Everyday Systems

lpearlmom

Hehe sorry Kookie I wasn't sure! You are definitely young at heart though and I guess that's what comes across! Besides from where this 45 yr old sits, 38 is looking pretty young to me!:)

lpearlmom

You guys are really inspiring me to give the bread making a try. How wonderful it be to be able to bring freshly baked loaves to friends!

Hope all is well okbyxmas!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay Clarebear I'm so happy NoS is working for you on so many levels. It's crazy how much our disordered eating effects us. Feeling constantly at odds with something so basic to our well being as eating, really tears apart at our self confidence. Kookie: I definitely don't think Reinhard had any clue...

lpearlmom

Hi Kookie! You're doing so great! Sorry about the cigs, but these things happen! Regular gin & tonic fine on an N day yes! For your situation Friday night I would probably just call it an S event just so you can relax & enjoy the night. I did that the other night when we had friends over for dinner ...

lpearlmom

JW that's funny! Maybe we should try to make that a new trend so we can really enjoy our Halloween S day! :) Green day-- no issues. Break: bran muffin, yogurt, fruit Lunch: salmon salad, toast, grapes Skinny mocha Dinner: cheeseburger, baked beans, garlic bread, juice Lotsa coffee & cream in between...

lpearlmom

So glad you're still hanging on Tessy. I think what Kookie said makes a lot of sense. Just do the best you can under the circumstances...

And know that we're all pulling for you.

*hugs* linda

lpearlmom

Just remember you don't have to be perfect. There's not one solution to this eating & exercising stuff. It's good to be flexible with your choices. Eggs may be good for some people but if that's not doing it for you maybe peanut butter on toast or turkey sausage or whatever sounds good & will carry ...

lpearlmom

Green day

Break: break burrito, yogurt, mocha
Lunch: 1/2 curry chicken sandwich , Asian salad, apple
Dinner: chicken pot pie , meatballs, tater tots, grapes, sangria (weird combo I know!)

Exercise: walked dogs

lpearlmom

Thanks for the support Tessy, clarebear & kookie! It feels so good to no longer be at the mercy of food, I never want to give that up. Kookie: love my sangria! It helps to sip it while I'm preparing dinner. I used to eat so much during prep that I was too full to enjoy dinner. Now I get to enjoy my ...

lpearlmom

You're a total inspiration. Thank you for sharing your experience. It's inspiring and helpful. The eating part is going well for me but I cannot figure out an exercise routine that I will enjoy/ stick to. I love the idea of yoga but not sure I have the patience for it. Maybe I'll give it a try thoug...

lpearlmom

Really great day food wise. My kids drove me to the edge of sanity but that's another story. My eating just flowed really well & plates felt well balanced. Definitely feels like it's becoming second nature although just last week I had a tough day so I'm sure I have a ways to go before this habit is...

lpearlmom

So awesome--you totally crack me up w/ your description. Definitely going to check that out.

Thanks!
Linda

lpearlmom

Ugh I had typed my last response last night & forgot to hit submit till this morning so it's a lil outdated! Sorry about today!! Remember weighing yourself on a Monday probably isn't a great idea. JW has a post about that recently. Could be lots of water weight from junk over the weekend etc. Also, ...

lpearlmom

Great job kookie! I have a really hard time finding sweets that satisfy me. Almost to the point that I just don't want them anymore. I almost always have dessert on Sunday nights though just because I can. I think I'm just worried that I'll regret it during the week if I don't. You're thinking is mu...

lpearlmom

Yay for Mondays! Great idea to have fruits & veggies on your plate but make sure you have other yummy stuff on there too. You don't want to feel deprived & have it backfire on you. I like having a big apple on my plate that I can eat last & make my meal linger a little longer. I'm really wanting to ...

lpearlmom

Glad you're feeling better & hope you have a great thanksgiving.

My DH keeps wanting me to make bread but, although I love to cook, have never been much of a baker. Sounds like you're enjoying it though so maybe I'll have to give it a try!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay Sinnie--you're doing great! Hope you had a wonderful Thanksgiving!

Linda

lpearlmom

Kookie I totally agree that freedom within structure is whats needed after so many years of disordered eating. I did years of restrictive dieting and when I couldn't take that any longer I tried intuitive eating. That was a little too much freedom and didn't work for me. Having the firm boundaries o...

lpearlmom

I totally get it Sinnie. I'd be annoyed with 7 lbs no matter what I weighed.

Sounds like yesterday went pretty well. Hope you have a great weekend!

Linda

lpearlmom

Just read your posts for the last couple of days & wanted to say I think you are doing great. Lots of progress & insight. Seems like you are quickly learning what works & what doesn't and making adjustments where needed. Isn't it great to be sensible & normal in terms of eating?? Really does builds ...

lpearlmom

Friday--green

Break: cereal w fruit, mocha
Lunch: cup of soup, bagel w cream cheese
Skinny mocha (wasn't too bad!)
Dinner: piece of short rib, lasagna, chips & guacamole, hummus & pita bread (was Starving at dinner but wasn't stuffed afterward so guess I needed it!)

lpearlmom

Hang in there! Seems to me that with other diets it gets harder to stick to it whereas with NoS it gets easier!

Linda

lpearlmom

Sinnie, I know it's all perspective but going by the numbers, it doesn't sound like you have much of a weight problem. It sounds like you are just really unhappy with your eating habits though so that's where sticking with NoS will be really helpful. Muffins seem perfectly reasonable for breakfast t...

lpearlmom

Thank you all so much!! I'm notorious for quitting things so sticking to this feels extra meaningful to me. Kookie, it kind of feels like going off NoS is simply not an option. I just kind of know ill figure out a way to get through that tough moment. I think I'm learning I need very firm boundaries...

lpearlmom

So frustrating! Isn't it great to not have to feel bad about your eating one top of the other stressful things you're dealing with at the moment?

*hugs* & feel better

lpearlmom

Well said okbyxmas. I am so sorry you had to lose someone close to you Tessy. It is so incredibly painful. I think, in the moment of your pain, sticking to some eating plan must seem pretty insignificant in light of what you're dealing with. In a way it is pretty insignificant so it's understandable...

lpearlmom

JW I can barely handle seeing my reflection in a glass door let alone my 3D, fully lit moving image! It's definitely not a myth that the camera adds weight & you don't even have the benefit of professional wardrobe & make up people not to mention professional cameramen trying to shoot you at flatter...

lpearlmom

Day 70! Green day but touch & go for a bit between lunch & dinner. I thought I ate a good lunch but I guess it wasn't quite enough. Anyway I kept thinking about my goal of 100 days & pushed through to dinner. *phew* As soon as I had dinner I was fine for the rest of the evening so it's good to know ...

lpearlmom

Sinnie I'm feeling really snack prone today too--something must be in the air! Just wondering if you need to add a 4th smaller plate in the evenings since you said you eat a pretty early dinner? Also with the pregnancy you might need to eat a little more often then the rest of us? Hopefully the hot ...

lpearlmom

Thank you Tessy!

Boy I am really struggling today. Really wanting to snack but the thought of going backward is just so unappealing that I know I will stick it out. An early dinner & a glass of wine should do the trick. Here's to pushing through the hard parts!!

lpearlmom

Yay my S event went well but not sure if this constitutes as a yellow or green day or maybe a striped yellow & green day? Anyway so glad I was able to do that as our friends lingered a long time and I was really able to enjoy the evening with them. Break: muffin, yogurt, apple, mocha Lunch: Thai noo...

lpearlmom

Thank you kookie! Yes sometimes I think it's just a matter of being ready! Definitely feel like I'm "riding that wave" as JW so aptly described.

I love that name "boarding school diet".

Linda

lpearlmom

Kookie, don't sweat the sweetness factor too much! It's really more about avoiding calorie dense, nutrient deficient foods like cake, candy etc. A lot of people have sugar in their coffee. I drink mochas because I just really can't live without them and they make it possible to stick to NoS. I may r...

lpearlmom

Thank you Tessy!! You always know how to put things in the most positive light. I hope you can do that for yourself at times as well. Today was a green day--yay! Was a little tricky because of the silly small lunch I had, but I got through it! Break: fried egg, toast, fruit, oj Mocha Lunch: 3 pieces...

lpearlmom

Awesome Kookie!! I wasn't sure of the best approach but sounds like you nailed it! So nice you can be social & stick to NOS!

lpearlmom

Great job clarebear!

lpearlmom

Tessy I just thought of one more idea that I got from the author Barbara Sher. When a goal seems overwhelming she recommends taking baby steps. Not normal baby steps but silly small steps that feel completely doable. So let's say somebody dreamt of writing a novel but the whole thing seemed so daunt...

lpearlmom

Sounds like you are being really thoughtful about this and I'm sure you'll find a good solution. It does take a bit of experimenting but you'll get there.

Yay for Mondays & the sanity they bring!

Linda

lpearlmom

Green day Was a pretty good day. Break: cereal, fruit, mocha Lunch: leftover Chinese food, crackers w spinach dip, huge apple Dinner: lasagna, bread, asparagus, sangria Exercise: walked dogs Was weird but today I did a search on my old NoS user name Drswife and barely recognized myself. I really str...

lpearlmom

Sorry ok! About the continued illnesses & the soda. I always feel badly when people say they took a red day for a soda since I drink mochas and don't consider them a fail, but I guess it's all about personalizing this plan for each of us.

Hope tomorrow is better.

Linda

lpearlmom

Hang in there Tessy. Mondays are always a little tricky. Back in the saddle & all that...

Linda

lpearlmom

Great idea JW! That'll work really well for the sweat outfit. Hopefully I'll get over my fear of mirrors one day!

lpearlmom

Seems like a good plan clarebear & I hope you feel better soon!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you JW! I hope that's it. It does seem like being able to eat non-stop is losing some of its charm.

Thanks eschano--I love that idea!

lpearlmom

Thanks for the advice Tessy. Yes I was definitely too tired to think straight. Luckily was a good weekend. :) Woke up early Saturday morning & shoved about five gummy bears in my mouth and then went back to sleep. After that there's not much to report. Very moderate weekend. So yay! Took my girls sh...

lpearlmom

Ack sorry about your posts--annoying! So funny about the stray cat.

my weakness is salty/savory stuff too so can relate. Give me chips & dip over cake any day!

Here's to Mondays & the return of sanity!

Linda

lpearlmom

Kookie, it is so normal for your S days to be crazy at first. It's not fun but all part of the process. They really will calm down eventually. It might be helpful to read through the stages posted as a sticky on the main discussion. Also if you read through other peoples threads you can see them str...

lpearlmom

Yep yep Tessy S days are finally starting to calm down for me. I really didn't think it would happen without some alternate plan but alas this weekend was very moderate so I'm starting to see it will be alright. Best of luck next week. You have 3 green ones under your belt so just keep going and you...

lpearlmom

Thrilled for you Tessy!!

lpearlmom

Yes was exhausting & fun Tessy! Today went fine food wise but just feeling grumpy & tired. Too much running around I guess. Feeling like gummy bears & chocolate for breakfast. Hmmm should be an interesting weekend. Break: peanut butter toast, yogurt, fruit, mocha Lunch: cup of soup, 1/2 chicken sand...

lpearlmom

Ack poor guy!! Soda doesn't seem to bad but I know disappointing.

Have fun at your wedding!!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay! What kind of cake??

All I can think about is the gummy bears that tempted me earlier in the week. So boring but oh well.

Enjoy your cake!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay! Happy birthday & congrats on seeing the scale move in a positive direction for ya!

Linda

lpearlmom

I agree Sinnie & Kat! I guess we have our own secret club of sorts then! :) Today was a green day. Very hungry due to Pms but just ate a little more at my meals. I couldn't do that on a regular diet. Then I'd probably just end up breaking my diet & binging. This is so much saner. Break: scrambled eg...

lpearlmom

You're doing so well Sinnie! All these little victories are really going to come together for you in a big way. I really admire your perseverance and wish I could have figured this out when I was your age. Would have saved me a lot of suffering!

Keep going!

Linda

lpearlmom

Sorry ok--how annoying!!just mark it and move on. Lesson learned & tomorrow will be better!

Linda

lpearlmom

Yay--Tessy! I think it's really important to pile those plates at first. I know I did but now I'm more relaxed about everything and my portions are quite reasonable. All part of the process.

Great job & good luck tomorrow!

Linda

lpearlmom

10 pretzel sticks is not bad. I think you're doing great!! Keep plugging away!

Linda

lpearlmom

Thank you guys for all the great support!! You guys are right. I've had this mocha habit since college. I was a size 6 then so yeah I think it's everything else that's the issue rather than the mochas. Definitely not going to weigh myself JW. It's all about how I feel & yeah those compliments defini...

lpearlmom

Happy birthday JW!!!

lpearlmom

Green day #62

Break: oatmeal w fruit & nuts, mocha
Lunch: pad Thai noodles, yogurt, piece of fruit
Another mocha
Dinner: miso soup, chicken curry w rice

Very reasonable day but I'm worried I'm going to have curb my drinks once my weight starts to plateau. Oh well cross that bridge later.

lpearlmom

Oh no JW I knew you meant weight but just wasn't sure what your starting point was! :) I potentially have 40-50 lbs to lose but am just going to trust my body to get to where it needs to be. Good clothes definitely help. I only have a few things I really love to wear but hopefully I can go shopping ...

lpearlmom

Hi clarebear I can relate. I still have shaky moments too. Today my daughters were eating gummy bears & they looked so good. Later they were having pigs in a blanket & they just smelled so good. The urge isn't overwhelming or anything but things definitely look or smell good throughout the day that ...

lpearlmom

Don't worry kookie, I was absolutely starving between meals at first but now I just get mildly hungry which is quite comfortable. The difference between this & other diets is that there's no set amount you have to eat. On days you are more hungry, you will naturally choose denser foods. I think our ...

lpearlmom

Yay--Tessy!!

lpearlmom

Oolala I totally understand your anxiety. That follow your dream stuff often ends up making me feel badly. Life doesn't always turn out how we think it should but it might still work out. I saw this quotation on Instagram today & thought of your struggle: "Sometimes the best dreams that come true in...

lpearlmom

Six months sounds about right oolala. I think you hit the nail on the head about not wanting anyone to rain on my parade. I'll wait till my confidence is less shaky. JW or it may be that I have more to lose so the difference is more obvious! Of course hubby hasn't noticed or at least hasn't mentione...

lpearlmom

Definitely a valid S day event! If you had known about it you probably would have declared it such anyway. The surprise part was the tricky part but you made an appropriate decision IMO.

So glad you're finally feeling better & that your little one is doing well!

Linda

lpearlmom

Welcome Ruthie! It's so hard being a mom with little ones. I don't know whats it's like to have three but I do have 2 that are two years apart. Those first few years were wonderful & incredibly difficult at the same time. My oldest didn't sleep through the night till she was three so I was waking up...

lpearlmom

Yep that definite makes sense oolala! Green day! Went to sushi for lunch w a friend and was the first time virtually plating. I was a little nervous but it was fine. I just love the safety of keeping everything on one plate I guess. My friend commented on how much thinner I looked and wanted to know...

lpearlmom

Green! Portions seemed pretty large but that's typical of a Monday. Break: fried egg, toast, 2 pieces of bacon, fruit, oj Mocha Lunch: Thai soup, yogurt, granola, fruit, nuts Dinner: pad Thai noodles w shrimp, stir fry veggies, glass of wine I was longing for seconds of my pad Thai noodles. I adore ...

lpearlmom

Yay!

lpearlmom

*hugs*

lpearlmom

Thank you oolala! I agree something immediate like not wanting to wake up feeling ill, is much more motivating than "well if I don't eat this I will maybe, hopefully lose weight sometime in a distant future". My clothes are definitely feeling looser, but not my main motivator right now. I just don't...

lpearlmom

Yay Clarebear! I didn't realize you had been all green as well! You are doing so wonderfully & really seem to be enjoying the process.

Keep up the good work!

Linda

(Btw my next goal is 100 days if you care to join me!)

lpearlmom

Not too bad for an S day. Lotsa nibbling but nothing extreme. I'm not going to bed feeling stuffed which was my main goal so I'm feeling good.

Yay for Mondays!!

lpearlmom

Wow you sure have a lot on your plate so to speak. I hope things calm down for you soon!

Linda

lpearlmom

Oh geez sorry it's still lingering!!! Those coughs can hang on what seems like forever sometimes. I hope next week things start to turn around for you! Good job managing green days despite it all!

Linda

lpearlmom

So glad your Sunday went well also Tessy!

Best of luck next week!

Linda

lpearlmom

Imogen I'm so sorry you are feeling unsupported, but definitely you have to do what works for you. I don't count calories but occasionally I'll check calorie content of items. If I'm between two things that seem equally appealing then I'll have the one w less calories (esp if it's significantly lowe...

lpearlmom

Thank you Tessy! I saw your S was good too so yay for us & virtual high five to you!

Oh yeah also saw two old friends & they both commented on how good I looked! Funny how they noticed but hubby remains clueless.

lpearlmom

Thank you JW & Tessy! Feeling much better today. Definitely enjoying the drop in temperature JW. A good S day finally! I just kept thinking that I didn't want to wake up feeling sick so kind of ate with that in the back of my mind all day. Break: French toast, mocha Normally (s day normal)I would ha...

lpearlmom

Sinnie--nobody is ready to give up on you so don't you dare give up on yourself!! We've all been there many many times or we wouldn't be on this board in the first place, right? I've struggled so so long with disordered eating, but something just finally clicked for me. I think I got to the point wh...

lpearlmom

Green day Break: 2 pieces of toast w pb, honey & bananas, mocha Lunch: bagel w cream cheese, cup of soup, another mocha Dinner: stir fry w udon noodles, veggies, beef & scallops, glass of wine Exercise: none Been feeling just slightly under the weather for several days. Just very lethargic, little a...

lpearlmom

Totally agree Imogen. My mother in law is one of those naturally thin people. She seems to eat pretty light most of the time but when we go out to dinner., she eats very heartily and thoroughly seems to enjoy her meal. Occasionally the food tastes so good that she'll eat to the point of being stuffe...

lpearlmom

Lol ok. I think you're allowed under the circumstances!

lpearlmom

Great Sinnie!! It's definitely not about the calories. You are just laying the foundation of habit right now. Once that is in place you can manipulate the what part (food/drink type) to fit your needs, wants & weight goals. The foundation will bring you great peace of mind & calm the chaos. Good for...

lpearlmom

Ugh! I really hope this clears up by tomorrow so you can enjoy your weekend! So hard being sick when you're trying to care for a little one!

lpearlmom

Welcome kookie! This is perfect for someone looking to get a handle on their disordered eating. After years of trying dieting, and later intuitive eating (didn't work for me either) I just wanted to make peace with food & my body. NoS has amazingly done that for me and even though losing weight wasn...

lpearlmom

Green Break: cereal, fruit, nuts, mocha Lunch: cup of soup, salmon burger, apple Dinner: grilled chicken sandwich, chili fries Daughter had choir performance so didn't eat till 730 (lunch was at noon). I was starving &still hungry after dinner but fine soon afterward. Exercise: took a very short walk

lpearlmom

Happy Birthday oolala!! I hope you have a wonderful day & that you're hunger is back as well!!

Thanks for all your inspiring words of wisdom!

lpearlmom

I'm so happy for you clarebear!

It's amazing how much this does for our emotional well-being. You are going to be such a great role model for your children one day. Maybe the next generation of kids will be able to have a healthy relationship with food. How great!

Linda

lpearlmom

Hang in there Imogen! Make sure you get lotsa yummy satisfying food for your meals so you're not feeling deprived between meals.

lpearlmom

Don't worry too much about it being too sweet at this point. Just get in the habit of not eating between meals & after that you can deal with types & amounts of drinks.

Good job with passing on the muffin!!

lpearlmom

Yay JW!! You're doing so well!!!

lpearlmom

Green Break: cereal, fruit, 1/2 break burrito, mocha Lunch: Cobb salad Another mocha Dinner: spaghetti & meatballs, salad, biscuits , glass of wine Exercise: none Good day. Had lunch w friend & my salad was much smaller than I expected and was also very lightly dressed. Also my friend only ate 1/2 h...

lpearlmom

Poor thing--hope you're fully recovered soon!

lpearlmom

Yay Ms. Tessy!!! And never worry that your high maintenance.

We all relate to what your going through in one way or another. I just really appreciate your honesty and your openness to all our suggestions.

Linda

lpearlmom

Great analogy JW! I didn't realize that was your first official red day. I would have felt rattled too!

I'm sure I'll have a red day at some point oolala. I just hope I bounce back as easily as you both!

lpearlmom

Thank you Tessy & jw! Oolala I think I'm kind of afraid if I have a red day, I will completely unravel and go back to my old way of eating. It's good to know I don't have to be perfect for this to work though. Green day Break: oatmeal, turkey bacon, fruit, mocha Lunch: veg stew w rice, chips & dip, ...

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