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Various events in my life recently have shown me that I really need to be more assertive. If I'm challenged, criticised or unfairly blamed I just take it quietly, and often let situations like this cause me to doubt myself and my abilities
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Friends & family have suggested I just go right ahead and confront whoever is bothering me, but they don't realise that this is like asking someone who has never exercised in their life to run a marathon! (also, I've tried this from time to time, only to have it backfire horribly in my face!).
It's kind of like Reinhard's "willpower muscles" analogy i.e. at the moment my assertiveness muscles are practically non existent, so I don't see how I can go from being the way I am to being a strong and confident character overnight - I'm thinking it needs regular small steps, but don't really know what these are.
I was just wondering if anyone has any "system" type ideas on how to do this in a healhty way? I'd love to hear your suggestions!
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Thanks in anticipation!!