http://everydaysystems.com/bb/viewtopic.php?t=2447Bonnie,
Habit stickiness is a subject I'm very interested in...
I think it boils down to three things. "Sticky" habits (or "habit friendly behaviors") are: simple, natural, and unobtrusive.
They need to be simple because habit is dumb. You can't automate complicated conscious processes into something unconscious and routine.
By natural I mean they should resemble behaviors that people have historically performed over many generations (regular meals, regular nightly sleeping, "useful movements"). Habit is often (accurately, I think) called "second nature." If the behaviors your are trying to habitualize resemble "first nature" then the associations that you are trying to build have already been primed. Instead of having to be forced in against a lot of resistance, they'll easily fall into place.
Your new habits should be unobtrusive because you don't have just one habit. You've got many. And you've got obligations to the outside world as well – job, family, etc. Your new habits should conflict with these other pre-existing habits and obligations to the minimum possible degree. Because if there is conflict, then habit has to turn to the conscious mind for resolution. And if that happens often enough, it's no longer unconscious, it's no longer habit
Laziness, of course, will undo even the stickiest habit. It takes diligence no matter what. But selecting behaviors that share these three qualities gives you much more of a fighting chance.
Reinhard
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Before you consider a mod - read this:
Just read this older post by Reinhard. I have considered S day mods so I found this extremely helpful. Hope you guys like it too:
eschano - Vanilla rocks!
July 2012- January 2016
Started again January 2021
July 2012- January 2016
Started again January 2021
Congrats on continued success with No S! Thank you for this post. I have always believed in Vanilla No S without mods although I have played around at times with some slight mods. I quickly regained my sanity and went back to vanilla. This post comes at a good time for me as I am struggling with the basic rules.
History: Started 12/20/10 and lost 45 lbs the first year. At that point I settled for reaching an overweight but no longer obese BMI. For 2 years I maintained that weight, but I derailed the first 2 months of year 4. I regressed to many of my habits from 3 years ago, and I am struggling to reestablish habit. I feel I am finally getting back on track using the mindset that got me here in the first place which is described very well in your post.
Thanks!
History: Started 12/20/10 and lost 45 lbs the first year. At that point I settled for reaching an overweight but no longer obese BMI. For 2 years I maintained that weight, but I derailed the first 2 months of year 4. I regressed to many of my habits from 3 years ago, and I am struggling to reestablish habit. I feel I am finally getting back on track using the mindset that got me here in the first place which is described very well in your post.
Thanks!
The journey is the reward.
Maintenance is progress.
Maintenance is progress.
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