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Allisonmeg



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PostPosted: Wed May 23, 2018 7:44 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Struggling on Wednesday but have made it through some really tempting things. Also scale was back down 6 pounds so I must've been holding water or post-surgery swollen last week.
And the best news of all, I slept all night!!! Wow it was amazing to see 4:40 on the clock! (I went to bed at 9:30). Very Happy

Update : went red on me ; the ice cream🍦
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PostPosted: Thu May 24, 2018 8:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Mr. Green for me on Thursday.... And this is with a trip to Krispy Kreme because hubby just had to try their blueberry week only event. I randomly wasn't even tempted with the box.
I feel like dinner made me too full but I had a bowl of watermelon with it and ended with a decaf.
I've been having a strong mint, minty gum, a K- cup of coffee or herbal tea; just something to signify the end of dinner.
Also I woke up at 1am but just read ( Eleanor Oliphant Is Completely Fine) in bed instead of getting up and I did fall back asleep.
Otherwise, massive tension between dh and me for about 500 reasons.
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PostPosted: Sat May 26, 2018 7:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Su Mo Tu We Th Fr Sa
Razz. 🍏🍏 🍏 🍏 🍏 Razz


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PostPosted: Mon May 28, 2018 11:40 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

It's Monday and the kids are home for Memorial Day. DH on a trip. Today will be good practice for No S during the summer, which has been notoriously hard for me in the past years.

This weekend I spent the days grazing mostly on Stacy Pita chips and watermelon. A few tastes of ice cream, but my sweet tooth seems to really waning...yay! It didn't taste good enough that I had to keep going back for more.

We have nothing going today so I know this is going to be a tough No S day. If I can make it through today, I know I'll do well the rest of the week.

The most sucky part is the pool opened and I was mortified last year to put on a bathing suit and now I'm almost 20 lbs heavier....eeesh. Crying or Very sad
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PostPosted: Wed May 30, 2018 8:22 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Soooo after I had some sort of big meltdown involving wine on Monday, I have finally seen a therapist for the first time since my daughter and sister died. She was a super sweet older woman. We ended up talking for over an hour and a half.
My mom said to make sure I know I can tell her anything, which is the problem. I feel like I told my story but now what? I don't know what to even talk about the next time. Opening up is really not my thing. Telling the story of Alyssa is much easier than going into my (embarrassing) downward spiral.
She did tell me to apologize to my 16 year old and tell her I've sought out help, but dd hasn't spoken to me since Monday and won't come out of her room.
Food-wise it's been easy S because my appetite isn't really as pressing.


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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2018 4:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Don’t worry about what to say or not to say. It’s the therapist job to help guide you through this process. Just keep showing up. 💜
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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2018 6:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh Alison, you have had such a dreadful time. It’s not your job to think what to say to the therapist. It’s your job to show up. Well done for making that first step. Like no s, one step at a time, just do the next thing.

We are thinking of you. Hugs are winging your way.
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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2018 7:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thinking of you Alison, pleased to hear you are seeking help.

Big hugs

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PostPosted: Thu May 31, 2018 8:21 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I don't know why I haven't been getting your updates since around the 17th of last month. Well, I'm in the loop now.

I'm so glad you've found a third party to talk to. I missed what happened between you and your 16-year-old that you needed to apologize, but I've certainly apologized to students, at times. It happens. It doesn't often melt them, but it's a good example for them.

I would be very surprised if you could shock a therapist who has made it to being a sweet OLDER woman. She has heard it all. From how you've described the session, I'll bet she will have ideas for how to guide this process. I've been seeing a very experienced therapist for a few months. Unfortunately, she is moving in a few weeks. (Not too long before we started, she woke up one morning to find that her husband of 40 years had died in his sleep. I sometimes remember that as I'm prattling on about my problems, but she has never implied that there is any reason not to take my concerns seriously.) She has asked questions and talked about things differently than any others have. Each one has his/her own perspective and style. They're also used to people who aren't used to opening up.

Please keep in mind what you don't like about your overeating habits, and how much better you feel physically and mentally when you don't let the old cues lead to the old habit. The pleasure of that reward is key to letting go of the relief of giving in. You get the most bang for your buck when you say no when it's hard, since it's likely those times will come up more than it will be easy, and depending on easy is what can get us in trouble. At the same time, we don't have to make it harder. Sit down to eat good meals of real food! Sitting down to eat is high on Judith Beck's list of eating skills. Yes, I know it's hard to give up nibbling here and there; it's a habit, and one that our ancient biology dearly loves, but being overweight and a slave to food is, too! As the saying goes, choose your hard.

Regarding waste, also not original: you can waste the food in your body or out of it. Which will it be? Encourage the kids to be more aware of when they keep taking too much to start, if they keep leaving food.

I gently suggest that you start thinking about whether there is a way to have fewer sweets and refined foods available so often to everyone, including kids, this summer. Can't the sweets be limited to meal time? Or perhaps ONE small amount mid-afternoon? If they aren't hungry enough to eat something unrefined, they aren't really hungry. I know it can be tricky. You don't want to set up rebellion and sneaking in them, either, but there's got to be a way. It's certainly not depriving them of anything crucial. Kids don't respond to what's healthy, but leaving out some fruit and nuts to crack for snacks, and assuring them they can add some of the refined stuff at meals, may help. If they pick at their food at meals, it's reason enough to keep the snacks back until meals. Let them have their appetites!

I also suggest you get kids involved in making meals, especially if they want something different. Maybe there could be a couple of nights a week the older kids are in charge; let them see what it's like to cater to so many wishes. And I assume they do clean up, right? Taking turns? An old friend comes from a family of six children; from the time the youngest was nine, their mom almost never did dishes nor laundry. Everyone deserves to make a contribution to the growth of a family.
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PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2018 2:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you to all. Such big hugs to you.
I will take all of your advice oohlala. I cater to them like you wouldn't believe. None of the kids lift a finger around here. I agree with leaving nuts and fruits out.
The fruits I always have out, but nuts are my absolute favorite and I can't imagine having to pass a bowl of them throughout the day.

Also I suppose it is true about this therapist. She has over 25 years of experience, but I still am so stressed out about going Tuesday. I already didn't start off completely honestly because
1) I don't want her to have me committed,
2) I want her to like me and not see me for the disaster I am,
3) I'm afraid she'll tell me to do things I don't want to do (mostly involving adding other people to my life).

Also my daughter hasn't come out of her room or spoken to me since Monday.. Well unless I'm gone. So it's making it horrible around here with dh on a trip. I'm breaking out in hives. He told me he told her to get over it and told me to stop kissing her ass. Ugh.

So NoS was a success this week... One positive!
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PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2018 3:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

A Therapist is unlikely to tell you to do anything, hopefully she will guide you to make decisions you feel comfortable with but she can't do this unless you are completely honest with her.

Jx
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PostPosted: Sat Jun 02, 2018 6:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi Allison,
Just to add my good wishes. This therapist sounds very positive, and I hope you’ll come to feel really safe with her...maybe have some good, healing conversations.

You mentioned that you had success with No S this week - that is a massive sign of your own strength and ability to make positive changes! To be able to succeed on No S while you’re dealing with such challenges....it’s fantastic and I have huge respect for you.

Hope the weekend is going OK. X
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 06, 2018 2:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I went to the second counseling session, heeded everyone's words and was totally honest. I covered everything (kinda like a kid's first confession to a priest). After all this, the therapist ended by asking me what my final goal was of counseling...I was totally stumped for an answer! I still am. I'm not sure exactly.

NoS was not so great yesterday, was so stressed before going, and so embarrassed after the session overthinking it. I know she was expecting me to go in for grieving over the losses but all I did was talk about myself.

I didn't binge or overeat or anything but I did do a little in between snacking.
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 06, 2018 4:30 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

So great you were honest! I know that wasn’t easy for you and you should be really proud of yourself. Therapists learn to be non judgmental and they also know that everyone handles things differently. Just give it time and give her a chance.

I’m sorry about your teen. I’ve got two and it’s exhausting at times. I sometimes lose it but I always apologize. I think it’s important to take their feelings seriously despite what your DH says.

*Big hugs* things will get better.
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PostPosted: Thu Jun 07, 2018 3:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Allisonmeg wrote:


I didn't binge or overeat or anything but I did do a little in between snacking.


Pretty good under the circumstances. I'm very glad that you are seeing a therapist and I hope you find it helpful.
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PostPosted: Thu Jun 07, 2018 6:41 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You don't have to be embarrassed about anything you say to a therapist. You do not have to meet her standards. It is not what she thinks about you that's important. And she is probably more generous in her opinion. There is no one way you are expected to talk or behave with her.

How would you like to think and feel about your life? If I may, that seems like a decent way to get some idea of what your final goal of counseling is. Your answer can seem like it's asking a lot, but you might as well consider asking for it

RE No S, just remember what advantages there are to living with its limitations. What will you get out of it if it means holding back on some of the eating you feel compelled to do? You can find out if it's worth the trade off only if you do it. But you'll get there.
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PostPosted: Fri Jun 08, 2018 8:47 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you oolala. That is a good way to question myself to find the answer. I really like this therapist, yet at the same time I just dread going.

I did well No S for the day, had a piece of pie for my birthday today. I have a desire to read what Alyssa wrote in my birthday card last year, but I am trying not to...though I feel a big cry coming on either way. Not sure why it gets harder as time goes on.


I'm going to do a strict Habitcal for next week. I have gotten almost used to not counting calories...as in I didn't even think about it for most of the week. After 30 years of obsessively counting, this is pretty huge!
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PostPosted: Sat Jun 09, 2018 4:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think the tough times will ebb and flow. I don't think it's unusual. Have the cry. Sad
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PostPosted: Sun Jun 10, 2018 4:58 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I wish I could give you a hug. Happy Birthday. I agree, it’s okay to cry.

Btw, I went to therapy for over a year, and dreaded going each and every time. I loved my therapist but it’s just hard facing all those emotions. I always felt better after going though so there’s that.

Take care of yourself. 💜
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PostPosted: Sun Jun 10, 2018 11:19 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

That is so good to know lpearlmom! I thought most people were eager to go. Thank you for the hugs and thoughts.

S day Sunday....a grazing sweet-filled fest. I'm so anxious to get back to an N day. I hate when the S days go this way. Scale back to climbing way up. I am so canceling follow-up dr. appt. in 2 weeks). There is no way I'm going to go in there 15 pounds heavier AFTER a tummy tuck (and for probably the before and after pictures).
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PostPosted: Sun Jun 10, 2018 11:23 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Su M Tu We Th Fr Sa
🍍🍅 🍅 🍏 🍏 🍅 🍍

M: dinnertime graze and bites while making i/c cone
T: Leaving nuts out for the kids to snack on did not work so well for me!
W: Mexican today, didn't go nuts!
Th: made it through breakfast & lunch on kids 2nd day out of school w/ dh on trip. Yay, I got a green!
F: Red by 10:30 am....yep ice cream cones again Crying or Very sad Goal now is to mark and move on and continue day like it didn't happen.


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 11, 2018 6:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Keep reminding yourself why you had the surgery in the first place and vow to do your best to keep it all where it needs to be!
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First a belated happy birthday.

Re the emotions. I was happy/sad when my dad died. The cancer was spreading everywhere, and he was so ill. He dreaded it getting into his brain, but the morning of the day he died he was still discussing engineering problems with my brother. I was overjoyed he had died with his dignity intact.

But as time passed I got more and more upset and missed him more and more. It peaked at about 18 months and then improved, and it didn’t follow the linear grief line. There is no one right way to grieve. This is your journey and only you can walk it.

But we can accompany you and hold your hand. So hugs from New Zealand coming your way.
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 13, 2018 6:53 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you Merrygoround for sharing your story of losing your father. I'm so sorry for your loss. It helps me so much to know how others grieve, as I have no past experience. I really appreciate your hugs

As I approach the one year mark in July, I feel like I'm reliving each day leading up to her death. Her first good-bye letter was written on May 26th and her second one was written 2 days after my birthday on June 10th.
So her gift to me last year is very significant, which was a dress she saw and knew was meant for me, and a coffee cup that says Awesome Mom.

It just doesn't seem like it can be coming on a year. It's finally on my dry erase calendar, our last year 2- day orientation at her new college and her subsequent death when we got home.

My No S hasn't been perfect this week thus far, but I keep coming back each day and working it. I only have to master dinner; breakfast and lunch coming pretty naturally these days. Now that school is out, it should be much easier for me to get a firm grasp on the afternoon graze.

P.S.- I had a very good therapist visit, mostly just reminisced. Having gone to the boys' school several times this week for awards, parties, field day reminded me so much of when we used to go watch the girls And something about seeing the little girls really made me tear up It was really good to share that with her.
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PostPosted: Fri Jun 15, 2018 10:46 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ugh, only 2 out of 5 days were green. The scale continues up in record breaking numbers, but I still refuse to get back on the 30 year calorie counting wagon. I ate in the middle of the night again which is why I think I failed today. I am slowly getting more sleep; still insomnia but I'm making it further through the night.
I made the big leap and took the boys to the pool wearing a bathing suit yesterday. I didn't leave my chair...finally my youngest is old enough to go in alone! Massive thigh insecurities though.
My nemesis still seems to be the ice cream. If I didn't have to make the cones, I'd be fine. It's not like I go into the freezer on my own. I just have to put my mind into it and NOT lick the spoon...the lick always leads to more!
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 18, 2018 12:32 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Saturday was a picture perfect S day: 3 meals plus one cupcake dd made.
Sunday was more WTH, starting with a middle of the night binge and WTHing the rest of the day.
Monday I started the day off with watermelon for breakfast. Had side salad at CFA with added avocado for lunch. Dinner was baked potato dipped in bbq, more watermelon, graham cracker.


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Hope it’s a green Monday for you.

I am sorry to admit that when I got fat (BMI from 22 to 30 type fat) after my first was born, one of the few advantages was feeling less self conscious in a bathing suit! Sort of “ha-ha, I’m fat, no one’s watching!”

I hope you can enjoy your pool time this summer without worrying too much about other people’s opinions.
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 19, 2018 5:54 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Big, big hugs.

BTW, isn't there anyone else to make ice cream cones? You could say that you will monitor the final result, and if the cones are too full in your estimation, no ice cream for X number of days. Then stick to it!
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PostPosted: Thu Jun 21, 2018 11:00 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I'm doing the ice cream ban...everybody has to make their own cone!
(and lol Larkspur, that's a great way of looking at it Very Happy )

Not a smashingly successful No S week but I'm going to keep trying!
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PostPosted: Fri Jun 22, 2018 5:44 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Are you using habitcal? Or at least marking your successful days somewhere, preferably where you can see them a little more often?

In any case, have an excellent green Friday! Whatever you'd like to eat or whenever you'd like to, could you just put it off until Saturday? Just get from meal to meal and overnight? Think hard about how GLAD you will feel Saturday morning if you stay green. It will be glorious!
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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2018 4:12 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I had a GREEN SUNDAY!!!

And took a 2 mile walk on top of my normal work out Very Happy


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PostPosted: Mon Jun 25, 2018 4:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

........ 🏖️June
Su Mo Tu W Th Fr Sa
24 25 26 27 28 29 30
🍏🍏🍏🍏 🍏 🍏 ☀️


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PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2018 12:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Another stellar and modest day!

B- Protein bar
L- special k quiche w/cheese on top, cup 🍉
D- handful of mixed nuts

Reading a book about intermittent fasting and have been trying out the 8 hr window of eating and 16 hrs of fasting. Pretty easy because it follows my natural habit of early dinner.
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PostPosted: Tue Jun 26, 2018 7:01 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

MAGNIFY that sense of accomplishment and reward yourself with something a pleasant. Light a candle? Pick a flower? Cut a flower out of magazine (do people have magazines anymore?) and start a little collage?
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 27, 2018 1:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I will oohlala!

Day 3 also a smashing success with an 18hr fast from 2pm to 8am this morning. I feel a groove coming on. Scale moving down a tiny bit all week. I just finally have an in control feeling.
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PostPosted: Wed Jun 27, 2018 3:14 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Great job! Keep up the good work!
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PostPosted: Thu Jun 28, 2018 5:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

🍏🍏🍏🍏 4 days in a row and looking good for 5! Fasted for 19.5 hrs from 1130am yesterday until breakfast this morning. But eating enough in the other hours that I don't get all that hungry. Basically eat a decent size breakfast, have nuts as a mini-meal, have lunch.
It strangely works well for me that when lunch is finished, I'm done for the day and there's nothing else to think of.
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PostPosted: Thu Jun 28, 2018 9:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Go you! I fast daily and love it. There’s few of us here but it’s definitely not for everyone!
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PostPosted: Fri Jun 29, 2018 9:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yes lpearlmom, me too....I am loving this! (and omg I was reading your blog and bought every book you mentioned). You are an inspiration!

I am no longer at odds of what to do in the afternoon, which is where my red dots most always happen.

I get hungry around 4 but find I'm actually enjoying feeling a hunger pang for a change. Then I get over it and I don't notice any more hunger during the evening, AND I'm not starving in the morning like I thought I would be. Headaches seem to be the only downfall. I've been consistently 19/5 and feel good about a 5 hour window of eating.

I realize this is water weight, but my scale is literally 10 lbs lighter in less than a week. I think this is because my postsurgical swelling is at a minimum following this 2 meal a day regimen. But it is so so encouraging!

I feel like I've hit a good place finally. I don't know if it's because I started going to a therapist or what. I not only feel back in control, I'm starting to be able to cry a little easier. That sounds weird but it's actually a good thing!

Even today at the DMV, I got teared up and thanked the employee who had been so very very kind to my daughter during her driving test 2 years ago. This was right after she had gotten back from residential treatment in Chicago and was extremely fragile. And you know what, he was so sweet to me and didn't seem the slightest bit disturbed that I was a little teary or that I told him.

I'm still working out as always, but also met my new goal of taking a 2 mile+ walk outside 3 times this week. I made this a goal, not so much in a lose weight thing, but to get out of my neighbor phobia/hermit status and just be outside.


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PostPosted: Fri Jun 29, 2018 11:50 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I think some moments of tender gratitude is something we can all use.
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PostPosted: Sat Jun 30, 2018 6:29 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

This post makes me so happy! You’re doing great and so happy to hear you’re enjoying IF. It’s a great feeling to realize food doesn’t control you & that you are perfectly fine skipping a couple meals even.

For the headaches try a little pink Himalayan or sea salt in your water. The headaches will ease up in a couple of weeks though. I hope you enjoy the reading. Theres also a podcast by Gin Stephens and Melanie Avalon that I enjoy if you’re a podcast kind of person. It’s called The Intermittent Fasting podcast.

Let me know if you have any questions. Also, I agree being able to cry again is a good sign.

Hang in there. You’re doing great.

Linda
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PostPosted: Sat Jun 30, 2018 12:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks Linda! I'll check out the podcast today...I always have an Audible book in my ear so it's a perfect venue for me. And great tip for the salt. I have Pink Himalayan salt so I'll try that later in the day. Also do you have a group like this for your IF that I might join?

Today I'm trying my first 24-hour fast (7:30am start). First of all, I had a croissant and banana bread for my S-day treat. Then had egg, cheese, bacon quiche and a big coffee with heavy cream. I've been eating low carb this week so the bread made a very yummy reward for my wildly successful week!

Dh is on a trip, kids kicked back, so I think it'll be the best time... nowhere we have to go today and I plan to have a lazy day, other than a 30 min cardio.


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PostPosted: Sat Jun 30, 2018 12:56 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

You’re doing great! Your treats sound yummy. I try to do a couple low carb days and a few regular days to keep the body guessing. Sounds like what you’re doing!

I’m not sure you’re on fb but here’s the fb group I belong to: https://www.facebook.com/groups/DelayDontDeny/

It’s a big group so not as cozy as this one but Gin runs a tight ship and makes sure everyone is kind & respectful so that helps. I wouldn’t recommend any of the other fasting groups. Oh and she does prefer you read her book (Delay, don’t deny), not necessarily before but maybe just be in the process of reading it or at least read the pinned post carefully. They are clean fast fanatics.

Hope to see you over there!

Linda
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 01, 2018 2:51 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

(moved July Habitcal)

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PostPosted: Mon Jul 02, 2018 12:13 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I completed my first 24-hour fast today, from breakfast until breakfast. I was going to try for one more 24-hour fast but didn't make it and had a late 8pm dinner plus ice cream cone. So in the end, a good S day.
Starting back tomorrow, I'll be on a 2-meal a day regimen with a 19/5 fast and be finished eating for the day by 1130 to 12.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 02, 2018 2:25 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Woot woot! Congrats on 24 hrs! You’re doing great!
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 04, 2018 7:42 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Did well just having breakfast and lunch yesterday. I'm up now at 2:45 am and trying to see if I can make it to lunch for another 24 hour fast (and drinking my coffee black...boo). I'm not one to ever skip breakfast so we'll see!

I had a very big talk\argument with dh yesterday and cried a lot. It solved absolutely nothing. I got off my chest a few things, but they were not nice things. Just yet more things to create a bigger rift between us.

Last year at this time, Alyssa brought her boyfriend with us to see the fireworks and I remember thinking how great it was and was envisioning the future of him always being with us for the 4th, completely clueless that she would be dead a week later.

I really hate all this lead up to "the date." I have mixed emotions of it being a year. It feels like it happened last week; I feel more upset now than I did then, and a year gives the connotation that it's been long enough to start moving forward.

Anyway, my fasting/two-meal a day schedule seems tailor-made for me, something that feels like I could do long term. It really frees up my afternoon quandry while fixing the kids all their different choices. Plus it just adds back the way I always naturally ate from teens through 30s.

I have an intermittent fasting app and as soon as I push the GO button, I just don't eat another single calorie. I love things that make it so consise for me.

I weigh 40 lbs more than I did my entire 20s and 30s. I AM getting this off. That is one goal I am really going to work for now. I know I can do it. I've done it before. I'm strong enough for this kind of mindset/willpower and I have grief motivation fueling it.


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PostPosted: Wed Jul 04, 2018 12:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Sometimes grief can push us to do something when inertia has held us back. Wishing you some peace, some time to grieve, and maybe some new insights as you deal with this one-year mark.
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 04, 2018 5:53 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

There is a lot whirling around for you. I'm glad you're finding a routine for systematic moderation, as Reinhard calls it. That's all you can do. The body does its thing with what we eat.

I wish for some peaceful resolution with dh, later, if not sooner.

Do what you can to have a delightful holiday. We're on your side!
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 05, 2018 6:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You’re doing great. I love my app too. I think some of us just do better with firm boundaries kind of like with NoS but just for a longer period of time. Fasting also helps you realize how strong you really are. If you have the Vora app , you can follow me if you want. I’m FastingPearl. 😃
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 07, 2018 1:00 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks everyone for the encouragement! My week has been successful and GREEN. I had a really great therapist visit today, which honestly just still surprises me. I went in thinking I had nothing to say, and then left with an entirely new insight and feeling warm fuzzies towards dh.
Today was technically green but I did have a third small meal of macadamia nuts. So it's kind of red for my own 2 meal a day plan. I was just excited that dh bought them for me.... They're 19 bucks a pound at the Fresh Market and I haven't had them in ages.
OK off to get the vora app😁
I am completely bingeing on The Obesity Code book and podcast.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 09, 2018 11:28 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

One nice meal today around noon. Fasted for 27 hours this time. I am really liking this sense of control I get. Honestly I could have gone longer, but I like just adding an extra hour or two each time.

I have never ever skipped breakfast in my life... I have discovered this is totally a habit. I'm not even hungry in the morning. I have always eaten when I get up because that's just what you do.

My favorite new motivation is that I'm eating my fat for breakfast/lunch/ or dinner.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 09, 2018 11:37 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

*******July*******
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Su Mo Tu We Th Fr Sa
Cool 🍎 🍏 🍏 🍏 🍏 Smile
🍏 🍏 🍏 🍏 🍎 13 14
15 16 17 18 19 20 21
22 23 24 25 26 27 28
29 30 31

2nd- was a small whoops with an untouched a.m. Toaster Struedel , but then had a 9:30 pm ambien induced incident (those are never pretty). Cool

7th-Modest weekend, just had banana nut muffins as my sweet. Oh and some sugar-free chocolate pecan things that did horrible things to my stomach!

12th- had a big feast of all bad foods/sweets right about the time my daughter died at this time last year. Better than drinking I guess


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PostPosted: Tue Jul 10, 2018 3:33 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

27 hrs—woot!
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 10, 2018 6:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you lpearlmom...wow I have just been on the biggest bingefest with books and podcasts of Jung, Gin, Herring, Jimmy Moore, etc! Keeping my mind occupied this week is HUGE. I even (finally) opened a Facebook account just to get on the Vora group and on Gin's One Meal a Day group.

That probably won't be sticking around because somehow, absolutely everyone seems to instantly know this. I'm getting a bazillion friend requests from everyone from kids I babysat 35 years ago to my plastic surgeon! And that is exactly what I didn't want!

Friday is the year anniversary so trying to stay very busy and not think too much.

Last night I messed up a perfectly good day by randomly eating two Lara bars (that my husband had left in the closet) right as I was going to bed. The funny thing is, it's the first night I slept through the night in almost a year!

Back on track today with breakfast and lunch...now done for the day. Instead of trying to make up for the bars last night, I went with the mark it and move on mentality.
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 10, 2018 9:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Good job on marking it and moving on. Definitely not a big deal. I think there’s a way to change your settings so you’re essentially invisible.

I went through an obsessive period of research too. It’s just so dang interesting.

I know this is a tough week for you. Big *hugs* to you.
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 14, 2018 2:36 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Big big hugs.
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 15, 2018 10:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you guys, I made it through the anniversary. We're at the beach now. I forgot it was Sunday and am now happily eating a seasalt caramel cheesecake ice cream cone....heavenly!
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