ...

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I’m a fast eater too!! Love the timer idea! To slow myself down I eat in shifts pausing to make each thing as I go for breakfast & lunch but that only works because I’m a virtual player (: at dinner I can be done before others even sit down :lol: (we do our dinners buffet style where everyone plates...

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Have fun with your sister Auto (:

I always hated the top to bottom clean until COVID when there was no one to come over & do it for

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Sunday-green Monday-green Tuesday yellow-2 mini packs M&Ms NOT worth the S!! Wednesday-yellow-warm brownies & ice cream Thursday-yellow- beef jerky & potato chips on the boat not hungry for & didn’t enjoy. Friday-orange-Late dinner out, too hungry & had too many chips, chili relleno app & split frie...

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Pink, I love that it resonated

It is a balancing act. I have always thought maintaining is harder than trying to lose because there’s not the dangling prize of weight loss as motivation

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Auto: I like “have habits, can travel” :lol: It’s so true that No S is the one thing that you don’t have to be the “I can’t, on a diet” person :lol: The trip was fun & went pretty well. It hammered home how much I dislike grazing/snacking. There was a day when we couldn’t find a restaurant to grab l...

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Pink: Your husband sounds amazing!! Mine is pretty great that way too, makes me feel loved no matter how I’m feeling about myself

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I eat later breakfast & later lunch so I can eat with my family (: It has really helped me with that afternoon slump I’d always feel too! I guess it works for me though because I don’t wake up all that hungry

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Auto: you sound so much happier again

Summer break just agree with you!! I love that you’re making sourdough bread. That sounds so good & I’ve always been too scared to try!!

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Pink: That is so awesome about the lower weight!! I think you’re so right about the mindset behind it. Out of body hate comes desperation & unrealistic expectations, out of love comes more patience, compassion, less pressure for perfection & therefore more sustainable & better results!! Awesome abou...

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Pink/Auto it is nice to be at a point where I know myself well enough to know when it’s worth having something “fun” and when it’s not :lol: No S travels well which is nice! At first I didn’t worry about including sweets with meals as much & had a little something to hold me over to meals but realiz...

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Yesterday was SO BUSY getting ready for our trip. If I could maintain that level of productively all the time I’d get so much more done :lol: I went back to eating normal amounts instead of short changing myself & didn’t get to that “too hungry” point which made it easier to wait for dinner. Today w...

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Pink, I could totally see that could true about hunger!! I seem to have at least a “bare minimum” that I’m best not dropping below even if I’m less hungry!!

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I felt the same way when I was going out in the beginning of all of this. I’d come home feeling anxious & wanting time eat! Great job not giving in to that!! It always feels like such a victory when you make it without using food as a crutch

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Yesterday I decided less hunger should mean less food & I had a slightly smaller breakfast & lunch only to end up hungrier at dinner & eat more chips. The worst part of this experiment was that what I skipped during the day was blueberries & avocado so definitely a downgrade health wise. It was a go...

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My teenagers can make me feel like a terrible mom :lol: I’m pretty sure my daughter would trade me strait up for her best friend’s mom who is the perfect pinterest mom. Meanwhile they are never allowed to hang out over there so they don’t mess up the perfect pinterest house & my daughter is embarras...

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I have the hardest time finding satisfaction during stressful meal times too!! And it is SO HARD to be the mom. We feel so much responsibility for everyone’s happiness & guilty when they aren’t happy. I heard once that it’s important for moms not to take responsibilty for their kids happiness becaus...

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Sunday went pretty good but I learned a few things. I was less hungry at breakfast after a bigger than normal dinner on Saturday but still ate the same. At lunch I wasn’t hungry & decided to wait until I was & never got all that hungry so I ate a little around 4:00 just so it would hold me over unti...

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Pink: That’s funny about the licorice!! It always felt like everyone else just naturally quit eating like that when all food was allowed :lol: I always wondered what was wrong with me that I never grew bored of lots of sweets with meals :lol: What’s weird to me is how easy it was to get used to not ...

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Pink, I do the same thing with fruit, especially when I’m having highly palatable foods. If I think I want more, asking if I want fruit gets down to if it’s just my tastbuds that want more or if my body actually needs more

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One of the things that helps me the most with No S is meal timing. By waiting to eat breakfast until 9:30/10:00, lunch at 2:30/3:00, & dinner at 7:30/8:00 I’m never starved between meals but am always hungry & ready to eat. Plus it is always around 3:00 when I hit the afternoon slump & start craving...

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Yay for a drop in weight (: Always feels nice to see progress!! Processed foods are something that interests me. My daughter who is 14 has no issues with them. She also has no interest in eating emotIonally :lol: She listens to music or uses other coping mechanisms. My son however says he has to rem...

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Friday nights we tend to eat out or do something fun & I’ll usually end up getting a little more full (my version of seconds as a virtual plater) or a sweet. Yesterday we came to our cabin in the mountains & went to one of our favorite restaurants. We didn’t do take out during the majority of the qu...

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Auto: You are so right on not awaking the inner rebel!! No one needs an inner rebel rampage :lol: Pink: I am the SAME WAY with exercise!! I’m always running on a sprained ankle or making other poor choices. I forced myself to take a year off of running to finally let an ankle heal & it was really go...

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Yesterday I met my college friends for happy hour which was so much fun!! I knew I’d be getting hungry during it if I didn’t make some adjustments so I had prunes with my noon coffee & cream which meant I could eat lunch a little later than normal. There were chips & salsa at the happy hour & some m...

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I like your food thoughts diary too (: I like how you base it on satisfaction & not just some arbitrary amount!! I know for me without satisfaction I’m left still wanting more even if I am technically full!!

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My boys were playing football & got home late so we ate really late last night. I got too hungry & had a few chips before dinner. There is a level of strict that I’ve tried to live up to in the past that always backfires so I don’t consider chips in that scenario a fail, but just part of my dinner. ...

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I realized that about weight too!! At a certain point for me weighing a little less for me seems like it makes my life worse & not better. Life is too short to miss out on things like pizza night, warm cookies out of the oven, or brownies & ice cream!! No matter what I weighted I never felt like I w...

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I think that restriction causes rebelling (gluttony) but that also foods that were created to not play fair with our hunger/fullness cues. Learning how to include all foods but at the same time paying attention to hunger & fullness & having gentle boundaries that help keep you from overdoing it on t...

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Pinkhippie, it feels kind of nice to hear “me too”. For a while now I’ve felt lost in no mans land where I felt crazy to want some structure & boundaries but nothing extreme!!

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Thanks auto & pink (: We met my parents for dinner last night. My dad likes this restaurant where nothing is very good except for the chili cheese fries, or at least my crew feels that way. I do like the chili cheese fries so I had a salad before I left so I wouldn’t show up starving which never end...

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It is SO HARD not to eat emotionally sometimes!! I have an 18 year old son, kids can push our buttons like not other LOL!! Sounds like you did really good! I too can quickly develop a dessert habit or a nightly drink habit where my brain will be CONVINCED that the world will END if I don’t keep the ...

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Yesterday couldn’t have been better. I was really busy with work but was not feeling motivated at all & was struggling to keep moving forward. So many days I’d have a snack that I wasn’t hungry for to procrastinate, but because I wasn’t hungry & it was food my body didn’t need it would leave me feel...

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Pinkhippie, It sounds like we’re pretty similar in our approach!! Structure with flexibility is exactly it!! The pass/fail, red/green of No S is a little too strict for me. It leads to a few chips before dinner=fail=might as well have more & throw in dessert :lol: But I also believe “if you aim at n...

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It felt nice to have a weekend without thinking “I can eat whatever I want whenever I want to” that came with IE!! I know most technically do that on No S but for me I never did. I really like the structure of 3 meals a day with a little extra flexibility for sweets or seconds on weekends. I track m...

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Soprano me too on the if I’m hungry/full or not!! I didn’t like the argument in my head over whether or not I was hungry enough to eat & if I needed more or not LOL

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I am just amazed at how much better I feel since shifting back. The funny thing is that everyone who follows IE is always saying “base things on how you feel” but I didn’t really notice I didn’t feel as good until I started taking better care of myself again!! I have so much more energy, am in a bet...

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Pinkhippie that is the exact same way I feel about No S & Intuitive Eating!! No S feels like just the amount of loose structure & gentle boundaries to make it so I actually eat more intuitively where as when I was following intutive eating I a lot of times I wasn’t eating intuitively at all LOL :) L...

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I left No S for Intuitive Eating. At first my habits of no snacking, seconds, or sweets worked really well with IE & it was fairly easy to transition over. Eventually though old habits started to creep in & turned me into someone who was stuck “not dieting,” eating when I wasn’t hungry & eating past...

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I come around to check in but haven't posted much over the last few months. I always wondered what happened when people quit posting though when they would just disappear & I still like coming & lurking & seeing how people are doing. What I got from No S was a great springboard for me to end up at I...

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I'm so sorry Allison!!

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I recently have been reading a lot on intuitive eating. One book I came across talked about the difference between naturally thin vs will power thin. I think you can use No S to become either. For me My goal has always been to become naturally thin & proud of the example I am setting for my daughter...

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ironchef wrote:
I rarely read on here when other people list their food, as it usually sounds super healthy and tiny and then I feel like I'm a bit of a piggy!

YES YES YES!! Me too. Although I feel happy that I can eat more. I really like food LOL!!

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Oolala, that is the ideal, and I suppose there are those who eventually ease up on S days, but unfortunately, that wasn't me. I started to wonder what is wrong with my brain. It wasn't until I added a small sweet mod after meals that I was able to do the three meal on S-days without a ton of sweets...

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A few weeks ago I ate cake that I didn't really even want but felt pressure to eat when we had dinner with friends. It made me full & tired & they stayed for a while after & I just kept grazing on the cake as something to do to keep me awake. I used the excuse "it's an S day, so there's no rules" & ...

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From Seth Godin's Blog (: Seems to go well with No S. Who are we seeking to become? We get what we invest in. The time we spend comes back, with interest. If you practice five minutes of new, difficult banjo music every day, you'll become a better banjo player. If you spend a little bit more time ea...

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I too have a love hate relationship with calorie counting. For me it created a feeling of one bite of cookie, one forkful of cake, a tiny corner of brownie, a spoonful of ice cream was not enough calories to count & then I would proceed to eat more than intended & end up worse off than if I just sat...

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Do you think that maybe you try to limit yourself too much? Sometimes your posts remind me of how I used to be when I was overly restrictive about what & how much I was eating, always trying to eat less than what was realistic for me & than caving when I couldn't live up to those expectations. These...

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I eat white bread. I just don't like any other bread!! I'm a pretty healthy eater & get fiber from other things, but I'll only eat things I like & I don't like wheat bread LOL!! From what I notice if I eat bread or any other really carb heavy thing, I need to include it with protein & fat or it leav...

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That's hilarous about your husband & driving (: It will make your whole crew appreciate you more!!

I need S days to be big enough too or weekdays definitely become more of a struggle!! I think S days are kind of the fuel for N days (:

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I added a little dark chocolate after dinner as well. I think it helps me stop when I know I have that to finish off. I agree it isn't always easy but it's easier than other diets, at least for me. I think that about dark chocolate too!! And it always leaves me feeling finished!! Yes definitely eas...

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oolala53 wrote:
Whatever we call it, it's moderation for us and so much better than how life used to be!

Completely agree (:

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Thanks Kaali (: It's only in rough draft form so far, but if I end up publishing the site I'll post the link!! Noni, that was me before No S. Out of control weekend days. My brain didn't handle a day off well, always wanting to take advantage of the "off limits" things while it had that chance. Oola...

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Thanks Oolala!! I like the suggestion about your nephew. That would be much less obvious than skipping!! The funny thing about when guys eat very little or skip something vs when girls do is how differently i feel like it's viewed. When it's a girl, everyone seems to assume they are trying to lose w...

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Thanks for stopping by Izzy (:

I love No S with mods!! It has made it so I can focus on the things that I need the most focus on!!

I don't think food & dieting is a one size fits all sort of thing. We all need to find what motivates us to best selves!!

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I'm pretty sure it was Oolala that wrote the basis of this but I have it written where I read everyday & for me it's a good reminder that that when I choose to stick to the habits I'm trying to create that it in the future it won't be as hard to stick to them.... On bad habits: We either strengthen ...

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Have you thought of just adding a 4th meal & doing 4 smaller meals instead of 3 larger ones? No S has so many good points & it sounds like the white knuckling could come from too much time between meals?

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Merry & Ironchef you both made my day with what you wrote!! Merry that perfectionism vs. excellence was so much want I needed to hear right now. I've been trying really hard & feeling like I keep coming up short, not so much with No S, but with being a good mom/wife & good at taking care of my house...

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Welcome to the best non diet ever (:

I LOVE your "Fail Better" title. That is exactly what my focus has been lately. Failing better!! Not failing isn't realistic, but failing better. That is a perfect goal (:

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I actually ended up maintaining a lower weight after kids than before so I didn't feel the changes were permanent for the most part. A few extra stretch marks that faded over time where they aren't that noticeable. You'll get back to where you were (: I had been mostly low fat before having kids but...

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I think for a lot of people all they can handle is 5 days of rules & it's really important to have 2 days without rules to look forward to each week. For me it wasn't really my week days that were a problem. I had 3 meals & an afternoon snack, didn't eat between those meals or graze during the week ...

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I feels awful to no longer be pregnant but still not anywhere near your prepregnant size!! I didn't lose weight ever until my babies were 4 months old. With my first I was worried that I would be unable to lose the baby weight because like you I could usually lose it if I tried, but it didn't matter...

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So PMS brought on my first fail in a long time :roll: It had been 29 S or N days, so I'm happy with that. It wasn't an Epic Fail either, but too many cookies & an extra drink that just shouldn't have happened last night. I know most people don't fail S days, but my problem coming in was the S days s...

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So sorry about your dog!! That sounds so hard ): I do the same thing socialy, agreeing to things I feel I "should" do & than wishing I hadn't. Sometimes I take on too much & feel totally drained after, but others I end up having so much fun & am glad I "forced" myself to do it. It seems the differen...

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I've had my share of hard days where I feel more hunger & end up failing. Don't give up, just try & see if you can find a pattern. Do some meals leave you feeling hungry sooner? I can't white knuckle anything. For me too much real hunger leads to overeating so I need to make sure I keep myself from ...

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