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Ready to go
Posted: Fri Nov 28, 2014 10:01 pm
by OneLife
Hi everyone. I have been looking around this board off and on for a few years. A couple days ago I promised myself I would make a change after Thanksgiving. Today, I am going to put a plan on paper and tomorrow I will begin. I only have one life and I have made many mistakes in it. One problem area being my weight and eating habits. I have made too many excuses. I really can't blame anyone but myself. But...today is new. I will be honest and say that I need some cheerleaders. I need the support. I hope that by joining this board I will find that support. Thanks in advance.
Posted: Fri Nov 28, 2014 10:33 pm
by Too solid flesh
Welcome, OneLife!
Posted: Fri Nov 28, 2014 11:50 pm
by LoriLifts
Welcome!
You're gonna like it here
Posted: Sat Nov 29, 2014 9:55 pm
by feedthehunger
Welcome, Dee! I think a lot of people reading your post (including me) will be able to identify with what you wrote. At another website I posted this:
Weight Loss Tip: Learn to Draw a Double Line
In my weight loss journey, there are lots of places my head can be. It might be buried in the sand because I don’t want to know what I know. It might be up some other part of my anatomy because I want to do self destructive things to soothe myself or to lose weight. But the most dangerous place my head can be is buried is in the past thinking about the things I should have eaten, not eaten, done, not done, the missed opportunities, the wasted effort, the lost years, etc. Coulda, shoulda, woulda.
In accounting, when there are no other entries that will be made to an amount, a double line is drawn to show that the tally is final. The past is like that. No amount of anguish, hand-wringing, fat-shaming screeds or other maneuvers can change what happened then. No anger, resentment or instant replaying can change it. No obsession about it, devotion to it or anxious preservation of it can change it. It’s done.
Not that the past is no good. To the contrary, it can be a goldmine of information, just like that final journal entry. You can’t add to it, subtract from it or change it, but you can profit from understanding what the number means. The past is like that: you can learn from it even though you can’t change it. That’s why the 12-Step groups quote Benjamin Dover: It's okay to look at the past, just don't stare.
A necessary element of the weight loss journey for me is to fully realize the past and let it be. I don’t have to let it go, I just have to let it be what it was. The capacity to “let be†is an important part of my weight loss plan. Without it, I am chained in a way that prevents me from moving forward. I’m drawing the double line.
And so I was able to move to the No S lifestyle even though my past dieting history would predict abject failure.
I hope you can too!
Regards, Debra
Posted: Sun Nov 30, 2014 1:20 am
by Strawberry Roan
Welcome to the boards. so glad you decided to take your journey to better health along with all of us
Posted: Sun Nov 30, 2014 1:21 am
by Strawberry Roan
feedthehunger wrote:Welcome, Dee! I think a lot of people reading your post (including me) will be able to identify with what you wrote. At another website I posted this:
Weight Loss Tip: Learn to Draw a Double Line
In my weight loss journey, there are lots of places my head can be. It might be buried in the sand because I don’t want to know what I know. It might be up some other part of my anatomy because I want to do self destructive things to soothe myself or to lose weight. But the most dangerous place my head can be is buried is in the past thinking about the things I should have eaten, not eaten, done, not done, the missed opportunities, the wasted effort, the lost years, etc. Coulda, shoulda, woulda.
In accounting, when there are no other entries that will be made to an amount, a double line is drawn to show that the tally is final. The past is like that. No amount of anguish, hand-wringing, fat-shaming screeds or other maneuvers can change what happened then. No anger, resentment or instant replaying can change it. No obsession about it, devotion to it or anxious preservation of it can change it. It’s done.
Not that the past is no good. To the contrary, it can be a goldmine of information, just like that final journal entry. You can’t add to it, subtract from it or change it, but you can profit from understanding what the number means. The past is like that: you can learn from it even though you can’t change it. That’s why the 12-Step groups quote Benjamin Dover: It's okay to look at the past, just don't stare.
A necessary element of the weight loss journey for me is to fully realize the past and let it be. I don’t have to let it go, I just have to let it be what it was. The capacity to “let be†is an important part of my weight loss plan. Without it, I am chained in a way that prevents me from moving forward. I’m drawing the double line.
And so I was able to move to the No S lifestyle even though my past dieting history would predict abject failure.
I hope you can too!
Regards, Debra
Pretty powerful stuff, welcome to you as well.
Posted: Sun Nov 30, 2014 9:44 pm
by oolala53
Welcome to reason.
I gently caution you not to try to attack all your transgressions at once. I say that because you said you were going to put a plan on paper. I hope it's pretty much close to "Put non-sweets on a plate three times a day and eat them." To start, that's all you need. You can still eat out, eat junk food, eat fried food, whatever, if you already do and enjoy them. You don't HAVE to, but just don't let planning perfect meals get in the way. I ate pizza and salad, or the like, for many, many dinners my first year. Fast Mexican was and still is on the menu. And since. The slices have gotten smaller, though, and a burrito lasts three or sometimes even four meals.
Posted: Sun Nov 30, 2014 11:39 pm
by OneLife
Thanks for welcoming me. I definitely had fun these last two days. I was beginning to over think this at one point though. I had to stop myself. Keeping things simple has always been an issue for me. Tomorrow I will have to keep reminding myself that all I have to do is eat. Don't count, track, worry, etc. Going to be harder than it sounds. Thanks for that advice oolala.