Merry,
I guess the question is why do you want to have those Tuesdays be S days? Is it just OUTRAGEOUSLY DELICIOUS food or are you self-conscious about declining? If you are self-conscious about declining you could look at it as an opportunity to build you're "no thank you, I am not hungry" muscles
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being a bible study, it would be hard to understand them urging you on to one of the seven deadly sins of gluttony ... hahahhahhaha
but if the food is just SO GOOD then you could use NWS days (non weekend special days) Reinhard suggests an average of two per month and personally I prefer to use for birthdays, holidays etc., so you would have to allot with some thoughtfulness, OR as you considered switching your S days.
I think the bottom line you are addressing here is WHEN DO WE SAY NO? Because the bottom line is that to lose weight and maintain it in the long run, we each have to say NO more than we are doing when we started NO S.
There does seem to be an idea and I am not addressing you individually Merry, this is in general, but there seems to be this idea that if we ever decline sweets that is just what? Not acceptable. Every "naturally thin" person I know never says YES to Sweets ALL OF THE TIME .... I think there is that self-conscious thing ... if we say no maybe people will think -god forbid - we are on a diet
Saying NO to food when I don't want it or need it has become part of my life, I find that the people who have issues with me saying NO usually have a ton of issues about food and weight themselves and I just don't worry too much about it.
Finally, I have learned that the less of an issue I make about not partaking the less of an issue other's make about my not partaking.
Things I keep in my hip pocket for such an occasion ...
No thank you
No thank you I am full
No thank you I am not hungry right now
No thank you maybe later (it is amazing how many people forget later)
No thank you my stomach hurts.
No thank you my stomach is a little bit upset right now.
No thank you, sweets give me headaches.
It looks delicious but I am full.
No thank you (then quickly refocus the conversation)
No thank you (then quickly change the subject)
No thank you, how have you been? (People would much prefer to talk about themselves rather than what I am or am not eating
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I just had a huge dinner and I can't get in another bite.
Would you mind if I take some home for later?
No thank you chocolate gives me headaches.
No thank you chocolate gives me heartburn.
No thank you sweets give me heartburn.
No thank you when I eat sweets too late at night i can't sleep.
Whatever comes out in the moment, I just try to keep it short and sweet and as innocuous as possible ....
Blueskighs