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by Merry » Thu Jun 30, 2016 1:57 am
Somewhere in the No-S book, Reinhard talks about not letting one or at most two red days turn into a new bad habit (kind of like the WTH effect, only happening over days/weeks rather than within one day). That's been a key thought for me. I think that there are times when habits still require decisions and consciousness.
There is very little within walking distance for me. If I'm going to Urban Ranger (without the Urban part!), then I have to actually plan a walk and go do it--it can be part of my routine, but it's not really a practical part of my life (I'm not walking to the store or my job etc...) So...I find it still takes a decision and inertia, even when I establish a regular time (interrupted by seasons and other differences). Sometimes I replace a walk with extra work around the house (weeding, deep cleaning...)--still a decision.
I think No-S is like this to some extent. When I'm at home, it's pretty easy to stay on-diet. There aren't many pitfalls here to sidetrack me, and there is routine and it's set. But when I'm out and about, there are--and I still have to decide to keep following it. It's almost second-nature, but not quite. I think it's pretty natural to see a food offering (at someone's home, at an event, while you drive...) and think, "That sounds good, oh wait, today's an N day..." Will the first reaction ever completely go away? I'm not sure--to me it seems pretty natural for it to be there.
I can plan ahead of time for some things--"tonight's a party, but I'm going to keep my N day, so here's my strategy..."
Other things maybe not--I was helping a friend the other day and she offered a taste of the world's most amazing oatmeal cookie dough (you HAVE to try this!). She offered, and I calculated--"cookie dough, I love cookie dough, not worth breaking an N day..."
Now, I did feel it was easier to say no and stay on habit than to evaluate whether I really wanted a red day or whether one taste would really mess up my overall progress--so maybe in that way, habit ruled. But there was still an initial reaction to food.
I used to emotionally eat a lot too, and there are times when that kicks in and I just want something sweet or whatever. And then--I have to respond with a decision. It doesn't "feel natural" to "not feed" a depressed feeling. It doesn't feel natural to delay--"You know, self, I'm going to have something good this weekend. Just think how good xyz treat is going to taste--and I know I'll enjoy it more after a good week. Even though I "feel" like making this a red day, I know that later I won't really be glad if I do..."
I think it was in that context that Reinhard was talking about not continuing to wallow if you do have a red day or two--you do have to decide to return. Don't let one or even a few red days become the new habit.
For me, I think prayer is key. I do pray that I can lose weight (it was in praying that I remembered about No-S and came back here!), that I can be healthier, that I can establish good habits and not be a slave to food or a glutton.
And I think...be gracious towards yourself. If you've messed up, even messed up a lot--don't look back and beat yourself up for that. Look at one day at a time--can you do this today? And let habits build back up slowly.
Homeschool Mom and No S returnee as of 11-30-15.
2 years and counting on No-S.
29 lbs. down, 34 to go. Slow and steady wins the race.
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