Melderin's check in

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Mar 05, 2024 1:50 pm

Starting No S again after originally starting it back in 2018! Holding myself to account and joining the legends on this forum who know so well why this is the only sane option. Saying goodbye to the one meal a day mentality - it's just clicked that it is completely unsustainable, I really don't know why I thought I could keep it up.

Today is day 5. SUCCESS so far. I also started Couch to 5k this lunchtime so hoping this will have an impact as well.

Day 4 yesterday - SUCCESS. Was sorely tempted to have a glass of wine to alleviate my craving for chocolate, but I resisted. Drinking is a slippery slope for me. Gained strength by obsessively checking past postings and searching the word 'alcohol'.

Went more overboard on my S days (day 2 and 3) than I was happy with - again reading the S days gone wild forum posts has given perspective and the option of a plan. But I think I am better just not putting any restrictions on at this moment.

WINhappy · Post by **WINhappy** » Thu Mar 07, 2024 12:14 am

Hi Melderin,

I'm so glad you decided to create a check in and that you're working towards No S! I think you'll find it worth the effort and a lot more manageable than one meal a day. Kudos to you for mustering the discipline to stick with that plan as long as you did. I've never tried to do so myself because wow-- just wow!

I recognize that lots of people claim wild success with it but everyone I know who's tried it has struggled. I hope you will find No S to be a little easier to manage.

I hope your training for the 5K goes well!

Keep reading past posts. The discussion board is a gold mine of wisdom, insight, encouragement, and humor. And posting here on your Check In will give active users like me a chance to support you.

I'm wishing you the very best, WINhappy

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Thu Mar 07, 2024 4:44 pm

Hi WINhappy,

Thank you so much for your lovely words and encouragement. I think the only reason I was successful at one meal a day was because I became obsessed and literally focussed on nothing else. Completely unsustainable as soon as real life kicks in! Something to do with not being fat and forty as well.

Anyway, thank you.

I’m also here to report a FAIL yesterday

(day 6). Fully intended to keep to plan but I had a Mother’s Day afternoon tea at my son’s school late afternoon so I thought I’d delay lunch and have that as it, despite assuming there would be cake (I was going to either count it as green or as an S day as it was for Mother’s Day). Unfortunately the ‘afternoon tea’ turned out to be a few trays of cheap fairy cakes and a few crisps on a paper plate. I felt so unsatisfied that I ended up having wine and almost an entire large bag of crisps before dinner. Thankfully I didn’t have anything further afterwards.

The lesson learned is don’t have a glass of wine to stave off hunger! Back to normal today and another run completed (or extremely slow jog in my case).

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Fri Mar 08, 2024 10:47 am

Day 7 - SUCCESS

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Sat Mar 09, 2024 9:16 am

Day 8 - SUCCESS

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Wed Mar 20, 2024 2:04 pm

Red days…so many red days

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Starting again today.

Amy3010 · Post by **Amy3010** » Fri Mar 22, 2024 6:08 am

Mark them and move on - hang in there!

oolala53 · Post by **oolala53** » Fri Apr 12, 2024 9:05 pm

Honestly, honestly, From what I’ve been learning about repercussions after strict dieting, It’s almost to be expected that it would be hard to adopt moderation right off the bat. I know why you thought that Ohad would work because the voices of the few who make it can sound very loud because the thousands of others who try such a thing and fall off the wagon sooner or later aren’t all coming on and reporting their failures and then getting told by other people that they only have to do XYZ. Somebody could actually, say the same thing about this for him, but we’re not advocating a regime of eating that you can’t really find a human society living by. Even if somebody posits that humans had to eat one meal a day at some time, it was very unlikely that they did it day after day week after week year after year.

You didn’t ask for any suggestions, but I will gently say that generous meals during the week of mostly high-quality food is likely going to be a good way to convince the body that there’s no real danger. If you’re not getting regular exercise of both aerobic and resistance type, that can make it harder to have good appetite regulation. I’ve said on other threads that it just turns my stomach when I hear celebrities talking about losing weight without diet or exercise. That is not a recipe recipe for a long-term success or even health.

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Apr 16, 2024 9:09 am

Thank you Amy and Oolala,

Really appreciate the wisdom you share. The thing that's getting me is that I was successful with OMAD for a number of years...and I've recently been looking back on old photos of myself from a couple of years ago and I was much slimmer. But, a bit like your point Oolala, the picture doesn't tell the full story. Like how hard it was, how irritable I was, how my drinking increased just to stave of hunger and how obsessed I was. It just looked like I was successful and in control. But I wasn't reporting the issues to anyone. It's the want to be slim quickly that always lures me back to OMAD even though I know it's not sustainable and it causes drinking issues for me.

My step dad died over Easter and I just plunged into binge eating for comfort and then OMAD and drinking. Just so out of control. I want stability. Started NOS again today.

Appreciate the support on here very much.

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Mon Nov 04, 2024 10:34 am

Back again after still slipping back into OMAD and failing. I've listened to Reinhard's new podcast on the first chapter of NOS diet and re-read the everyday systems page on NOS. I really, really need to get over the quick fix mentality and commit to slow and steady wins the race.

I need something to trigger in my mind as soon as I start thinking of doing OMAD again. I know I can't stick at it, I eat cr*p in the lead up to dinner, thinking it's okay as I've not eaten earlier, and my eating is just chaotic - either starve or binge. So unhealthy. I'll check in here as often as I can.

Today is the first day back at it - I've had breakfast (which I've been skipping). Also did urban ranger and shovel glove. I'm committing to becoming an Everyday Systems girl!

Amy3010 · Post by **Amy3010** » Tue Nov 05, 2024 6:14 am

You've made a good start - just take it one meal at a time. Give yourself grace - you're teaching yourself a new way of relating to food and your meals, and it's okay to mess up. You don't have to be perfect. Hang in there!

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Nov 05, 2024 12:37 pm

Thank you Amy!! Reinhard's words in the podcast episode really struck me this time - "What problem does the No S diet aim to solve? Not the problem of being overweight...rather the problem of the behaviour of excessive eating." Focussing on fixing the habit of overeating not on the state of being overweight. Genius

Amy3010 · Post by **Amy3010** » Wed Nov 06, 2024 9:08 am

Yes, this! Working on process goals instead of outcome goals is a game changer. You got this!

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Wed Nov 06, 2024 10:36 am

Thanks Amy!!

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Sat Nov 09, 2024 10:00 am

Week 1:
4th Nov- SUCCESS
5th Nov- SUCCESS
6th Nov- SUCCESS
7th Nov- SUCCESS
8th Nov- SUCCESS
9th Nov- S DAY
10th Nov- S DAY

First week complete and all green. Feeling like some portions were quite large and also feel like I might have put on some weight. However I'm sticking with the principles in the book and not going to weigh myself yet as it might put me off getting the habit established. Also by now I probably would have binged after OMAD so I can’t be in any worse a position!

Amy3010 · Post by **Amy3010** » Mon Nov 11, 2024 6:59 am

Well done!

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Mon Nov 11, 2024 11:58 am

Thank you

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Nov 19, 2024 10:26 am

11th Nov - GREEN
12th Nov - GREEN
13th Nov - GREEN
14th Nov - GREEN
15th Nov - either RED or YELLOW - we were going on holiday and I had 1 sweet in the car on the way down; husband thinks I should count it as a red day

16th Nov - YELLOW
17th Nov - YELLOW
18th Nov - YELLOW (spouse bday)

Post by **reinhard** » Wed Nov 20, 2024 5:26 pm

Nice streak! Sorry it's taken forever for me to pop by here.

Sounds like you have a good handle on "habit vs. calories" (prioritizing the former).

Best of luck going forward!

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Thu Nov 21, 2024 2:53 pm

Thanks Reinhard - nice to see you on here! Yes the habit forming focus is the major change this time - although fighting the urge to worry about weight loss is ongoing

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Wed Nov 27, 2024 10:10 am

19th Nov - RED
20th Nov - GREEN
21st Nov - GREEN
22nd Nov - RED
23rd Nov - YELLOW
24th Nov - YELLOW

A couple of red days this week. This was due to there being a high level of goodies left over from my husbands' birthday on the Monday which I did not want to waste, and also we had family staying from the Thursday so had nibbles and drinks and things on the Friday which I joined in with.

Started again this week - really trying to keep on track with not snacking between lunch and dinner. Meal sizes are still pretty substantial and I still haven't weighed myself yet.

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Mon Dec 02, 2024 10:25 am

25th Nov - GREEN
26th Nov - GREEN
27th Nov - GREEN
28th Nov - GREEN
29th Nov - RED
30th Nov - YELLOW
1st Dec - YELLOW

Felt really fed up this week. I feel like I'm getting bigger and bigger. Not helped by a night out for which I felt like nothing fits and I'm just huge. Still haven't weighed myself. Some large meals and quite a few drinks in the week probably isn't helping.
Red day on Friday - often as a family we have a Friday get together for drinks and nibbles...this then plays havoc with NOS as it's not really a proper meal as such and so I ended up having a couple of slices of pizza later post-kid bedtime. Oh well. Need to think this one through...maybe further down the line this might be an S day instead of Sunday.

Onwards and upwards! Back at it this week!

pinkhippie · Post by **pinkhippie** » Tue Dec 03, 2024 1:22 am

Hi Melderin,

I am an old IFer who often comes back to NO S. This past time around I tried OMAD for about 6 months, and it really doesn't work for me. I found I maintained my weight which was higher than I wanted to be and eventually, I had to white knuckle through the day and I couldn't stop eating even though my stomach was full, I never FELT full. And I missed breakfast and then lunch so badly! So, I stopped doing that and my body feels better. It is hard though, because it feels so immediate when you fast or do OMAD. I just can't maintain that way. I realized especially that fasting and OMAD were not leading to peace with food, but more obsession with food, and that is one of my main goals. So I keep reminding myself of that.

Good luck! You can do it! Looks like you are off to a great restart!

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 9:32 am

Hey NOS world,

I'm back on here...feeling shameful for my break with NOS but for the fact that I know others come on, go away and come back again

. I ended up weighing myself after my last NOS venture and I was so horrified at my weight...I was basically 2 kg away from my heaviest which I had been prior to doing OMAD. It freaked me out and I couldn't deal with it. I felt so fed up I immediate went back on to OMAD.

My vanity wants quicker results...which I can get from OMAD but the key is, as others have noted, it's not sustainable. I'm going through perimenopause at the moment and I'm just so worried I'm just getting bigger and bigger and finding it harder and harder to shift weight.

I was looking at some reviews of Noom...I feel like my struggle is mental, I've lost any kind of healthy relationship with food. I'm either starving myself through OMAD or bingeing if I break it. I've written about this many times before but I'm just not getting it. Perimenopause and the general aging process I'm finding tough...I want to look in the mirror and feel happy which for me = slim. I feel like having weight on me just makes me feel worse about all the changes.

I'm wondering if I can do 2 meals a day instead of 3. Would that help speed things up or cause more issues? Fed up of this flipflopping with what I'm doing. I look at the other women at the school drop off - many of them slim with young children. I wonder what they do. Do they struggle? Do they diet? Are they just naturally slim?

I've been reflecting more on the mentality around weight and food I grew up with when I was younger. As per many families my mom always dieted, talked about needing to lose weight, compared herself to her sister re weight etc. It's not healthy. My 10 year old niece is overweight and I'm really aware of how we continue to talk to her about body image and dieting. She needs a good role model. Could it be me? Kids pick up on a lot. My heathiest role model was my aunt who lives in Italy. I spent 5 weeks with her before going to university and was the slimmest and healthiest I've ever been. Basically they lived the NOS model with lots of exercise like walking and cycling (plus they owned a gym!).

This hasn't really turned into a daily check in. I don't know whether I'm counting today as Day 1 again...I haven't had breakfast, just a coffee but maybe I should get back into it with 2 meals.

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 3:48 pm

If it helps I lost well on 2 meals a day and found it very sustainable. I have for various reasons been eating more and putting on weight recently but intend getting back to the 2 meals.

Do you want to hold each other to account?

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 6:30 pm

Hello soprano,

Thanks so much for taking the time to respond to my rant! Yes, that sounds really great thank you! I think I could do 2 meals fairly easily. Thanks for the encouragement x

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 6:46 pm

Brilliant are you happy for us to check in on your thread?

I have managed my two meals today! I am going to aim for clean fasting between last and first meal too.

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Apr 01, 2025 8:01 pm

Yes, perfect thank you! I’ve had 3 today

but otherwise a green day.
2 meals starting tomorrow. Thank you so much!! X

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Wed Apr 02, 2025 7:15 am

If you need 3 occasionally that's ok, listen to your body.

It's the snacks that kill weight loss in my opinion.

I am aiming for 2 today and no calories before my first meal.

Good luck

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Wed Apr 02, 2025 9:47 am

Thanks - I'm sticking to just coffee in the mornings - it's not calorie-free though as I just can't hack black coffee! I read that whole milk was less likely to tip you out of a fasted state so that's what I have...!

Definitely agree with you on the snacks - this was also my downfall with OMAD as I felt entitled to have pre-dinner nibbles as I hadn't eaten all day- probably was more calories than just normal meals

!

Good luck today...so grateful for your support. 2 meals today - we can do it

M x

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Wed Apr 02, 2025 5:44 pm

I weaned myself on to black coffee but it has to be a good one for me to enjoy it. Can't do black tea though unless it is Turkish but not first thing.

Cream would be better than milk. But the milk as you say if full fat will help.

I only have full fat anything these days.

What you need to do is avoid an insulin response which a rise in blood sugar will give you.

Get established with your 2 meals and if you stop losing you can tweak it later. You may never need to change it

I'm going for a walk now!

Really appreciate doing this together

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Thu Apr 03, 2025 8:24 am

Thanks…I guess it is possible to wean myself off, I used to have sugar in coffee but managed to completely give it up.

Yes as you say, one step at a time! My husband bought a continuous glucose monitor last month to see the impact of our weekly diet, and I’d be really interested to see the impact of my coffee with whole milk. I used to use cream when I did low carb years ago but it’s a bit much!

I’m the same with full fat, I’ve never had diet food.

Hope you have a good day…another green ‘2 meal’ day under the belt yesterday

M x

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Thu Apr 03, 2025 11:56 am

Well done on your success

I used to drink coffee and tea with milk and two sugars. It's surprising how you can change your tastes. I also only eat 80% or more dark chocolate when previously I hated it.

I have managed to stick with it so far! Today is looking promising too.

I am trying to cut alcohol consumption this month too so no drinking unless we are socialising with friends. So easy to think of wine would be nice with this!! Tonight we are out with my sister and her boyfriend. I am going to keep it moderate!!

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Fri Apr 04, 2025 8:19 am

Hope you had a nice evening with your sister and managed to moderate.
Alcohol is definitely a weak area for me. I can tend to use it as a means of not eating (as well as for the pleasure of it) so I really need to focus on cutting back. The usual plan is no alcohol Monday to Thursday but we have both our mothers over each week separately, which makes it more tricky as they both like a drink!

I’m trying to incrementally cut the milk in my coffee and see if I can get to tolerate black. It would be good to remain in a fasted state until lunchtime.

Struggled last night with wanting something sweet after dinner (husband bought the biscuits out) but I resisted!

Nearly time for an S day

Mx

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Fri Apr 04, 2025 11:57 am

Well done avoiding the biscuits

I wasn't as moderate as I should have been but it was a lovely evening and I am staying off alcohol now for the rest of April!

I started today with a cup of tea and milk so not a fasting day but will still stick to 2 meals.

I don't think switching it about us a bad thing though.

Good luck cutting the milk

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Mon Apr 07, 2025 8:24 am

Checking in again post-S day

I had a few treats, mostly some chocolate after evening meal and a few crisps pre-dinner on the Sunday. I’ve stuck to 2 meals otherwise though. Feel like I had the treats just because I could rather than because I really wanted them.

I’m tracking my weight daily so that I can work out a weekly average after reading others who have done this. It’s wild how much my weight can fluctuate in one week!

Hope you enjoyed your S days

M x

oolala53 · Post by **oolala53** » Mon Apr 07, 2025 6:00 pm

Hi, Melderin! I've been a pretty dedicated No S-er since just before 2010. Soprano knows me.
I hope it's not too much of a damper if I say had a glucose scare that sent me to 2MAD a few years ago and 40% of the weight I lost was muscle. A1c didnt not change much.

There is an online gal whose work I actually like, though I'm not sending anyone here to her. She has an online calculator that estimates bodyfat loss with body measurements that can give a better estimate of fat loss than a regular scale. LMK if you're interested. But not harm no foul if you'd just as soon not add a variable.

In any case, do enjoy every bite!

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Apr 08, 2025 12:04 pm

Hi Oolala,

Of course, I know you well from your many insightful contributions on this forum

! I'd be more than happy for you to share the details of the online calculator, thank you so much

M x

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Tue Apr 08, 2025 6:10 pm

Hi

I've lost track of days. I haven't had any alcohol, so really pleased with that. Stuck mostly to 2 meals a day and lo carb.

I've had the odd snack as I have had some early meals due to going out early and knowing I would be too late back for my first meal otherwise.

I am 2 pounds down on last Tuesday so feeling pleased but I think my starting weight may have been artificially high as I had had a heavy weekend but it's all good.

Any chocolate I had was 90% dark.

I probably should look at how much tea I am drinking though!

Sounds like you are doing well though, keep it up.

Oolala, interesting re your blood glucose and I experienced the same. However I slackened off low carb and TRE and it went up 3 points so wondering if it was stopping it going up. Be interesting to see if it falls again if I can stick with it.

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Wed Apr 09, 2025 8:37 am

Great news Soprano, well done

I'd like to be doing similar to you but I really need to embed the rhythm of 2 meals a day first before I start making tweaks or I fear I will rebel. It's great that you can introduce a few snacks without it throwing you off - completely sensible.

I haven't been great on the alcohol, but have managed to stick to 2 meals this week so far. I've been walking the school run as well whilst the weather is nice so hoping that impacts.

I really just can't believe how much my weight fluctuates day to day. I'm a whole kilo lighter this morning than on Monday...probably just linked to my digestive 'functions' *aherm*

and maybe cutting back a bit on bread, although I had pasta for dinner last night. I'll keep on tracking to get the average.

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Thu Apr 10, 2025 6:12 am

Thank you

You are doing great, well done on the walking. So much easier in good weather. Think I'll try and fit one in today.

I have got back into my 2 x 30 mins yoga sessions a week.

Getting the 2 solid meals is a good thing to do. I managed without a snack yesterday. Probably because had a cooked lunch.

Good idea to track weight daily. I am doing the same. Nothing worse than an up fluctuation on weigh day. As long as the trend is downwards you are winning

Have a good day

Jx

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Sat Apr 12, 2025 5:33 am

Weekend is here already, have a good one Melderin

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Mon Apr 14, 2025 11:32 am

Hope you had a good one soprano.

I've been green (2MAD) since committing. I'm especially proud that I haven't had any nibbles on a Friday evening and I requested that we eat with our son this Friday rather than waiting until after he'd gone to bed which helped massively.

Weigh seems stable but not dropping at the moment...I had 's' for the sake of them on Sunday after hosting on Saturday and having leftover desserts.

Onwards and upwards - at the moment this is very doable

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Tue Apr 15, 2025 9:45 pm

Thank you I did.

You are doing brilliantly. I weighed today and have lost 1.4lbs since last week, so feeling quite pleased

Sounds like you are doing really well, keep it up.

Jx

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Mon Apr 21, 2025 8:26 pm

Hi Soprano,

Just checking in post-Easter. That’s brilliant on your weight loss, well done!

I’ve kept to 2MAD and been consistently green or yellow but I let Friday 18th be an S day as it was a bank holiday and my friend came round and bought sweet treats. I’ve been much more modest than previous S days.

I’ve faced the fact that alcohol consumption is most likely the reason for my weight loss being nonexistent so far. I’ve committed to completely cutting it out seeing as I have such trouble moderating. Will see how it goes.

Had 3 meals today as we had hot cross buns in which I hadn’t had a single one of this year so that was breakfast

. Managed to resist Easter chocolate after dinner so it’s a green.

Feeling good. Hope you had a good one.

M x

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Tue Apr 22, 2025 5:29 pm

Slight increase in weight this week. But morning blood sugars are improving so perhaps weight is just a blip.

I haven't always managed the fasting I wanted or 2 meals a day but I have been good re low carb and no alcohol.

Sunday was an exception but nothing over the top.

Onwards and upwards.

Good luck cutting alcohol Melderin.

I have drunk on only 2 occasions in April so far.

Jx

Ellis · Post by **Ellis** » Wed Apr 23, 2025 7:22 pm

Hi there! Just sending some good vibes here! Easter can be such a challenge with all the chocolate and delicious meals. Just keep tracking! I just started “over” again as well, day 2 and both green. Yay!

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Fri Apr 25, 2025 9:16 am

Thanks Ellis! Well done on your greens!

I’ve come on here to report my first reds since I restarted…however I’m not beating myself up about it. My husband and I are on holiday at home together this week so it’s felt a little different and I wanted to enjoy some time just sitting in the garden and have some treats and nibbles. So I did.

Also realising that alcohol was clearly giving me a huge input of sugar because since stopping I’ve been really craving chocolate and obviously there’s a lot about at the moment

Keeping at it, today is a new day but I might just treat this week as an ‘S’ week if that’s a thing?

Soprano -well done on low carb and no alcohol, I’m sure it will have a good impact long term.

M x

Soprano · Post by **Soprano** » Sat Apr 26, 2025 10:06 am

Hi Melderin

I think we can make an S week a thing

I go to Greece next Friday with my sister for 9 days and whilst I won't go mad with anything I don't intend worrying about food and drink

Jx

Imogen Morley · Post by **Imogen Morley** » Mon Apr 28, 2025 7:24 am

I used to treat all national holidays and days off as S-days. It did slow down habit building (and weight loss), but kept me sane. After all, those days usually involve social eating and/or special food. In any case, I'm a fan of Reinhard-approved mod of lowercase S-days (1 S of choice per S-day) and uppercase S-days (do whatever you want). Staycation, to me, would be a lowercase S-day. But obviously, do what feels best! You can adjust later if you need to. I do agree that it's nice to have a little of something special if you're enjoying a break from your daily routine.

Melderin · Post by **Melderin** » Tue Apr 29, 2025 8:29 am

Thanks Imogen - I hadn't heard about that mod - I like that! Giving up drinking (hopefully for good) gave me a sideways knock last week as well as the holiday break...just need to adapt to a new way of eating and drinking. I had a green day yesterday so I'm happy that I'm back on track

Soprano - thanks for the confirmation that it's okay

I realise that bingeing is just pointless. I enjoy food so much more when I'm really hungry for it but in the moment of stuffing food down I'm looking to comfort some uncomfortable feelings...this is going to take some time to change I fear. I hope I can overcome it. Enjoy Greece with your sister - how lovely!!

M x

oolala53 · Post by **oolala53** » Fri May 02, 2025 7:29 pm

I'm barging in here because I have been looking for Soprano regarding an email she might have sent me last December using oolala53 at yahoo. I am presuming that is the email address I would have recommended. I couldn't find it. I may be misreading things but I don't see a lot of activity on her thread, and I was hesitant to rely on the messaging function after my dropping the ball.

Also, I'm frustrated because I had promised to share a link to a calorie calculator posted by a woman who goes by Coach Viva and now can't find it. I found one link on one of her videos but it was just to a generic calculator that told me the same stuff while the one she had posted associated with her program claimed maintenance for me to be a few hundred calories fewer than the regular ones, which matches my experience better. it is sobering but possibly necessary. No S doesn't ask for calorie counting but some cases may need more precision.

It's been years since this website sent emails to show when there were updates on entries. I miss that. I don't always remember to come and look at notifications.

oolala53 · Post by **oolala53** » Sat May 03, 2025 4:08 pm

I'm adding this as a separate post to give my two cents (not just mine, actually) about emotional eating. One of the most potent learnings, if really honed in on, is that it is ultimately so fleetingly effective. I think one of the problems is that there are people out there who imply that you can find something else equally as comforting and easy. After years of looking at this, I think it's just too rare to keep looking for. But I think it actually does dull the "pain" when you can finally come to the conclusion from your own experience, not just from anyone telling you, that it's actually more troublesome to feel not just the discomfort from overeating-though I am a proponent of concentrating on that rather than on regret, which is often tied up in criticism which I deem a false security-but the sense of being a slave to dopamine rushes that are not in life-enhancing. And there are tradeoffs all along the way.

I'll spell out some strategies around that if you like but I warn that they are more involved than the simple No S method of keeping of tracking success or failure of it as a separate habit. The trickiest part is the tendency to resist admitting failure since it's so often associated by our egos as a global failure rather than specific. It's actually a bit paradoxical, but getting to far into the weeks to pull that apart, and fits into the category of premature optimization to delve into it at this point.

Just enjoy every bite you do eat.