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I think the "haven room" is brilliant! Keep the problem-solving coming, and you won't stress!Pangelsue2 wrote:Thanks, guys for all the support. The madhouse is finally calming down. Saturday and Sunday were big eating setback days though. I think I am just running out of steam and working too hard. Those 2 days are now in the past however and today will be an N day. That is the plan. This last week and half has shown me that I need to work on stress eating. I find it very easy to talk myself into eating frenzies when I am stressing. I let myself think everything is out of control anyway so I might as well just give in to it. Subversive thinking. I need more decisions like the haven room that make calm out of stress instead of giving myself an excuse to eat with abandon.
I especially love thinking that binging is about self revenge. It is so true. I feel awful about binging because it is me getting even with myself for all the things I passed up all week. It messes with my goals and is still really self destructive behavior. It means I still haven't given up the old habits. I am just relegating them to a couple of days a week and boy, am I going to make those days pay for what the rest of the week made me do. Very Jeckle and Hyde. Does that mean there will never be another large S day, no, but I want to work toward saner S days. I want to get rid of the feeling that the S day is almost over and I better hurry up and eat something else before I miss my chance."Reading "once" for "sometimes" (at least as a guideline) seems not only a reasonable, but now also a tested alternative... Obviously you don't have to do this, but it wouldn't be crazy to consider it if you find yourself dissatisfied with the way your S-days are currently working out...
Another tactic that's been tossed around is to pre-empt S-day binging with reward. This sounds counter intuitive, but I've found that if you proactively get yourself something especially nice every S-day, your appetite will feel appreciated, and will be much less likely to exact revenge by demanding whatever garbage is at hand. Binging is more about self-revenge than pleasure -- pleasure can actually be a tool against it. And, well, it's pleasure. I'm very fond of this tactic."
I'm the same way. I've been obsessed with dieting & weight loss all my life & recording what I eat ends up putting more focus on food for me instead of on just being healthy. Whatever works for you is great, but if you're tired of recording, it might be a good time to experiment with not writing down your food...who knows...maybe that freedom will be good for you too.r.jean wrote:I never record my meals. That is one reason I was not good at traditional dieting. I would try to do it, but I hate it. That is also why no s works so well for me.
Love your thoughts....makes me want to win this battle even more...Pangelsue2 wrote: It would be good to win in the final reel. Walk off into the sunset, leaving donuts and cheetos lying in the dirt in my wake, blowing the smoke off my pistol before returning it to my holster.
Atta girl! Great post!Pangelsue2 wrote:But for now I am going to make my motivation winning. Bruised and bloody but the winner.
I totally agree. These boards are more than just a check-in.......this is definately a support group. Whether I've had a good week or a bad week, checking in here is simply a comfort. Alot of people just don't "get" what the big deal is to just eat normally. At this site, there is a complete understanding of how difficult of a struggle this can be. This is a wonderful place, and I am very grateful to have found the support of so many caring people!Pangelsue2 wrote:I think maybe we are all going through a learning process and we need each other to slog through that process. We listen to each other, support each other, expose our vulnerability to food to each other and slowly work with each other to find solutions. That's not accountability. That is wonderful therapy and I for one need it.