Everyday Systems

Today is an S day but I don't have any cravings, I feel satisfied with my meals and I just have no desire to take advantage of my S-Day.

Is this ok.

Does anyone else ever have a no-s day on an s-day?

Sometimes I am not in the mood for treats and don't have them.

That said, DON'T, for the love of Ceiling Cat, DON'T make an effort NOT to take S-days when they come around. It's not extra virtuous not to take S-days.

I gotcha. So if S days come around and you don't feel like having them don't, but don't go out of your way to avoid them if they come around.

I don't want to force myself to have them either so today I won't take it but if I feel like it tomorrow I'll take advantage and have a snack or a treat.

And I know, if I feel like something in the week I'll have to wait until my next S days come around.

Thanks for clarifying. I think I'm getting the hang of this thing!

I used to just eat certain things just because it was an s day not that I really wanted it. So honestly I pass up s days sometimes also. I usually actually practice one s day because it helps keep me trimmer.

glad to hear i am not alone.

last week i took an s day when i really didn't want it and it didn't really work out for me.

i guess it's great to know it's there if i want it or need it but i don't have to take it... which is wonderful actually.

gettheweightoff wrote:I gotcha. So if S days come around and you don't feel like having them don't, but don't go out of your way to avoid them if they come around.

Exactly. While it's totally fine if you genuinely don't wanna, (Treats are hardly compulsory, after all) it's foolish not to have a routine for the occasional treat.

I cannot urge you enough to try "Vanilla No-S" for a few months before deciding what sort of tweaking might be necessary in your special case.

But no, if you're not in the mood for a treat, why bother?

I am on board with 21 days no-s and that is what I am doing. Honsestly, I have stopped all the madness in my head and to me that means modifications. I am no longer depriving myself of food groups for instance or telling myself that I will not have s-days because i do see the value in them.

I planned on having a treat today but I'm just not in the mood. (BTW, this is incredibly weird for me because I'm always in the mood for a treat.)

I'll see how it goes tomorrow because I would hate to have a craving for something in the week after not having taken my s days and then I can't have it for an entire week which may make me want it more.

For now though I am totally fine and not feeling deprived.

I've sometimes had S days when I didn't feel like having an S -- or it just didn't happen.

Just to clear something up -- 21 days of No-S DOES include S days.

Snacks, sweets, and seconds are not mandatory on S days. If you don't feel like having them, don't.

It's not, however, a good idea to try to talk yourself into not wanting S's on S days. You'll start to feel deprived, and that way lies binging.

You also shouldn't start keeping track of S days that weren't really S days, and "making up for them later". It's only a small step from that to "exchanging" failures for S days, and that's dangerous. You don't want to make it so you can "make up" for a failure later. That's not No S. You take your lumps for a failure and move on, and try to prevent future failures, not make up for past ones. If you let yourself make up for failures, you're opening a line of credit, and as we've all seen in the past few years (either personally or from seeing it happen to other people), opening up a line of credit can be a dangerous thing to do.

Note that what I talk about in the above paragraph is not the same as S events instead of S days, which is a modification of No S that some people do. You should do either S events or S days, not some ad hoc combination of both. If you do combine them, you should set rules for doing so in advance. You shouldn't be deciding on the fly if you get an S day or S event today. If you do it that way, it's too easy to find an excuse to give yourself too many S days. Humans are good at justifying to themselves doing what they want to do.