Counting carbs/calories is a drag. Obsessive scale stepping is a recipe for despair. If you want to count something, "days on habit" is a much better metric. Checking off days on a calendar would do just fine, but if you do it here you get accountability and support. Here's how. Start a new topic in this forum called (say) "Your Name Daily Check In." Then every N day post a "reply" to that topic as to whether you stayed on habit. A simple "<font color="green">SUCCESS</font>" or "<font color="red">FAILURE</font>" (or your preferred euphemism if that's too harsh) is sufficient, but obviously you're welcome to write more if you want. On S-days just register that you're taking an S-day. You don't have to do this forever, just until you're confident you've built the habit. Feel free to check in weekly or monthly or sporadically instead of daily. Feel free also to track other habits besides No-s (I'm keeping this forum under No-s because that's what the vast majority are using it for). See also my <a href="/habitcal/">HabitCal</a> tool for another more formal (and perhaps complementary) way to track habits.
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Ellis
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by Ellis » Sun Aug 17, 2025 2:50 pm
Soprano, thank you!
Amy, Thanks. It does feel like this is my new way of eating. I think I've build a great foundation over the years with mods, but even though they didn't work out it did give me a good no-S training haha.
So yesterday was a pretty excessive S-day and I felt so full that I didn't have any desire to snack or have some sweets today. I wasn't planning to go for one S-day, but I think feeling this way after an S-day is a good opportunity to try it out.
SW: 65.8 kg CW: 64.6 kg - GW: 59.9 kg
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Amy3010
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by Amy3010 » Sun Aug 24, 2025 6:10 am
An accidental green day on an S-day - this is the kind of progress that is easy to ignore, but in my opinion, this shows the habits are starting to be really ingrained. Nothing wrong with that!
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Ellis
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by Ellis » Sun Aug 24, 2025 9:01 am
Well, it's not going great. I am going to te gym for 2 months now, and nothing changed, at first I thought my jeans fitted better, but it's not, I didn't lose any cm's. My weight is heavier than ever, and I am just at a loss. I changed no-S again from 2 S-days to 1 and I am still not losing weight. I am at a loss. It feels like I wasted all that time... and I feel so depressed about it. I just don't know what to do. Counting calories makes me so miserable and obsessive, I will go straight back to binging. I just want to see some progress, even if it's just a tiny bit. But there is none, my weight is going up. I feel like I will be this weight (which is way too high for my frame) forever and will be miserable forever.
Any suggestions? I can use all the tips I can get!
SW: 65.8 kg CW: 64.6 kg - GW: 59.9 kg
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Amy3010
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by Amy3010 » Mon Aug 25, 2025 5:21 am
Hi Ellis - I hear your frustration and I understand feeling down and depressed about having tried everything and nothing seems to work.
When I am in this place, I ask myself what the alternatives are. Just give up trying and eat whatever I want? Further restrictions? Continue on this path of moderation? It's natural to feel like giving up when nothing seems to work, or to want to massively restrict (only to know it will make me crash and end up bingeing). But then I remind myself that I won't be happy with these alternatives, either.
When you are so close to your goal weight (I am in the same boat as you are) it can be incredibly frustrating. But you just have to keep thinking about how good it is that you are so close, and also that with your current habits, you are staying relatively stable. Then you might look at what little tweaks you can make to gently nudge yourself in the right direction. That could be what type of foods you put on your plates, the amounts, or other little things. I know you have the added worry of your blood sugars, but these can really be small things. For example, can you fill half your plate with salad and veg, and eliminate something higher in calories?
Think of it this way: your current eating habits support your current weight. You are very close to your goal weight, so you should not have to take massive action: your habits have gotten you this far, and now you just need to continue to adjust them to get to your goal and maintain there. I see it as a constant work in progress. I know it's frustrating but hang in there!