lpearlmom wrote: ↑Fri Mar 27, 2020 6:22 am
Lol about your husband as well as being stuck with the funky soups. Ive bought all kinds of interesting beans and rice because thats all that was left. I guess it’s a good way to try new things.
Also want to say omg I understand the lure of intuitive eating. Ive gone back to it countless times although it never works for me. It seems like it should be the perfect solution & sounds so appealing yet rarely has the desired outcome. Only NoS and IF have given me any kind of longterm results.
Anyway glad to see you posting again!
Hi lpearlmom! Thanks for stopping by!
My husband is a talker that's for sure! We balance each other out I guess because I am mostly not a talker unless I am talking about things I feel very passionately about.
Yeah I don't know about intuitive eating. I wonder if I just don't give it long enough, but I can't handle it when I reach a certain weight.
I think currently, skipping breakfast is pretty easy for me because I was raised by hippie parents that followed the Bragg diet. Therefore, no breakfast and nothing but fruit for lunch. With some really disgusting veggie dishes and soybean meals for dinner. I have not really ever been much of a breakfast eater. I started doing IF because I was thinking about my lightheadedness. I read delay don't deny which advocates "clean fasting" ( I really don't like that term) but basically no cream in your coffee or sweet things. I decided to try it and I didn't get lightheaded at all, even with not eating for about 18/19 hours.
I am more likely to get lightheaded between breakfast and lunch, and lunch and dinner. Almost never after dinner. So, I thought maybe since fasting is supposed to help insulin and blood sugar that this would be the way to go. So far, its working pretty well and being stuck at home gives me the freedom to test it out without worrying I will be getting dizzy and faint. I really managed to get into the habit of not eating after dinner a couple of years ago and I really don't have any urge to now so that part is easy too. It used to be one of the hardest things about No S that I dealt with.
I have been thinking about all the years I have been trying No S and then abandoning it, only to come back because its such a sane sensible eating structure. I had some major obstacles to overcome.
Obstacle 1. No eating after dinner.
WOW that was a hard one for me. Especially in the nursing days and the days with my girls being young. After I finally got them off to bed I only wanted to eat! It was my reward for getting through the day and it was time to myself reward. Eventually, my husband and I shifted that into "breaks" where I run off to my room and he plays Call of Duty for about 30 -45 minutes. Initially, I had to take yogurt and fruit in there with me, and then fruit, and then I finally got into the habit of herbal tea instead. That was a great bridge and I probably did that for at least a few years, regardless of being "on" No S or not. Eventually, I stopped drinking tea at night, I don't know why. Now when I take my break I listen to music in my headphones, sometimes get up and dance around my room.
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and drink water. I have to admit though, now that the girls are older, evenings are SO MUCH Less stressful. They just go off to their room to have their own "break time" of watching their kindles, drawing or playing together. ( they are 3 years apart)
Obstacle 2. No Sweets during the week and then whatever you want on weekends.
I think this is one of the main reasons I kept leaving No S. I felt like I ate more junk on the weekends just because I had the weekly deprivation mindset and it didn't feel healthy to me. I tried having a sweet with a meal but that felt bad too. I actually had a habit of dessert after lunch and dessert after dinner. When I decided to jump back into intuitive eating this time I launched headfirst into all the sweets I could ever want. Eventually, I actually got tired of them. I remember at Christmas time my husband and I ended up with 3 different kinds of pie, cookies, 3 kinds of chocolate, cake, ice cream, etc... and we were just burned out. I think it helped that I had not been restricting myself at ALL with the sweets so I didn't feel guilty or bad for eating them, I just felt tired of them. It was weird. I also realized the HABIT of having sweets every day was just a habit and not something I really needed. After that, I just kind of stopped eating sugary treats, but decided to save them for the weekend. And I felt fine about it. As I mentioned, the whole family has a ramekin of ice cream on Friday, and sometimes I will have a small dessert on Saturday or Sunday, and I don't' eat sweets during the week just as a general good to my body rule. I really didn't like how I felt with all that constant sugar. All that to say, No sweets is no longer an obstacle.
And what's funny is, even though I didn't eat any sweet treats during the week and limited amounts on the weekend, I STILL got up to my highest weight and stayed there, so sugar was not really the issue for me.
That leaves only two Obstacles now. No snacks and no seconds
I have to be honest, I felt SOOOOOOOOOO deprived when I didn't have the "permission" from myself to eat between meals ( and dizziness didn't help) or to have seconds.
But once I started my calorie counting journey, I realized that I never had seconds because it would make me go over my calorie limit and I got used to smaller meals. So, I don't feel that no seconds is as much as an obstacle as it was.
So now, no Snacks. I still like having snacks. I seem to activate my deprivation mindset if I am hungry but don't eat between meals. So right now, with fasting and skipping breakfast, eating in a 5 or 6 hour window, that seems to solve that issue as well. My meals are so close together, I don't feel deprived. Weirdly I don't feel deprived when I skip breakfast. Maybe someday I will be able to go long hours between meals, but right now that is a real struggle for me.
And that is where I am at! lol My novel is complete.
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