Everyday Systems

what an emotional eater I am. Shame on Me! I never thought I was one of those people. Today was an off day, I was angry about a situation, stressed with my three little ones and I really just cought myself wanting to snack it all away. A confession, I have had lots of extra bites today, but I stopped myself and will consider this still a successful day because normally under these circumstances I would have made it an eat eat and just go ahead eat day.

Well done for noticing, and catching yourself.

I think you did great when you decided that you were going to stop taking all those bites! I have trouble with stopping if I even eat a bite of something I shouldn't! I am also an emotional eater!!

I know little ones can be difficult! Hang in there!!

Janie

Too solid flesh wrote:Well done for noticing, and catching yourself.

Agreed. Congratulations on this very powerful realization.

jellybeans01 wrote:Shame on Me! I never thought I was one of those people.

This is just how I see things:

Only be ashamed if you lie to yourself about it. If it's a failure, mark it and move on... be proud to be honest, and try to gently determine where you went astray.

IME, being kind to yourself (including how you talk to/about you), will actually reduce your propensity to do the emotional eating schtick. I can beat myself up, emotionally, better than anyone else, and that just makes my problem feel worse (and more hopeless, and more like a half a bag of nacho chips). But somewhere I came across the idea that I should not speak to myself in any way that I would not speak to a friend, a child or someone who is elderly. I wouldn't hold myself up as any kind of example... but it's an idea which is helping me.

I also think maybe you are upset because you have a, dare I say this?, prejudice against "those people." I really don't want to anger you by saying that, only suggest that you might want to consider it as a possible problem, in that it makes it more difficult for you to view yourself and others with compassion.

I hate writing these comments; I am hardly qualified to pontificate. But if you were my friend, I'd say you needed a hug, not a scolding, and I wanted to suggest that, so to speak, you hug yourself instead of scolding yourself. In any case, at least please accept my good wishes