Everyday Systems

Jen1974

The cabin with just my husband has been nice!! It feels good to not feel any guilt. Mom guilt is hard!! I’ve always wanted to be a good mom & am constantly reminding myself how quickly it goes & to enjoy it. It’s a lot of pressure & feels nice to have to a break from being the mom for a day :lol: La...

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My whole crew will get hangry if we don’t eat!! We’ve made the mistake not getting breakfast soon enough on vacation one too many times where we’re all yelling at each other for nothing

Have a great time with your husband in Sedona

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Have a fun visit with your parents!! I always come back from time away from my family feeling like a better version of me

I hope you get to see your brother!! That would be really hard to be married to someone so controlling!!

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Pink-it is so hard!! I think when this is over it’s going to feel weird to go back to normal!! I love having my crew around but feel like it will be good for all of us to not have everyone home so much :lol: This week has been a whirlwind. We got home on Monday, cleaned up Christmas, did returns, tr...

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Good luck with your challenge Linda!! Sounds like a fun way to motivate (:

Have fun in Sedona with Doc!! I love trips with just me & my husband!!

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I’m glad I’m not the only one who feels better in a clean house :D I can tell it makes such a difference in how I feel but teenagers sure make it hard, especially with all of us home 100% of the time. The kitchen seems the hardest!! We all eat at different times for breakfast & lunch & teenager vers...

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Me too on argumentative teenagers!! I learned to quit engaging most of the time, especially with the meaningless things. “I could see that” or “you might be right” kept my house a lot more peaceful :lol: And my kids too on bad moods lead to hurtful comments to me or other family members. I’m pretty ...

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Good to see you back Pink

I too did better than I had done in the past over Christmas break but still was really ready for lighter & healthier foods after!!

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Congrats on your 4th!! How exciting

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I’m glad you figured out how to feel better!! Walking is the best way to improve mood in my opinion!! Ideally outdoors, but even a quick 20 minutes on a treadmill can help me turn around a downward spiral!!

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Me too on the couple extra pounds Kittson!! Oh how I wish I was one of those who lost their appetite & couldn’t eat when they were stressed

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I need alone time & then feel like the worlds worst mom for needing it. It’s awful when I’m trying to work or eat breakfast/lunch & my kids want to “hang out”

I hope you get your videos done!!

Jen1974

I didn’t do as well during Christmas as I would have liked. I have really noticed lately that when my “deck is stacked” I eat better. My deck is stacked when I’m busy but have time to keep my house clean, shower, keep up with work, take good care of my family, get enough alone time, and good sleep. ...

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Auto: you are so right!! I think that is the secret of sustainably, yet so hard to find the right level where it isn’t too strict or too loose!! Pink & Linda: it sounds like you both have amazing systems!! I always love the look of bullet journals!! I think I like being busy, maybe that’s why I alwa...

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Nice job getting the videos done!! You are giving your Will power a run for it

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Have fun making cookies

We’re doing the same thing today!!

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Auto: I’m sure you’ll get it figured out soon!! From what I see the norm is “hard with food” for people out there through this!! I think the state of the world effects us more than we even know!!

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Sounds like you are in a really great place Soprano!! I always love reading the success stories people have here!!

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Welcome back Kittson!! These boards & No S I think is the best place to be!!

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Your Hanukkah sounds amazing!! I’m glad the visit with your mom is going well!!

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This past week has been crazy busy for me but I created a system that made me feel so much less overwhelmed. Sometimes when there is too much to I don’t even know where to start. And when there is less to do, I can procrastinate things that need to be done leaving me feeling guilty & stressed. Last ...

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Me too!! I was happy to see your thread today (: I hope you find what works for you!! It feels awful to struggle with food but it’s not your fault!! I swear it’s a mix of diet mentality where restriction leads to rebellion & foods that are engineered to mess with our hunger/fullness cues & are easy ...

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Maggie, I’m so sorry that you are struggling!! Calorie counting was terrible for me. And this diet mentality belief that carbs were the enemy. I’m someone who does best on a pretty high carb diet with fat & fiber to give it staying power. When I tried to limit carbs it never worked. I by no means ha...

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I’m catching up a little but still feel like it’s an uphill battle!! We go to the cabin this weekend which makes this week busy but also is amazing because it’s forces us to slow down, watch Christmas movies, play games, and actually enjoy the season!! It’s funny how different the picture of what Ch...

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The news has ruined my parents! They used to be such fun, positive people to be around & now they are just bitter & angry. Dinners out with them can be awful when they are on one of their news rants ): it’s made me sad to watch & kind of fear the news because of it!!

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Congrats on finishing your internship Pink!! It must feel amazing to get to Christmas Break this year

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Happy Hanukkah!!

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Congrats on a good first week back

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I always feel more anxiety in December. The stress of the holidays combined with it getting dark so early seems to leave me feeling more anxious!! I hope it passes quickly for you!!

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The response to COVID has made me a little sad too!! I wonder if when we look back on how it was handled we will see mistakes where made. Yes, we are saving lives of at-risk people, but we’ve hurt the lives of others in the process, including the at-risk people (mental health,unemploment, isolating ...

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I’m glad you & hour husband are on the “good” side of having COVID

Kind of nice to be immune to it for a while and have it behind you!!

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I’m starting to dig out but this time of year is HARD!! I can tell me & my husband are both irritable & it kind of sucks the fun out of it all :lol: As per usual I got hungrier again late in the week which felt nice & at the same time makes it harder to feel as in control with eating. It’s “that tim...

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Me & my husband had to head to our cabin right after we got back from our trip which felt rushed but was actually really awesome after so much family time!! I love our “weekends” just us two & feel lucky I’m married to someone I still have so much fun with!! I’m so happy with where I am food wise! Y...

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Yesterday was the LONGEST travel day which normally is just more than I can take & I start to snack just for something to make time pass, or I’ll go overboard at meals to make it feel more fun. It always feels terrible :lol:. I did none of those things yesterday though!! I’m not overly hungry after ...

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Auto: Me too on the beach being good for my soul!! I just feel more like a better version me when I’m there!! Linda: That’s exactly it! Doing what feels right from the different approaches I think is where we’d all be best off. Just because one style works for someone does not mean it works for some...

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I loved the story of how your training you dog! That’s such a great way to improve her reaction to strangers!!

Sorry to hear about your FIL

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Octiva, me too on taking a little from a lot of different ways of eating to create a “plan” that feels good to me

Sounds like you have hit a nice groove!! It’s good to “see” you here

Jen1974

Our trip has been fun but maybe a little a little too long. I’m feeling homesick & missing routine!! Few days ago I became officially over basing my food choices only on what I wanted! We had a travel day where I ate in a way that felt AWFUL and it made me realize that it’s more than just restrictio...

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Grazing is probably the one thing I hate more than anything!! It’s never that enjoyable & doesn’t even usually seem to be about the food. Yesterday & today have both been great!! We’ve been busy & I’ve gotten plenty of exercise & that seems to help!! After my travel day that I wasn’t happy with I th...

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Auto- We try not to drive it in the snow!! We re-route or wait to avoid it if necessary!! We’re heading out for a hike in just a bit. The top of the hike has chains & isn’t recommended for those with a fear of heights so I’ll most likely skip that part :lol: Yesterday was a drive day with no exercis...

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That’s my goal too Pink!! To get to a point where I have a little less at meals & am hungrier because I LOVE being hungry at meals. I just have never figured out how to get there without ending up feeling restricted :lol: It just seems like the perfect balance, hungry for meals, enjoy the meal & mov...

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OMG teenagers can be a challenge :lol: The good thing about the moodiness of a teenager is that if you can wait out the storm, it always passes. Usually sooner if I ignore the storm instead of resisting it :lol: And forcing them to do the things that are good for their soul is really hard, but teach...

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Sedona sounds amazing!! I hope your crew has so much fun!!!!

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Alene: I love reading about your new house & “watching” you turn it into your home! It sounds so amazing. I’ve noticed lately too connecting with the younger me makes me feel more like myself! It sounds like things are going so great for you!!

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Pink: Me too on should embrace a better way of eating for health!! Especially as I get older & know I want to feel better than my parents do who don’t seem to take very good care of themselves at all! Linda: I think “fries & chocolate” with the healthy stuff is the only way to live :lol: Enjoying fo...

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Auto: I totally agree!! I really think No S is the best foundation for everything!! Even if it’s not 3 meals a day because I think some do better with more, smaller meals, but to start with a number of meals, avoiding the non hunger snacking that can happen between meals without any structure, and t...

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That lack of structure is what ended up being my downfall with IE too!! Too much arguing with myself over if I was hungry enough to eat or not & if so what to have that lead to decision fatigue. That’s where it feels most “intuitive” to me to have a rhythm to my days with 3 meals & a loose plan of w...

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I’m glad you & your husband got on the same team :D I’ve found t’s almost impossible to totally trust my parenting if my husband isn’t on board too!! Me too with not enough “firsts”. I really have to challenge the believe that says less is better because I think that in the long run I eat more overa...

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This week has been a great leaning experience!! I’m pretty happy with it all so far. I had one day where I my eating veered too close to “not dieting” & felt crappy. I woke up the next day & wasn’t craving a bagel so I made a healthier breakfast & realized I really don’t know how to include healthie...

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I love what you are doing for your kids!! It is really hard to watch my kids struggle though this. I feel they will come out stronger on the other side and better able to cope with hard things, but it all seems incredibly unhealthy. Too much time spent on screens, but not really much else that can b...

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Me too on being around the same weight. I always feel I bounce between the lower & upper end of my set point weight depending on what I’m doing, yet I do typically feel better at the lower end but only because I’m typically not pushing the limits of full, so I don't end up feeling lethargic from ove...

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Auto: I so love this board!! I feel like we’d all be friends IRL if we lived by each other!! I love how we all support even each others non food stuff :D Thanks Soprano!! It is really freeing!! It’s crazy how good it feels to just take a break from nutrition rules & eat what I want!! Pink: I always ...

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I had to quit worrying & let my now college son go though some rough school patches where he’d procrastinate to the point of being in over his head with missing assignments & grades WAY lower than what he was capable of. I kind of let him know, it’s his future & I’d help if he specifically needed it...

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Auto: I’m glad you had a nice time!! My parents are the same way!! And my dad says that when you really look at the numbers that even if one/both of them did get chances are they’d be just fine. I feel like it’s keeping them a lot happier with that attitude than living in fear

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I sometimes feel I deserve to be “done” in the evenings too, but feel so much better when I accomplish a few things!!

I hope you get your project wrapped up. I’ve really wanted to simplify & get rid of things too but always manage to put it off!!

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I’m really enjoying where I am at. There’s temptation to give into “shoulds” but I’m doing a good job realizing that hasn’t served me so far & that a focus on health has kept me stuck in a “on plan”/“off plan” cycle that I’m really sick of! I’m definitely sticking with my 3 meal a day rhythm, that’s...

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I love reading how you handled that!! Dieting teaches us the total wrong way to respond to extra hunger, you did such a great job of responding to it!! You do a great job responding to the desire to eat when you aren’t hungry. That’s where I can struggle, moving past that urge without eating!! Glad ...

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I’m loving hearing about where you are at!!

The Body Love Society sounds great!! Me too on IE was either a focus on hunger/fullness/gentle nutrition & felt like “gentle dieting” or only a focus on only what I wanted and felt like anarchy.

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I am loving life without “gentle nutrition” :lol: I really must have needed a break because eating whatever I want with the 3 meal structure has left me feeling done in a way my balanced meals weren’t. I’m working on habituating these apple cinnamon bagels with cream cheese. I normally can’t get eno...

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Have fun with your parents auto!! I feel like it’s almost “healthier” for our parents to get to see us & our kids than it is to hide from COVID, at least mentally!! The dr who we talked to after our son had it said you are much less likely to spread it with no symptoms so that makes me feel better a...

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This week has been different for me than how I normally come home from a trip. I have refused to do anything that resembles “diet starts Monday”. I didn’t like how the trip felt. There was lots of thoughts of “I hardly ever ____________” that I used as a free pass for a break & I realized I’m just t...

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Thanks Pink & Soprano

Pink you’re so right about them running in the background!! I’m starting to realize they hurt me a lot more than they help

Auto, I think my core is the 3 meal rhythm!! It’s what I always come back to

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I’ve been listening to IE stuff again too. I’m trying to learn from what went wrong when I did & see if I can incorporate some of what went right into my life!

Congrats on the 100 day AF & enjoy your wine tonight

Jen1974

Glad your toe is feeling better!! I bet your body is just rebounding from the low carb/not hungry days & needs a few days to recover (: It’s easier said than done but try & enjoy it, food tastes so amazing when you are hungry and I’ve noticed when I have days like that, embracing it actually has bet...

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https://www.dropbox.com/s/s2fiewe4x4ma1tv/IMG_7331.jpg?raw=1 Hopefully I did that right& you all can see the bridesmaid dress. I’m so happy I ordered a size up!! I would be miserable right now if I felt It was mandatory to lose weight in order to breathe that night :lol: Octavia: That is my experie...

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I hope your toe is feeling better & that your family is taking good care of you

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I love reading about your realizations!! I think a lot of us are there. We all just want to eat in a way that feels good but have a really hard time doing that without getting too restrictive where it backfires & we find ourselves overdoing it. It’s crazy how hard it is to be the type of person who ...

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We’ve been having a good time visiting my parents. Their “farm” is in a small town in South Dakota. My husband & dad fish & my kids all have school & my mom is obsessed with Fox News so I’ve worked quite a bit. I live in the gray & don’t enjoy CNN or Fox & don’t enjoy discussing politics with anyone...

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Thanks Auto!! I really love our motorhome adventures!! It’s made COVID something where we’ve created some pretty awesome memories!!

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I hope you don’t lose the toenail pink!! I ripped off my big toenail in Highschool & my daughter did the same thing a few months ago!! It wasn’t as bad in reality as the thought of it is :lol: But hopefully you don’t have to find out!! April it’s funny you had it happen too!! Who knew losing a toena...

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We left yesterday to take a RV trip to visit my parents in South Dakota so this week has been a bit busy. We’ve had Chipotle, Chick-Fil-A, and Pizza Hut for dinner over that last few nights which is awesome that it can all fit into my version of No S with no stress or anxiety!! I’ve even eaten it in...

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Thanks Pink & Alene

It’s crazy to me how many people feel the same about Intuitive Eating!! After spending time in that circle feeling guilt for struggling, like I was too caught up in diet mentality, it’s nice to hear from others that they had the same struggles!!

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Your Halloween sounds amazing!! I miss the days of walking the neighborhood with my kids!! And you are so right about sleep/stress & for me boredom messing with our eating!! And also right about trusting our natural appetites. I think that’s when we struggle, when we try to change who we are at our ...

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Love S-ing out too!! That’s the perfect way to describe it!! Hope your back is feeling better!!

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Auto: I hadn’t listened/read that yet so I did yesterday. It was really interesting!! I think I look at both voices as more helpful than destructive but they are really destructive too. Especially when given full authority

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I’m being so much more mindful with my relationship with food which seems to be helping. I’m not aiming for perfect & when I make choices that don’t feel right I’m learning from them by writing 1. What went wrong 2. Why it went wrong 3. What I can do it the future to make choices that feel better (a...

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Auto: me too!! I think that’s why me & my husband are ready to move back to our college town!! We had so much there

Pink: Thats so cool you still have friends from middle school!! I have high school friends but no middle school relationships lasted!!

Jen1974

I tried a similar experiment too that did not work!! I don’t wake up super hungry & decided to try having only frozen blueberries which I really like but didn’t really feel like a meal. Physically I’d be satisfied but found that it left me mentally unsatisfied & feeling short changed which lead to w...

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I hope your back feels better soon!! I love how good your attitude is about it all

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Using “how foods make you feel” to make better choices never worked well for me because I can eat almost anything & never feel that bad as long as I don’t get too full. Something I’ve noticed lately though is that when I make my meals a little more nourishing I feel better!! I have more energy, am m...

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I do think dieting creates a “clean your plate” attitude! My version of No S is really loose where a I always can have something if I really want it without breaking any “rules” but the hard part for me is that I know most of the time I don’t actually want the treats, so when I do, I feel I need to ...

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Pretty impressive family hike!! I love when my kids enjoy hikes but it doesn’t happen every time!! I feel like we always feel better after we go but there can be some complaints before & during

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I love how you’re waiting for hunger!! I’ve noticed myself when I’m on the higher end of my set point weight that I feel less hunger. I like “watching” your experiments & seeing how they turn out. I think that’s what I like the most about these boards, seeing everyone’s trial & error

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That is awesome auto!! I would love to get better at that!! I really struggle with the “clean your plate” mentality where it’s hard for me not to finish what I have!!

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I worked at reframing the times when I had extra this weekend into a positive, reminding myself that meals where I have a little extra motivate me to have days where I eat a little lighter & that overall it’s more sustainable than setting the bar too high & feels much better than setting the bar too...

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It is a balancing act Pink!! And I think it’s harder to stay in balance when life is “off” and I go on autopilot

Octavia, I’m stating to think that’s the key!! And it seems almost obvious, like why didn’t I see this sooner

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Good luck with your new “tools”. I always love having a new plan, it feel always feels very motivating

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Me too on the habit of having seconds at dinner I’m not actually hungry enough for!! I’m trying to be more mindful of my virtual plates being enough, not too much for meals too

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I’m glad you’re starting to feel better!! I think we all go through times when everything feels great & other times when it doesn’t feel that way at all!! It’s so hard to deal with the bad when ultimately we all just want to feel good, all of the time

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I’m in such a good place right now which feels great!! It’s easy right now because I’m probably on the higher side of my set point weight making me feel less hungry. The real test will be when my clothes get looser & I feel hungrier. I don’t think I’ve ever handled that well which has probably kept ...

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Pink- I love that, about the healthy meal & McDonalds both being what you needed!! I think that’s the balance we lose when we start to diet!! And it’s really hard to get back!!

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Hope your toe feels better Pink!! And that life either calms down or you get in a groove & it at least feels less chaotic

Jen1974

Things have been going really well for me.I bought a few new fall clothes which always motivates me to want to take better care of myself. There’s something about new clothes that feel good & makes it easier to want to eat in a way that also feels good. It’s funny how the opposite is also true & whe...

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Auto, I’m right there with you on the “limit” where self care feels restrictive. I heard someone call it the edge once & I liked it!! She said the edge is different for everyone & what feels restrictive to one person doesn’t to another & that the only way to be successful is to find your edge & resp...

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We had a great time visiting my son last weekend. It was funny though because I had been hesitant to go “off plan” but then got to the end of the weekend & was pushing the limits of full with thoughts of going back “on plan” on Monday & realized that wasn’t working for me. I was being low key restri...

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I am right there with you April!! I’ve caught myself bouncing between letting my inner perfectionist call the shots & my inner rebel, even following No S. I don’t feel as good when it’s my inner rebel & feel restricted when it’s my inner perfectionist so lately I’ve really been focusing on finding t...

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One nice thing about coming off a vacation with more splurges is how easy it feels to take good care of myself after!! I’m working this time to not take it too far. For me it can be easy to think the bar should always be really high instead of remembering to take my foot of the gas & coast so I don’...

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Thanks Octavia

I always enjoy reading what others try so I’ll look forward to seeing how your tweaks turn out!! I keep hoping eventually a tweak will turn me into someone who never gets too full or acts rebellious around food but I’m starting to think I’ll probably never “arrive”

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I quit weighing myself 3 years ago & it was SO GOOD for me!! I had been taking great care of myself & felt “thin” but the scale showed a gain. I doubt it was a real gain but it totally demotivated me. I realized that it was doing more harm than good. I can tell when what I’m doing will lead to an ov...

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The cabin was so much fun!! I’m actually glad we got “stuck” there before coming home!! We left & got back home yesterday. I’ve been SO MUCH less hungry so eating “lite” has been easy!! I’m working on picking something really nourishing for my body & something really nourishing for my soul so more f...

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