Tombo's Check In

Counting carbs/calories is a drag. Obsessive scale stepping is a recipe for despair. If you want to count something, "days on habit" is a much better metric. Checking off days on a calendar would do just fine, but if you do it here you get accountability and support. Here's how. Start a new topic in this forum called (say) "Your Name Daily Check In." Then every N day post a "reply" to that topic as to whether you stayed on habit. A simple "<font color="green">SUCCESS</font>" or "<font color="red">FAILURE</font>" (or your preferred euphemism if that's too harsh) is sufficient, but obviously you're welcome to write more if you want. On S-days just register that you're taking an S-day. You don't have to do this forever, just until you're confident you've built the habit. Feel free to check in weekly or monthly or sporadically instead of daily. Feel free also to track other habits besides No-s (I'm keeping this forum under No-s because that's what the vast majority are using it for). See also my <a href="/habitcal/">HabitCal</a> tool for another more formal (and perhaps complementary) way to track habits.

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Post by Tombo » Thu May 03, 2018 6:50 am

Yay, I managed to do it yesterday! That is my first day done, wahooo!

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Post by Soprano » Thu May 03, 2018 7:13 am

Congratulations, onwards and upwards :)

If should that be downwards

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Post by lpearlmom » Thu May 03, 2018 1:22 pm

Great job!
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Post by Tombo » Thu May 03, 2018 5:16 pm

I had a really unfulfilling dinner today, I didn't prepare it myself and it just left me feeling unsatisfied so I really want to eat more. I don't want to break No S and gain weight though. Ughh, this is hard and I am finding it hard to have the willpower to not eat something I want....

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Post by Soprano » Thu May 03, 2018 6:20 pm

What about a nice drink :)

Are you using the habitcal just the thought of not being able to see a green keeps me on track

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Post by Tombo » Thu May 03, 2018 6:58 pm

Soprano wrote:What about a nice drink :)

Are you using the habitcal just the thought of not being able to see a green keeps me on track

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Hiya, no I'm not using it at the mo, I'll look into it though :D

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Post by Merrygoround » Thu May 03, 2018 8:32 pm

I don’t use the habitcal, but I saw on here somewhere someone who uses paper lips, to make a paperclip string. Red, green and blue for s days. I am so going to try that! Or maybe we could try beads and make a bead string. These are just ideas for the more concrete, less virtual people like me out there. :D
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Post by Soprano » Thu May 03, 2018 8:35 pm

Merrygoround wrote:I don’t use the habitcal, but I saw on here somewhere someone who uses paper lips, to make a paperclip string. Red, green and blue for s days. I am so going to try that! Or maybe we could try beads and make a bead string. These are just ideas for the more concrete, less virtual people like me out there. :D
Go for it :)

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Post by Tombo » Fri May 04, 2018 12:19 pm

Tombo wrote:I had a really unfulfilling dinner today, I didn't prepare it myself and it just left me feeling unsatisfied so I really want to eat more. I don't want to break No S and gain weight though. Ughh, this is hard and I am finding it hard to have the willpower to not eat something I want....
I managed to make it through the evening without binging or eating anything additional. I am happy that I made it through another day :P

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Post by oolala53 » Fri May 04, 2018 5:20 pm

Being able not to get sidetracked when we have a disappointing meal is a good skill to have. Let's hope it doesn't happen often, but it's good to be prepared. :)
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Post by ladybird30 » Sat May 05, 2018 3:44 am

I know that disappointed feeling, but it doesn't last long. Well done for not acting on it.
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Post by Dalia negra » Sat May 05, 2018 6:53 am

oolala53 wrote:Being able not to get sidetracked when we have a disappointing meal is a good skill to have. Let's hope it doesn't happen often, but it's good to be prepared. :)
Totally agree. Keep it up, you're doing great :)

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Post by Tombo » Sat May 05, 2018 12:00 pm

Thanks for the messages everybody :)

I experimented with a smaller lunch today so will see how it goes. It is an S day so I can always snack but I’m gonna try not to.

The last few days on No S I have had a sandwich, crisps, salad and fruit for my lunch and I usually feel really stuffed after.

Today I just had the sandwich with salad. I added some mayonnaise to the salad half way through as it was quite bland.

I am thinking of having a dessert after dinner today

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Post by oolala53 » Sat May 05, 2018 6:22 pm

You are just getting going. All good experiments.
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Post by niccofive » Sun May 06, 2018 1:48 pm

Looking good, Tombo!
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Post by Tombo » Sun May 06, 2018 4:52 pm

I ended up going for a 7 and a half mile coastal walk yesterday :P

I wasn't planning to but I was in a seaside town and wanted to walk up the cliff, then I saw there was a path to another town so I decided to take it. It was a really nice walk. The only thing is I didn't have any water with me so I will make sure I have some if I do something like this again today.

I had some chocolate cake with cream and fruits after dinner yesterday so that was my only S.

Today I had some chocolate cake as it was my niece's 18th birthday, the cake was really nice.

I went for a short cycle ride this morning, my legs really ached during after all the walking yesterday :P

I also ran around a bit with the kids after lunch so that some more exercise I managed to get in :P

For lunch today I ate at a restaurant, I had a really tasty Hunters Chicken and then the chocolate cake I mentioned above.

I am starting to get peckish so will probably make a sandwich soon and I might try one of the biscuits my Mum bought.

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Post by Merrygoround » Sun May 06, 2018 6:19 pm

Well done on the walk. It sounds lovely. And it also sounds like you are having a lovely sensible weekend as well. Happy birthday to your niece.
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Post by Tombo » Mon May 07, 2018 8:13 am

Merrygoround wrote:Well done on the walk. It sounds lovely. And it also sounds like you are having a lovely sensible weekend as well. Happy birthday to your niece.
Thank you :)

I got through the day without binging, just having my meals with some sweet foods included

Today is back to N. I stopped my breakfast when I started feeling full which is rare for me, usually I keep eating it until it is all gone so I am happy about it.

I went for another walk yesterday evening.

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Post by Octavia » Mon May 07, 2018 9:35 am

Hi Tombo, and good luck with your No S journey!

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Post by Soprano » Mon May 07, 2018 10:54 am

Sounds like you are doing really well

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Post by Tombo » Tue May 08, 2018 9:19 am

Yesterday was a successful N day. I had cravings to eat after dinner but didn't

This morning I have had cravings ot eat after breakfast but I've refrained from that also

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Post by Tombo » Tue May 08, 2018 6:57 pm

I really want to binge, I've been feeling really depressed today and I want to eat to mask my feelings and give me momentary pleasure

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Post by ladybird30 » Wed May 09, 2018 3:25 am

How did you go Tombo?
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Post by Tombo » Wed May 09, 2018 6:18 am

ladybird30 wrote:How did you go Tombo?
I made it through the day without binging but my depression got quite bad yesterday.

I am feeling ok so far today, although it is onlt 7:15 :P

I weighed myself today and I now weigh 107.8KG so I am down from 110Kg. I think I would have lost even more if I had less peanut butter and mayonnaise, they are two foods I tend to have a lot of but my weight is moving in the right direction.

Today I am going to aquafit and then I have a swimming lesson.

I am happy to have lost from doing this and not binging :D

My BMI is now 30.8 so I am nearly overweight instead of obese :D

Edit: I just looked up a conversion and that equals 4.85 pounds so I'm happy about that

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Post by Dalia negra » Wed May 09, 2018 9:26 am

Bravo!!!!!!

You are doing great!

And congratulations for your weight loss and for going from obesity to overweight. That was your goal, right? Do not be obese ...
I'm glad for you!!!

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Post by Tombo » Wed May 09, 2018 2:14 pm

Thank you for your comment :)

I have been dealing with IBS pains and symptoms yesterday and today which has been annoying but I've had my first two meals today and will have dinner later

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Post by Tombo » Wed May 09, 2018 5:33 pm

Dinner done but I am bored and really want to eat, ughhh...

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Post by Merrygoround » Wed May 09, 2018 6:06 pm

Congratulations on the weight loss! Almost out of the obese category :D that is so cool. :lol: :lol: :lol:
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Post by Soprano » Wed May 09, 2018 6:19 pm

Tombo wrote:Dinner done but I am bored and really want to eat, ughhh...
Go for a walk, read a book, have a bath, paint your nails :)

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Post by Dalia negra » Thu May 10, 2018 4:53 am

Tombo wrote:Dinner done but I am bored and really want to eat, ughhh...
I'm sure you managed to stay there. Come and tell us .. Even if you failed, you are still inside No S.

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Post by idontknow » Thu May 10, 2018 5:06 am

Well done on the weight loss. Keep going!

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Post by Tombo » Thu May 10, 2018 11:43 am

Thanks for the messages everybody :D

Yesterday was another successful N day!

Today has been difficult as ltos of things have been going wrong and I have been craving snacks and sweets a lot.

I've just had lunch but already I want to eat more and binge

I have been feeling quite depressed today too.

I have a birthday coming up but don't have anyone to do anything with really so it is kinda depressing and I don't want to get older and additionally I don't really know where my life's going, I don't like where I live. Everytime I have an idea I end up changing my mind a couple of days later or I end up ruining things in some way....

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Post by Tombo » Fri May 11, 2018 10:15 am

I made it through yesterday despite wanting to overeat last night

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Post by Soprano » Fri May 11, 2018 9:25 pm

Excellent well done. :)

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Post by idontknow » Sat May 12, 2018 9:35 am

Welll done on sticking with it.
For your birthday can you choose something YOU would really like to do and treat yourself? Could you see that as a gift to yourself?
I have found that one of the benefits of getting older is that I’m happy in my own company. I don’t have many friends but that means I get to please myself. Bit eccentric I know but we’re good at that in the UK :D

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Post by Tombo » Sat May 12, 2018 3:04 pm

Yeah could do idon’tknow, I’ll have a think about it.

I made it through yesterday as a successful n day :)

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Post by Tombo » Sun May 13, 2018 10:44 am

yesterday was an s day but I didn't have any s. I just didn't really have the opportunity

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Post by niccofive » Tue May 15, 2018 12:10 am

You are doing a really great job of sticking to the plan. You are acknowledging when you feel cravings or want to eat (from boredom, depression, frustration.. or whichever) but you aren't! That is really wonderful.

And down over four pounds! Girl, that is really great.

You are ROCKING it so far!
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Post by Dalia negra » Tue May 15, 2018 5:04 am

I totally agree with Niccofive, you are doing a great job !!!!!

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Post by Merrygoround » Tue May 15, 2018 6:19 pm

Tombo, you are doing brilliantly! It’s very inspiring to hear how you are overcoming your challenges.
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Post by Tombo » Tue May 15, 2018 11:59 pm

Yesterday was a successful S day and so has today been (so far)

I did virtual plate a meal as I was doing a mindful eating course where we had a small sample of a food to practice with, I had a small meal prior to that allowing for the food from the course, which was literally a small bite so didn't amount to much.

Last night I was craving an S and tonight I am again.

My sleep has been really bad recently, I just can't seem to get to sleep

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Post by Tombo » Wed May 16, 2018 11:05 am

Yesterday stayed as a successful S day but my seeping pattern is getting worse, I am finding it hard to sleep at ngiht and not getting out of bed until after 11 and wne I wake up I am really moody and not in a good mood and tired whereas when I get a goods night sleep I wake up feeling better.

I weighed myself today and my BMI is down to 30.2.

I now weight 105.75 KG so I am happy to have lost again

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Post by Tombo » Fri May 18, 2018 1:00 am

Yesterday I had urges to eat sweets all days and it was difficult. Today I have been craving them for hours. This is so so hard.

I can't cope, my mental health is really bad. I am not where I want to be in life and I hate where I live.

Yesterday was a successful S day, it is getting so ahrd not to snack and eat sweets though, I want it so so bad and the urges are so strong, I just want to give in.

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Post by Dalia negra » Fri May 18, 2018 5:21 am

Courage Tombo!

Those impulses will finally give way. I know perfectly how you feel, I have days of boredom and depression (the latter more often) but they really happen and I feel positive again. I think it's those feelings that led us to overeat, to cover them up. Now we do not use the food to silence them and they re-emerge. But you know? that's really life, highs and lows. Stay there, you're fighting a tough battle, but you're winning.

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Post by Tombo » Fri May 18, 2018 11:19 am

Thanks for that Daily Negra :)

Yesterday was a success but incredibly difficult and I very nearly gave in. My binge and sweet food cravings were so high and it was so difficult to resist

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Post by niccofive » Fri May 18, 2018 11:56 am

Dalia negra wrote:Courage Tombo!

Those impulses will finally give way. I know perfectly how you feel, I have days of boredom and depression (the latter more often) but they really happen and I feel positive again. I think it's those feelings that led us to overeat, to cover them up. Now we do not use the food to silence them and they re-emerge. But you know? that's really life, highs and lows. Stay there, you're fighting a tough battle, but you're winning.
I love everything about your response, Dalia.

I completely agree with your point that we used to eat to cover up our feelings and now that isn't an option and we have to learn to sit with them until they pass or find other distractions, hopefully healthier ones, to deal with them.

It is very enlightening to realize that!

There is good and hard work ahead, Trombo, but you are doing it. Day after day you are facing those feelings and you are overcoming. You are strong!
-Nic

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Post by Merrygoround » Fri May 18, 2018 11:49 pm

I’m with Nic. Tombo, you are amazingly strong.

Who wins? You or the food? You, day after day! Powerful person!
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Post by Tombo » Tue May 22, 2018 12:56 am

I binged at the weekend and now I have binged today so it is my first failed S day :(

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Post by Soprano » Tue May 22, 2018 4:51 am

One won't make a huge difference make today a green!!

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Post by Tombo » Tue May 22, 2018 8:56 pm

Binged again today, another failure. I am out of control with my eating and can't stop

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Post by Tombo » Wed May 23, 2018 11:09 pm

My birthday today so I had a few Ss, tomorrow I will be attempting an N day again

My weight was only slightly up to 106.1 so not much higher than last week.

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Post by Tombo » Thu May 24, 2018 11:54 am

I’ve just woken up and eaten cake already...

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Post by Merrygoround » Sun May 27, 2018 10:08 pm

Ok Tombo. It’s reset time. Here it is Monday morning and you are in the uk so it is Sunday night I think for you.

So here is your pep talk! You know....I know...we all here know....the sooner we get back on that wagon the easier it is. The further out of sight we let it go the harder to catch up and jump back on.

But our innner toddler is sitting in the dust watching go, and having one serious paddy! “I don’t wanna........â€

Each day is one, even each meal is one. What happened yesterday, for your last meal is done and dusted. We cannot change it, no matter what we do. So your next meal is the only one that matters. One meal. Eat breakfast. Eat lunch. Eat supper. You can do this. Do not let memories of birthday cake throw you off.

I was sick last week and my eating was all over the place. Now it’s time to draw a line in the sand and get right back on that wagon. We can do this!

And I leave you with a line from my wonderful husband.
“You don’t need to use your body as a dustbin. We have a perfectly good one outside!†I often remember that and it makes me laugh when I am tempted to ‘just finish something up’. :oops:
Merry

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Post by Soprano » Mon May 28, 2018 5:41 am

Love your post Merrygoround :)

Though I'm treating today as an S day, it's a bank holiday in the UK but you are so right you can turn a red day around at any time. You don't even need to wait for a green day.

In my head I can't leave nos like I did with diets this is it for life. Just that some days I don't do as well as others.

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Post by Merrygoround » Mon May 28, 2018 8:38 am

Oh tombo....here I am giving good advice out, and I have fallen right off the wagon myself only a few hours later! Now I need to take my own advice and get right back on.
Merry

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Post by niccofive » Tue May 29, 2018 1:49 pm

Merrygoround wrote: Each day is one, even each meal is one. What happened yesterday, for your last meal is done and dusted. We cannot change it, no matter what we do. So your next meal is the only one that matters. One meal. Eat breakfast. Eat lunch. Eat supper. You can do this. Do not let memories of birthday cake throw you off.

<snip>

And I leave you with a line from my wonderful husband.
“You don’t need to use your body as a dustbin. We have a perfectly good one outside!†I often remember that and it makes me laugh when I am tempted to ‘just finish something up’. :oops:
So much great advice in this post! Thank you!
-Nic

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Post by idontknow » Sat Jun 02, 2018 6:50 am

How was the rest of the week, Tombo?

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Post by Tombo » Tue Jun 05, 2018 1:19 am

I’ve teally fallen off No S :(

I’ve had a truly awful binge

I’m in so much pain and my stomach is so uncomfortable


I am so sick of this.

Allowing everything isn’t working, I am just binging all the time

I dunno what to do, I am lost and confused

And I am really tired of my binging. I hate it so much. It is an awful ghastly activity and I hate it so much

I just want it to end

My belly is bigger than it has ever been 😞

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Post by Merrygoround » Tue Jun 05, 2018 8:12 pm

Huggs

I see you have got a lot of really great advice on your other binging thread so I won’t add to it. I’m just here to offer hugs and support.

And actually one bit of advice. Keep showing up here, even if you are off the wagon at the moment. Just showing up helps.
Merry

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Post by niccofive » Wed Jun 06, 2018 12:13 am

Trombo- Hang in there. Even if you have an awful day, the next day is a new one.

We all struggle from time to time, sometimes for days on end. Longer. But we keep trying and you will too.

xox
-Nic

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