The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Counting carbs/calories is a drag. Obsessive scale stepping is a recipe for despair. If you want to count something, "days on habit" is a much better metric. Checking off days on a calendar would do just fine, but if you do it here you get accountability and support. Here's how. Start a new topic in this forum called (say) "Your Name Daily Check In." Then every N day post a "reply" to that topic as to whether you stayed on habit. A simple "<font color="green">SUCCESS</font>" or "<font color="red">FAILURE</font>" (or your preferred euphemism if that's too harsh) is sufficient, but obviously you're welcome to write more if you want. On S-days just register that you're taking an S-day. You don't have to do this forever, just until you're confident you've built the habit. Feel free to check in weekly or monthly or sporadically instead of daily. Feel free also to track other habits besides No-s (I'm keeping this forum under No-s because that's what the vast majority are using it for). See also my <a href="/habitcal/">HabitCal</a> tool for another more formal (and perhaps complementary) way to track habits.

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tobiasmom
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The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by tobiasmom » Fri Nov 08, 2019 4:40 pm

Hey, all. It’s Tobiasmom. I’ve been on these boards off and on for years. I’m the ultimate yo-yo, always chasing the crazy diets that I just never ever stick with. My son, Tobias, is almost 12, and we just found out yesterday that he needs to lose about 35-40 pounds. I decided that No-S is the most sane, normal way to slow permanent weight loss. So mom and son are in this thing together now. I fear I have messed up my kid with all my crazy dieting so I just want to support him and teach us both a normal healthy relationship with food!

We weighed in today for a start.
Tobias: 127.2 (57 inches tall)
Mom: 232.2 (5’2)

Onward!!
Military wife and homeschool mom of two boys, 12 and 7.
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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by automatedeating » Fri Nov 08, 2019 5:26 pm

Hey there! Always lovely to see you on the boards! My boys are 13 and 10 now. They eat the worst crap imaginable and they are still skinny. Genetics!

For an overweight child, I highly recommend having him get a fasting insulin test. In all likelihood, he is overweight because his metabolism is not carb-tolerant like the skinny kids that can get away with eating whatever they want. I am convinced that weight in childhood is genetic - yes, our environments REVEAL the metabolic differences (in other words, 100 years ago he wouldn't have had access to processed foods and so wouldn't have gotten overweight), but it's our genetics that decide if our body type gets to be skinny or not in the presence of refined carbohydrates. But our world is what it is, and it will be good for him to learn his carb tolerances now and not when he's 30 and more damage has been done. Even if it's not fair.
Month/Year-BMI
8/13-26.3; 8/14-24.5; 5/15-26.2; 1/16-26.9; 9/16-25.6; 8/17-25.8; 11/17-26.9; 3/18-25.6; 8/18-24.5; 10/18-23.8; 1/19-23.4; 2/19-22.7; 3/19-22.1; 10/19-21.8

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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by tobiasmom » Fri Nov 08, 2019 6:07 pm

Hey, Auto! They did do a metabolic blood panel yesterday so we will see what that says. He is a huge carb lover like mom! Ha. I’m not focusing on the weight even though it looks like it from my post. Mostly I just want to help him build a less obsessive view of food because he really is completely food minded at all times! 😜
Military wife and homeschool mom of two boys, 12 and 7.
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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by Soprano » Sat Nov 09, 2019 7:12 am

Good luck to you both :)

Jx
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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by oolala53 » Fri Dec 13, 2019 7:02 pm

It's been a little over a month. How is it going?
Count plates, not calories. Three a day. 9 years & counting
Age 65
SBMI Jan/10-30.8
Jan/12-26.8
Mar/13-24.9 Stayed at +/- 8-lb. for three years Sept/17 22.8 (but more fluctuation)
Mar/18 22.2

There is no S better than Vanilla No S.

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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by tobiasmom » Thu Feb 27, 2020 3:40 pm

Well....once again, the holidays came and mom jumped ship. So we are back at it. Tobias struggles with snacking as much as I do...especially sweets. But we are recommitting to the No-S moderate way of living. I’ve been doing the gym consistently since November. Just gotta get the moderation in the eating and diet hopping under control.

So here we are!!


By the way...Automated, we did end up getting him fasting labs. His glucose and metabolic profile was mostly fine, but his cholesterol was borderline. He really is a carb fanatic. But the moderation of not snacking should really help.
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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by automatedeating » Fri Feb 28, 2020 3:36 am

Hi there and welcome back! Always good to see you here. :-)
Are you living in the midwest now? I can't remember.
Month/Year-BMI
8/13-26.3; 8/14-24.5; 5/15-26.2; 1/16-26.9; 9/16-25.6; 8/17-25.8; 11/17-26.9; 3/18-25.6; 8/18-24.5; 10/18-23.8; 1/19-23.4; 2/19-22.7; 3/19-22.1; 10/19-21.8

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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by tobiasmom » Mon Mar 09, 2020 12:18 pm

We are in Texas now! Big change from Hawaii for sure!! 🤣
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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by Sammybunny711 » Mon Mar 09, 2020 8:49 pm

Good luck to you and Tobias!! You can do this! We're all here cheering you on!
Height: 5'4"
Highest BMI: 34.3
Current BMI: 33.3
Goal BMI: 21.5-23.2 range

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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by tobiasmom » Mon Mar 23, 2020 11:11 pm

Monday, 3/23/20: GREEN!!!

B: bagel with peanut butter
L: turkey and provolone sandwich, chips, grapes
D: sausage, potatoes, roll with butter, red wine

1 hour Gentle yoga
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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by automatedeating » Tue Mar 24, 2020 3:39 am

Good day!
Month/Year-BMI
8/13-26.3; 8/14-24.5; 5/15-26.2; 1/16-26.9; 9/16-25.6; 8/17-25.8; 11/17-26.9; 3/18-25.6; 8/18-24.5; 10/18-23.8; 1/19-23.4; 2/19-22.7; 3/19-22.1; 10/19-21.8

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Re: The Journey of Tobias and Mom

Post by oolala53 » Wed Mar 25, 2020 6:11 am

Belated welcome back!

Stay on the ship this time. You already know what it's like to jump. just make sure you're isolating while you do...
Count plates, not calories. Three a day. 9 years & counting
Age 65
SBMI Jan/10-30.8
Jan/12-26.8
Mar/13-24.9 Stayed at +/- 8-lb. for three years Sept/17 22.8 (but more fluctuation)
Mar/18 22.2

There is no S better than Vanilla No S.

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