Auto, Yep, it can definitely be challenging to balance your time with more than one kiddo. Do you have 2 kids?
Linda, I was just curious.
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LOL, that is priceless!! I double-dog dare you to do it.lpearlmom wrote: She's already giving me assignments like making a toast at dinner even though I hate public speaking. Maybe I'll let DH do it, that'll really piss her off.![]()
And on this one, it WAS an S Day. Although I'll be the first to admit that my family could do with some great home-cooked meals, I still think it's fine (and fun, even, for kids that are used to regular cooking) to have some "whatever" meal days. But what is also funny is that I read through your foods, sort of thinking, "yum, double-yum, also yum, oh, extra yum"....lpearlmom wrote: Boy that was some chaotic eating today. I feel badly I didn't give my kids proper meals today.Wow, I need to get out of this funk.
I'm sure you'll be fine Linda, and it's lovely that you'll be there for your mom on a such a special occasionlpearlmom wrote:As I write this, I'm kind of dumbfounded by why I feel obligated to spend time with her. She always makes it about my mom though whom I adore. We're going there to celebrate her 75th bday. Oh well it's just three days. It'll be fine.
Sounds like me! My sister and I got on terribly - yelling, fighting excluding from games with other kids. As adults we get on fantastically, I was her maid of honour last year and although very busy, she is here at least once a week to hang with me and see her nephew. It can happen and I'm sure it will with your little onesautomatedeating wrote:My sisters and brother and I were NOT close growing up. There was lots of physical fighting, bullying, manipulation, jockeying for approval from parents, etc. And now? We all love and appreciate each other.
I know you were being flippant (and I'm a big fan of pampering now and then), but just wanted to affirm that you are 100% acceptable, beautiful, worthy and loved, just as you are. And if your sister or our society or media don't agree, then [insert naughty words here] them and the horse they rode in on.lpearlmom wrote: I'm going to ridiculous lengths to at least appear halfway acceptable.
This is such an important realisation, but it is something that can't be rushed.lpearlmom wrote:Seeking revenge just keeps the pain alive. And while I can't erase the past I can learn to let go. Then the healing can begin.
I had a similar experience at a similar age (14), for a different reason. I supported a friend with an eating disorder (anorexia) while everyone else shunned her. For not joining the shunning, I got shut out too. It took me almost 2 decades to really have any close women friends again, and I look back on that as a big loss for me. Eventually I've got to the point where I trust myself to be ok, which allows me to put myself out there.Sadly a lot of my friends turned on me. Before this I had a large group of close friends. Friends I'd known since kindergarten. It was unbearably painful. I've never trusted woman friends completely since then. I tend to sabotage things and reject them before they can reject me. I need to let go of this. I need to open myself up for new possibilities again.
I feel like NoS is so simple, it frees up our minds, hearts and energy to address other things.It's funny that I'm writing about all this on a diet board but I've been avoiding these feelings for so long I can't help but wonder if eating has been one of my coping mechanisms.
Boy, ain't that the truth? I know that the small and brief joy I would get by successfully achieving svelte body would require me to be someone that I don't want to be--someone that spends a lot of time on how she looks. That is so not me and never has been.lpearlmom wrote: she realized she wasn't any happier & that she actually had to give up a lot of what made her happy to achieve it.
I agree. And this is also my go-to excuse for my hair style (or lack thereof).automatedeating wrote:Boy, ain't that the truth? I know that the small and brief joy I would get by successfully achieving svelte body would require me to be someone that I don't want to be--someone that spends a lot of time on how she looks. That is so not me and never has been.lpearlmom wrote: she realized she wasn't any happier & that she actually had to give up a lot of what made her happy to achieve it.