yesterday.. friday.. an "n" day
we had a little birthday party at work for one of my co-workers
my intent was to have a polite piece of cake when my schedule permitted
... which i did-- that part was fine
but
someone also brought in chips and dips which i ate all afternoon
i noshed from lunch to bedtime yesterday-- which i did not intend to do
and today i feel like i have a hangover
.. the rest of the week ( mon thru thurs ) was great, but yesterday sucked
i think, that for me for a while, i am going to need to eat 3 meals a day
ONLY... even on "s" days
.. but on "s" days i will eat richer, more fun food if i wnat it
it seems that if i ever break the 3 meal schedule, then i just loose control
have a great weekend, you all !!
XOXO
Donna O
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Hey Donna,
You're not the only person who's succummed to excessive workplace food. Oten people bring in cake, doughnuts, etc. for birthdays, promotions, and so forth. Used to be when I saw that, I'd just take as much as I want.. like 2 or 3 doughnuts. If this happened once in a blue moon, it wouldn't be a problem, but I work for a BIG company so this happens all the time.
I realized I had to draw the line somewhere. Some who are better disciplined than me would just abstain altogether. But for me, the best option is, if possible, to take some of the offending food home and save it for the weekend, when it's legal. The next best option is to have just one, and limit those occasions th the people/events I really care about. Example, I'd eat a doughnut a good friend brought in after being promoted, but some random person on another floor that I don't even know brings in doughnuts, I'll just avoid those.
You'll do better, it just takes work.
You're not the only person who's succummed to excessive workplace food. Oten people bring in cake, doughnuts, etc. for birthdays, promotions, and so forth. Used to be when I saw that, I'd just take as much as I want.. like 2 or 3 doughnuts. If this happened once in a blue moon, it wouldn't be a problem, but I work for a BIG company so this happens all the time.
I realized I had to draw the line somewhere. Some who are better disciplined than me would just abstain altogether. But for me, the best option is, if possible, to take some of the offending food home and save it for the weekend, when it's legal. The next best option is to have just one, and limit those occasions th the people/events I really care about. Example, I'd eat a doughnut a good friend brought in after being promoted, but some random person on another floor that I don't even know brings in doughnuts, I'll just avoid those.
You'll do better, it just takes work.
Before criticizing someone, you should try walking a mile in their shoes. Then you'll be a mile away and you'll have their shoes.
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Jammin' Jan
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Okay, so you messed up one day. Big deal. I don't think you should punish yourself by depriving yourself of s-day treats. Maybe for today, because you really don't feel so well. But beyond that, you might be setting yourself up for future failures because you feel deprived. Just learn a lesson from yesterday and start over. You're doing okay...really! We all go through this!
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gratefuldeb67
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Hi Donna!
I agree with Jammin Jan!
I gotta say you have to just take the good with the bad and try to learn from mistakes rather than condemn yourself and then "punish" yourself by taking a hardline attitude about S days..
That won't really change whether you are good during the week....
Just focus on that..
My first six months or so on NoS I had at least one or maybe two screw ups every week.. I still lost weight and didn't get psyched out...
Really.. Reserve your judgement and accept what happened.. Focus on the good four days you had and shoot for a good week next week!
The idea here is not to go to extremes... Mentally it's a real rollercoaster to say to oneself "I was great yesterday, and Thursday sucked"...
You don't need to do that every time your intentions and your actions don't match... You just made a mistake... Try not to think that way okay?
That is a very vicious negative cycle that doesn't serve any purpose except to put up more mental resistance and cause more despair every time a little bump comes up in the road...
Expect to make mistakes and embrace the whole learning process! It will get better with practice
You will succeed!
Good luck and please,,,,,,,
Enjoy your S days!!!
Peace and Love,
Deb
I agree with Jammin Jan!
I gotta say you have to just take the good with the bad and try to learn from mistakes rather than condemn yourself and then "punish" yourself by taking a hardline attitude about S days..
That won't really change whether you are good during the week....
Just focus on that..
My first six months or so on NoS I had at least one or maybe two screw ups every week.. I still lost weight and didn't get psyched out...
Really.. Reserve your judgement and accept what happened.. Focus on the good four days you had and shoot for a good week next week!
The idea here is not to go to extremes... Mentally it's a real rollercoaster to say to oneself "I was great yesterday, and Thursday sucked"...
You don't need to do that every time your intentions and your actions don't match... You just made a mistake... Try not to think that way okay?
That is a very vicious negative cycle that doesn't serve any purpose except to put up more mental resistance and cause more despair every time a little bump comes up in the road...
Expect to make mistakes and embrace the whole learning process! It will get better with practice
You will succeed!
Good luck and please,,,,,,,
Enjoy your S days!!!
Peace and Love,
DebThere is no Wisdom greater than Kindness
so wonderful i could cry
you guys are so wonderful that i could just cry !!
thanks for the endless support and good advice
i feel so hopeful after i read your comments and listen to your successes
.. i am planning a special " s" day treat
going to the book store , browsing for a few hours and having
a piece of cheesecake
navin... thanks for the tip about workplace goodies-- it seems that we have something every week !! it is really hard to know what to do !
you advice is very clever
XOXO
Donna O
thanks for the endless support and good advice
i feel so hopeful after i read your comments and listen to your successes
.. i am planning a special " s" day treat
going to the book store , browsing for a few hours and having
a piece of cheesecake
navin... thanks for the tip about workplace goodies-- it seems that we have something every week !! it is really hard to know what to do !
you advice is very clever
XOXO
Donna O
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Hi Donna,
I also have thought in the past that I too would be more successful with this program if I just had 3 meals a day period, even on S-days. I think that at some point I actually might implement this just because I have found that I enjoy eating more when it's only 3 times a day. That way I sit down and enjoy it and then continue on with my day and don't let eating and thoughts like what am I going to eat next, or what would I love to eat now consume my time like they used to. Eating 3 times a day is a real pleasure to me because I look forward to it. Snacking seems to throw me off both mentally and physically. Also I generally have 5-6 hours between my meals now which has become more and more doable surprisingly quickly. I used to eat every 2.5-3 hours. What a difference this has made in terms of real concrete time that I have now to do other things.
Something else that I've discovered recently is just simply that it's ok to be hungry. It's normal and natural and nothing to be scared of. This was quite a revelation for me because I realized that I hardly ever really felt hunger because I was basically eating all the time and that I was in reality uncomfortable with feeling it. Have you had any experience with this yet?
As far as your mistake, well that's all it was a mistake, they're normal and part of being human so just like everyone else said, don't let it get you off track.
One of my favorite favorite quotes from the No-S diet homepage:
"What if I screw up?
--Say "I screwed up" and try not to do it again. Don't try to compensate for your screw up by extra deprivations -- self-revenge will only make you resentful and that much more likely to quit altogether. This diet isn't about perfection, it's about staying healthy. It's about what you do most of the time, not about achieving some kind of world's record. "
The thing that really is undoing and destructive to your progress mentally and physically is not the extra piece of ______ eat, it's the 3 day binge that follows it because of the guilt you felt over your mistake. This is as Deb said about stopping and breaking that vicious cycle of guilt and negativity. This is a life plan for eating and within a life plan there is room for mistakes because a life plan for eating is not about perfection, it's about progress.
Keep us updated on what's happening. Your bookstore treat sounds wonderful. That's what I plan to do too at some point because I adore bookstores.
I also have thought in the past that I too would be more successful with this program if I just had 3 meals a day period, even on S-days. I think that at some point I actually might implement this just because I have found that I enjoy eating more when it's only 3 times a day. That way I sit down and enjoy it and then continue on with my day and don't let eating and thoughts like what am I going to eat next, or what would I love to eat now consume my time like they used to. Eating 3 times a day is a real pleasure to me because I look forward to it. Snacking seems to throw me off both mentally and physically. Also I generally have 5-6 hours between my meals now which has become more and more doable surprisingly quickly. I used to eat every 2.5-3 hours. What a difference this has made in terms of real concrete time that I have now to do other things.
Something else that I've discovered recently is just simply that it's ok to be hungry. It's normal and natural and nothing to be scared of. This was quite a revelation for me because I realized that I hardly ever really felt hunger because I was basically eating all the time and that I was in reality uncomfortable with feeling it. Have you had any experience with this yet?
As far as your mistake, well that's all it was a mistake, they're normal and part of being human so just like everyone else said, don't let it get you off track.
One of my favorite favorite quotes from the No-S diet homepage:
"What if I screw up?
--Say "I screwed up" and try not to do it again. Don't try to compensate for your screw up by extra deprivations -- self-revenge will only make you resentful and that much more likely to quit altogether. This diet isn't about perfection, it's about staying healthy. It's about what you do most of the time, not about achieving some kind of world's record. "
The thing that really is undoing and destructive to your progress mentally and physically is not the extra piece of ______ eat, it's the 3 day binge that follows it because of the guilt you felt over your mistake. This is as Deb said about stopping and breaking that vicious cycle of guilt and negativity. This is a life plan for eating and within a life plan there is room for mistakes because a life plan for eating is not about perfection, it's about progress.
Keep us updated on what's happening. Your bookstore treat sounds wonderful. That's what I plan to do too at some point because I adore bookstores.
"There is no such thing as a bad choice, there is only the next choice"