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Counting carbs/calories is a drag. Obsessive scale stepping is a recipe for despair. If you want to count something, "days on habit" is a much better metric. Checking off days on a calendar would do just fine, but if you do it here you get accountability and support. Here's how. Start a new topic in this forum called (say) "Your Name Daily Check In." Then every N day post a "reply" to that topic as to whether you stayed on habit. A simple "<font color="green">SUCCESS</font>" or "<font color="red">FAILURE</font>" (or your preferred euphemism if that's too harsh) is sufficient, but obviously you're welcome to write more if you want. On S-days just register that you're taking an S-day. You don't have to do this forever, just until you're confident you've built the habit. Feel free to check in weekly or monthly or sporadically instead of daily. Feel free also to track other habits besides No-s (I'm keeping this forum under No-s because that's what the vast majority are using it for). See also my <a href="/habitcal/">HabitCal</a> tool for another more formal (and perhaps complementary) way to track habits.

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Post by Soprano » Tue Dec 11, 2018 5:48 am

I start a new job in the new year and have been spending a day a week at the new place. Today one of my new colleagues brought mince pies in for the office. I didn't really want one but it was such a nice gesture I didn't want to refuse.

It didn't derail me. I do think I'm over eating slightly at the moment though.

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Post by eschano » Tue Dec 11, 2018 9:15 pm

Congrats on the new job!
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Post by Soprano » Tue Dec 11, 2018 10:11 pm

esnchano wrote:Congrats on the new job!
Thank you

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Post by automatedeating » Wed Dec 12, 2018 1:24 am

Sounds exciting, but change can be stressful!
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Post by Soprano » Wed Dec 12, 2018 7:13 am

automatedeating wrote:Sounds exciting, but change can be stressful!
It certainly can :) but staying where I am was causing me stress and unhappiness. I've been working at the new place one day a week and whilst it has a lot more challenges the team are supportive and understand the issues.

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Post by oolala53 » Thu Dec 13, 2018 1:20 am

Congratulations on what sounds like a better atmosphere. Let’s hope the pies are a holiday thing.
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Post by Soprano » Thu Dec 13, 2018 5:06 am

oolala53 wrote:Congratulations on what sounds like a better atmosphere. Let’s hope the pies are a holiday thing.
I think they were, if not I'll have to find a way to politely decline :)

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Post by Octavia » Tue Dec 18, 2018 12:26 am

You were certainly right to have the mince pie, I think. It was a pie of importance! Bonding with a new colleague. I’m sure Reinhardt would have had the pie. :)

If they offer more pies....well you can cross that bridge when you come to it...
Just don’t do what I’ve been doing, with one very kind ‘feeder’ friend. She gives me chocolate biscuits and I hide them in my handbag, then forget about them. This is very bad when combined with my other habit, keeping a bottle of water with a loose lid in my handbag. A while ago I found my keys encrusted in a sort of pastry.
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Anyway, I’m delighted to hear about your new post, and wish you all the best! They are lucky to have you.

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Post by Soprano » Tue Dec 18, 2018 5:41 am

Thank you, sorry to hear about your handbag! Though it did make me smile :)

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Post by Soprano » Thu Dec 27, 2018 8:44 am

It's been a stressful few weeks in the run up towards Christmas, I have served my notice period at work, had a family meal where my 21 year old nephew announced his girlfriend is pregnant, not planned and my sister turned on me over something and nothing.

Whilst I was in the wrong for which I immediately apologised, her reaction was way over the top and very upsetting when I consider all I did this year to support her through her second divorce. She was determined to have a fight over it. Hey ho we live and learn.

My eating has had little structure but I'm not too worried but I think I'll make an effort for a nos day today.

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Post by lpearlmom » Thu Dec 27, 2018 4:50 pm

Oh boy, I’m so sorry you’re having a stressful time. Sounds like your sister is trying to take out her frustrations on you. I hope she rethinks her reaction and appreciates all you e done for her. But if not make sure you take care of you.

Ps thanks for all your support on my thread & hope today goes well for you. 💜
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Post by automatedeating » Thu Dec 27, 2018 11:44 pm

I know this is Soprano's thread, but the Octavia "pastry key" story had me laugh out loud!

Ugh about the sister stuff. It sounds like you, very wisely, understand that her reaction is all about her, really, and not about you.

My eating has been breaking records this week and I'm sort of stumbling my way back to structure myself today - here's to both of us finding moderation today and tomorrow.
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Post by Soprano » Fri Dec 28, 2018 7:43 am

Thanks for the support ladies, it is really appreciated

I didn't quite manage a full nos day but ate significantly less and I was hungry when I did eat.

I skipped breakfast as I wasn't hungry.

My son bought me lunch whilst we were shopping and as a treat included a cake without asking so I ate half out of politeness.

As dinner was going to be late the family had something to eat at 4 but again as I wasn't hungry I abstained. When we did eat it was buffet style and I was relaxed about the plate but no sweet stuff :)

Let's try again today


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Post by Octavia » Fri Dec 28, 2018 7:45 pm

Sounds like you’ve had a good day, Soprano. I too have managed to be moderate today. It’s time, isn’t it? The N days call. And yet, we approach the weekend. A little challenge for us all. I’m hoping to do without sweets and snacks - for once I don’t need to release of the weekend. But we shall see.

Sorry to hear about your sister getting on to you like that. So upsetting.

Btw, I have a new handbag... :lol:

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Post by Soprano » Fri Dec 28, 2018 8:22 pm

Great news re the handbag, can't have too many. :)

I think I'll be happy if I càn cut the snacking over the weekend!

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Post by Soprano » Sat Jan 05, 2019 7:42 am

Happy New Nos year everyone and thanks for your support last year.

I'm not sure I'm entirely back in the Nos groove yet and haven't stepped on the scales, I'll save that joy for Friday!

I started my new job which I'm sure I will love but am feeling very stressed and overwhelmed by all that needs doing. This is affecting my sleep but hopefully things will settle down.

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Post by automatedeating » Sat Jan 05, 2019 4:06 pm

Hugs, Soprano. Starting a new job - sheesh - big life stressor.
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Post by Soprano » Sat Jan 05, 2019 6:23 pm

automatedeating wrote:Hugs, Soprano. Starting a new job - sheesh - big life stressor.
Thank you auto :)

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Post by oolala53 » Sun Jan 06, 2019 1:42 am

Happy New Year and new job, Soprano. What kind of work do you do?

You'll find your No S groove again. Just keep going.
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Post by Soprano » Sun Jan 06, 2019 7:08 am

Thanks oolala, I'm a finance manager in a hospice.

Yesterday was a typical S day, breakfast, piece of cake late afternoon and dinner which was 2 courses with a couple of chocs :)


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Post by Soprano » Fri Jan 11, 2019 5:35 am

I weighed today and from my lowest weight in November I've gained just under 2lbs. My scales weigh down to a 10th of a pound :)

I'm pleased with that as I did throw the nos rules out if the window for the latter half of December until after New year.

I ate more sweet stuff than normal but not in a binge like fashion. Most days were 2 or 3 meals of normal portions except Christmas dinner. But often 2 courses.

Back to normal now!

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Post by oolala53 » Fri Jan 11, 2019 6:34 am

Good going.
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Post by automatedeating » Fri Jan 11, 2019 2:50 pm

And the holiday "weigh-in" is officially behind you - so happy for you to have pretty much maintained over the holidays.
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Post by DellaBea » Fri Jan 11, 2019 4:33 pm

That that after holiday weigh in is very intimidating! Glad you got it over with!
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Post by Soprano » Fri Jan 18, 2019 4:55 am

Still not got back to full nos and last weekend was a bit ott with sweet things. Managed another week of no alcohol Mon to Thursday so pleased with that. Weight today had stayed the same. Another win all things considered.

Quite a lot of stress with new job but I'm really enjoying it and I am managing my yoga twice a week.

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Post by oolala53 » Sun Jan 20, 2019 6:16 pm

Progress for sure. Thumbs up!
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Post by automatedeating » Sun Jan 20, 2019 7:52 pm

That's great news about the alcohol free days AND the yoga! Wonderful!
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Post by Octavia » Mon Jan 21, 2019 11:40 pm

Great to hear that you’re enjoying the new job! :)

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Post by Soprano » Sat Jan 26, 2019 12:30 am

1/2 lb off this week which was pleasing. Two yoga sessions and just one alcohol slip, had a hot chocolate one night and slipped a baileys in it.....

I did have a couple of sweet things as part of my meals this week. Not fully in nos habits but all under control and moderate.

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Post by lpearlmom » Sat Jan 26, 2019 10:11 pm

Glad the job is going well and that youre still able to fit in some yoga time. Great job with the alcohol and 1/2 lb loss!
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Post by Soprano » Sun Jan 27, 2019 11:19 am

lpearlmom wrote:Glad the job is going well and that youre still able to fit in some yoga time. Great job with the alcohol and 1/2 lb loss!
Thanks Linda :)

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Post by Soprano » Mon Feb 11, 2019 9:16 pm

I do seem to be struggling to get back fully to NOs. But today has been and will remain green
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Post by automatedeating » Tue Feb 12, 2019 3:29 am

Boy do I know that feeling. We've had crazy snow here and I am so out of my routine!
It makes normal boundaries harder than normal.....ya know?
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Post by Soprano » Tue Feb 12, 2019 5:31 am

Routine really helps, so yes I understand once it's upset things can change and new ones need establishing.. hope yours settles soon

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Post by Soprano » Thu Feb 21, 2019 12:48 pm

4 days of green, it finally felt like something has slotted back into place. Scales are heading down again too, feeling happy :)

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Post by automatedeating » Thu Feb 21, 2019 4:32 pm

Very good to hear!
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Post by lpearlmom » Fri Feb 22, 2019 5:32 am

Yay!
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