The what the hell effect
Posted: Wed Aug 08, 2018 6:09 am
Ok I’m really new to posting in a forum but I need some advice please.
Firstly some background, I have been a lurker of no s for a long time but as always I change my mind every week as I literally read every book & article in regards to nutrition & then decide to do it that way for a bit. This time I am determined to just concentrate on vanilla no s as I already do eat well the majority of the time (it’s the night time chocolate or cake at work or snacks with the kids that seem to de rail me) & I exercise daily because I love it & always have.
I don’t have a lot to lose but I do have enough, so I really want to concentrate on habit change so I’m not on or off anything.
So I had a great first week (as you do) & then, well then I didn’t. I had some chocolate on Monday, a snack on Tuesday etc etc, & while I feel like I know why I did (bad sleep, that time of the month etc etc) I don’t want excuses & I hate failing. So ok clean slate tomorrow....
But that’s my problem. Today becomes a red day because I ate cake at ten at work for a bday shout and then I think because I’m already like, oh hey I failed, the day is red, I will have to aim for green tomorrow, pass me all the chocolate & then I’ll try tomorrow...
It’s because according to my habit cal I already failed so what the hell.,.
Does anyone else do this? And how do you resolve it. Should I split my habit cal into an am / pm thing or split the no s habits (I just have no s diet as one) so that at least my no seconds is green (I don’t generally have seconds)?
Suggestions would be gratefully received.
I want to do better. I don’t know why I don’t and I truly think it’s because I do this and it snowballs. Also it’s because I obviously change my mind every week too, I know!
I’m 41 on Saturday. Kind of time to grow up a bit. Stop make excuses and succeed.
Oh as a side note, I typed this On my phone & really have no idea if it makes sense or will actually post properly (or even if it will somehow post my full name because that would be terrible), my apologies if I made a mess of it. Thank you
Firstly some background, I have been a lurker of no s for a long time but as always I change my mind every week as I literally read every book & article in regards to nutrition & then decide to do it that way for a bit. This time I am determined to just concentrate on vanilla no s as I already do eat well the majority of the time (it’s the night time chocolate or cake at work or snacks with the kids that seem to de rail me) & I exercise daily because I love it & always have.
I don’t have a lot to lose but I do have enough, so I really want to concentrate on habit change so I’m not on or off anything.
So I had a great first week (as you do) & then, well then I didn’t. I had some chocolate on Monday, a snack on Tuesday etc etc, & while I feel like I know why I did (bad sleep, that time of the month etc etc) I don’t want excuses & I hate failing. So ok clean slate tomorrow....
But that’s my problem. Today becomes a red day because I ate cake at ten at work for a bday shout and then I think because I’m already like, oh hey I failed, the day is red, I will have to aim for green tomorrow, pass me all the chocolate & then I’ll try tomorrow...
It’s because according to my habit cal I already failed so what the hell.,.
Does anyone else do this? And how do you resolve it. Should I split my habit cal into an am / pm thing or split the no s habits (I just have no s diet as one) so that at least my no seconds is green (I don’t generally have seconds)?
Suggestions would be gratefully received.
I want to do better. I don’t know why I don’t and I truly think it’s because I do this and it snowballs. Also it’s because I obviously change my mind every week too, I know!
I’m 41 on Saturday. Kind of time to grow up a bit. Stop make excuses and succeed.
Oh as a side note, I typed this On my phone & really have no idea if it makes sense or will actually post properly (or even if it will somehow post my full name because that would be terrible), my apologies if I made a mess of it. Thank you