Joined: 12 Apr 2005 Posts: 5721 Location: Cambridge, MA
Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2009 4:08 pm Post subject: Bulletin Board Etiquette (please read!)
I am happy that it's taken 7 years for it to become necessary for me to post something like this -- but unfortunately, some uncharacteristically heated posts over these last two weeks have made it so.
Please let's be careful not to insult one another. There's no reason we can't be civil when we disagree. This board has a pretty great track record in this regard and honestly I'd rather just take the board down than see that change.
So please, please, think twice before posting something aggressive.
And think twice more before taking offense; that's almost guaranteed to just escalate things further.
Just don't respond to rude comments -- and let me know via email or private message. I'll step in to make sure it stops.
Please note that this isn't to discourage differences of opinion -- those are fine, they're great, actually. This board would be dull as earth without them. But there is no reason not to frame these differences in a polite and respectful way -- as almost everyone has, over tens of thousands of posts here and on the yahoo group that preceded it, since 2002.
Much as I HATE the idea of doing this, I'm going to freeze the accounts of people who repeatedly choose not to comply. I hate exercising censorship, but people need to feel safe here.
Thanks in advance for your tolerance and understanding,
Last edited by reinhard on Tue Feb 28, 2012 8:55 pm; edited 1 time in total
Joined: 29 Jan 2009 Posts: 831 Location: Montreal, Canada
Posted: Mon Aug 31, 2009 7:24 pm Post subject:
Well said. Nothing wrong with a lil' discussion as long as it doesn't go overboard.
The rules should have been in place from the get go. It's like when you get in your car, you have to observe the rules of the road or else you get in trouble. I'd say if people get warned once or twice and then they keep on with the disruptive behavior that should be enough.
Congratulations Reinhard that it took 7 years to finally have to actually put up this kind of reminder.
This board has always been an amazingly polite and thoughtful group of posters, and I believe it's a testament to you.
Like attracts like and you are a compassionate, intelligent, and *always* welcoming and encouraging leader to us all, so it's no surprise to me that the board has, by and large, been a cut above most other forums on the web, with regard to the quality of interaction and the thoughtfulness and positivity that most members bring to this place.
I'm very proud to be one of the original members of NoS and am enjoying sharing my own journey here.
I hope that people do really think about how important this board is.
I'd be very sad to see it shut down ever.
Your active involvement really helps.
Sorry for the stress that recent events have caused for you.
I hope that the good vibes continue here and, if not for anything else but, out of respect for you, that people respect these guidelines.
Have a great week my friend!
Debs _________________ There is no Wisdom greater than Kindness
Joined: 02 Sep 2014 Posts: 45 Location: South Africa
Posted: Sun Sep 07, 2014 10:36 am Post subject:
Hello Reinhard! I'm fairly new here. And I came from Myfitnesspal. I agree with all of the above, and I don't want this board to become like Myfitnesspal's forums (They belittle you for having a different opinion, like their way is the ONLY way).
That's the whole reason I came here. Was just tired of getting insulted when I say : "Weight loss is better achieved through eating healthy mostly and treats in moderation."
And then hearing : "Calories in calories out for weight loss! We want to lose weight eating twinkies! No exceptions! Go away. You're dumb."
Well yeah, but this is about overall health too, isn't it? :-/ _________________ Forget everything you learned!
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