Everyday Systems

Jen1974

I’m really impressed with the alcohol free & the running!! It sounds like you’re in a good place with both :D I love Ellyn Satter too!! Sometimes the “supplying” the food can feel hard though. Especially with teens where they are choosing what to feed themselves & things like chips seem to get chose...

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I’ve been the same way, having more on hungrier days, & I’m like that too, hungrier the first few days of my cycle!! It feels good to just honor the extra hunger!! I’m usually slightly disappointed when it’s gone though because I love having room for more

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Exercise is the best & I love that you took time off & felt even better for it. It think it can be easy to feel guilty for rest when it’s actually really good for a person too!!

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Happy 44th Birthday

Jen1974

I love the idea of the run/recovery walk!! Sounds like you’re doing great with things

Jen1974

Today we are driving from Las Vegas where we visited my parents to Winter Park to stay at our cabin until my son is past his quarantine. It’s WAY too much driving but we’re ready for a little normal & figure the cabin is the best place to be until we can go home. My son is doing great! His symptoms ...

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We have been traveling while we do work/school since last Friday which has left me with no time to post. I’m definitely off with eating. The good news is that 3 meals a day is pretty solid but I’ve noticed default for me is pushing the limits of enough & eating in a way that doesn’t leave me feeling...

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My son caught COVID at college too! He is quarantining at home now while we are traveling. He had mild symptoms too, one day where he felt pretty bad, but not nearly as bad as I’ve seen him feel with other things!!

Jen1974

I do that same thing as a mom, too much pressure to do it all perfect & its EXHAUSTING!! I end up less happy myself & when I’m less happy I’m actually not as good of a mom, less patient, playful, & attentive. My kids usually make a lot of their own food but I always plan/make dinner for us all. That...

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Since my son was home on Sunday, we got breakfast & donuts to have while we watched church. The breakfast burritos were just meh so I only had 1/2 but the apple fritter was amazing & I ate more than I needed. I did notice when it quit tasting good & stopped before getting uncomfortably full which I ...

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Giving in usually just causes urges to keep happening where as waiting it out meant it was gone for good!! Ain't that sumpin? Right Oolala :lol: now to just get the little voice that “wants it now” to always remember this!! Octavia, you & me both!! I’m finally feeling like it’s sinking in for me th...

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Yesterday wasn’t my favorite day in the mountains!! I wanted to go hiking & was trying to be patient & let my family sleep in but by 11 when everyone was dragging their feet & no one was helping at all get ready & leaving everything up to me to do I lost it. I don’t like forcing my family on hikes b...

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Thanks ladybird

it felt a lot better to make that choice!!

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I love working at the cabin!! Yesterday I took my computer on the deck & worked while my kids did online school. It felt so much less like work in that environment!! We love our cabin but it’s a little small so we’re in the process of building a bigger place. We plan to be here even more once our ki...

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Things have been going really well for me!! Doing the wavelength app has a good effect on me. It’s focus is being kind to yourself which leaves you feeling better & for me when I feel better I make better choices!! I’ve made my breakfast smaller lately which has worked really well. I don’t wake up t...

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I wouldn’t discount the impact your daughter leaving has had! When my son left my eating was off for a bit & I didn’t put it together until I was looking at the calendar where I keep track of how I’m doing. I had no successes for a while after he left

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I was thinking about your post & realized I do better with more set meal times but I’ve adopted a range that might be making it harder to wait for hunger!! 10 & 3 are the times when I feel hungry for breakfast & lunch but I shoot for 9-10 & 2-3. As far as pushing the limits of enough it’s not that I...

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No dairy would be really hard for me too!! I love your passion for your experiments!! It will be fun to see how you do with this one!

Jen1974

I go through the same type of thing when I have something like a little bit of gain or clothes feeling a little snug where I feel pressure to “fix” it & end up self sabotaging myself. Not sure if you’re at all like me but I realized that too much focus on weight leaves me feeling low key restricted ...

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Oh my gosh Pink that all sounds SO HARD!! I love that you are finding ways to take a little bit of pressure off because that all is just too much for anyone to handle!!

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And me too on the post social anxiety!! It’s always nice to hear that lots of us do this. I try to remind myself of this when I’m beating myself up over something I said or didn’t say

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Linda I absolutely loved your post!! I have zero interest in trying to manipulate my body to be something it’s not meant to be anymore either, I’m just trying to figure out how to eat in a way that leaves me feeling my best! I loved what you said about not being hungry for meals being joyless, that ...

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One of the things Wavelength had me do was write out non-weight related goals for eating in a way that feels better. For me I just want to stop pushing the limits of full so that I’m hungrier for my meals. I am someone who is always tempted to have just a little more than what I actually need, but i...

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Thanks Pink (: I think a bullet journal is such an awesome form of self care. There’s just something good for the soul about being creative & actually writing!! I keep thinking one of these days I’m going to start one

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April, your post totally made my day!! Thank you so much!! I’m so glad what I say resonates! That’s what I love about this bored, it seems so many of us are in such a similar place! I so agree that with IE my diet was getting progressively less healthy where with No S I care more about feeling good ...

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Thanks Auto!! That’s really nice of you to say!! I don’t always feel like it & always think of all the things I should be doing better

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I signed up to test an app called Wavelength when they were doing trials of it. I loved so much of what it focused on, all except for the food part, but yesterday I realized I missed some of the things I did when I was using the app. So I joined for a month to work on some of the habits again. Small...

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It feels good to be getting back to more normal again!! Yesterday eating felt great! I’m laying low on fruit for a bit at breakfast & lunch. It’s one of those things I feel I should add but never really satisfies me as much as other foods do at those meals. I really like fruits & veggies but never c...

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Much better day yesterday!! I wasn’t hungry after too much the day before but did a pretty good job honoring that. Skipping meals never feels right to me but I kept meals fairly light. Chances are I won’t be that hungry for a bit here. I’d assume my weight crept Up slightly during the store opening ...

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Me too on less busy being harder to wait to eat!! When I’m busy my stomach let’s me know when it needs food. When I’m less busy my head gets too involved

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I love where you are at Pink!! It sounds like the perfect relationship with food

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Yesterday I just fell apart :lol: I think overworking myself caught up to me & I needed a day off but never allow myself to have those. It snowed here which made me feel like doing nothing but instead I spent the day working & getting stuff done & by late afternoon was looking for a little relief & ...

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pinkhippie wrote: ↑
Wed Sep 09, 2020 12:02 am
Obsessing over and about food and trying to limit food is not good self care for me. Sleep and relaxation time is.

Love this Pink!!

Jen1974

Hi Gabby, Sorry I didn’t respond sooner!! I’ve had a huge project at work & have been MIA from the boards :D I don’t take traditional S days so all 7 days I stick to the three meal structure. Ideally I’d have 3-5 “splurges” during the week which for me are usually desserts or seconds. I keep track o...

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I have had the hardest time finding time to check in. Me & my husband went camping last week just the two of us which was so much fun!! Our spot was on a lake & we bought paddle boards to bring which was amazing. I have never paddle boarded much before & liked it even more than I thought I would!! W...

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I like your “as much as I need to feel satisfied” vs “the least amount to feel satisfied”!! That’s a hard one for me too.

And I love your decluttering project!! I've been doing the same thing since cleaning out my parents!! It feels really good to live in a less cluttered environment!!

Jen1974

The new store was such chaos that I barely had time to shower so I wasn’t able to post at all. I was working 8:30 am to 10:30 pm most days & eating was more survival based. I didn’t eat well at all, mostly take out, and was too tired to care what/how much I was eating most of the time. I was getting...

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Thanks Octavia!! It’s nice to know others are in my same boat

I hope the transition is smooth for you. I notice I’m still not quite myself. I figure it’s normal to have a period where I’ll feel a little sad getting used to the new normal without him here but I’m hoping it will pass soon!!

Jen1974

The past week I have really struggled with my No S habits. I’m sure once PMS passes & I get better sleep things will be better again but yesterday I realized I just didn’t have it in me to say no to milk duds after lunch even though I knew I’d feel worse for having them mid-day. Too much processed/h...

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Pink I was doing really well with habits even during busy times & vacation but have really struggled the past week with adding in PMS, not sleeping well, and adjusting to my son’s move to college :lol: It’s crazy how old habits come back during difficult times. I used to think it was lack of willpow...

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Since dropping my son off I’ve watched myself recover. It’s always amazing to see how bad feelings just don’t last & soon enough I always rise back up. He’s having a great time & texts quite a few times a day which has been fun to get updates. It’s that time of the month which this month has meant a...

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I sometimes feel as if I’m the only one not allowed to be in a bad mood!! My husband doesn’t handle it well at all & I feel super guilty if I’m short tempered or no fun & disconnected! I’ve had to work on giving myself a lot of grace & notice it’s good for all of us that it’s okay to be in a bad moo...

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I’m impressed with the hedge trimming!! That sounds like a great way to get in shape & get something accomplished

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Thanks everyone!! I love that this board is about so much more than just food

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Thanks Soprano & Auto :D I was a total mess getting ready to leave this morning. I knew I’d struggle but surpassed my expectations on how poorly I’d handle it :lol: the good news was once we got there I did pretty well!! Up until he gave me a big hug goodbye at least!! Last night I made sausage tort...

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Life has been chaos with my parents moving & my son getting ready for college!! I have been crying at the drop of a hat so I hope I can keep it together tomorrow when we drop him off. I’m so excited for him & know he’s so ready for this but still the thought of not having him home for dinner feels a...

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I notice that with processed foods too!! They don’t work well with hunger/fullness cues! I really do feel they are manufactured to do that to you!! It always bothered me in the IE community where that was such a taboo topic!!

Jen1974

I think you are totally right Pink!! I think working out too much came from my calorie counting days where it felt like I had to eat less if I skipped it & never felt like eating less. So sad that the real truth was that it doesn’t actually work that way at all!!!

Jen1974

I had sluggish days this week too!! I hate those

You’re smart to recognize it as a need for rest!!

Jen1974

The cabin has been really fun but not enough time!! We go home today :cry: The first night we rode bikes to dinner which is my favorite!! We have headlights & tail lights for when it gets dark & riding home after dinner eliminates any sleepiness from food :lol: My brother & 2 of his kids came & stay...

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I think you’re totally right Auto!! I think we’re all different too, more strict works better for some, less strict works better for others. I think the ones this works the best for are making No S fit them instead of making themselves fit No S

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Yesterday went really good!! Light breakfast & lunch & an extra piece of pizza where physically I felt I could be done at 2 but didn’t feel mentally satisfied until I finished 3. I think that’s where diets fail, we’re constantly trying to eat the bare minimum instead of enough!! I had fun with my ki...

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Nice job on the mountain biking!! I did it in college & liked the uphill better than the down. The down scared me

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Pink-love “perfect is the enemy of good” it’s so true!! I’ve never exercised to make up for eating but only because I’ve always exercised probably too much where there wasn’t really room for more :lol: I feel like it’s probably just as bad for me as eating less to make up for more :lol: My brother l...

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For me balanced meals & a later breakfast seems to help. I don’t wakeup hungry so I tend to eat at 9:30/10:00, 2:30/3:00 & 7:30/8:00. If I’m famashed before dinner I’ll have fruit/veggies to hold me over!! And to keep myself from bordom eating I write out a checklist of “up next”. Knowing I’m going ...

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Glad your test was negative & your husband is feeling better!!!

Jen1974

On Monday we took the “neighbor kids” out on the boat with us & ordered pizza. They’re the kids my kids have been friends with the longest so I’m glad we got to do it before my oldest heads to college but I was sort of burnt out so it wasn’t as much fun as it would have been if it was spaced out mor...

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Your husband’s parents sound awesome!! That’s the type of grandparents I want us to be someday!! My husbands parents were always the ones who we could count on!! They are amazing grandparents but have 22 grandkids (my husband is one of eight) so we didn’t ask very often but it also meant that my kid...

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I do No S differently than most because I didn’t want weekends to feel like I had to get it all in while I could. So instead I do 7 days 3 meals & ask myself “do I need this sweet, snack, or second” & work to do it only when it’s really worth it. Normally I tend to “take the S” more often on weekend...

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Your meals sound amazing & I love that you have your daughters help!! Congrats on 15 years!! How fun for your kids to spend tome with grandparents & you to get a little time just the 2 of you!! I always wished my parents were those grandparents but they don’t really get into the grandparenting thing...

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Totally agree Pink!! And the media is so full of air brushed pictures of women with bodies that aren’t actually attainable!! I’ve really worked with my 14 year old daughter on recognizing that bodies are not supposed to look like that in real life & to always choose a happier live over a skinnier on...

Jen1974

I hope your husband feels better soon & that you have mild symptoms if you do get it!!

For me less alcohol=more chocolate

!!

I too think I feel better during that day & sleep better at night without

Jen1974

I totally agree with auto on the boundaries!! That was my issue with IE!! No boundaries set me up for MAJOR decision fatigue!!!

Jen1974

Saturday my crew took our boat out & had dinner at Pearl Street in Boulder. Pearl Street feels like a vacation town!! Summer nights they have street performers & the weather was perfect so it was a fun night to be there!! On our way to the reservoir, I still felt hungry after lunch so we stopped at ...

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I totally agree with you Linda!! And me too on the never happy no matter how low my weight was!! I actually think there is a sweet spot for me where I’m taking good care of myself without being obsessive & where I’m still enjoying food & life. My weight is never the lowest at this point but I’m no m...

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I like the every hour moving challenge!! It seems like it would be a great energy/mood boost!! I also love work that I’m excited enough about to want to do it more!!

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Your poor husband!! Hope he’s doing better today!! I so agree on using food & alcohol to feel better/different!! It’s awesome you’ve been loving life without!! I still don’t know where I want to be, but do like the “glass ceiling” idea that Reinhard talks about!!

Jen1974

I see nothing wrong with adding a snack!! I know for me getting too hungry leads to far worse things than having fruit for a snack

My biggest question to myself lately has been “is this sustainable” because if it’s not, I’m setting myself up to eventually fail!!

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We went out as a family to celebrate my sons graduation. I never got good pictures because we couldn’t all go to graduation so I made him put back on his gown before dinner & we gave him our cards/gifts after. I have an awesome crew & we always have so much fun together. The one nice thing about not...

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It’s the same at my house Auto where I’m the only one eating the broccoli

Pink I feel the same way on fruits & veggies!! And I always feel like I eat the same at meals regardless if I add fruits & veggies, they just end up being extra!!

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I finally made dinner at home last night :lol: It was funny with as much as I have known I need some healthier nights at home that my brain resisted & looked for reasons to either go out or get take out. Instead I cut up a ton of veggies & made Italian sandwiches & we ate on the patio which I love!!...

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Auto/Pink: you have both confirmed what I always think!! Neighborhoods with smaller house have better people!!! All of my best friends live in neighborhoods like those & love their neighbors!! Pink; I love how you came up with your username!! I’m like that too, some ways a little hippie and others n...

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Pink, LOL, didn’t even think about the hippie in your username!! Love that!!! Big houses are overrated!! My kids all want a smaller house when they grow up & I feel like their whole generation will appreciate a smaller, simpler, way of living. Cozier houses have a way of feeling like home in a way b...

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I love the story about the gardener lady!! I love that even after an accident she’s still doing what she loves!! And that pesto sounds amazing!!

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I so agree on the “how does this make me feel” vs “I’m bad”. I always believed that I couldn't’ be “good” around baking/baked goods & would end up eating in a way that felt terrible!! Once I let go of thinking I needed the perfect diet & focused on eating in a way that felt good instead it made such...

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I had so much fun at work yesterday!! I order accessories (rugs, lamps, art, etc) for a furniture company & have a small team who works with me & decorates. I just had a guy quit so I went in to help decorate. I forgot how much I like it!! I was really rusty at first but by the end seemed to find my...

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Auto & Pink that’s how long we’ve lived here too. 13 years this month. That’s so funny we are all at the 13 year mark!! Pink your neighborhood sounds amazing. I have just the opposite problem, a house that I love & fits us well (with kids home, too big & lonely for just me & my husband) but our neig...

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Nice work on the 30 minute jog!! Too bad on the positive test! At least he most likely doesn’t need to worry about catching it again!!

Jen1974

I’m “all things in moderation” too!! I can easily skip meat but feel like I need the iron so I don’t but could never skip dairy!! Dairy is probably my favorite food group

I love your experiments!! I like doing them too!!

Jen1974

Me too on the negative test Pink :lol: we were all cheering & high fiving :LOL: We made it to the cabin for a quick trip. We only got to be there for a night because I have to go in to work today but it was still nice to have a little time away with just my husband!! My eating was good enough at the...

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We ended up putting off going to the cabin until tonight. It felt good to have a little extra time to catch up before leaving. My younger kids had plans so we took my oldest out for pizza which was fun. His friends have had a COVID outbreak & are all quarantining (his test came back negative) so he’...

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That is so true! :D How much weight did you lose and what was your starting weight if I may ask? [/quote] I haven’t weight myself in over 3 years but judging from the time spent weighing I have about a 10 pound range that I stay in. When I started I was getting closer to the top of that range. I’d g...

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I’m so sorry about your dog. They are such a part of the family & it’s so hard to say goodbye!! Me too on the drinking a bit more. I had cut WAY back before COVID & did a pretty good job in the beginning but with summer & travel I’ve noticed my numbers creeping back up. I like the Rachel Hart podcas...

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Linda, my kids are hybrid. 2 days virtual, 2 days online, & one day off for teacher planning. At this point I’d prefer online only. I don’t think in person learning can last!! My oldest gets to move into the dorms & have in person classes through Thanksgiving. I’m worried that won’t last either beca...

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Thanks Auto, I’m kind of amazed!! I’ve always struggled when my schedule is off so it feels nice to be in a good groove with No S where I actually get to enjoy vacation without a food hangover

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I too learned so much from my original thread!! It was funny to watch me do so well yet not be happy with “good enough”. It taught me this time to really focus on “mark it & move on” instead of mark it & try to eat less to make up for it

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I’ve tried & left No S too. Lately I’ve realized that a slow loss that sticks is better than dropping weight quickly in an unsustainable way where it just comes right back

Jen1974

Nice job on the 21 miles!! One of my favorite things about exercise is how amazing food tastes after :lol: I have eaten hardly any fruits & veggies at all lately!! The thing that surprises me about it is that I’m not overeating or eating terribly unhealthy either so I’m not necessarily craving them....

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That’s so exciting on the videos!! I always love having work I’m passionate about!!

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Yes Soprano!! I love getting into that groove!! I’m back from my motorhome trip but we had so much fun that I’m excited to get another one planned!! We’re lucky that our jobs are super mobile. We can work from anywhere. I do tend to overbook us though, never spending enough time at home!! Me & my hu...

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Stopping in a for a quick hello while I’m waiting for my family to be ready to head to breakfast. No S has been going great this trip!! Even with more eating out & being out of my routine, my clothes don’t feel any tighter & what has surprised me the most is that I almost think they’re looser. When ...

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I totally agree April!! I too need to work on delayed gratification. IE was hard because I’d jump the gun on hunger & enjoy the food less because of it!! No S helps me make better choices

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I enjoy alone time when I walk too!! I seem to be someone who needs time to myself to recharge. I do love walks with the husband too though!! We have our best talks that way

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I agree with Auto!! I love reading your thread & seeing what a great job you’ve done creating a peaceful/happy relationship with food & weight!! It’s motivating to see how you try but too hard

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Thanks Auto

Pink: Pirates Booty is like white cheddar flavored air

a little like a rice cake that you eat handfuls at a time yet never feel full

Jen1974

My life has been a bit of a whirlwind lately. I never overbook us like this normally! My son’s graduation was actually really nice! They made each graduate sit with their 2 guests. I didn’t expect to cry, but of course did & had no Kleenex :lol: the mask & sunglasses did a good job hiding it at leas...

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Alene: Your house & your weekend sounds amazing (: I absolutely love fires!!

Pink: I love that story about your marriage. I think that’s what the happiest marriages are made of, putting them first, at least some of the times, & picking your battles

Jen1974

Yesterday felt amazing!! It was a blue day after a string of yellow/orange ones. There’s just something about getting back to normal after being off my schedule that feels really nice!! I was talking to my daughter about how over snack food she was. She said that the snack food that tastes good neve...

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Soprano I think you’re so right!! These are a couple of highlights from a book that I like: “Sadly however, research shows that classifying foods as “good” and “bad,” or “healthy” and “fattening” sets you up for an overeating train-wreck—overindulging in the “healthy” foods and bingeing on the “junk...

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Soprano, I do wonder if it’s the good/bad mentality that trips me up. It’s just so hard to totally ditch. I eat in a way that feels better on a normal week day at home than when I’m camping, on vacation, or some weekends. I never feel bad for including chips with a meal when I’m craving chips or hav...

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