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PostPosted: Fri Jul 13, 2018 10:27 pm    Post subject: Tess’ daily check in Reply with quote

Hi all, long time no see!
I basically had one long red streak since 2016 when I fell pregnant with my first baby. Now I have two under two and am struggling. All my good habits have been surplanted by bad ones but on the plus side I gained some good habits by having an active toddler.
For now I will focus on two habits.
I will follow NoS (I just went to write try to follow but I don’t want to try, I just want to do it) and I will take 15minutes each day to do some sort of movement.
I am starting right now which is 23.24pm in the UK going into an S weekend but still!
Very sorry that I haven’t managed to keep up with any of you but I look forward to catch up on your journeys in small increments. Having a newborn and a toddler who will turn two shortly sadly means that I will be very short on time. Can’t wait to share this journey with you and support you in yours.
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 14, 2018 3:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hey wb!! Congrats on baby #2! My girls are exactly two years apart so I feel your pain. Just post when you can and don’t worry about catching on other ppl’s threads.

Hang in there. My girls both sleep till noon on the weekends now & fix most of their own meals. It gets better!

Linda 🌹
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 14, 2018 5:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ouch two under two Smile congratulations it will get easier as will slipping back in to Nos. I think getting the eating sorted will be more important and easier than exercise so make that the priority

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PostPosted: Mon Jul 16, 2018 6:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you so much Linda and J! Both girls are gorgeous but yes the age gap of 22 months can be a bit tough at this stage. Good idea to focus on eating.

I am starting this Monday with 85.5 kilogram and a BMI of 27.7 😱 this is my biggest ever not counting the height of my pregnancy 11 weeks ago. I know this is going to be a rough ride. I will focus on habit and only update my weight etc every month or so but focus on green rather than red days and fingers massively crossed that I won’t keep having red streaks like the last two years.

One of my biggest problems to watch out for for me is eating the rest of some of my toddlers food when she doesn’t finish.

As I am breastfeeding I am going with 4 meals a day for now with the fourth meal being on/in a small plate/small bowl.

Here we go....
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 17, 2018 6:49 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well, I made it - my first green N day behind me 🙌
I had a lot of walking yesterday but decided to focus on food this week and the 15minutes next week because I have a bit of a dodgy stomach at the moment and it makes me not want to exercise.
Day 2 is always the hardest for me so will see what today brings. I would love to make it to the 21days club
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 17, 2018 9:23 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

You'll make it, we are all cheering you on Smile

Well done on day 1


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PostPosted: Tue Jul 17, 2018 4:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you! This means a lot. The support on this forum and non-judgemental approach is really unmatched.

As predicted I am finding it tough. I went to softplay with the kids to tire them out but my toddler decided a ten minute catnap will do - she always was a great sleep fighter from day 1 unlike her sister - and I’m now exhausted and hungry and trying not to let my heightened irritability shine through. So much easier to medicate with chocolate and sugar. But I am making it work. Just another hour before DH comes home. The state of this house though.... that is another story
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 18, 2018 6:35 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I made it through the dreaded “second day” so that is good. Two days isn’t huge but I am delighted about it!

Today will be another challenge as little toddler will be with her grandma in the afternoon and I used to sit in the livingroom with littlest baby and stuff my face so will have to create a new habit there.
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 19, 2018 5:52 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Day three done with an insane amount on my plates. Yet, I’m still hungry which just shows how much I must have eaten before Monday if the excess that happens on my plates currently still leaves me hungry for meals
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 19, 2018 5:56 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Well done! Perfectly okay to like those plates while you get back on habit. Plus you’re using up lots of energy caring for those babies. 💜
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 20, 2018 6:01 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you Linda!
Another green day yesterday although I had a homemade hot chocolate (warm milk with 100% chocolate and a teaspoon of cinnamon and a teaspoon of maple syrup) but for the first few 21day batches I don’t worry about drinks until the habit is stable. It made a big difference filling me up after a salad dinner and get me through the night feeds.
I really want to get this right so I can pass on good habits to my children. I grew up with a mother with major food issues and remember her constantly criticising herself in the mirror and it had a huge impact on me going the other way. I just don’t want to burden my children with my own stuff when they will already have to fight an uphill battle against doctored advertisements, skinny dolls, etc
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 20, 2018 6:10 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Do make sure you have satisfying meals whilst establishing the habit. You can address meal composition later...

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PostPosted: Sat Jul 21, 2018 6:55 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Yay!! First week under the belt. So looking forward to my S day treats now.
Some things about my first week: turns out I don’t need the fourth meal for breastfeeding as long as I have enough carbs during the normal meals. And I might well have gained some weight as the plates were so heavy.
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 23, 2018 6:13 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

My weekend wasn’t too bad. It was too busy to be a binge weekend but at the same time I treated myself enough with the treats Inwas dreaming of all week to feel satisfied.
Week two will be interesting as my mum is coming tomorrow to stay for a week and she is a terrible influence. She keeps telling me to treat myself and then says I am fat on the same day. So it triggers all kinds of things but I am optimistic.
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 24, 2018 6:08 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Tough one yesterday but I kept it green. I have to mind my emotional eating triggers. I was very stressed so felt triggered but had a coffee instead and it worked out.
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 25, 2018 3:49 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

The day is not over yet but a fail today. Fairly optimistic I can leave it at that instead of what the hell. I went to my mum’s and my favourite artisan chocolate shop and they had a new praline to taste. A ball of the diameter of one of my fingernails. Totally worth it but not great so early in the process. I bought a bag fo the weekend. It was right after lunch so at least not a snack as well. As predicted it is tough to keep to any form of moderation with my mum aka the diet saboteur here but I am not doing badly.
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PostPosted: Wed Jul 25, 2018 4:11 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

You have to be realistic and put it in perspective. That on its own will have very little impact just carry on and you'll be fine Smile

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PostPosted: Wed Jul 25, 2018 7:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi eschano, welcome back!

I just wanted to say that the self care you are showing yourself during this time will set a great example for your 2 under 2! Even though it’s probably not yet obvious to them, your habit will be well developed by that time and they will definitely recognize your healthy relationship with food once they are a bit older.

Until then, keep it going! We are rooting for you!
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PostPosted: Thu Jul 26, 2018 7:17 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thanks so much J and worth it!
Another day today. I feel much better since I don’t permasnack anymore. I feel lighter despite not being so 😁 I think it is the rest my digestive system is getting in between the meals
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:14 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

I made it and my mum noticed that I ate a lot less so I explained NoS to her. She said it sounds healthy but wouldn’t work for her which is unsurprising given her disordered and obsessive eating patterns. (Years and years of calorie counting) She is a good example of someone who got tiny with calorie counting and who has very little enjoyment from food now and still a very bad relationship to not just food but also her body.
She said NoS was a start but I’ll never get thin enough on it 🙄 (Kate moss thin)
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 27, 2018 3:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I always find Friday the toughest day even though it should be the easiest as it is so close to the S days. I think it is because I feel the weekend begins on Friday evening but also because I am starting to dream about what treats I’ll get or worse start buying them and having them in my fridge. Still, I chose gorgeous treats and am looking forward to tomorrow!
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 27, 2018 5:55 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Welcome back. I'm sorry that your mum is trying to impose her disordered thinking on you. Be good to yourself and keep building your habit muscle back up. Those long days at home are hard.
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 27, 2018 6:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Many thanks Jen!
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PostPosted: Fri Jul 27, 2018 7:33 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

eschano wrote:
I made it and my mum noticed that I ate a lot less so I explained NoS to her. She said it sounds healthy but wouldn’t work for her which is unsurprising given her disordered and obsessive eating patterns. (Years and years of calorie counting) She is a good example of someone who got tiny with calorie counting and who has very little enjoyment from food now and still a very bad relationship to not just food but also her body.
She said NoS was a start but I’ll never get thin enough on it 🙄 (Kate moss thin)


Who wants to be Kate Moss thin anyway, you'll prove her wrong and have a nice healthy relationship to food!
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PostPosted: Sat Jul 28, 2018 5:46 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you J!
I kind of made it through yesterday but With a fail as I had a few chips (about four) from my husband’s take away after my dinner. Again not a huge fail but I am fencing around the law for at least the first three months and will say this is a fail.
On the other hand absolutely delighted to wake up to a S day. Yay
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PostPosted: Sun Jul 29, 2018 9:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

I’ve been an absolute idiot this weekend and overate on sweets quite a lot. A bit what I expected from S days in the beginning. I think partly because of the added stress from my mum being here and part rebellion against her watching my every bite and judging it. Even DH commented but I told him that it was unhelpful and only to comment on N day habits if he needs to comment at all.
I also felt deprivation mentality was rearing its head and I ate a piece of cheesecake just before getting ready for bed when I really didn’t need it or want it just because I can’t tomorrow. I should have frozen it. Let my stuffed tummy be a reminder of how that doesn’t work for me!
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PostPosted: Mon Jul 30, 2018 9:39 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Had a real urge to stuff my face today and continue the S day bonanza. I scraped by luckily and I still feel stuffed. If I maintained this last week during my mum’s visit I will be happy enough. She is leaving early tomorrow morning so will have made it through this constant scrutiny. She is a big help with the little girls but also such a massive trigger for me despite me being a grown up woman in the mid-30s.
Hoping that stuffed feeling will pass soon.
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PostPosted: Tue Jul 31, 2018 4:54 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi eschano! I didn't even realize this was your thread with Tess title! So you are a Tess? Smile Nice to meet you!

I am trying to be pretty faithful to NoS right now, but not really reading many other threads, so sorry that I didn't even realize you had started a new one!

Reading your posts, I SO REMEMBER some of your feelings!!!! With toddlers and babies, the days are L-O-N-G!!!! I didn't start NoSing until my youngest was 4, so I'm sure I permasnacked at your stage. I think the hardest thing is fighting carb/sugar cravings due to extreme fatigue. I agree with the person that suggested just focus on the eating habits - don't put exercise pressure on. One thing at a time, and you are probably so damn exhausted all the time..... the best thing you can do to get more green days is to (I predict) get more sleep. Don't think that's really super possible, so just try to be gentle when you have fails. Aim for 80% compliance (not perfection).

Oh, and your S Days. So sorry that even hubby commented, and on top of that dealing with your mum. I can tell that you are already trying not to be hard on yourself about the overeating on S Days -- keep being gentle with yourself. You are an example of someone that knows wild S Days aren't your norm (once you've reestablished the good N Day habits), so you can trust the process.

If I could go back to those days, I think keeping a fairly bare pantry and fridge would have been the most useful. LOL, tricky to do with a toddler, but I still think if I had "minimized" the convenience foods around me I would have done better. Not sure if you even have convenience foods in your house, but you know that processed foods have been such a downfall for me.

Anyway, hang in there!! We are all cheering you on and I am just (super selfishly) so glad to see you back on the boards! I really really missed you!
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 01, 2018 6:36 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Awww Auto, what a lovely welcome back - your message totally made my day yesterday! I was thinking “yes, exactly that” about every single thing you said. While I wish I was a person who didn’t have convenience food at home and who followed Michael Pollan’s advice about eating real food etc I am not that person at this stage in my life 😂
And yes, Tess haha.
I saw some movement on the scale this week and while I am trying to think about behaviour and not weight it has still given me a bit of extra motivation that despite my heavy weekend I am still doing the right thing.
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 01, 2018 1:03 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi Tess,
Just thought I’d pop by to say hello. Thanks for checking in with me the other day!
Just sending support for your challenging situation! The little ones and your mum’s comments! When my DD was a baby, I simply couldn’t figure out what to do except sit and eat. And there was only one of her! I felt so trapped. And with a toddler, you’re in the kitchen all the time, preparing food.

Maybe you should let yourself be a bit crazy at weekends. I still have mad S days after doing No S for 9 months, but I’ve still lost weight. And I still eat convenience food - sometimes I’m too tired to even go to the supermarket and pick up pizzas, let alone visit an organic greengrocers and start grinding herbs into a pestle and mortar! 😂 I stack the cupboards full of M&S/Sainsbury’s tins of curry or chilli for those situations. Embarassed

And the DD is now almost 16!

I once worked with a guy who was always banging on about how his wife was a superb cook and how they liked to ensure that their precious offspring was always fed proper, home-cooked meals. Well the kid was not very nice and the wife was not, ahem, ‘in shape’. So I say enjoy your convenience foods! My own Mum was the Findus Queen...
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 01, 2018 2:34 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Ugh, I can relate to the mom thing. My mom doesn’t really criticize me directly but her constant remarks about how she ate too much and checking calories on things (even though she’s now v thin) is a bit triggering for me.

I think you're a saint for putting up with your mom. I’m glad she’s helpful with the girls though. Now that she’s gone you can get back to the sanity of NoS without the pressure to be thin right now. There’s no rush. I wish I had found NoS when my kids were little. It would have saved me a lot of heartache!

Hang in there, you are doing great!

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PostPosted: Wed Aug 01, 2018 3:42 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Just to clarify what my mind was thinking of when I said convenience foods -- chips, ice cream, cookies, etc. Haha Octavia thought I meant actual meals! Guess that shows how far I still have to go in my own desire to eat healthy. Laughing
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PostPosted: Thu Aug 02, 2018 6:12 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you octavia, it is so lovely to meet people on here who just get it!
Linda, yes, exactly, I couldn’t have put it better than you did about the pressure of being thin right now.
Auto, haha, I thought you meant meals too haha. Yes, I don’t keep any Ss around during the week at the moment as it’s too much temptation.

Made it again yesterday but needed a homemade hot chocolate again (two spoons 100% organic cacao and 1/2 a teaspoon maple syrup) to get time through as I was very hungry after dinner. We are redoing our kitchen until Monday so meals are rushed and cold now. Not exactly how I like them on N days but it will be worth it.
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 03, 2018 8:27 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh dear, Fridays eh? I think I am just already in treat-mode/weekend mode. Also my husband was home today doing the kitchen with his brother and buying treats for them knowing I couldn’t have any was tough. Then I went to a cafe with amazing muffins to meet a friend but I had no reason to have one as I can just go back tomorrow. Just lots of temptation and a weird day due to the works going on. I did fill both my lunch and dinner plates properly and decided that a salad for dinner (no oven or hob or microwave currently) just wouldn’t do it so we had take out but all within the bounds of NoS and I am quite proud I made it.
These were unhelpful thought I had:
NoS consists of completely made up rules so eating something on a Friday won’t be that bad
Nothing bad will happen if I have some chocolate
A little nibble can’t hurt
I deserve a treat
It’s so hot (note this could be also cold, rainy, windy etc at other times) and a treat will help me cope
They (meaning the thin people who surround me) are also having a treat so I can too.

Now, all of the thought are kind of true but obviously they miss out the other side of the coin: I feel better on NoS. I would always have a “last day” syndrom even if I did it the opposite way where I ate “freely” 5 days a week and “orderly” 2 days - I’d still struggle on that last day as I just like to rebel a little. I deserve above all to feel good in my body and about my body which is better then instant satisfaction. I like being slightly hungry for meals. I like saving money as well as doing something kind for myself. I like the sociability of NoS. Friday is a work day. I can get all those treats TOMORROW. So there we go.

I made it and am very proud.
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 03, 2018 9:57 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hurray! And also -- nice job combating your self-talk!
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 03, 2018 11:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Woot! Great job identifying those thoughts and boy do they sound familiar. 🤔

Enjoy your treats tomorrow (if you still want them).
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PostPosted: Tue Aug 07, 2018 6:43 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you ladies!
I had a three day S weekend and was a bit of an idiot yesterday but ok the other days. N days come as a bit of a relief sometimes. I know exactly what happens - I panic with the thought of not being able to have things in the week on the S last day and then deprivation mindset sets in and I get stupid. But for now all I am doing is to notice that and focus on N days.
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Welcome to N Days!
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PostPosted: Tue Aug 07, 2018 5:24 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Great to hear you’ve had some successful N days, Tess! 🙂
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 08, 2018 3:35 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you ladies and spambot

I was very proud yesterday as it was DD1’s birthday party with her friends and I didn’t have the cake and just explained to the girls that I am being good during the week and already had a birthday cake as a special occasion on Monday (which was amazing) so this just didn’t qualify as I would end up eating some at three more occasions and they just accepted it and didn’t say any more about it. So yay!!! Had to have a big dinner as was hungry.
Today DD1 ate a quarter of my plate so I am hungry but just had a nap while she is at her grandma’s and it is just DD2 and me and thankfully DD2 is only 15weeks old so I can nap with her - now will have a decaf coffee and then it will be dinner time already!
Oh and we have the hob back and will get an oven tomorrow so that will be good too as finding it hard to make food without them. From experience here I can tell that salads for dinner are too advanced for me.
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I had a bizarrely huge dinner that actually put me off visually and still needed a hot chocolate to get me through last night and also was awake until 2am with an empty stomach. The thing is that I wasn’t massively hungry but I was full of energy. I often find that when dinners are of the lighter variety. If my system isn’t busy digesting I am full of beans and find it really hard to sleep. I assume my body will get used to it?
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Congrats on the birthday party successes! Don't you love it when you stick to your decision, anticipating possible push-back, and then people just respect your ability to say no? In this case, little girls? Smile

And I'm confused by your last post about the huge dinner but then full of energy? I guess you meant the huge dinner didn't look good to you so you barely ate anything?

Yeah, I would think that was an anomaly....but if I remember right, I had some things like that happen when I had newborns. I think we are already such extremely light sleepers at that stage that we can't sleep through mild hunger pains or something like that. At least, it's a guess. I always love to speculate! Wink
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 10, 2018 7:06 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you auto!
I meant that despite a huge dinner I still had an empty stomach and was awake for ages.
Today is not a great start. I have mastitis and need to get medicines for it but feeling so sad for myself (🙈) that I just want chocolate. It doesn’t help that there is no proper breakfast in the house as I forgot to make my overnight oats. Alas, I hope to make it through it. I know mastitis could be an S day but I don’t see why. My stomach is not affected whatsoever
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 10, 2018 3:31 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Oh that is such a bummer!!! I'm so sorry about the mastitis. Hang in there, rest as much as possible (no play dates, lol).
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PostPosted: Fri Aug 10, 2018 4:43 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Nope I have totally blown it. Nothing like a sick-day on the couch to get the Cookie Monster out in me. I guess mark it and move on!
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Ok so I am switching for today. I know there should be no funny switching business this early in the process but I am on holiday Monday-Monday so I won’t feel deprived
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So today is an N Day for you this week? Good luck.
Also, how is the mastitis? (That scourge of mothering!!)
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PostPosted: Sun Aug 12, 2018 6:45 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

eschano wrote:
Thank you auto!
I meant that despite a huge dinner I still had an empty stomach and was awake for ages.
Today is not a great start. I have mastitis and need to get medicines for it but feeling so sad for myself (🙈) that I just want chocolate. It doesn’t help that there is no proper breakfast in the house as I forgot to make my overnight oats. Alas, I hope to make it through it. I know mastitis could be an S day but I don’t see why. My stomach is not affected whatsoever


Hope you are starting to feel better and the kitchen gets sorted soon Smile

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Hi Eschano! Is your kitchen finished and are you healthy again?
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PostPosted: Wed Aug 22, 2018 6:50 am    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hello! I’m back from our vacation and had a successful N day yesterday. In fact I left some of my dinner as the portion - within NoS aka on a plate - was ridiculous. I loved our vacation and ate what I wanted but we also racked up lots of walked kilometers and I didn’t gain anything.

Thank you for asking - yes the kitchen is finished now except for a lick of paint and it is lovely. And yes, I am healthy again which is great! Apologies auto and soprano that I wasn’t in contact earlier as I was never really on the internet while away.
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I hope you had a great vacation! Traveling with an infant an a toddler....um....not the easiest!

And OMG no apologies needed -- we are all here to support each other, not to be an extra burden or obligation.
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Thank you, it was! Since coming back things have been crazy. DD1 started nursery and promptly made the whole family ill and I had one solid red week 🙈 just too busy with two ill kids and not feeling good myself either.
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PostPosted: Mon Sep 03, 2018 10:41 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi Tess, hope you are feeling better and that life is settling down a little bit. I bet your newest little one is getting to that ultra-adorable smiley stage. Smile
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PostPosted: Sun Oct 07, 2018 8:52 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you auto!
I’m back from holiday and tomorrow will be my first day back on NoS and I am dreading it haha! But I just have to get through the first weeks. I wish I had just kept it going at our first holidays as I never managed to get back into it but now we are staying put for quite some time so fingers crossed I’ll manage.
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Ha! I bet it won't be as bad as you fear. BTW, you are doing 4 meals/day, right -- while you are breast-feeding? I think that is a good idea. For me, while home with babies, eating broke up the monotony and cheered me up (what can I say, I'm not super maternal + I was so bored and tired). Perhaps young motherhood goes better for you, lol. I know it did for almost all of my friends than me, haha.
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Nope, you basically summed up my experience too 😂 I love my kids so much and feel so lucky and grateful to have them but I certainly find it boring at times at this point.
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Wow there is so much going on here and I had lots of excuses not to follow NoS - and it seems I took them all.
I’m on it again as of today as I am ballooning. I know it will be a real struggle in the first week but I just need to do it now. Every time I drop off the check in is when I stop doing it so I will try to keep on here. I am also aware the holidays are rushing my way and I cannot wait to take action until they are over.
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Maybe you can consider your check-in thread a 15 minute time for you to journal/vent about everything going on for you. I certainly know that's how I use it, and that seems to make it something I want to do regularly. As opposed to if I only talked about food. That would get old quickly. Smile
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It’s three hours into the first day and all I want to do is to stuff my face. We had 4 nightfeeds of the littlest one last night and a 5am wake up of the DD1 thanks to daylight saving.
When I am tired I find it especially hard to stay strong and not give into unlimited chocolate and other sugary treats.
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eschano wrote:
It’s three hours into the first day and all I want to do is to stuff my face. We had 4 nightfeeds of the littlest one last night and a 5am wake up of the DD1 thanks to daylight saving.
When I am tired I find it especially hard to stay strong and not give into unlimited chocolate and other sugary treats.


We are all rooting for you, use the habitcal Smile

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Thank you! I’m still only thinking of sugary food but it is early afternoon now and so far so good but I am definitely struggling
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Hang in there! I so know the siren call of carby foods when I am tired. It does provide a short term lift, but then I feel even more tired later.
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PostPosted: Mon Oct 29, 2018 5:40 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Hi Eschano! Dropping by to say hello and give you a big virtual hug. I'm exactly in the same place as you are, No-S- and motherhood-wise, so feel free to vent here and rest assured that some of us will read it with great interest. Auto's idea is fantastic, I might actually use it myself.
Fatigue is a real killer for me, too. Does coffee do anything for you when you're tired? Maybe some loud, energetic music?
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Thank you both!
Imogen, that’s good to know that someone else is in the same place 🙌.
Also that not everyone is bored reading this. I’m still breastfeeding so no caffeine for me but music is such a good idea - I massively underuse music.
I might just about have made it today. The next two days will be interesting too as I am hosting two Halloween play dates with plenty of treats so will be a bit of a test.
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I'm thinking you have a very healthy and active social life as a young mom! Go you! Although it comes with its own challenges, connection is almost always better than no-connection, ya know? Smile

Again, from the "long poster" herself, do NOT worry what anyone else thinks when they read your post (well, to be honest, I try to keep away from controversial topics on my thread, but other than that, I'm pretty transparent). Just don't feel you have to entertain us. When we are busy, we just won't read it all. LOL. I can't imagine anyone ever reads all my entries. My god, they wouldn't have time to brush their teeth! Remember - your thread is for YOU!
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PostPosted: Wed Oct 31, 2018 9:45 pm    Post subject: Reply with quote

Thank you auto!
I was lucky to meet a really good group in my antenatal classes and we see each other a lot, which is amazing for my health really except for the toddler sweets, ha!
I’m so proud as I made it through both days without any snacking or sweets or seconds although my plates were interestingly full so maybe the seconds could be debatable.
But so happy I made it this far and hoping for another two green days but taking it one meal at a time.
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It's amazing how those green day's add up when you take them one at a time. I'm always surprised how easy nos is once you've ingrained the habits. It takes time and effort to start with but pays off...

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I can’t wait to get there J. I’m still fighting for the habit to stick for now. I’m in all morning with DD2 so finding it hard especially with the sweets in the cupboard but so far so good.
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I hope your day with DD2 went great today. Good job to ignore those cupboards!
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I made it this week - yeah!
Not easily but I made it yay. Last time I had a brilliant start until I went on holiday. Part of that good start was me re-reading the NoS book so I’m just going to do this again now. I really want to get it properly. I don’t want to continue getting bigger and I would love to be a positive example for my girls. Here’s to a great and fulfilling S-Day weekend and hopefully another great week.
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Happy S Days! Just you being you - the wonderful person you are - is such a great gift that your girls have. Such a supportive, empathetic, patient, non-judgemental person you are! I bet you are a great listener for them and your hubby.
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Seeing yourself as an example can be very motivating. So is re-reading the book! I've just ordered my second copy (the previous one vanished, probably went to Germany with the friend I had lent it to, LOL). Congratulations on your successful week! You're my inspiration!
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I made it this week - yeah!
Not easily but I made it yay. Last time I had a brilliant start until I went on holiday. Part of that good start was me re-reading the NoS book so I’m just going to do this again now. I really want to get it properly. I don’t want to continue getting bigger and I would love to be a positive example for my girls. Here’s to a great and fulfilling S-Day weekend and hopefully another great week.


Congrats on a successful week Smile

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Yay so happy for you ! You got this!
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Good morning! I had a ridiculously heavy S weekend but am glad for it as I feel ready for the week. However, those Halloween chocolates in the house 🙈. Good luck everyone!
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A very heavy N day followed by another one. I’m having ridiculous portions but I feel like I have to to make it through the days at the moment so that is what I am doing.
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Pile those plates up as much as you need. It's only the first, habit-forming phase, there's still time to readjust portions later if you feel like it. Wishing you perfect compliance this week!
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Halloween is definitely a very challenging time of year! You're doing very well, and having 2 young kids really ups the difficulty level. Things will level off with the portions over time.
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Have a great week eschano - well, gosh, I guess it's almost Thursday for you. So...hoping this week has gone well.
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I have to get the candy out of my house. My boyfriend considers it Darwinian. He accused me of preying on the weak by bringing it to work. But meanwhile he is the one who overbought!
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Haha ladies! Preying on the weak.
Well, I didn’t make it. On Wednesday I had a fail and it wasn’t for the halloween candy - I actually went out and bought a treat 🙈
So that was out of tiredness which is my #1 reason for a fail for sure.
Then Thursday was a success and Friday would have been a success except DD1 got so ill with that we ended up in a&e for three hours in the middle of the night and I stuffed my face with chocolate there trying to be less nervous.
Then after two s days I haven’t managed to get back yet. DD1 is finally over it but DD2 is a handful now. I didn’t have big fails, not what the hell, but definite fails. Tomorrow is another day and I will try to keep today to the sweets I had.
Take away: tiredness and stress is a bad combo for my diet so I need to find other ways to comfort myself and get energy that are reasonable with two kiddos.
Any introvert mummies out there who know the struggle to find energy and found new things? I used to sit and read in a cafe and had long baths but neither is reasonable at the moment.
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Ah, Tess - I so understand how you feel. Parenting is such a long, tough road.

I do have a suggestion! It is not cheap, and it will take a commitment to self-care (ie being willing to leave the kids with someone else despite every fiber of your being resisting). Leave your husband with the kids and go to a hotel for a night. I did it 1-2 times a year, although I didn't start until my second son was 3. I wish I had started earlier. I know that in your case, the whole pumping and preparing to leave is probably insurmountable right NOW, but keep my suggestion in mind for when the time is right.

I would go to a hotel, BY MYSELF. I would do exactly what you said you like to do - read a book, take a bath, and I would also watch TV. I'd order in room service and I seriously didn't leave my hotel room. If that doesn't describe the need for peace & calm that introverts crave (and I'm not even a pure introvert!!), then I don't know what else would be a better description, lol. Sometimes I'd do a bit of crying, journaling about my life and what my priorities are, and praying. By the next day, when I checked out, I'd return home with this newfound sense of - I am grateful for my family, I can do this, and a commitment to continuing to take care of myself.

Summary to long soap-box speech - leave the children with others and go away. It takes a village. I think it (literally) drove me to the edge of sanity trying to raise my kids without family and friends chipping in to give me breaks.

As I reread your thread, I realize though my suggestion may not seem very helpful in the moment of temptation. But I guess what I'm trying to say is that we have to foster/nurture/plan ahead to care for ourselves so that WHEN then moment comes, we can dig down to that place where our care for ourselves knows it's best to forego the craving. You are in the trenches right now. It won't get any worse (fatigue wise) than where you are right now, if that helps. Rolling Eyes

Um, for immediate practical help, I still come back to keep your trigger foods completely out of the house. Throw them away on Monday morning. And then I always fell back on getting out of the house to go on a walk, or take the kids to one of those indoor play-places. You can sit and nurse little one while first kiddo romps like a maniac.

Lastly, I see no problem with you getting a delicious caffeine-filled latte about 2 or 3pm when you think you're going to collapse. Caffeine is not the end of the world for you or baby, and, over the years, I've found nothing better than milk to prevent having a red day. Seriously!
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