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Counting carbs/calories is a drag. Obsessive scale stepping is a recipe for despair. If you want to count something, "days on habit" is a much better metric. Checking off days on a calendar would do just fine, but if you do it here you get accountability and support. Here's how. Start a new topic in this forum called (say) "Your Name Daily Check In." Then every N day post a "reply" to that topic as to whether you stayed on habit. A simple "<font color="green">SUCCESS</font>" or "<font color="red">FAILURE</font>" (or your preferred euphemism if that's too harsh) is sufficient, but obviously you're welcome to write more if you want. On S-days just register that you're taking an S-day. You don't have to do this forever, just until you're confident you've built the habit. Feel free to check in weekly or monthly or sporadically instead of daily. Feel free also to track other habits besides No-s (I'm keeping this forum under No-s because that's what the vast majority are using it for). See also my <a href="/habitcal/">HabitCal</a> tool for another more formal (and perhaps complementary) way to track habits.

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Post by automatedeating » Sat Jan 12, 2019 3:15 pm

I just bought a $30 scale that supposedly has an app that records body fat for me. The reviews were good but the price seemed too good to be true. We'll see!
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Post by oolala53 » Sun Jan 13, 2019 8:51 am

It records it without telling you?

There wouldn't be much fluctuation on a daily basis on body fat. If your scale shows much, it's not accurate. A deficit of 100 calories would burn up only the space of one tablespoon of fat on the body. That couldn't account for much of a percent. But it is interesting to have it. Mine is off by about 8%. It's too high! But I know it so I don't freak. It's very hard to affect so I ended up just going by weight, even though fat loss is ideal.

I had decided to stop eating after an afternoon event left me very full around 4 p.m. Then i went to another one where they had snacks out. not especially good ones, but I found myself looking them over. I knew I'd be sorry if I had any, and now I'm not sorry. I'm NEVER sorry I didn't eat!

Going to an Indian cooking class tomorrow. I never actually make any of the recipes, but I enjoy the class and the food. I feel like it I would need to practice before I make any of the foods for other people and they are so much work, I can't see practicing! but I want to learn to make some surefire potluck dishes, not that I get invited to them often. I tend to hang out with vegetarians, many of whom don't eat much dairy, either. Maybe tomorrow will have candidate foods. I know one thing. I'll be full when I leave. I often don't have dinner after the class. The teacher has a friend who invented a machine that makes chapati and oh, are they good! Fresh and hot! But they aren't served with every dish. We'll see about tomorrow.
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Post by automatedeating » Sun Jan 13, 2019 3:23 pm

I'm definitely looking for long-term trends on my body fat composition. I dearly wish I had bought this this a year ago. Oh, well. So you have one that does that? And it is off by 8% (too high)? How do you get your more accurate reading done? Is it by calipers or in a water tank or something? In college I did the water tank. That was fun.

Unfortunately, the scale does show the weight/pounds, although I suppose you could just not look down? Just stand there for 10 seconds and all the data is sent via bluetooth to my phone, so I don't see it. You would have to open the app on your phone to see your numbers. It collects all the trendlines for me. I just literally got it last night, so still learning.
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Post by oolala53 » Sun Jan 13, 2019 6:32 pm

I go to a service in San Diego that has a mobile unit that does DEXA scans. The past couple of years, they've come periodically and parked outside a gym that's about a 7-minute drive from my house. It's a little pricey but I have no progeny and no real desire lo leave a legacy! I go once a year. I try to time it about a week after my spring regeneration round of eating.

If had the scale and app you talk about, I guess at some point I'd have to look at the data or why have it?

Last year, I learned that surprisingly since I had done no consistent exercise that I had lost some percentage of body fat, mostly around my middle and gained some muscle. Go figure. I'm almost afraid to go this year because I have been even more of a slug. But it's not personal! Is my mantra. I'm not even sure why I do it, though it does include a bone density reading that was also good news. I say every year, wow, THIS year I'll get serious about exercise and see how that affects things and then I sit on the couch.
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Post by sharon227 » Tue Jan 15, 2019 5:49 pm

I think if you make healthy eating choices - less refined carbs specifically - you may lower your overall body fat. So I've read. (Which would help explain why my body fat composition is very high even though I exercise almost daily and my BMI has never been above normal.)

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Post by oolala53 » Tue Jan 15, 2019 8:53 pm

You're right, Sharon, though I've been at this for nine years and probably eat a lot fewer refined carbs than most over the course of a year. (I'm going through a phase of eating more lately because of some other changes I'm making and I don't want to put too many clamps on my eating.) I'm actually not trying specifically to lower my body fat or even my weight, though I don't complain when it goes down! I know that sounds paradoxical since I do get the scans but it's mostly because I wanted to see how my muscle is doing as I age. Also paradoxical since I do so little about it consistently. Another of our inanities in life? I guess I think eventually the discrepancy will kick in and I'll do something different with regards to exercise. But it doesn't have to change my body composition for me to think it is successful, just as my eating can be successful for me even if I don't lose weight. I'm not willing to do much more than I am for any reason besides just finding a routine that fits my hunger/satisfaction/pleasure criteria. Vanilla worked for years but hasn't for awhile, so I experiment. I don't go into a lot of details here, or I go into fewer then there are because- well, just because. I'm actually trying to get less caught up in it all, though having retired in the last few weeks has sent me back here and to Spark. More fun than the stuff I should be doing! Or just part of the old obsession.

I don't recommend at all relying on eating completely for weight loss even though that's all I've done to get to where I am. I don't think I'd be a lot leaner, but I'd probably carry a few more pounds than I do and it gets more important as I age. Not to mention that I'd be stronger and probably have better balance, also an issue for aging.

I'm going to go make my decaf au lait and lift a few weights!
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Post by sharon227 » Wed Jan 16, 2019 1:33 am

Exercise is great for my general physical and mental health. I do it to feel good, physically and mentally, and don't think about whether it helps or doesn't help my weight loss/maintenance. Geez, I really ought to think about my eating the same way. I'm not obsessed about exercising the way I am about food. Definitely worth a mind re-set!

Finding a routine that fits your hunger/satisfaction/pleasure criteria sounds very wise. I guess I'm still working on something like that without realizing it. A very useful way to look at it, thank you!

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Post by Soprano » Wed Jan 16, 2019 5:44 am

I'd recommend yoga as a good exercise it has physical and mental benefits.

Last year I followed my half hour video very sporadically, this year I'm trying to commit to twice a week as there are so many benefits.


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Post by oolala53 » Wed Jan 16, 2019 6:39 am

Yoga is a maybe. I actually taught yoga decades ago! I was never very limber but I knew the details of basic poses very well and they needed someone at a small center. It didn't actually do for me what I hoped, but it's still a good movement system. First priority is working up to 14 minutes of vigor similar to intensity of Shovelglove but without the hammer. I have too much equipment to buy anything! I'll aim at bodyweight exercises, weights, and rope jumping. Then walking. Will probably throw some yoga in, too, espec. for hips.

Felt too full in the afternoon even though I didn't take in that much food. Oh, well. I felt good most of the evening, though, and now good before bed.

I was going to say that I I might start tracking food just to see but I'm going to wait until February. January is just about having breakfast not earlier than 10.
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Post by oolala53 » Thu Jan 17, 2019 7:02 am

I was kind of wishing for something like that, but I'd actually be more likely to get rid of the scale at all before I'd buy a new one. Well, I do it only a few times a year, so I guess I need to just put up with it.

And I think I forgot this morning.
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Post by oolala53 » Tue Jan 22, 2019 9:24 pm

My weight is up about 3 lbs. from last year, which given the previous six months, is fine. I don't know if it will ever go back down. I think this is a pretty doable and natural range, though I sometimes wonder if it should be higher. I do have food thoughts a lot, but I still think that's because of deficits in other areas that remain unresolved.

And I had a weird fail last night in that I completely forgot that I had told myself no sweets this month. I got a wild hair that I really wanted ice cream which I rarely have and that it would be okay. I bought some, ate what I wanted, and washed the rest down the drain. Then I remembered today that I was aiming for no sweets this month because of my hip issue. Maybe it's was subconscious because that issue seems unaffected? Who knows. I just know it has actually saved me several times from being stupid about sweets to have the prohibition in place.
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Post by oolala53 » Sat Jan 26, 2019 5:54 pm

I've been eating breakfast later for nearly a month and it is not getting any easier. I wish wish wish I could sleep in. Today I woke up around 3:30 and never completely went back to sleep. Even if I wake up later, I want something right away even though I am never one bit hungry. I just want it. But I don't feel great when I have something, either. Sigh. First world problem.

I am considering tracking my food just to see if I can see anything that might affect this ongoing issue. It's possible I'm just not going to feel as good as I used to as often and I will have to deal with it, just as people with other chronic issues.

I actually have my whole house fan on to bring WARM air into the house. I've thought of moving to northern California but dealing with this cold (it's all relative!) has been a drag and has made the fantasy fizzle a little. However, I know it's mostly because of the space heaters. I would make sure I had a better system if I lived where it got colder more often. I remember at UC Santa Cruz they had heating in the floor and it was great. Not that would I get that installed. Just something more efficient. I won't say much more because I talk a lot and then don't take action...

I don't know if I'll keep it up, but here goes.

1st meal. About a cup of pad thai noodles, a carrot, two scrambled eggs, coffee with creamer, a cup of lettuce, a couple of tablespoons of walnuts, half a banana. I'm basically full but could go on eating. But I know I'll be sorry later.
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Post by oolala53 » Sat Jan 26, 2019 10:18 pm

Grazed on a teaspoon of almond butter while I transferred part of it to a small container and put the rest in the freezer. Another few walnuts.

I just watched a Netflix movie about unrealistic 27-year old wanna be dancer in NYC, not recognizing that she is really not making progress in life. Her aimlessness hit rather close to home, but it isn't making me jump up and take action. An air of malaise. Maybe that wasn't the best choice, but it was on a list of good comedies on Netflix. What's their definition of comedy? I didn't laugh once.

I'm feeling kind of lost. The movie didn't help. A friend had suggested we get together for coffee, but he had to bow out. I thought we had a philosophy group meeting today, but I was wrong . Holes keep opening up and I can't land on anything to fill them.

I'm just reporting. No one has to fix this for me! I know what I could/should be doing. :oops:

Not hungry but longing to eat. Curses.

I will go over to the water or some place with a view to watch the sunset. I can see there are some clouds that will reflect color, of it happens. Not especially in the mood for any certain food, but I'll find something.

I have whittled down my freezer darn well. I've been taking stuff out every few days and putting it into a divided container so it's more obvious what's available. But there are still beans and rice and potatoes to be cooked before I buy any other grocery starches.
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Post by automatedeating » Sun Jan 27, 2019 1:48 am

I hope the sunset soothes your restless soul, Oolala. hugs
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Post by oolala53 » Sun Jan 27, 2019 3:29 am

Thanks, Auto. It kind of did, temporarily. It wasn't as intense as I thought it might be, but I'm glad I went. I also went to an Italian restaurant that turned out to be okay, but only okay. That's fine. I was itching to go ahead and have dinner, so I didn't wait to come back to my neighborhood where there are two very good Italian food places. There would have been long waits by the time I got there, too. I've been trying to eat earlier in the day, but it started to feel like too much of a burden tonight.

I was barely hungry for dinner, but really wanted it.

Dinner: about a cup of pasta with marinara, a meatball (golfball size), the equivalent of about 3/4 slice of bread, a 1 x 2.5 " portion of lasagne. About 4 oz of a pear.

Am full but would still like to eat. Won't. It doesn't seem to help to eat anymore.
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Post by Bluebell » Sun Jan 27, 2019 11:05 am

Hi Oolala. You sound so down in your last couple of posts. I just wanted to send virtual hugs and well wishes across the internet to you. Hang on in there, I am sure this too will pass eventually.ðŸ’
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Post by oolala53 » Sun Jan 27, 2019 9:06 pm

Thanks, Bluebell. I hope so, too. I don't know what is going to make the difference. From the outside, things are fine or should be, and that's adding to it. I have some guilt over not being able to feel more grateful for what I do have. It scares me to think it may take something a lot more catastrophic to jolt me in life.

Brunch: (split with friend) half order of banana pancakes (not as big as I thought they were going to be), half an order of chick pea fritters, and two (on my own) thirds of a bean and cheese burrito, small apple,

grazing: 4 bites leftover noodle dishes, tablespoon peanut butter, coffee with creamer

Gosh, how I would love to keep nibbling, but I am supposed to go out to dinner tonight and I'm already full. I kinda wish I hadn't gone out by myself twice in the last few days. It's too much eating out.

Hmm, I also forgot that I have a loose rule not to eat S's on S days unless I'm with other people. This mindless nibbling is left over from the months of being off my game.

Nothing to do but mark it here and move on.
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Post by Dalia negra » Mon Jan 28, 2019 6:23 am

I encourage Oolala !!!! It is not easy to deal with this problem ... I send you a virtual hug.

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Post by oolala53 » Mon Jan 28, 2019 7:03 am

Hugs back, Dahlia.

Dinner: 2/3 of an order of Buffalo Cauliflower, a handful of French fries from shared order, spread out over an hour or more.

A few bites of pear when I came home.

Honestly, I could have skipped dinner from a hunger POV, but I wanted the pleasure of eating. Now I'm not stuffed, but I feel less comfortable than I usually would before bedtime. Ah, me. I miss my need for more food!
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Post by oolala53 » Mon Jan 28, 2019 7:52 pm

1st meal 10:30: about 3/4 cup leftover pad thai (the last of it) \; a bite of leftover spaghetti, half an 8-inch banana,23 grams of peanut butter. Optimized coffee. 3 bites of pear. Almost no hunger before. Not really full after.

Never did finish the cup of coffee though I had some sips partway through the morning.

2nd meal 4:30; hodgepodge of leftover spaghetti and lasagne, plus some rice. Green beans and orange pepper. lettuce and cuke salad with Annie's quasi Italian dressing. Finished the coffee. Yeah, I am no coffee snob. Little apple. No hunger beforehand nor none all day.
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Post by automatedeating » Wed Jan 30, 2019 12:55 am

hmm, I just had a thought. Would you finally be motivated to do more exercise if it was guaranteed to make you hungry? I know you've often lamented not being motivated to exercise AND you lament not being truly hungry. I think exercise might help with that. Anyway, just a thought.
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Post by oolala53 » Wed Jan 30, 2019 7:38 am

Alas, I wish I thought that would be a remedy. I do have days where I walk miles and miles and it doesn't make a dent. I used to work out more consistently and it never helped sleep, either. I guess I'm an anomaly. Maybe if I did it for months and built some muscle, but I guess I'm not very good at having to wait very long for the payoff. That will just have to come as a surprise.

Omgosh, I went off the rails today. Had breakfast out with a friend then picked the rest of the day. Geesh. I was going to write it all down but it went on and on. Part of it was going to Costco. I must have had eight samples. They were my lunch. I had intended to end my eating at an early dinner time, but I didn't. Oh, well. I have guests for dinner tomorrow (today when anyone reads this) and will be cooking. I will keep thinking about how nice it will be to be relatively empty for dinner.
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Post by automatedeating » Wed Jan 30, 2019 4:40 pm

Oh, well. Just a thought, because I had heard exercise makes a lot of people hungry. I don't know that it does that much for myself, actually. I do notice that going SWIMMING for some reason makes me want to eat Doritos. :lol:
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Post by r.jean » Thu Jan 31, 2019 2:19 am

Swimming makes me ravenous too.

I have been told that as we get older we have a decreased sense of smell and that lack of smell can affect the appetite. Oolala, I know you and I are close in age. My sense smell has decreased, but so far my appetite has not.
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Post by jenji » Thu Jan 31, 2019 8:16 pm

Is there any kind of exercise that you enjoy, oolala? I can't remember but feel as though you might've mentioned dance before?
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Post by oolala53 » Fri Feb 01, 2019 12:13 am

Dance does not please me as consistently as it used to. The classes don't occur at very opportune times either. I did go to a three-hour class a few weeks ago; it was a special birthday celebration for one of the drummers. But I didn't find myself wishing I went more often.

I didn't realize how much my compliance before also depended on very simple meals. I hardly even cooked anything from scratch. I cooked two things yesterday and picked a lot on the way. Boy, is it attractive to just be able to give in the to random desire. And so many ties I've been willing to put up with the consequences, which are often unpleasant. I wasn't hungry for going out to dinner yesterday but wanted that food! I did enjoy what I had, though it's true I probably would have enjoyed the experience more if I was hungry. But it wasn't a disaster. I brought my own container and put nearly all the food in it that was more than I would normally have on a plate, then ate away. A lot of picking from the bread plate and other people's pizza crusts. I love the edges!

Got some rain happening here. I'm loving the excuse just to stay inside, though it's so mild, I could go out. I am in awe of the temps in the East. Got friends in Minneapolis and Madison. Freeaaky! Wind chill of -51 in MNPLS yesterday. The SoCal mind boggles.
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Post by oolala53 » Sat Feb 02, 2019 6:55 am

Well, tracking sure went out the window fast. I like to be able to just pick a mouthful of this or that these days and was that ever a drag. Plus I was overeating and pride got me. I don't see it going the other way at this point, i.e. pride regarding not wanting to post overages stopping the eating. In a way, I don't want to have it work that way.

I went to a monthly Sierra Club meeting where I often convince myself it's okay to fail since I don't get to eat with other people very often and there are snacks. But the food is often so-so and I don't think I've ever been happy afterwards. I took a bottle of mineral water in with me (and I WAS pretty full from an early dinner, though that hasn't stopped me before), and passed it all by. I even took a look at it just before I left. Now very glad.

I did fail Vanilla because I had two bites of leftover cake today. I had a dry-sweet month in January - I couldn't tell that it had any effect on what I wanted- nd remembered that it was the first today. But it stopped there and I don't plan to go back to sweets in the same way. I've liked the overall sense of not feeling at their behest. I'm not sure how I'll limit them now. It may or may not need to be systematic. But even after all these years, they are still magic for me. And not necessarily in a good way.

I was able to hold off today partly because I told myself that I can have dessert at an event tomorrow night. But now I'm not sure I will. I still feel slightly, I don't know what to call it, but almost too happy at the prospect of eating sweets. Like they are more of a compulsion than just a delight. I still always feel like I'd like to be able to eat a lot more of them at a time. I have stopped at just a little, but I don't actually enjoy that a lot. I usually eat more than a little but I always want more. It's annoying and even a little embarrassing that I'm actually not at peace over them. But in the grand scheme...

On another note, got some bad news about my house. The city found that I have a leak somewhere between their source and my house, which is my responsibility. Got a company coming out Wednesday after we've dried out some from the coming rain. It's $280 for the first two hours and $200 an hour if it takes longer! And that's not to fix the problem but just to locate the leak. My bill was about $30 higher than usual. At that rate, I could go 7 months doing nothing, except that it will probably get worse AND it could be happening at the edge of my property where the real effects would be on a city hillside. If that gets saturated and comes down- well, not good. Why does this happen right when I've retired? Oh, well. I purposely bought a place that was less than I could "afford" just so that I wouldn't feel I was at the edge of the budget. I think when I bought, I wasn't making that much more than I am in retirement. In any case, fingers crossed that it will be a relatively simple fix outside the residence. My floors are cement! But if it is inside, I hope it's on my side and not my tenant's.
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Post by r.jean » Sat Feb 02, 2019 11:38 am

Ugh. House issues are always stressful! Hoping for the best.

Tracking food never works for me other than tracking green vs red or yellow. Tracking exercise does work for me. I think it is a matter of tracking something that makes me feel positive rather than negative.
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Post by automatedeating » Sat Feb 02, 2019 2:07 pm

So sorry about the unexpected house issue. That kind of gave me a knot in my stomach just reading about it.

Also sorry the tracking didn't work out. For some reason (as I'm sure you can tell) I love tracking most everything in my life. It's compulsive! LOL, but I'm sure you'd be the first to say that some compulsions are worse than others.

Ooh - and I'm happy for you about skipping the sweets at the Sierra Club meeting. I can't recall you ever doing that before at any event where food is offered for free. :-)

And lastly, I am sorry that the no-sugar didn't help your hip noticeably. :cry:
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Post by oolala53 » Sat Feb 02, 2019 8:16 pm

automatedeating wrote: I can't recall you ever doing that before at any event where food is offered for free. :-)
I'm so busted! But it's not ALL about being free, honestly, because most of the events cost money or a donation. It's eating in the presence of others, partly for honesty and partly because I eat alone so much. And because I have a loose rule to eat sweets only in company. Which I broke awhile ago discovering some fudge caramels in my pocket that I meant to leave at the event last night, where people often bring munchies. I ate one and put the rest in the freezer. I'll take them tomorrow to my Shakespeare and Tea meeting. Not really very English but there they'll go. And if they have good shortbread-type cookies there, I might eat them. It will depend on dessert tonight and how I feel after having samosas at my cooking class.

Don't I sound all busy? It comes in waves. I spent countless hours surfing the net this week either in bed or on the couch. I call these events "punctuation" of the day.
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Post by sharon227 » Mon Feb 04, 2019 1:32 pm

I'm with r.jean on tracking. I know that keeping a "food diary" is supposed to be a good thing for weight control, but I find that tracking everything I eat in detail takes much of the joy out of enjoying my meals. I'd tell myself "I track my spending in my checkbook, I should also track my food since both money and available calories are limited". But for whatever reason, it doesn't work well for me in the long run. I just get resentful. Red/green to mark "healthy choices" or "complied with NoS" is about it for me as well.

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Post by Larkspur » Mon Feb 04, 2019 2:16 pm

Sorry to hear about the water-- I think you are wise to address it sooner than later.

Are you enjoying retirement? Are you like Lizzie Bennet, who more knew herself to be happy, than felt herself to be so? It probably takes a while to get used to.

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Post by automatedeating » Mon Feb 04, 2019 5:57 pm

Larkspur wrote:
Mon Feb 04, 2019 2:16 pm
Are you like Lizzie Bennet, who more knew herself to be happy, than felt herself to be so? It probably takes a while to get used to.
This made me smile.
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Post by BrightAngel » Fri Feb 08, 2019 4:48 pm

I just re-read the anti-snacking portions of the No S book again for what seems like the millionth time. Dropped by to check on a few people, and was happy to see you here. Snacking has always been a giant problem for me, and my plan for today is to limit my food to 3 small saucer meals. :D
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Post by automatedeating » Fri Feb 08, 2019 5:37 pm

Bright Angel! Yay to see you stopping by!
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Post by oolala53 » Wed Feb 27, 2019 10:21 pm

Wanted to document that I had a combo hot cereal made with tortilla flour and coconut flour, green beans, apple and doctored coffee for late breakfast and felt none of the uncomfortable fullness. This is why I sometimes think it would be good to keep track of what I eat. But maybe it would have been good to know what I had yesterday, too. Oh, I did a lot of failing with bites and sips. Complicated to record! I've been more likely these days to fail at recording rather than give up on the eating. And I've had that cereal other times and not felt so well later, I'm pretty sure. But how to know without documenting? Geesh.
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Post by Larkspur » Thu Feb 28, 2019 1:13 am

Did you see this one?

https://www.sciencedaily.com/releases/2 ... 075616.htm

If you needed some inspiration :)

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Post by automatedeating » Thu Feb 28, 2019 2:12 am

Oooh, great article!
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Post by r.jean » Thu Mar 07, 2019 1:29 pm

I would agree that dietary monitoring is effective. I used a nutrition app for maybe 6 months awhile back when I was getting off track. It taught me a lot but it took me more than 15 minutes a day. Of course, I tend to be a perfectionist about accuracy so there was a lot more weighing and measuring food.

Food tracking is really unsustainable for me. It is tedious and can have the negative effect of putting the focus on numbers rather than how I feel.

However, I realize it may be helpful for some.
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Post by automatedeating » Thu Mar 07, 2019 5:55 pm

I spend probably 30 minutes a day on this forum. But I enjoy it as a journaling process. I think I probably only spend 2 minutes on the food tracking? Not sure why it would take much longer than that since we don't snack, haha.
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Post by oolala53 » Mon Mar 11, 2019 5:00 am

Since I'm not talking about using tracking to lose weight, but to see if it would help with other unpleasantries, you'd think I'd be more motivated. You can see how successful I've been with it since I whined!


I don't care what the research says, when you are a person who can have 10 different things at a meal, when I include the different ingredients, because I sometime actually assemble everything right then, it is tedious. I guess for those it's more successful for, they don't find it annoying while they are doing it and aren't stressing over it.

And when I'm failing, it's even less likely to happen.

This morning I ate some leftover rice, part of it fried rice from a restaurant and part plain rice I made, plus about half a cup of cafe au lait with walnut milk. I had it kind of spread out, I wasn't hungry, just wanted it.

I went to my Indian cooking class midday and had a shrimp dish but made with tofu for me. It was one of the better meals we've made. A ton of ginger and garlic. Rice there, too. Unfortunately the teacher was no better at using the Instantpot to make rice than I've been. It was a goopy mess. I really like the teacher and the class, but i was disappointed that she couldn't teach us how to make the PERFECT rice served in Indian restaurants. (And Middlle Eastern ones, too.)

Then I went food shopping. Ate half an apple. Also visited Costco and ate some samples, though not as many as usual. Not eating meat or sweets/baked goods for now. Later finished the apple. Did not eat any dinner.

Never was hungry and felt really full until about a half hour ago. Still had to tell myself NOT to eat anything else after about 4:30, though I think I had a swig of coffee near 6 p.m. Finally felt the sense of comfort and contentment that I used to feel most hours of the day on No S. It took eating likely less than 800 calories of food and about 5 hours of not eating. I don't like thinking how much less I would have to eat to feel this more often.

But ti does feel good. WAiTING to feel this does NOT feel good.

I'm kind of kicking myself right now because I've painted myself into a corner over getting another car and had to rent one for a trip I'm taking next weekend. I don't want to rush myself. When i bought the one I have, I did a ton of research and visited several dealers. Even then, I feel I rushed a bit at the end because then I was driving something that was a little dangerous, too. I have a possibility for a car from my mechanic, but it's being looked at by dealer to see if it qualifies for a new engine, so I haven't been alternative shopping, but I wish I had been now. My car has been great; I so wish I could find the magic again but there are no guarantees. I haven't seen anything in my research that made me feel as good about buying as I did for the one I own now. But it needs work and at 173,000+, I don't want to put any more money into it.
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Post by Staff Assistant III » Tue Mar 12, 2019 1:33 pm

I love my Instant Pot for rice...in fact Ii bought the 3 quart not long ago after owning the 6 quart for a couple of years just so I could do rice as a side dish.

I put one cup of rice and 1 1/2 cups water in, maybe a dash of olive oil. 3 minutes on manual, than let it sit for ten minutes (or more). I always get great rice.
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Post by automatedeating » Mon Mar 18, 2019 4:01 am

I'm saving up to $10,000 and I will hopefully buy a 3-year old Toyota Corolla with 40K miles or less on it. Not sure what your budget is, but I feel pretty good about my plan.
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Post by oolala53 » Fri Mar 22, 2019 10:22 pm

I went on a small trip over the weekend and got a little sick, so I've been kind of out of it. Also really missing that I don't get any email alerts about new posts on threads I use/follow. Thanks, ladies!

SA, I suspected that much shorter cooking times for rice were key. I'm on a starch-to-cook buying moratorium right now (until I eat up a lot of servings of beans, potatoes, winter squashes, and a few more), but will try that method when the time comes. I allow myself to buy rice at restaurants for now. Got some at a Greek place yesterday. Salty, oily decadence and absolutely perfect separate grains! I'll make it plainer myself, but it was fun to bring to a little composite dinner at a friend's last night. It was tempered by plainer food and hit the spot.

Today in trying to get cooked starches I have so I can eat them and start buying again, I cooked 4 cups of beans that had been soaked and expanded to much more than 4, a HUGE whole sweet potato, a whole kabocha squash, and a whole butternut squash in the 6 qt. IP for 12 minutes at high pressure and I think 15 minutes rest before a release and I could have set the time for 10 or even less. Beans were almost mushy and I like them whole. The other stuff could have been firmer and still good, too. Dang, it cooks fast! But the heating up and cooling down take so long that I'm reluctant to try a lot shorter times. I'm glad YOU found the one that worked on rice before I gummed up another batch! Because I am too cheap to throw bad batches away.

Right now for the car, my mechanic has said he would give me $2,000 for my car and take $6,000 to sell me a 2012 Honda Insight with 80,000 miles. It's being tested to see if it is eligible for a new motor because of a call back by Honda. But it's taking a long time. (I might have said this, but today the No S site is not allowing me to see more than a few previous posts while I write.) I looked up the same make and model in my area and that is a darn good price.

And dang if I didn't scrape the side of my car myself a few days ago. So now I'll have to take less for the car. I did something similar not long before I sold another car about 25 years ago. Banged up the door and had to halve the price. It was already pretty sorry. A friend bought it and christened it with my name! He was a cab driver at the time and didn't need much to get around in. It's hard to admit that I am as uncareful a driver as my record seems to show. This makes three accidents in about two years. I''m praying that completes the cycle. I won't claim it. It wasn't on the road but backing out a side of my property I rarely park on where one protective pole sits out farther than the others. No other cars involved. It scares me because I feel so often I am trying to be extra careful and one little slip... I know it's often noted that almost everyone has the experience of spacing out while they drive and being amazed the car just kept going, though that is usually on the open road. Not the place that's ever been my problem.

But I also might go shopping for a Hyundai Elantra 2016 hatchback, highly rated. I'd be willing to pay more, say up to $14,000. I say that and still just sit in my house and play on the computer. It's so nerve-wracking to shell out thousands! It's been so hard for me to make them and so easy to spend. I know for so many people who buy much more expensive cars that sounds crazy, but I still remember when I was making under $16,000 a year and dreaded car and teeth problems.

If you can find a Toyota with 40k or fewer miles for that much, my hat is off to you! Nothing under $12k for that year in my neck of the woods. Even ones with 80k miles+.

Going to eat an early dinner though not particularly hungry, but am going to a dance class and want to feel light beforehand. It will seem too late after the class. I don't get that hungry after exercise anyway.
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Post by oolala53 » Thu Apr 04, 2019 6:50 pm

It turns out that dance class didn’t happen, but I went last Friday. Not an ecstatic experience like it used to be, but good enough.

I got my yearly body fat test done. It was a bit sobering. Last year, my body fat was the lowest it had been in 20 years. This year it’s back up to the highest, and I can’t really account for it. I don’t really exercise that consistently, but I didn’t the year before when I had looked like I lost a fair amount around my middle. The fat distribution still remains more on the extremities, which by our media standards, is a problem, but for health standards, it’s not. Just like I had a goal weight in the back of my mind, though I did not purposely aim for it. I have had a goal body fat percent in the back of the my mind, but it is looking more and more distant. I can’t really see myself eating a lot less than I already do, and with the kind of exercise regime I can imagine myself participating in, it would not make that kind of change. Oh my gosh, I wish I knew nothing about such things. What’s ironic is the other day an ex-colleague was with a group of us for lunch . She’s always been naturally thin but does carry fat around the middle. She had open heart surgery years ago and now her doctor wants her to lose 15 pounds. She’s 5 foot seven and weighs 145. That’s less per inch then I weigh. She asked me if I do anything special to stay so thin. (!) I told her I do monitor my eating, but not so much for thinness as for just general comfort. I would actually like to eat more than I do, but I know that I won’t feel as good if I do. I feel for her, actually, because she has never had to control her eating impulses. She’s also someone who can forget to eat, but then sit down and eat two steaks, fully intending to eat less. I think I’d be a little more scared if I were her. I had a client to years ago who had open heart surgery. He said he knew at the time that the effects last about 10 years. He said he had changed his diet, but when he told me the kinds of things he was eating, it sounded a little iffy to me. And guess what? He died 10 years later. I think it wasn’t even 70 years old.

When is this going to motivate me to stay consistent with exercise? I really don’t know. By the way, my body fat is a little over 30%. Are you seeing this, Linda? I would gladly put on weight to be under 22% body fat. But that would mean being able to add an ungodly amount of muscle, and I just don’t see it happening. What I would really love is to be able to just let go of the standards imposed from the outside. I wonder if a hypnotist could help with that?

I went to a showing of a filmed broadcast of an opera at the Met. What a world-class institution that is! It was one of Wagner‘s and the whole thing with singing, behind the scenes interviews, and intermissions was five hours and 20 minutes. It was my friend’s birthday and she decided to get popcorn. I ate some and it led to what the hell. R, me. The beat goes on. It was still a compelling afternoon. There’s one more broadcast in May, and then the season starts up again in the fall. I think I might go to one or two a year. It’s an expensive movie ticket, but a cheap opera ticket.
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Post by oolala53 » Thu Apr 04, 2019 8:25 pm

I realized I had not reported on my March experiment not eating wheat or sugar. I did it because I still feel so drawn by those foods, drawn into overdoing them. I don’t necessarily eat more than a moderate amount at a time, but I always WANT more. I still fantasize about overdoing them. I was going on the idea I had read that so many people claimed that after a few weeks, they didn’t miss them. I did allow myself Stevia, mostly in coffee. I really would have to do without coffee totally if I were going to give up Stevia, and that just sounded like too much at one time. Maybe that stevia or allowing myself some masa porridge or coconut flour ruined it, but I never stopped missing pasta and bread or pizza crust. I still dream about eating a mountain-sized plate of noodles, Italian or Asian. Now I know what it’s like to be a person who goes on a diet but is always thinking about how she can’t wait to go off the diet. Except I can wait because I'm pretty sure that if I have them, I'm going to want them even more. I could be wrong, but I'm not planning to plunge back in yet. If I’m honest, I have to say I actually have some fear of these foods. I’m not completely at peace even without them, and I’m reluctant to get back in the ring with them. I went out to lunch with friends on Tuesday and did order a veggie burger. The bread actually was not very good, and I ended up not eating all of it, though I did finish the burger. But that was all the bread I’m willing to mess with for now. I’m almost glad it wasn’t very good.

Unfortunately, it seems two foods have moved in to take the place of these others. They are peanut butter and popcorn. If there's anything I overdo eating on, it's them. I’m not sure what I’m gonna do about them. I don’t like the idea that I’m a person who can’t eat all sorts of things. But some things I’ve chosen to reduce a lot . Some for ethical reasons, and others because they remain problems. So my eating life has shrunk. I've weighed the pros and cons, and I am sticking with the restrictions for now.

And they’re probably problems as much because they are diversions from even more troubles. Such as having plenty of time, and still not handling organization in my life. I somehow lost my tenant’s March rent check, and I’m having a hard time facing it because I just don’t want to have to pay that fee for having her stop payment on the check. Yet am I willing to gamble and tell her I’ll cover the check if somebody else cashes it? The odds are actually so against it, but I sure can’t ask her to take the gamble. The worst part of it for me is that I was almost sure that I put it in the bank pretty quickly after I got it, and I was so proud of myself. But she told me a couple of days ago that it hadn’t been cashed and I could not find it in either of the checking account I use. I have been through hundreds of papers- they are strewn over my living room floor- and even found other envelopes that she had put a rent check in, but not that check. At this point, I have no idea where else to look for it. Rather than paying for the stop payment, and then actually finding it, I’d like to think that I put it in its envelope in recycling, thinking I’d already deposited it. I wish I could see the humor in this. I know she is waiting for me to tell her what to do. I was also planning to raise her rent and I don't want her thinking this is somehow related. She's been here for about five years without any increase. But I waffle on that and a ton of other things, too. Waterproofing my storage space. Decluttering out there and in the garage. Having the garage frame repaired. Getting the bathroom sink faucet repaired or replaced, getting the tub finish repaired (again!), getting some kitchen counter tile repaired, getting my gate and part of my fence repaired, and about five other things. What is going to make me do these things? An ex would call this unproductive suffering. But I guess somehow I think that this suffering is preferable to the suffering of making the wrong decision. I have had so many problems with repair people, though when I'm honest, not nearly what others have had. I somehow feel my financial future depends on my making NO mistakes now, and I've made some innocent-but-costly ones, so I fret. As George Costanza's father would shout at stressful times, Serenity now!
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Post by oolala53 » Mon Apr 08, 2019 11:36 pm

Calorie discussion alert!

Saturday I went to an common event where there are snacky foods I like to have while socializing. I brought some corn chips that I had tasted at Trader Joe's. First time I ever bought anything I sampled there. I was forgoing all the sweet flour-y stuff, so I also went in for cashews and dried unsweetened banana chips. I kind of went to town. Later the women I carpooled with, who hadn't gone crazy, wanted dinner. I was way too full to eat. I felt like I was back on intuitive eating, never being in sync with others, but I didn't beat myself up much because they had not mentioned dinner out. I was fuuuullll. I ordered nothing because I knew I would not be happy if I picked at anything.

Okay, so for the heck of it, later I did some research on what I ate during that snack time- had to guess at the amounts- and it added up to what I can often eat in a DAY. In less than 45 minutes. It was sobering and I think it will help, as I often keep going back for more at that event, long past really needing the food for any kind of real pleasure. I don't want to fear calories, but I also don't want to be silly about them. Knowing that the soft ice cream dessert sold at Costco that I used to get on a whim is 440 calories (which isn't that bad for the amount you get) cured me of feeling it was an option every time I was there on an S day. That's as much as in many of my lunch/dinners. I think I've had two since I found that out and rarely think about them. I've struggled with feeling I eat too much at the event snack time. Maybe now I can fix my little plate and be done with it.

Doing my spring eating routine. Yesterday, I had a bigger dinner than usual, and later than usual, too, and wouldn't you know if I wasn't hungrier than usual this morning. Geesh. I was almost ready to can it from the start, but I can't get what I want if I don't just stick to my plan. A friend is having a celebration potluck (she sold her house I think before it ever even got listed). I plan to make an Indian dish I learned to cook at my last class. Not sure if it will be red lentils or aloo gobi, but I will look forward to them! And what others bring.
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Post by automatedeating » Tue Apr 09, 2019 2:10 am

Um, I had one of those Costco soft-serve things last weekend. And I adored it, although I did glance up and see the 440 cal. :roll:
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Post by oolala53 » Tue Apr 09, 2019 6:26 am

When I have had one, I savored it. LOOOVE that creaminess. It's what used to get me eating nearly half a gallon of slighlty melting ice cream at a time. I find I still want the nearly half a gallon...
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Post by oolala53 » Wed Apr 10, 2019 5:27 am

Doing my quarterly "tuneup," I'll call it. Takes 5 days. Usually, it's relatively easy until day 4. It actually started a little hard! I had had a big dinner the night before, and paradoxically got hungry way earlier than normal. Today, it was so hard midday that I wondered if I was going to be able to do it this time. I decided to take the possibility of quitting off the table because I have only a few more years before it isn't recommended that I do this (up until age 70). And it's only 20 days total a year. Thankfully, I have felt terrific since about 4 p.m. Three days to go. I've got tomorrow planned. I'm pretty sure I've said before that it can actually be kind of fun to look at my plan and follow it, esp. when I've got everything on hand and nothing is very complicated. It's kind of fun to see how bony my feet look already, but not worth living like this permanently!

I went walking with a group this morning and then forgot I had gone. Shot out to get to a golf course near my house for a great view of the sunset near 7 p.m. Boy was I surprised to look at my step counter and see I had put in 6.6 miles today. Huh? Just walking to another meeting and grocery shopping? Then I remembered. Ok, I'm NOT crazy. Just old age. I think this is the normal kind of memory issue, not a precursor to the really tough kind. (I could not remember George Clooney's last name, either, as a crossword answer, until several letters got filled in. It's annoying, but I know the research shows that older people just take longer to remember some things. Not the same as having lost the memory completely.

Speaking of which, a mutual friend Kate visited a woman Peg I know who moved into a senior living center last spring. Peg had moved of her own free will, though with some encouragement from her sister and brother-in-law. However, in a phone conversation previous to the visit, Peg told Kate, with no sign of distress or upset, that she is there as an Alzheimer's patient. I did remember that she would get confused when we were making plans, and did repeat some stories, but otherwise seemed fine, and at that time, didn't seem to even consider that she had any serious problem. She seemed to resent her sister's "bossiness," but I started to understand. Kate said Peg is her old self in many ways; "She still knows us and loves us, and yet the history of our friendship has largely disappeared from her memory." More than ten years of friendship. Her husband noted that Peg initiated almost no conversation herself and asked no questions. Not like her. She and I have been playing phone tag for a day and a half. She won't use email or text. I hope to see her sometime this week or next. (Kate said Peg was delighted to see them but had forgotten that they had actually made a plan to meet, thinking they had just dropped by. Hoo, boy.) Lordy, lordy, lordy. I would count calories and eliminate foods if someone could prove to me that I could prevent the dreaded A by doing it.

Okay, I'd better go to bed as I'm feeling the beginnings of rumbling in my stummy.
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Post by automatedeating » Thu Apr 11, 2019 3:31 am

eeek.

My sister (who is a nurse and lives in the same town as my mom) has been saying for years that she thinks my mom has memory issues. I have remained in denial, but your post has got me thinking more realistically about it.
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Post by oolala53 » Thu May 02, 2019 6:03 pm

I probably posted this before, an excerpt from a post of Simmstone's thread about food addiction behaviors, but I'm repeating it because in all honesty, I've been "using" food egregiously recently, and I need to remind myself.

- Gorging on more food than one can physically tolerate
- Eating to the point of feeling ill
- Going out of your way to obtain certain foods
- Continuing to eat certain foods even if no longer hungry
- Eating in secret, isolation :!: :!: :!:
- Avoiding social interactions, relationships, or functions to spend time eating certain foods.
- Spending significant amount of money on buying certain foods for bingeing purposes

I was going to add, being obsessed with food opportunities at social events, but that's not really a behavior that can be controlled in the same way the others are. I can't completely control what thoughts pop into my head. I can just try to divert when they do, and not act on them.

I was able to hold to some limits in March (and maybe my recent overages were part of a pendulum swing?) but I believe I've learned some things and am ready to apply some discipline in adapting new habits. I was able to stick to limits before by continually telling myself that I can't find out whether it's worth it to live with the new limits (and experience the benefits) unless I actually do it! Unfortunately, some benefits just have to come from self-satisfaction, as they can't really be experienced in the moment. E.g., most people can't tell their bodies are on the verge of a heart attack until it happens. So there has to be a little faith. And that's all it is. There is so much out there on what's right and it's all an experiment for any one individual. I just know certain influences bring together a greater number of important criteria for me.

Ironcially, one of the limits was one I never found pleasant, but which I believe has enough value that I'm adding it in a milder form this month. It was already challenging this morning, but I'm glad I held out. And now it's time to eat!
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Post by automatedeating » Fri May 03, 2019 1:28 am

Here's to biohacking and our n of 1. I think these experiments can actually count as a "hobby" for some of us. And I'm not sure how you feel about that, but I think it's great. :-)
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Post by oolala53 » Tue May 07, 2019 4:58 am

TX! Better to think of it as a hobby (like Brightangel) than a part time job, which is how I used to feel about dieting. It actually didn't have to be, but I made it that way.

Came down with a cold. My eyeballs felt like they were boiling in my head last night, but the fever broke overnight and today it's just been low energy and the usual symptoms. Not much appetite and wish I hadn't eaten dinner. Not stuffed but not feeling a light before sleep as I like.

Got to be well enough to go to my film acting class tomorrow night because I"m in a scene with two other people I don't want to let down. If I still feel like this late tomorrow afternoon, I'll ask the teacher if we can present our scene first so that I can leave right after.
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Post by lpearlmom » Tue May 07, 2019 5:00 am

Ick... hope you feel better soon! 💜
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Post by automatedeating » Wed May 08, 2019 1:55 am

How exciting that you are in an acting class! I do hope you are feeling better soon, so you can enjoy your acting.
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Post by oolala53 » Fri May 10, 2019 4:26 am

The acting is a mix of things: fun, challenging, tedious, annoying, etc. VERY easy to get caught up in ego stuff. It's a little disappointing to see how easy it is for me to get waylaid. I thought it might be a new and engrossing activity to fill more of my time with, but it takes effort, even though I want to do it. I was hoping it would tamp all this food stuff down more, but here I am.

Dealing decently with my mods this month, but I think I'm going to adjust one already. I'm usually so un-ready for dinner. But trying to eat little enough earlier so that I'm ready for it continues to be challenging.

I think I could get good at estimating the macro ratio I've been experimenting with by the end of the month. (I've been weighing/measuring and tracking.) It's a matter of getting used to what the building blocks of the meal are. It did mean I skipped a pear at dinner that I would have liked to have had, but I didn't want to skimp on the corn on the cob, which was fantastic. It's not the season but there it was in the market. Big fat sweet kernels! It reminded me that I went to a potluck a few weeks ago and a salad someone had made with some corn in it was one of my favorites. It's a way to have me think I"m having something outrageous.

I'm volunteering at a Zydeco festival tomorrow and Sunday. I wasn't expecting to have had a cold so recently and the weather is not nearly as sunny and warm as it has been other years, so I might be cutting things shorter than I had planned. After we serve our hours, we get free entry into the festiveal. I'm done at 3:30 and the music goes on into the night. I'll play that by ear.
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Post by oolala53 » Thu May 16, 2019 12:49 am

The obsession continues. I"ve been listening to the book Bright Line Eating. I looked at the program on a special disc provided. It's basically a prescribed calorie diet with limited foods at three meals. Very regimented. I felt sad looking at it! Would I achieve the happiness and sense of freedom promised? Maybe, but I suspect it has less to do with the chemical changes, though I imagine there would be some, and more to do with the moral pleasure of feeling the person is adhering to a virtuous plan, being a good girl.

Anyway, I am unlikely to find out, since I don't see much difference between the distress I experience now and the prospect of weighing,. measuring, and sticking to the guidelines forever in order to feel okay about myself.

Or is it stevia that's the culprit? Not desperate enough to find out.
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